Hey guys, I've been thinking lately that long dating/courtship periods are actually disadvantageous.

I cringe when I hear people say they dated for 10 years, 12 years, etc. Even if they get married to the same person, I still feel it's ridiculous. I feel long courtships result in couples who walk into marriage unexcited.

There are no mysteries to uncover. Sometimes, I feel by the time they do decide to get married, it's just to fulfill all righteousness, the love and spark may have been extinguished a long time ago.

Another consideration is, a person who dates another for a decade, when that relationship ends finally, how do they move on... and truly put that phase of their lives behind? I mean, I'd hate to get married to someone and still have so many memories of another etched in my heart forever.

Personally, at this age, I don't see why I should be in a relationship with someone for even four years.

Am I the only one who has such considerations?

PrimadonnaO:
Hey guys, I've been thinking lately that long dating/courtship periods are actually disadvantageous.

I cringe when I hear people say they dated for 10 years, 12 years, etc. Even if they get married to the same person, I still feel it's ridiculous. I feel long courtships result in couples who walk into marriage unexcited.

There are no mysteries to uncover. Sometimes, I feel by the time they do decide to get married, it's just to fulfill all righteousness, the love and spark may have been extinguished a long time ago.

Another consideration is, a person who dates another for a decade, when that relationship ends finally, how do they move on... and truly put that phase of their lives behind? I mean, I'd hate to get married to someone and still have so many memories of another etched in my heart forever.

Personally, at this age, I don't see why I should be in a relationship with someone for even four years.

Am I the only one who has such considerations?

You're not the only one

I feel a relationship that'll lead to marriage shouldn't be more than two years...

But with so much uncertainty (financial and gbasgbos of relationship) one dont have full control of how events unfold.

A year is enough for a serious relationship to get married