Skyfornia:
Yes ofcourse...If you forgive the person...you are doing yourself more good.
Now to you OP, can you forgive your child any crime committed towards you even when he/she didn't apologize? If yes, then you can equally extend such gesture to someone else.

Carbon2Oxide:
That's me. I hate the word "sorry" so much. I just let it go and move on

Kalashnikov102:
For sure! Especially in relationships, families..some forgivness hurts more

AnthCunny:


So that means you forgive people without them having to apologise?

AnthCunny:
Good day Family

I've been thinking and have decided to share my thoughts here.

What does it really take to forgive someone? Let's say someone offends you and the person is fully aware. Now the person refuses to apologise. After days or weeks of being hurt, you decided to 'forgive' the person. Will you call that forgiveness? Personally, I don't think you have forgiven the person.

I think there is a thin line between 'letting go' or 'not holding grudges' and forgiveness. What you simply did was 'letting go' and not forgiveness. You simply decided not to hold grudges; not to let your heart heavy.

I think the offender MUST apologise or show remorse in one way or the other before forgiveness can take place.

What do you think?

buyfromalaba:
@AnthCunny

I don't think you are a man for typing such. Or you don't want to enjoy your life in peace.

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AnthCunny:
Good day Family

I've been thinking and have decided to share my thoughts here.

What does it really take to forgive someone? Let's say someone offends you and the person is fully aware. Now the person refuses to apologise. After days or weeks of being hurt, you decided to 'forgive' the person. Will you call that forgiveness? Personally, I don't think you have forgiven the person.

I think there is a thin line between 'letting go' or 'not holding grudges' and forgiveness. What you simply did was 'letting go' and not forgiveness. You simply decided not to hold grudges; not to let your heart heavy.

I think the offender MUST apologise or show remorse in one way or the other before forgiveness can take place.

What do you think?

Allsingles:


We all need forgiveness and we all need to extend that same forgiveness to others not just today, but every day.
IT’S TIME TO FORGIVE.
Do you struggle with forgiving people when they wound you emotionally? If so, please you shouldn't.
Spend some time with your friends, your spouse and family members today and ask him/her if you have wounded them emotionally and then sincerely apologize for hurting them.

THE BENEFITS OF FORGIVENESS.
When you Forgive anyone that offended you, you will feel relieved and free from emotional truama too.
A woman of God, Joyice Meyer; says and i quote
"Do yourself a favor and Forgive"
So you are actually doing something awesome to yourself emotionally when you Forgive anyone that offended you.
Forgiveness is not a must do but it's compulsory and very crucial that you do it and....
https://allsinglesandmarried..com/2019/07/i-will-never-forgive-you.html

sholay2011:
Good thread but the responses have been one-way traffic.

In truthfulness, you are right OP. the process of forgiveness is never complete without repentance (except in cases of pure ignorance). Even the ever-loving God who can forgive anything will not forgive you except you repent.

What most people claim to do when they say they have forgiven is to 'let go' and 'ensure the bitterness or resentment goes away' (even though it may come back intermittently if something triggers the memory of the wrongdoing). But the complete process of forgiveness is a step towards the reconciliation of relationship, like it was prior to the wrongdoing. So, most people will let the offender go in the hearts (as good Christians) but will no longer want to do anything with that person (who wants to risk it? ). And this can never be overcome when the offender is not repentant, no matter how 'kind-hearted' you are. It will even be foolish to do such because God doesn't do such. Your relationship with the Father cannot be truly restored until you repent.

Now to cases of ignorance such as your little child messing around or a passenger stepping on your foot in a bus, forgiveness can easily be complete because you are convinced it wasn't premeditated, calculated or the offender does not have access to full information or wisdom. Jesus Christ did this on the cross for those that nailed him (Father, forgive them for they don't know what they are doing.).

But in cases where there was a tangible relationship and also depending on the gravity of the offence and if it is not a case of ignorance, there is no forgiveness (that leads to complete restoration of the relationship like it was before) without not just apology, but repentance. And the mistake we all make is to place the burden of the whole process being complete on the offended person, whereas the offender has a vital role to play.

It is always important though that the offended has a heart that is willing to forgive and one that easily lets go of resentment. Having a heart willing to forgive towards someone does not automatically complete the process of forgiveness.

AnthCunny:


Thanks so much for your input�

I've experienced situations where I 'forgave' someone that offended me, although he wasn't aware that he offended me. I felt was kind hearted enough to forgive him without his apology. To be honest I felt a kind of peace within me knowing fully well that I've forgiven him.

But the day something led to something that I had to remind him of something he did long time ago, he apologized quickly with all sincerity. There was a new kind of peace that enveloped me. It was then I realized that I was deceiving myself when I told myself I didn't need his apology.

For the fact that I easily reminded him of his earlier deed showed that I was still expecting his apology.

Maybe I'm a different human being... lol

Florblu:
One of the good things i have learnt is forgiveness. Since the beginning of this year I can't remember forgiving anyone because i refuse to let anything hurt me so why should I forgive when i'm not hurt?

Not everyone will realize their mistakes and apologize for their wrongdoings. Refuse to get hurt by whatever anyone say/do to you and there won't be a need to forgive anyone.

olushola72dot:
Yes of course when we are yet sinners Christ died for us