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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by TVSA: 2:14pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Guest007:Tradition is more important. Who did marriage in the church in the bible? It was traditional marriage that people did in the Bible. The only people involved were parents and relatives. There's no guideline in the bible for any thing like "church wedding" 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by TVSA: 2:20pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Offpoint:Thank you!!!. Some people consider their tradition more inferior to the european tradition. The idea of "church wedding " originated from England. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by midnighter(f): 2:21pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Polyurethane: This is wrong! Quite wrong. Traditional marriage is most definitely recognised by God, where did you get this information?? Solemnising your union in church because of your belief doesn't mean you will abandon your custom. The church marriage also came from somebody's custom In fact the white gown only began to reign in Britain after queen Victoria used it to wed. Before that they would just wear any bright colour just like we do 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Acidosis(m): 2:24pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
wiseone28: Ahahaha. Do the white wedding, and relocate to Canada the next day. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 2:24pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
teemy:And if her answer is 'yes',they are husband &wife, what will her legal proof be? Can she officially claim a 'a Mrs' or do a 'change of name' to his without being wedded in a marriage registry or a religious centre where a certificate of marriage can be issued? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 2:27pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
TVSA: We're talking about the girl's wishes and you people are talking something else. None of what you said has anything to do with the op. Can you accept an agreement and then go back on your word? I don't care if she's waiting for Mohammed to marry them... Op is wrong and you people want to chat about everything but this fact... 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by dennel(m): 2:36pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Acidosis: Oh sorry I don’t have that time... |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by yakson123: 2:36pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
igwegeorgiano:MY BROTHER FIRST LET ME ASK ARE YOU A CHRISTIAN IF YES WHY DO YOU WANT TO DISOBEY GOD, WHAT IS IN THIS SEX THAT OUR GENERATION IS RUNNING AFTER AT THE DETRIMENT OF THEIR LIVES AND DISOBEYING GODS COMMANDMENT MY ADVICE SINCE YOU ACCEPTED THE TERMS AND CONDITIONS FROM THE BEGINNING KINDLY ENDURE REMEMBER MARRIAGE IS HONORABLE A BED UNDEFILE SECONDLY ALL THIS PEOPLE HERE TELLING YOU IF YOU ARE SURE SHE IS A VIRGIN IT IS SIMPLE TELL HER TO SNAP HER PRIVATE PART YOU WILL SEE IT VERY CLEARLY LASTLY I THINK FOR HER BEEN SUCH A WOMAN IN THIS KIND OF SINFUL GENERATION YOU ARE LUCKY YOUR HOME IS SAVE YOUR KIDS ARE SAVE YOU CAN ONLY SEE 1 IN 10,0000 HOLD IT CLOSELY I HAVE ONE AND I KNOW WHAT I'M TELLING YOU 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Offpoint: 2:37pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
mignone:They agreed "Not to have sex until wedding night" this is the only time the both have an agreement. "what if we are done with traditional marriage rites are we still not gonna have sex? To my creates surprise she said we won't until church wedding is done. I did not actually took her serious" He didn't take her serious on the second quote, meaning he wasn't in support neither did he object.... I know what I read and I understand it. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 2:42pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Drkeo:maybe bole hole puna |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 2:42pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Wiseoldman: Can I ask pls, why then is the traditional rites irrelevant when one seeks to be wedded at a marriage registry? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kunleweb: 2:43pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Offpoint: This issue get cross eyes and legs. The Op needs to stand by his word and honour. A man must stand by his word and must give it loosely. An agreement is an agreement whether its given seriously or playfully. If unsure, he ought to have asked as he won't be flogged for it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by jameschibuike(m): 2:43pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
I feel your pain my brother but still exercise patience until the wedding night. Don't make her do want she does not want to do. If you force her for sex, she make not like/love you the way she does now. After all, after the wedding night, you will eat it till Jesus come. You need plenty patience to work with ladies. (My Opinion) 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Offpoint: 2:46pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
kunleweb: Please Take my identity out, it's wrong for you to do that... kindly edit my name out. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by TVSA: 2:47pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Macon1212:How is it unbiblical to have sex before joining together in Church? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 2:48pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Newguyhere:for this stress she put u through, u will need 5 red bull energy drink 5 black bullets 2 caps of Viagra(100mg) 3 raps of Santana and eguisi soup with dog meat and finally, one full roll of tissue paper and ice block..lol |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kunleweb: 2:48pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Polyurethane: God bless you. I agree 100% 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kunleweb: 2:53pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
lovethchioma: Chioma your head is there. May God help this generation have marriages that are free from public counsels and intrusion. Not when hubby or wives turn against one another creating threads to look for validations to backup their own selfish agenda 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Qadaffi2idiamin: 2:54pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
The drama on this thread is very interesting, I need more pop corn. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by martowskin1(m): 2:54pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
ImaIma1: My dear u took it out of my mouth, there is something she is hiding, but if am the guy, I will send her back to her parents, after the white wedding, she can return. Anytime I fix the date for the wedding concerns no one 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by kunleweb: 2:57pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Newguyhere: Hahahahahaha LMFAO |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 3:04pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905:It seems people here have turned the debate to one abt trad&church wedding. I don't think that's the issue here cos they both agreed dt there wld be a church wedding before which there will be no "consummation" according to the lady in question. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by ImaIma1(f): 3:11pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
martowskin1: She might actually not be hiding anything but just upholding her principles and views stubbornly. The bolded could be the best thing to do instead constantly smelling food that he cannot eat. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by sharone21(f): 3:11pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
marvin905:Whether u like it or not Court wedding ( if u like add church's wedding with God's blessings) are IMPORTANT especially to a woman. One the marriage certificate is recognized at her place of work, she is not judged by the dictates of her tradition if the man dies especially if she has no kids, the man cannot just take off and many more on top of her head, if you seek to divorce her- u do it legally while the court decides what she gets from u out of the marriage no matter how small ( even if u deceived her)- if u don't divorce formally, u can't just hop on to another woman. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by Nobody: 3:17pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
Most people here said my mind @ Op. Don't force her to make love with her.All I would want you to do is surprisingly take her to the hospital or clinic where you can confirm the validity of her virginity. I think that will solve 70% of your worries. Some will ask that 'what if she gets to the hospital and disagrees to do the test?'.If she disagrees,then,be rest assured she has been lying to you and just wanna trap you with that marriage. More so,if you as a guy has high level of sexual urge and ur wife is the opposite case,then you will be having difficulty in that marriage.Marriage is all about compatibility and not the opposite; reason why knowing each other to the fullest is needed before marriage. For me oh,even if she miss 9geria,I won't marry her for her policy of 'No Sex Before' marriage. Most ladies use that these days to trap men,wise up bro. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by marvin905(m): 3:23pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
sharone21: can she be dumped.. yes or no.. for your info both parties can go to a registry after the traditional marriage no difference
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Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 3:23pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
manontree:- What has marrying her got to do with doing well sir? If he doesn't, someone else&prolly better wld. - Whether moral/medical decision, it's hers&she made it clear to him early enough in the r.ship. - Why refer to her as foolish or one with a low IQ just cos she's keeping to her earlier stated principles? ... let me just stop 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by zyzxx(m): 3:29pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
midnighter:please let me ask? Is white wedding the biblical standard or paying of bride price? ND consent of both parents? |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 3:29pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
ObongNizz: Yes now, since a woman is just an object with no alternative than to be acquired by a 'lord' who doesn't even have to know his right from left. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 3:34pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
salt1:You just took the words out of my mouth. I wonder Y she got involved with smone with whom she'll have to drag issues, spiritual principles esp. I fear for her really! God bless ur home eternally! 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by DeRay98(m): 3:35pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
ImaIma1: You said it all. It's our brainwashed mentality that says marriage is not contracted until going to church. This is problem we're into now. Why can't both be done within 2days if it must be done. Traditional marriage where the bride's family has collected her dowry is the totality of the marriage. What we call white/church wedding is the Europeans' own traditional marriage that they sold to us through church. The church wedding can't hold until the Pastor or priests confirms that the bride's family have collected her dowry. Unless in a case where the family have accepted that church wedding is their total and no need for traditional marriage. This long held system where we hold traditional marriage one day and wait for months to conduct church wedding is nonsense and wastage of lots of energy and resources. Even churches are now conducting very low key and week day marriages in pastor's office with only parents as witnesses, not to keep young people suffering because of grandiose wedding plans. Once the traditional marriage is done, God recognise bride's parents are the full responsibility for her bethrotal and therefore, conjugal responsibility can start. |
Re: My Wife Insists No Sex Until Wedding Night Even After Our Traditional Wedding by mignone(f): 3:35pm On Oct 31, 2019 |
sykeng:You seem to know the lady in person sir. |
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