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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kunleweb: 7:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Duggedised12: So you call normal relations as being fanatical. That's why your kinds do multiple abortions and yet get dumped. Yeye |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by GoddonBishop: 7:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Looking at it critically, traditional marriage is not recognised internationally as legal and bidding. To this end therefore you are not yet married bro. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by breathcutter(m): 7:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Ok Op, your story was my experience, we did trad November and church February just 3 months gap, and those three months for every night I begged humbly and roughly for sex, I got same answers in cool and calm voice, " baby, this means a whole lot to me... Please respect it, once it's done, you can 'gbakashia ebe n'ile', my humbled p***s will just go flaccid... She told me she's a virgin, she eventually was. It took us two weeks after white wedding before I could penetrate because of her delicate and fragile nature... The only thing is, be patient, trust me you've got a good wife who'd never compromise standards in anything, one you will leave and travel and your mind won't wander off thinking about so many things you know. Again, if you're highly sexually exposed and experienced like yours faithfully, you will not enjoy sex at the initial stage, because she's learning to know what sex is all about, be patient, cheat if you can, get the that blast from a side chick, but let it not take your love off her, don't let her know, if she's willing to learn, suggest she reads articles on sex, watch healthy soft porn, explore her and know what turns her, she may not know, in time you'll be fine. I enjoy sex today with my wife and have kicked off side chicks, my wife has a masters now in intimacy and sex. Bottom line Be patient. Again Be patient 5 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by 9ja083: 7:23am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Well. Respect her decision. There are some ladies that will be so honest with you. My friend's wife did the same thing. Just that she was honest enough to tell her man that she's not a virgin but she stands on No sex before marriage. And she maintained her decision. My friend respected that. Its no big deal. Just do premarital test. She told u before on her believe and u thought she was joking. That lady is a good lady. Just do the wedding and have her as long as u want 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Yugoos: 7:24am On Oct 31, 2019 |
OP DONT MARRY YET. YOU ARE STILL A BOY. WAIT TILL YOU GROW UP... That's how you would cook up another nonsense and start cheating in her first trimester. MTCHEEEEW 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 7:25am On Oct 31, 2019 |
LadyHeaven: Take a walk after paying the outrageous igbo bride price.... That's arrant balderdash.. I don't support premarital sex oh...but op for no pay the bride price if he no fit endure...abi you think abstinence after doing what's customary is easy ni...... Some of these spiri koko sisters no go even smell heaven las las...if you check their heart ehnnn....e smell pass 10years soakaway....Tueh!!! |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:25am On Oct 31, 2019 |
GogobiriLalas: i would be careful with that.... maybe that worked back then,but today is different....temptations plenty.... if she dont rush you immediatly even after traditional marriage,then your own na oyo.... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Ruthe(f): 7:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
1 Timothy 5:2 Do not be hasty in the laying on of hands, nor take part in the sins of others; keep yourself pure. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Adebowalay(m): 7:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:she made her rules and u obliged.. Let her Just pray it's d way u presumed..otherwise.. Whatever u do is justified.. Let her know this...she go comport.. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Kakamorufu(m): 7:26am On Oct 31, 2019 |
She wan scam you bro |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by chiboysic: 7:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
what you need to know is that,You should unstand the girl first. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:27am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Ruthe: seriously....?? does that even make sense to you....?? explain to me whats the meaning of pure....?? even your bible tells you all have sinned.... soo,how can you be pure....?? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by oluwasegun007(m): 7:29am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Bro you tried oooo... I can't even wait for the traditional sef before we sample each other... Which kind black market be that What if you are impotent, she doesn't care because she has more shocker for u.. Moreso, one bro fit dey corner dey shine her kongo. Mormpha in relationship level.. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by nan1: 7:31am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Guy let me be honest with you that girl is seeing another man forget that born again it's deception I'm speaking from experience I have many friends that claim born again if you see what they do you will be shocked if she really loves you she will be the one begging for sex haba even after trads? Forget the white for now and don't force her again do as if you don't care again stop showing how much you love her girls take men like you for granted 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:33am On Oct 31, 2019 |
oluwasegun007: kiiki....wait kee.... as soon as you stick your dickk in a woman,you are already married....!! you dont need no certificate for that.... the guy is a nice mugu.... women of today always dump this guys after a while.... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by oluwasegun007(m): 7:35am On Oct 31, 2019 |
obidark: Broda wey mumu.. Sorry for that OP |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 7:35am On Oct 31, 2019 |
midnighter: the op has issues oh, demanding for body even when he and her agreed on what and how things were going to be done, imagine his level of self imposed right over the woman's body like really? mehn and to think some people are going Crazy with the shirty " she is a slut and all" is really annoying to me. She is a very decisive and determined individual and to me that's a rare quality to find in a woman, imagine the OP dEmanding his right to have his way with her body like, make she give am the op where is the said love he speaks about . 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:36am On Oct 31, 2019 |
oluwasegun007: sorry oo.... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 7:36am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Ruthe: well said dear. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by jozee8: 7:37am On Oct 31, 2019 |
White Wedding VERSUS Traditional Wedding This is very long but it's worth it! The fact that stares us to our faces is what we call "White Wedding" in our part of the world, which could be considered as "Traditional Wedding" by those from whom we copied the wedding from. Though we all know from history how the term "white wedding" came about after Queen Victoria in 1840 decided to wear a white gown for her wedding to Prince Albert. But of course, today, when we talk about white wedding, it is not just about the white gown. And so, if we must be brutally honest to ourselves, it is indeed a multiplication and something of inferiority for a black man to celebrate what he calls traditional wedding and still feels he is not married until he celebrates the traditional wedding of the Western man (white wedding), wearing three piece suit and his wife dressed in a long white gown under a hot sokoto-like sun. The only fact that makes it not to appear like a multiplication is what I call the "Church-ness" or the "Christ-ness" imbedded into the white wedding. I guess this is why people now call it church wedding or Christian wedding. But, even at that, there is a problem. The Christian faith as brought by Christ is universal. It can be planted into any culture. The missionary don't need to carry the culture of his place alongside the faith to others. No culture is superior to the other. If we are ready. . . All we need do is to take out what constitutes the "Church-ness" and "Christ-ness" from the white wedding and put it into our own traditional wedding. One does not need a suit and a gown, a bridal train or best men in suits, flowers girls or even rings, before his wedding could be called a Christian wedding. One does not necessarily need to come to a church building and take vows before the altar before the wedding could be called church wedding. What makes marriage is not the wedding suits or gown, it is not the rings, even the priest or pastor is there as a witness. This is why even a deacon can assist in a marriage. And in some extreme cases, where there is no priest or deacon, After due approval, the law of the church allows the diocesan bishop to delegate lay persons to assist in wedding. (Canon 1112.1). What makes marriage according to the teachings of the church in Canon 1057 §1 is simply the CONSENT of the parties, legitimately manifested between persons quali-fied by law. You see that part where the man and woman promise fidelity to each other and to love each other in good time and bad till death?. . . That is the kpim. That is the consent. The function of the priest or pastor or Deacon is to accept their consent in the name of the church in the presence of at least two witnesses. Then he gives them the church's blessings. Just in case you don't know, the Canon law gives provision that marriage may not necessarily be celebrated in the church, the local ordinary (Bishop) can grant permission for it to be celebrated elsewhere. (Can.1115, 1118.2). It is important I add this because you might so get used to wedding being done in the contest of mass and forget that marriage is a sacrament that must not necessarily be celebrated in the context of mass. This simply means that it is possible for a priest or pastor to join couples in holy matrimony right there in their traditional wedding after all the marriage preparation and classes have been done. Using the Igbo traditional wedding as an example, the program can begin with prayers and scriptural reading, other traditional rites can be done. Then, after the bride had identified her husband through what is called wine carrying, the priest can at that point ask the man and woman to give their consent. He accepts it, gives them the church's blessings. Marriage is done. They continue with their dancing and eating. As simple as that. But how many of us will accept this? I know of a diocese that tried this, most intending couples said they don't want it. They prefer the "white wedding". For them, marriage is not complete if they did not wear white gown and suit. Look at how wedding is done today in Africa. It is now a game of show. After traditional, then white wedding. Series of expensive make ups, pictures, rented Mercedes Benz to impress, bridal shower, expensive decorations, name them. . . Everyone trying to outdo the next person on whose wedding is considered the "talk of town", at the expense of the true essence of marriage. Ours is a case of mental slavery, and it is to us that the legendary Bob Marley sang, "Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, non but ourselves can free our minds. . ." Written by Fr Ugwu Kelvin MSP (Maka ndi plagiarists) |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 7:37am On Oct 31, 2019 |
My broda , come to ojuelegba you will see plenty olosho there... If your girlfriend deny you her pussy,. Approach any of the ojuelegba olosho to reduce your konji tension... It would not cost you much... And if you think fucking olosho is costlier , try raping your landlord daughter FOC and wait for the consequences |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by tunesboyo(m): 7:38am On Oct 31, 2019 |
I still don't get where the idea of church wedding comes from in most Christians. Since when I've been reading my bible I didn't come across a verse where any couple wed in a temple(church). |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 7:38am On Oct 31, 2019 |
breathcutter: matured advice bruh, really matured sir. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:38am On Oct 31, 2019 |
WriterX: no man has a right over a womans body....its their property....its either they give it wilfuly or you have no rights.... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by alexmakaay(m): 7:39am On Oct 31, 2019 |
id2019: my brother ask am again.. don't know why men dey get leakiness of brain when it comes to sex. he is only preocupied with his conjugal right as a husband. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Laredojohn(m): 7:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Hmm she informed you from scratch.. Hearing this from her isn't new, you went ahead with the traditional, now the white wedding left, you are now pausing it because of what you are already aware of, if she is hiding something from you, I may not know, just let the white wedding take place and clear all your doubts.. It's rather too early for you and her having issue about this. To before warn is to before harm... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by WriterX(m): 7:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
kunleweb: kunleweb: calm down lollz, calm down. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by obidark: 7:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
the way i see it....he is in love with a woman that doesnt love him back.... or else,she would have nakked him even before traditional wedding.... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Ruthe(f): 7:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
obidark:Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. (1 Corinthians 13:4- 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by golddare: 7:40am On Oct 31, 2019 |
You have tried but you can do better by ensuring till the Church wedding is done. You are both husband and wife already but your woman fears is that if she succumbs or gets pregnant the church wont accept to join the wedding. You see every lady wants to experience that glorious day at the alter infront of families and friends so please understand. As for the virginity, if that's too important for you, tell her you are ready to wait after a virginity test at the hospital by a female doctor. If she refuses, you can also give her another condition that you will end the marriage on wedding night if you discovered she's not a virgin and have been unfaithful all the while. Finally my brother marriage is not all about virginity or sex. Dont choose a woman because she's a virgin above those that are not virgins. I have seen good girls that are not virgins and some bad ones that are virgins. You must be sure this is the person you are destined to spend the rest of your lives with. My own advice: Since you are sure she's the one, fold your hands, zip up as usual, wait for that night because its better you based your marriage on trust rather than virginity etc. Dont worry, you will soon be tired of sex intact you will be running away very soon. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Hangulsaram: 7:41am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Some Comments here are the reason we can never have good system and rule of law. We always go against mutual agreement. She stated it at on set “no sex until after church weeding” you agreed and now come to claim right that you have done everything. Abeg go and fulfill all righteousness. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by nzeobi(m): 7:42am On Oct 31, 2019 |
Sirvingeo:Gods involvement in marriage is the parents of the girl handing over the girl to the parents of the guy. It has nothing to do with the the religious leaders, you can check your bible for that. |
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