marvin905:





dude they are married as far as the two families agree and the bride price have been paid they are married

sassysure:


If she dont want to have sex, what is she doing in his house,hypocrite?
What message is she sending across by living with him in the same house, isn't that a sin too?
The bible said ok If your left hand will lead u to sin, cut it off.
She sleeps with a man whose brain is already wired to see her as his wife.
She is a wicked soul.
She should go back to her mother's house in owerri.
Robbing Peter to pay Paul.
The man has restraint and I commend him. Some other would have raped her and nothing will come off it.
She is his wife. Simple.

U hypocrites trying to justify nonsense. How come u didn't see that she is already living with him as his wife yet she is claiming holy.
All the sins that man has been committing because of her is in her head, pastor hypocrite who prefer another man's culture than his.
Be it masturbation, be it thinking of looking outside etc is on her head.

BiggyB242:


"It isn't much to ask" that how it goes for every other issues, well I don't blame her, the guy who thought he could change her mind is the one to be blamed.

For every 1man there are 3women, don't know why men stress their selves when it comes to issues of finding a wife. Any type of woman a man seeks they are everywhere, is just finance that limits a man's choices.

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

Drkeo:
She's hiding something from you....

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks

WriterX:


thanks for indulging may I ask if you celebrate Christmas?

because if you do according to some Christian doctrines you are partaking in an occultic festival or something of that nature fact is Jesus wasn't born in December and there was a certain festival in honor of some deity and all that which to some sense have some proof

listen I am not much of a religious person even though I respect each and every religion the thing is Christianity has survived this far by adapting customs and traditions , yes a white wedding is a white man's thing as well as Christianity but we accepted it because it provided standards by which we felt were morally right and socially acceptable in the eyes of the world.

I get your point in my family, traditional wedding is the wedding too but that doesn't make the significance of the white wedding at less sort after.

much respect to you and your opinion.

kunleweb:



I'll show you if you're the owner of the vagina. Olodo. Kids who denigrate principles, that's why they always fall victims to what wasn't meant for then to become victims of.

MisterKings:


Stay put...No wedding till you have sex. This is how it will go...if you allow this, she will expect you to allow all other rubbish she throws at you as the years go by in your marriage.
The real marriage is the traditional marriage, not white wedding, that one is just party. So tell her, you are now her husband and if she will not do what you want, you will cancel the wedding and maybe even divorce her traditionally.

She is your wife now, I see no reason why she wants some pastor to tell her that before she starts acting as one.

WriterX:


thanks for indulging may I ask if you celebrate Christmas?

because if you do according to some Christian doctrines you are partaking in an occultic festival or something of that nature fact is Jesus wasn't born in December and there was a certain festival in honor of some deity and all that which to some sense have some proof

listen I am not much of a religious person even though I respect each and every religion the thing is Christianity has survived this far by adapting customs and traditions , yes a white wedding is a white man's thing as well as Christianity but we accepted it because it provided standards by which we felt were morally right and socially acceptable in the eyes of the world.

I get your point in my family, traditional wedding is the wedding too but that doesn't make the significance of the white wedding at less sort after.

much respect to you and your opinion.

marvin905:




please show the place In the Bible that relates with what you said..
and tell me what is the highest type of marriage rite done in the Bible

kunleweb:



He's unable to turn her own to lose her guard on his own. He's trying to enter the oucci through her head instead of through her mind. To fvck any lady, you must increase desuriablity and make her mentally fvck you and be all over you mentally before the physical act takes place. Na she go dey ask first.

Ask him of his behavior, you'll see the answers there.

marvin905:




now I know you're stupid

paix:
That's ok by me. If the white wedding is the stumbling block, why not do it next month? Case closed.

StacyO:

Don't want to hear stories that touch the liver later sha.
@op please use your number 6

LadyHeaven:


It's pointless trying to reason with you, you already see the world through a myopic lens so I take a bow, have a good day sir.

sassysure:

And she already packed her bags to Abuja to live with him in his house, yet she want the man to behave like stone.
Agree to this and u will.soon start seeing, no sex during fasting for one month, church activities superseding her marital interest. So many of them have lead their husbands outside with their useless laws.
I blame the @op, foolishly accepting the rubbish in the first place.

marvin905:








I understand your points ..
buh let me highlight something for you..
whether we like it or not both marriages are not on equal ground one out weigh the other..
let me put this to you..
you can do a traditional marriage without doing White in our society and in the eyes of God and man you are married buh you can't do a Christian marriage without a traditional no church will wed you ..if you know of a church that will do that please say..
and let me tell you this most people that seek white wedding isn't because of religious beliefs from my own observation..
as for me I couldn't careless about white wedding but if my future says she wants it and financial capable I will give it to her

Mogambo123:
If she's not a virgin then you av been scammed.

kunleweb:



Allow me reiterate, you're the one responsible for your damaged vagina. Stop taking it out on more decent people

Acidosis:

The Federal Government of Nigeria must as a matter of urgency place a HEAVY TAX on multiple weddings. You either do one or two of traditional, church/Islamic, and registry or pay a tax of N1,000,000 to your state government. If you are unsatisfied and filled with LUST so much that you desire 3 types of weddings in a poor country like Nigeria, you must forfeit 1 million naira to the government. If you don't know how to spend your money, the government will help.

kunleweb:



Yeye try harder eediat

Freehuman:





Some men are really cool with anything. When I'm planning to have two kids and at least a male child before marriage, a man lives under the same roof with the woman he legally married and consumation of the marriage is yet to happen.

Everyone here is talking about virginity and not fertility. She may even be a virgin and deep down knows she is not fertile. Over 1000 Nigerian girls(teenagers) suffer from ovarian cyst yearly and most times treatment causes damage to their reproductive system. That's just one disease and there are others.

Marrying in a church can prevent divorce when the male partner wants it immediately on grounds of fertility of the Female. I think a judge will not grant such divorce until the marriage has broken down irretrievably.

From a legal point of view, marrying in a church which is registered under the law as a valid place of celebration of marriage means that the couples contracted statutory marriage ( under the marriage ACT). This means if the marriage has not broken down irretrievably and you intend to divorce her on grounds of infertility the court may not grant a decree nicee. If the man proceeds to dissolve the marriage without a grant by the court , she can sue him for bigamy. It may take up to 5 years before you begin to abuse her and make the marriage break down irretrievably.

An average religious bigot is likely to believe that if she adheres to such extreme religious doctrines (abstinence from sex until a church wedding) her infertility may be cured.

I know my reason is abstract but it must not be ruled out.

Acidosis:


Traditional wedding or the payment of bride price is not enough for you to sleep with your man?

You're a religious fanatic. White wedding is not in your bible.

Sirvingeo:
op you got a good wife. She has the fear of God that is why she wants you to do the church wedding which depicts God's involvement. You better don't loose a good woman because of sex o. I promise you a lady that could go this far for God will never cheat on you after wedding .

I wish you happy marriage life and I pray I get a godly wife like her. Amen!!!

igwegeorgiano:
Friends on NL I greet you all. Trust your day is going well? It is with very heavy heart and confused state of mind I sent this post on this platform so you can advise me on what line of action I should take. Pastors and genuine men of God should also advise me on what to do as well.

There is this lady i have been dating for about a year and 6 months now. We love each other to the moon and most importantly we respect each other opinion and decisions. She is a born again christian who appreciates the things of God more than she appreciates me which of course I have no issues with.

When we agreed to start up a relationship after being friends for about 6 months, it was agreed that there will be no sex until the wedding night but at a point I asked her "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious.

Fast forward, on the 15th of July 2019 the traditional marriage was done in her father' compound in the east and all I was asked to pay and give was paid and given without any remainder . after the traditional marriage we went back to my house in abuja. Note that we were not staying together before now. I am base in abuja while she is in owerri. When we got home that night I told her we can now make love as husband and wife hence the traditional rites has been done and most importantly the bride price paid. To my amazement my wife bluntly refused. She told me she will never compromise her stand on pre marital sex

I have been very faithful to our agreement based on her claim that she is a virgin. But refusing me my right over her body after every thing including the bride price has been paid is something I can never subscribed to and to this end I have I have involved her parent and her pastor her decision however, still remain no sex till the wedding night. I am putting the wedding on hold for now until she willingly allow me make love to her and she seems not to be comfortable with my decision as well.

This is the dilemma I have found myself please I need your wise counsels on this. Thanks and remain bless. Moderators kindly push this post to the front page so it can have adequate views it deserves thanks