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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Oyeleye101(m): 12:47am On Oct 31, 2019 |
okoroemeka:You mean Owerri ladies are... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by dudley1459: 12:49am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Newguyhere:End of discussion 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by MrSquint: 12:50am On Oct 31, 2019 |
From your words "You love yourselves to the Moon and back" Is the love you just talked about a function of sex ? Did you do a personal research on her past and maybe her present b4 proposing ? Do you think she's capable of doing what you're already suspecting ? Or are you getting married to her because she's a virgin ? Are you a virgin ? You know her better than we do. But here's what I think: Pls don't allow sex that will eventually come almost on a daily basis ruin the beautiful thing you guys have going on. If you could wait for 6months without sex, pls go the full length with her, you're almost there. As long as I know, you guys are already married traditionally, pls be patient with her. I don't think she's hiding anything from you. I suspect she's just a very religious woman, which is not good though. Learn not to bring your family issues out though. Nobody has it easy man Just saying Your Shrink 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by justtryme: 12:52am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano: If you agree and accept this condition, tomorrow she will give you another bigger and if you also accept the next time she will give you a much more larger conditions. It will never stop perhaps one day she will tell you that you can only make love to her once in every 2 months. Use your tongue and count your teeth bro. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 12:54am On Oct 31, 2019 |
You are wrong. I have really do not have all day to type but just read up this article it should clarify any ambiguities or misconceptions you had earlier on. https://resolutionlawng.com/annulment-of-marriage-in-nigeria/ Freehuman: |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Wiseoldman: 12:55am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano: Dude, I'm guessing you don't know this. But the traditional wedding is the only wedding recognized by law and by the bible itself. What you call white wedding is the "British Style Traditional Wedding". White gown and suit nah thier traditional attire. Blackman has actually suffered...Please educate you wife. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Arabella09(f): 12:57am On Oct 31, 2019 |
No Sir it is not bullcrap. The Holy books explicitly states that Fornication is a SIN. kingxsamz: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 12:58am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Guest007: your not Nigerian that sums it all up.. let me tell you this if I where go by what you said that means more than 50% of Nigerian Christian's ain't married by your analogy.. and yes they are two different things buh the traditional marriage is main thing in Nigeria 98% of Churches won't wed you without you doing the traditional marriage.. buh you can do the traditional marriage and nobody will give a damn whether you do white or not if you don't know white wedding isn't our culture is just borrowed and the white wedding isn't even recognized in the Bible buh the traditional is
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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 12:58am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Brief a lawyer. He/she should be able to help you sort out the situation. Goodluck DeHumbleTboy: |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kapelvej: 12:59am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Newguyhere:It may be funny, but that is the truth. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Arabella09(f): 1:00am On Oct 31, 2019 |
SMH!! okoroemeka: 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Wiseoldman: 1:00am On Oct 31, 2019 |
sharone21: You own traditiomal wedding is the only wedding you are actually supposed to do. Why would you need to do another "British Traditional Wedding". |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by tradepunter: 1:02am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Mr Hot potty, I have paid bride price so come lemme ram you. Don't defile the purity of your marriage.. That white gown of your wife means purity, not touched so if you know what's good for you keep it that way. You think it's all about been a Christian? If you like don't ask for the Holy Ghost to come into your life and strengthen you devil will us you play ten ten.. Your job should be engaging God as you have taken a step the devil is all too very very happy to destroy... May the Lord grant you wisdom 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by safarigirl(f): 1:03am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Freehuman:OK. Thanks, wasn't sure of the woman's part. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 1:03am On Oct 31, 2019 |
BarrElChapo: Sir, I modified my post you quoted and provided sections 15(1)&(2) and 16 of the Matrimonial causes Act for further reading. The grounds for dissolution of marriage are stated out clearly and the supreme Court has held that those rules must be read with literal interpretation. I have scanned through the article in the link you provided and nowhere have I seen that infertility of the woman is a ground for dissolution of the marriage. It doesn't also come under grounds that constitute a void or voidable marriage. Please Sir, attach a case law or section of any law in force in Nigeria which expressly or by logical construction provides that infertility of a woman is a ground for divorce , void or voidable marriage. UyaiIncomparabl: You have amazing eyes UyaiIncomparabl. Please give in already. I'm crazy for you. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 1:03am On Oct 31, 2019 |
sharone21: if you believe this your statement then your really gullible.. if I can dump you when have done the traditional marriage what stops me from still dumping you after white wedding.. 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Vince77(m): 1:03am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Martinez39: PERIOD |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by safarigirl(f): 1:04am On Oct 31, 2019 |
tradepunter:God is already in the marriage, thw white gown is the white man's traditional wear for weddings, nobody knows what outfit people wore for their weddings in the Bible and there is no recorded wedding that took place at a place of worship anywhere in the Bible, however, there are enough weddings that took place at the house of the bride's parents. We should learn to differentiate culture from religion 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by teemy(m): 1:05am On Oct 31, 2019 |
@ igwegeorgiano and @midnighter, the two of you give a balanced look of the whole scenario but I might as well add a few words. igwe, I suggest using the soft approach to this. According to her sex before white wedding is well, wedding and anything sex before then is called pre-marital sex. Ask her "are we married?", "are we husband and wife?" An answer of no can easily be resolved using a dictionary to let her understand that a wedding ceremony ushers in marriage between a couple and as such they start being called husband and wife. As her title from then on has been wife and yours husband. No pastor will negate this. https://en.wikipedia.org › wiki › Wedding If the answer to those two questions remain as yes but she wants to stick to her previous resolution - which you did not object to, she is right to do so. She might have maybe a vow or self obligation to achieve that. Let her. There is however the fear that a church wedding is being used as a trap for if she is a non-virgin, infertile or even has a disease. If she takes all tests (which she should have no objections to) to show there is no foul play and come out clean, I think you should give her this with a warm heart. Wishing you well - Teemy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Princedapace(m): 1:05am On Oct 31, 2019 |
midnighter: Wtf, which spiritual important? Black ladies are something else. There is no where in our bible was it stated u must do white wedding. Na fu cking oyibo man traditional wedding be that. This country is lost with zombies. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 1:05am On Oct 31, 2019 |
ImaIma1:Exactly my thought. We're getting it all wrong as Christians-hasn't the marriage taken place after traditional wedding & bride price paid? it's just the practice that's been in place in the contemporary times and I'll advise that you respect her decision to wait till the night of your "marriage." From the brief description of her ways/actions, one could deduce that she's a disciplined chap. It's well. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 1:06am On Oct 31, 2019 |
tradepunter: what do you mean by him not defiling the purity of he's marriage when they are already married in the eyes of God and man..the white gown means purity so is every girl that wears it that's pure abi.. most you take Christianity to another level 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 1:06am On Oct 31, 2019 |
safarigirl: You're welcome Ma, I'm humbled. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Arabella09(f): 1:08am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Thank you for making common sense!!! LilMissFavvy: 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Wiseoldman: 1:10am On Oct 31, 2019 |
BarrElChapo: Mr man, you need to read more. Church is where two or more people are gathered in God's name. It is not the building. And there is no such thing as church wedding. It is the traditional wedding of the British people. Pastors are invited to pray and bless the union during our traditional wedding the same way it was done in the bible when Jesus turned water to wine. All you need is your own traditional wedding. The british style wedding we do in church is fine, but only ceremonial. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by cococandy(f): 1:10am On Oct 31, 2019 |
So these men shame women for being oloshos who have sex before marriage but can’t stand one who’s actually waiting for the wedding night? Confused mofos. OP that woman knows what she wants which is more than anyone can say for you. You may not be good enough for her so if it pleases you, let her go. She will find someone who shares same beliefs as her and will be willing to wait. then you can find the one who will have sex with you whenever you want so that you and your fellow NL retrdds can swarm around and call her olosho. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by midnighter(f): 1:11am On Oct 31, 2019 |
teemy:I agree with you 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 1:11am On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905: I don't care about all this... I'm focused on the op. What other people do or don't do has nothing to do with this issue op has. His future wife is of the opinion that church wedding is as important and maybe a little more for HER How are you guys not getting this? Op is in the wrong because he accepted her wishes and now... This! Op is in the wrong and I hope she stands her ground. Men have left many wives after traditional weddings and crossed the road to marry their new catch at her church because tradition gives more room than a church wedding. Tbh, I don't understand your statistics, going by nairaland, you'd think only Nigerians are Christians 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by blaque7: 1:12am On Oct 31, 2019 |
she dey collect better hot one somewhere. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Sterope(f): 1:13am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Barely married but the world is already forming judge and jury over your issues. It doesn't help that she is not easily manipulated either. I don't envy her. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by BarrElChapo(m): 1:14am On Oct 31, 2019 |
You see the post you replied had a scenario of infertility.. But you're missing the point all together.. Dissolution "divorce" of marriage is completely different from Annulment of marriage from the scenario that you replied and from my the article i sent you. If I were representing a petitioner I would come under Fraud or Duress Fraud is where there is dishonest misrepresentation by a party to the marriage by which the consent of the other was obtained, while duress is when a party to the marriage is compelled to contract such marriage by creating a state of fear or apprehension, which prevented the party from freely consenting to the marriage. juxtaposing it with the scenario. if the lady knew she was infertile before the marriage and the man can prove that she in fact misrepresented her capacity to bear children before the marriage. the man can seek for an Annulment of the marriage that is the marriage never existed in the first place. Sorry I don't have a copy of the act at the moment but if this doesn't convince you hopefully during the day we could continue. Cheers ! Where consent is proved to have been obtained by fraud or duress, the marriage is annulled not because of the presence of fraud or duress but because of the absence of consent. Freehuman: |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by teemy(m): 1:16am On Oct 31, 2019 |
tradepunter: I believe a pastor or priest must have been invited to the traditional wedding and as such the wedding was done before God and a crowd of human witnesses. Isn't that in itself a congregation at a wedding? As for the the white color check this out
Lastly, our forebears that had only traditional wedding, did that not suffice for their marriages? We need to realize that we tend to have three weddings in our side here. Check out the grandsons of the Queen. Which of their weddings was the traditional and which was the church's? They are one and the same, similar to what I first stated that a pastor or priest being there suffices as a combo of trad and church wedding if you may. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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