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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by bluebay(m): 12:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
correctguy0900:Who like risky? The move is risky |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by DaddyRochie1642: 12:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
I keep saying this "No Sex Before Marriage" is a Huge Scam on its Own...but...some Illiterates lack adequate exposure will never accept/see the Logic behind the saying. In a serious relationship that may eventually lead to Marriage...3 things are absolutely Fundamental,...one is Mental Compatibility (the two parties must be on the same mental wave length,..where one partner is thinking forward,the other partner is also on the same page and not thinking backwards),....another is Fundamental one is COMMUNICATION,very Vital...the last is SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY,...yes you heard me Clearly...Sexual Compatibility is extremely important in a serious relationship that may lead to Marriage...what if one of the partner has a High Sexual Libido and the other has a low Libido....and the come to an agreement on the "No sex till Marriage rubbish"...only for them to realize later on that the are not sexually compatible...where one party is ready to have sex and the other party is almost never in the mood...isn't that a Signed and approved License to go and Cheat?, I can never deceive myself with that "no sex till Marriage bullshit"....I must make sure and determine we are sexually compatible before taking any major decision. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kevotek1000(m): 12:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Sirvingeo:So traditional marriage is not God involvement? 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by midnighter(f): 12:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Dearlord: Thank you dear |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by PrincessGift(f): 12:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Nawa oooo,the way some Christians carry this Christianity issue for head eh! Una go soon collect work from angel hand,smh ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 12:25am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Before God you're already married, all the rest are imported from the whites. Your wife is stubborn and this will be a serious problem for you, some people call it standards but someday you'll wish you saw things clearly before you chuck head. Marriage is for life, and your wife is playing the take what ever you see after marriage game. But the question is, is it worth it? That she's a Virgin doesn't mean the pvssy will be tight oh! If she can't pleasure you, or gives you conditional sex can you take it? I know women who when they are fasting they don't let their husband touch them. I don't wish to be you OP, my bae gives me any style I want any time so I can quickly go to work after easing the tension. No time for nonsense. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by safarigirl(f): 12:25am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Freehuman:infertility is a ground for annulment, especially if the partner was unaware before marriage. A marriage is a contract, if I am entering into a contract for the purpose of creating kids, and it turns out this purpose cannot be fulfilled, then it makes the contract void. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 12:25am On Oct 31, 2019 |
This is actually crazy sha. OP why is the date between your traditional marriage and church marriage too far in between.. I can't see any problems here cos she told you beforehand her conditions and you've successfully kept your part till now, why not fast track the church wedding so you can have her all to yourself. You knew she's born again so of course the church wedding would be more important to her. I'm even surprised she agreed to move in with you cos that's definitely gonna cause some friction since you had your own agenda/timetable to the no sex thing. For those saying if she isn't a virgin.........its all B.S cos everyone is entitled to second chances and she's exercising her discretion as per her beliefs. My advice fast track your white wedding, get it over with and wife her cos you're better off with a woman with some spiritual background than any other species as they come. Good luck 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kevotek1000(m): 12:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
DaddyRochie1642:Better person... Nice talk. When you love each other sex is nothing... 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Austineva(m): 12:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
OKOATA:u really made point here. Kudos 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by safarigirl(f): 12:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
kevotek1000:leave black people and their slave mentality. Which synagogue did Jacob go, to marry his wives? No be when their papa give the guy wife, den consumate? Once your father gives you away and gives his blessing, that is the koko. Most churches will not even wed you if you haven't done the traditional marriage 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Fuckgovt: 12:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Eroms4life17:she too shld compromise for what we all knw is right. Why shld he compromise for what we all knw is wrong. Are we getting married because of white gown and her friends? She shld grow up and quit this rubbish. If not anything the man doesn't give her in the marriage she will withhold sex from him. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 12:28am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Guest007: your joking right... cause if you're not then this is one most stupid statements have seen.. in you're analogy people that just stick with traditional marriage are not married in the sight of God.. 1 Like
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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Realtizzy(m): 12:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Bros i will b a bit blunt but if i were in ur shoe, all am going to do is fastforward the white wedding but if after everything she turn out not being a virgin i will end the marriage and am not in anyway saying virginity is crateria for marriage but hidding under that deceit for this long is supposedly unforgivable 4 me o 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by midnighter(f): 12:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
correctguy0900: You talking, you get sense? He wrote that she was a virgin in the OP, if you care to read something before quoting This is not even about virginity anyhow. This is about him deceiving her that he was okay with her religious convictions |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by ZIMDRILL(m): 12:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Sirvingeo: stop lying God never said marry in church, marrying in church is cultural that was started, by people it has nothing to with God, Marrying before God means true to yourself and committed to God that i shall be faithful to the partner you have chosen and neither does a pastor bless your marriage its just ceremonial thing to do from a pastor, you bless your own marriage by being faithful to each other and doing good on to others 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by justphillips(m): 12:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
After white wedding and OP discovers he just married a borrow pit. ![]() 2 Likes
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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by GindoX(m): 12:30am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano: What? ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Galaticos444: 12:33am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Dollarseeker:now this is a classical case of blackmailing.if she actually took such oath wot made u think she wouldn't av told d husband? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 12:36am On Oct 31, 2019 |
It's not a white wedding, it's a church wedding if she believes in the God that she worships in a church then I don't see why she should be coerced into doing otherwise besides she gave the OP due notice, he cannot say he didn't know or expect these developments. Lamanii22: 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Philantropists: 12:36am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Do not let any girl deceive you with the virgin story, there is one that is currently giving me virgin gist, i just dey look am. I tell am i say i will wait for her until she is ready even if it takes 10 years, which one concern me, i go dey knack other toto as often as i want. Let her keep deceiving herself. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by DeeMain(m): 12:37am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano: You have no honour. You have no respect for her nor for God. You gave her your word! And those words mean absolutely nothing to you. Brother, I am angry. Two, I am ashamed on your behalf. You agreed to wait till wedding night and now you are shifting goal posts, playing the victim and manipulating and blackmailing and guilt tripping her just so you can have your way. This case is not about whether you are legally married or not already or if she is a virgin or not, so don't try to bamboozle us with extraneous materials here as someone like me will call you out on your BS. This issue is about an agreement to wait and a promise not kept. And the guilty party is YOU. You see the way you do one thing is the way you do so many things. If I were her, I will begin to have serious doubts about your character and wonder if I've made a huge mistake. Naansense and manipulation! 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Eroms4life17(m): 12:39am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Fuckgovt:My brother, there's no time to argue on this matter. Let everyone do what they believe is right. I have offered a piece of my advice to the guy in question. Even the kind of harsh words u use and way u dey vex up and down for matter when nor concern u tells me that u will call off everything if it was you. Life is not that complicated. We just complicate things with our own hands. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 12:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
safarigirl: The marriage ACT applicable in Nigeria provides for only one ground and that is where the marriage has broken down irretrievably. Marriage under the Act is presumed to be monogamous and thus inability to consumate is a criteria that the marriage has broken down irretrievably. This means a court will dissolve the marriage where the man is impotent (cannot penetrate or doesn't have an erection) and would not dissolve if he can consumate yet has a low sperm count. Infertility of a woman is not a ground for divorce. Please read up sections 15(1)&(2) and 16 of the Matrimonial causes Act. The grounds are stated expressly and the supreme Court has held that Its provisions are literal. Please provide evidence if you argue otherwise. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kevotek1000(m): 12:41am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Guest007:She probably doing worst than those that have lost their virginity. Virginity is nothing anymore, she been stingy to her husband here. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 12:41am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Lol.. You know this is the worst kind of hypocrisy, when you want to get married if you aren't already, this B.S that you spewed below, is it what you're gonna do ? lemme answer for you. No. don't advise someone what you won't do yourself and by the way if you got a lawyer friend ask them to explain to you the kind of marriage that the law recognizes in Nigeria. it will broaden your mind. Goodluck ZIMDRILL: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by amuwo1980: 12:42am On Oct 31, 2019 |
scaramucci: No mind the OP, common sense says hasten the wedding day , pussy way go tire u, am into a no sex before marriage relationship and am fine with it, am in it cos of my religious beliefs nothing else 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 12:43am On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905: I'm neither xtain nor Nigerian but common sense dictates that xtains marry in a church or by a pastor of some sort... I don't understand this mixture of culture, traditions, and religion. They are 2 different things. The end story is this girl said no sex before marriage and that means a church marriage FOR HER 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by DeHumbleTboy: 12:44am On Oct 31, 2019 |
https://www.0.freebasics.com/https/www.nairaland.com/5502110/problem-first-school-leaving-certificate? Please did anybody have an idea on how to change my name on my first school leaving certificate FSLC and junior weac? As for national ID I will figure it out cuz in that nim office the only thing they care about is money. Plz this is very important and urgent. Wanted to apply for international passport but I have to pulse because I fear my different name will deeply affect me in many ways. Reason for changing my name. I was born Christian but want to convert to Islam and I want my certs to have my Islamic names on it else it will affect me badly. Plz advise. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by midnighter(f): 12:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
udemzyudex:For some people its important to take the sacred vows in accordance with their church, with an ordained priest or anointed pastor. To offer themselves and their marriage at the altar and to promise to serve God with that marriage, in a religious context. If you go to church to pray normally, to ask for things, to celebrate religious festivals then it would also make sense to celebrate finding your life partner in that church Some people need their own church members to serve as witnesses... the church is their family and the church family need to observe the union and enjoin to help the couple to keep it strong and healthy A Christian marriage is also an act of worship in itself so they would like to consecrate their union in a religious context. Just like you go to church to pray but it doesnt mean you dont also worship at home, at school, on the road, etc. This is a sign that you have invited God into your marriage from the beginning. Location matters Thats not to say that a traditional marriage is just for heathens, but the emphasis is more on other things even though prayers are still offered at the trad wedding ceremony. But a church wedding helps to contextualise the relationship and see it in a different way The spiritual implication is that you have celebrated yourself, your partner and your union in God's presence which carries a blessing. On the day particular verses from the Bible will be read and explained to you, the wisdom of which you will carry for the rest of your life. You have established yourselves as a wedded couple and a new unit in the church body. The celebration itself, though its imported, has ancient symbolism rooted in Christian practice. This is why its important to a lot of people 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 12:45am On Oct 31, 2019 |
kevotek1000: It's nothing but here we are X pages in and still discussing her virginity and his money ![]() ![]() ![]() |
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