myang500:

she said all women are the same that even if i am to re-marry, that the woman will be worse off than she is, but i disagree.

myang500:

she quickly termed it that i was trying to say shes cheating, that i need to get a life and stop being insecured. I was like i'm not insecured, and i cant be insecured over a woman of her looks. She got angry and said, me with my small pen**s, i was like an ugly woman like u can never make me insecured. I kept quiet but she continuously carried out her tantrums. This is coupled with the fact that somestimes last week, she made a statement out of an argument that she will have sexxx with another man in the house and i will never know of it.

Guilty conscience at play here She's most likely cheating or about to..

sweetonugbu:
You guys May be married but are not ready to settle down.

SirVintageCock:
Glad I have a vintage cock. . Small penis and you have the gut to whine on nairaland about it word for word

But wait oooo, if you are working from home you still need someone to gather ordinary breakfast for you?

In this modern age, the moment you Start splitting the bills then you expect anything......

In short, you guys are cohabitants...... Just draw a plan of cohabitation and get on with it....

Breaststroke:
Has anyone noticed an increasing trend in married folks bitterly complaining about one issue or the other in the family section?

You all make singlehood feel like heaven on earth.

To answer the last part of your question OP, women are different in certain ways and we react differently to situations.

Some of us may talk back and say similar things like your wife, some of us may choose the silent treatment over talking back and others as seen on Oloni's Twitter thread will find more painful ways to get back at you.

myang500:


Its actually not what u thought of iyt to be, i have heard so many damning words in the last seven 7 years, words like, am wasting her yansh, that she will give the ass to someone else. My advise to anyone single guy here, marriage is good, but be very patient before u choose a life partner, if u happen to impregnate a lady whom u know u are not compatible with, dont be forced to marry as it falls to my own kinda predicament. I am not the kitchen type, i work and work to pay the bills. now to break it down, i didnt want to type much just to make things known how it is, in a year, if i had spent 5.2 million which covers everything concerning the family, she had only spent maybe like 250k, is that sharing bill? her own definition of sharing bill is just cox we went out just last week, we both shared the bill for food and ish, and takes care of groceries once in a while, left to her she always say shes not suppose to be spending a dime after which i empowered her financially with her businesses...am a correct husband that any correct woman would rush, just a pity i have fallen into a pit that am finding hard to climb due to the love i have for mu children... life is hard with the wrong woman i must say.

myang500:


Its actually not what u thought of iyt to be, i have heard so many damning words in the last seven 7 years, words like, am wasting her yansh, that she will give the ass to someone else. My advise to anyone single guy here, marriage is good, but be very patient before u choose a life partner, if u happen to impregnate a lady whom u know u are not compatible with, dont be forced to marry as it falls to my own kinda predicament. I am not the kitchen type, i work and work to pay the bills. now to break it down, i didnt want to type much just to make things known how it is, in a year, if i had spent 5.2 million which covers everything concerning the family, she had only spent maybe like 250k, is that sharing bill? her own definition of sharing bill is just cox we went out just last week, we both shared the bill for food and ish, and takes care of groceries once in a while, left to her she always say shes not suppose to be spending a dime after which i empowered her financially with her businesses...am a correct husband that any correct woman would rush, just a pity i have fallen into a pit that am finding hard to climb due to the love i have for mu children... life is hard with the wrong woman i must say.

genq:


This is a lie from the pit of hell - a desperate attempt at manipulating you into accepting bad behaviour.

Richy4:
Most Marriages has passed through this kind of phase my brother. Anyone telling you that it will be rosy from start to finish is not being realistic. Getting married is easy but staying married is where the whole thing gets complicated.

Those argument to me is so origin except the part of cheating.. I have heard that line of insult about ugly and small Penis before but from much older couple that got married about 40 something yrs..

The only problem I have seen with your marriage is how to strike a balance between modern day living and traditional style of marriage. U don't know where to draw the line. U wanted a Morden marriage at the same time traditional lifestyle kinda marriage and u couldn't balance it..

U were splitting the bills bro. And she is trying to do her part to come up with her own share. So her business will do that part and running a business is time consuming and that to me is Morden.. But then, u still want her to come back home on time and do the cooking while u were at home.(traditional )

Assuming the arrangements was for her to stay @home while u provide everything, then if she was neglecting your breakfast by watching movies or painting her nails, I will have said oh! what a woman. But in this case, what she was doing was for the best interest of the family. So if I were you, I will arrange my own breakfast once in a while even lunch knowing that it's modernised style of marriage...where her contribution to the upkeep of the family is crucial/ important.

My final opinion is that don't take what she said about bringing a man home seriously. U attacked her were it hurts.. saying a woman was ugly even when she was can make a her say so many unprintable things just to get back @u.. Just to make it look like if u don't appreciate, someone else would.

So the bottom line here is to define the style of marriage that u wanted or that is suitable for you two from now on...Morden, traditional or combination of both. Then research on what you can do to make it work..

Richy4:
Most Marriages has passed through this kind of phase my brother. Anyone telling you that it will be rosy from start to finish is not being realistic. Getting married is easy but staying married is where the whole thing gets complicated.

Those argument to me is so origin except the part of cheating.. I have heard that line of insult about ugly and small Penis before but from much older couple that got married about 40 something yrs..

The only problem I have seen with your marriage is how to strike a balance between modern day living and traditional style of marriage. U don't know where to draw the line. U wanted a Morden marriage at the same time traditional lifestyle kinda marriage and u couldn't balance it..

U were splitting the bills bro. And she is trying to do her part to come up with her own share. So her business will do that part and running a business is time consuming and that to me is Morden.. But then, u still want her to come back home on time and do the cooking while u were at home.(traditional )

Assuming the arrangements was for her to stay @home while u provide everything, then if she was neglecting your breakfast by watching movies or painting her nails, I will have said oh! what a woman. But in this case, what she was doing was for the best interest of the family. So if I were you, I will arrange my own breakfast once in a while even lunch knowing that it's modernised style of marriage...where her contribution to the upkeep of the family is crucial/ important.

My final opinion is that don't take what she said about bringing a man home seriously. U attacked her were it hurts.. saying a woman was ugly even when she was can make a her say so many unprintable things just to get back @u.. Just to make it look like if u don't appreciate, someone else would.

So the bottom line here is to define the style of marriage that u wanted or that is suitable for you two from now on...Morden, traditional or combination of both. Then research on what you can do to make it work..

ImaIma1:


You spoke well.

I think he is the type that feels his wife his is beneath him and he is the lord, master and king. Marriage is really not about proclaiming your position and rights or demanding slave-like submission. It should more about having consideration for your partner and working together as a team.

I agree that the first one or two years in marriage could be tough, but throwing insultive words around... that one is a personal trait and a result of character flaws. Because 4yrs and counting, "we" never utter even the basic abusive words to each other.



They need to see a counselor

myang500:


Its actually not what u thought of iyt to be, i have heard so many damning words in the last seven 7 years, words like, am wasting her yansh, that she will give the ass to someone else. My advise to anyone single guy here, marriage is good, but be very patient before u choose a life partner, if u happen to impregnate a lady whom u know u are not compatible with, dont be forced to marry as it falls to my own kinda predicament. I am not the kitchen type, i work and work to pay the bills. now to break it down, i didnt want to type much just to make things known how it is, in a year, if i had spent 5.2 million which covers everything concerning the family, she had only spent maybe like 250k, is that sharing bill? her own definition of sharing bill is just cox we went out just last week, we both shared the bill for food and ish, and takes care of groceries once in a while, left to her she always say shes not suppose to be spending a dime after which i empowered her financially with her businesses...am a correct husband that any correct woman would rush, just a pity i have fallen into a pit that am finding hard to climb due to the love i have for mu children... life is hard with the wrong woman i must say.

myang500:


Please be informed, it was in her own words that she said we are sharing the bill, if we are sharing bills my brother. she wont be able to survive it, just small sharing here and there, she don turn am to we dey share bills, please check out my last post. I'm a software programmer, i dont have time for kitchen, not everyone can be the same, try to understand that. I have told this woman several times never to tell me that am insecure, it was not needed for her to have said that.

myang500:


You are sexist or is it a feminist or whatever they call your type. You dont see anything wrong in the woman, its always the man. Am not a domineering man neither do I see my wife as though she should be beneath me. She is just a typical modern day disrespectful type, no respect, nothing whatsoever, i wont be surprised if you fall into the same category as her. Going to a counselor is not part of my plan, as every-time we go , instead of trying to reach a solution, shes trying to make herself feel like am the cause of the problem, and shes the saint. Infact the last session showed she had more work to do per the counselors assessment, she was told to come back for more..but she never did

Akannigbabe:
Sharing bill wit your wife?? How do we get here Man up bro!!! You pushed the lady to that extent from your words

myang500:


Its actually not what u thought of iyt to be, i have heard so many damning words in the last seven 7 years, words like, am wasting her yansh, that she will give the ass to someone else. My advise to anyone single guy here, marriage is good, but be very patient before u choose a life partner, if u happen to impregnate a lady whom u know u are not compatible with, dont be forced to marry as it falls to my own kinda predicament. I am not the kitchen type, i work and work to pay the bills. now to break it down, i didnt want to type much just to make things known how it is, in a year, if i had spent 5.2 million which covers everything concerning the family, she had only spent maybe like 250k, is that sharing bill? her own definition of sharing bill is just cox we went out just last week, we both shared the bill for food and ish, and takes care of groceries once in a while, left to her she always say shes not suppose to be spending a dime after which i empowered her financially with her businesses...am a correct husband that any correct woman would rush, just a pity i have fallen into a pit that am finding hard to climb due to the love i have for mu children... life is hard with the wrong woman i must say.