I am someone that is not really a sex freak kind of person. I could be very romantic to the core but when it comes to sex, it could be once in a blue moon.

I met my woman about almost two years ago now, we got really close and though I tried to avoid the sex thing at the beginning because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a long time relationship, we had really romantic moments that eventually led to sex. I guess we had sex just about three times within 3 months and the next thing was that she is pregnant.

She insisted she will keep the pregnancy and I had no choice but to take responsibility, see her family, inform my family and we arranged a small single traditional wedding. During the course of the pregnancy we had sex very few times and there were times she would want sex and I will refuse because I wasn't in the mood, then she starts giving mean emotional tears which I will still ignore.

However, she got use to the fact that am I not keen on sex and decided to deal with it that way until she gave birth to our baby. She actually had to do a CS and she and the baby are doing fine.

Now the problem is that for almost a year now since she gave birth to our baby, we haven't had sex. I just don't know why I am not moved and sometimes I feel really bad and sorry for her because she gets scared to ask me for it knowing that I might refuse. I have tried to put my state of mind in a position that will enable me think of having sex with her but it doesn't work.

Not that is isn't beautiful anymore or she isn't sexy anymore. As a matter of fact I love taking her out because I love when people see her and the baby looking so cute together. We sleep on the same bed everyday and wake up happy. She treats me very well and she is very loyal. She keeps herself busy everyday (except Sundays) with the small restaurant I opened for her just in front of our house. All our neighbors like us a lot because they always see us happy and as a matter of fact no one has ever seen us having any issue before.

We look very happy because I take care of them both as a man not even paying any attention to her own restaurant business and how much she makes and she is just living very fine like we have no issue.

But deep down inside me I know we have a problem and I am the problem because I have denied her sex for almost a year now why we stay inside the same house all these time.

I just don't know if this is a spiritual problem or its just normal that I can try to do something about it.

Please no insults, I am just being sincere and straight forward.

Are you sure your number 1 is active

You were not really sexually attracted to her couple with the fact that you are not a sexually active guy if I should say it correctly.

Take some vigra before you sleep. Every 3 days. From there you move it to every week. Next every 2 weeks. By then your mindset and sexuallity will readjust into her and you will be surprise how you want to bang her every other day

Joel3:
You were not really sexually attracted to her couple with the fact that you are not a sexually active guy if I should say it correctly.

Take some vigra before you sleep. Every 3 days. From there you move it to every week. Next every 2 weeks. By then your mindset and sexuallity will readjust into her and you will be surprise how you want to bang her every other day

I thought vigra is just to having long sex? Satisfying a woman sexually doesn't seem to be my problem. My problem is more like I don't even think of sex or even get moved for sex. Not just even to my wife, I don't even think of it with any other lady as it it now. I have not cheated on my wife because of this. I have had opportunity to cheat just because I wanted to know if its just my wife I don't feel the urge for sex, but same thing with other ladies. The drive is not just there even when I have an erection it just feels I want to just waste my time.

It's only a matter of time before she starts looking outside... U already admitted dat she doesn't look bad meaning she won't b lacking suitors outside... D sooner U go to d hospital and seek help d beta for U..

madridguy:
Are you sure your number 1 is active

Yes very very active. My number 1 is a very bad guy those days and even if I use it now, its still a machine. But the urge to use it is not just there.

Apart from her, have you been sexually attracted to any other woman before?

Kudos to your woman for sorting herself out
low sex drive is a disease or symptom of one, have seen your doctor?

ceeceeuwa:
Apart from her, have you been sexually attracted to any other woman before?

Yes I get sexually attracted to a lot of ladies, but then I don't have the urge to have sex with them when I have the opportunity to.

SugarBozz:


Yes I get sexually attracted to a lot of ladies, but then I don't have the urge to have sex with them when I have the opportunity to.

Maybe there is a hormone you are lacking... doctors in the house over to you.

ceeceeuwa:

Maybe there is a hormone you are lacking... doctors in the house over to you.

Before I met her, I had three ladies I call friends with benefit at my service anytime. I was so much very active in sex with them. But ever since I have been with my wife, even the urge for those ladies are no longer there.

Sometimes they call me and we hangout and I know they still want sex but then I don't even have sex with them anymore because the urge isn't there anymore. Even when they dress sexy and we meet at hotels were we normally chill then, I end up just chilling at the bar without booking a room like before and before you know, we just have some fun and am gone.

Everything is not about spiritual matters where you fast and pray.. What do you guys do with your data bundles/ internet? Do some research man.. Simply type Solutions for Low Libido in Men on Google .. You will find so many things.. Haba!!!!!!!!!!!!

ceeceeuwa:

Maybe there is a hormone you are lacking... doctors in the house over to you.

Testosterone. Your testosterone level seems low.

See a Doc

By the time you realise that your wife is having an affair u will increase the speed with which you are looking for libido

Drink watermelon, tigernut and dates. Boost your libido sir. One year without sex is extreme

SugarBozz:
I am someone that is not really a sex freak kind of person. I could be very romantic to the core but when it comes to sex, it could be once in a blue moon.

I met my woman about almost two years ago now, we got really close and though I tried to avoid the sex thing at the beginning because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a long time relationship, we had really romantic moments that eventually led to sex. I guess we had sex just about three times within 3 months and the next thing was that she is pregnant.

She insisted she will keep the pregnancy and I had no choice but to take responsibility, see her family, inform my family and we arranged a small single traditional wedding. During the course of the pregnancy we had sex very few times and there were times she would want sex and I will refuse because I wasn't in the mood, then she starts giving mean emotional tears which I will still ignore.

However, she got use to the fact that am I not keen on sex and decided to deal with it that way until she gave birth to our baby. She actually had to do a CS and she and the baby are doing fine.

Now the problem is that for almost a year now since she gave birth to our baby, we haven't had sex. I just don't know why I am not moved and sometimes I feel really bad and sorry for her because she gets scared to ask me for it knowing that I might refuse. I have tried to put my state of mind in a position that will enable me think of having sex with her but it doesn't work.

Not that is isn't beautiful anymore or she isn't sexy anymore. As a matter of fact I love taking her out because I love when people see her and the baby looking so cute together. We sleep on the same bed everyday and wake up happy. She treats me very well and she is very loyal. She keeps herself busy everyday (except Sundays) with the small restaurant I opened for her just in front of our house. All our neighbors like us a lot because they always see us happy and as a matter of fact no one has ever seen us having any issue before.

We look very happy because I take care of them both as a man not even paying any attention to her own restaurant business and how much she makes and she is just living very fine like we have no issue.

But deep down inside me I know we have a problem and I am the problem because I have denied her sex for almost a year now why we stay inside the same house all these time.

I just don't know if this is a spiritual problem or its just normal that I can try to do something about it.

Please no insults, I am just being sincere and straight forward.

OP, please,as a matter of urgency, go see a medical doctor, sex therapists/clinical psychologists for proper diagnosis and treatment of your low libido.....
The earlier the better before your wife's customers tempts her and be eating her "food" behind your back.
Bad mens dey everywhere preying on vulnerable married women.

SugarBozz:


I thought vigra is just to having long sex? Satisfying a woman sexually doesn't seem to be my problem. My problem is more like I don't even think of sex or even get moved for sex. Not just even to my wife, I don't even think of it with any other lady as it it now. I have not cheated on my wife because of this. I have had opportunity to cheat just because I wanted to know if its just my wife I don't feel the urge for sex, but same thing with other ladies. The drive is not just there even when I have an erection it just feels I want to just waste my time.

guy try Viagra before bed time. You will wake up by yourself tap her to fire her. You have to act fast before someone else start doing it.

You need Ikeagwu nwa-mkpi from Jarumma

Are you sure you are not having any problems with your erection?

mysticwarrior:
Are you sure you are not having any problems with your erection?

My erection is perfectly okay.

once your medically fit bro tell her to play with your toytoy and see what happens

ifyalways:
Kudos to your woman for sorting herself out
low sex drive is a disease or symptom of one, have seen your doctor?

Having high libido is bad also bad

One of the arguments for pre marital sex is that you are able to settle down with someone whom you are sexually compatible with. Back to the matter at hand, you have a low sex drive and you might have to seek some form of medical help or you will either have a very miserable woman or a woman who will be forced to cheat on you.
There are women who have low sex drive like you also who would have been glad to find someone like you. For the sake of your relationship, make an attempt or seek medical help.

Elder0001:


Having high libido is bad also bad

Hoekay sir .
Ndi high libido

ifyalways:
Kudos to your woman for sorting herself out
low sex drive is a disease or symptom of one, have seen your doctor?

Hanty ify has always liked her kpekus

ornicus:


Hanty ify has always liked her kpekus

Alhaji dont corrupt my virgin self.

SugarBozz:
I am someone that is not really a sex freak kind of person. I could be very romantic to the core but when it comes to sex, it could be once in a blue moon.

I met my woman about almost two years ago now, we got really close and though I tried to avoid the sex thing at the beginning because I wasn't sure if I was ready for a long time relationship, we had really romantic moments that eventually led to sex. I guess we had sex just about three times within 3 months and the next thing was that she is pregnant.

She insisted she will keep the pregnancy and I had no choice but to take responsibility, see her family, inform my family and we arranged a small single traditional wedding. During the course of the pregnancy we had sex very few times and there were times she would want sex and I will refuse because I wasn't in the mood, then she starts giving mean emotional tears which I will still ignore.

However, she got use to the fact that am I not keen on sex and decided to deal with it that way until she gave birth to our baby. She actually had to do a CS and she and the baby are doing fine.

Now the problem is that for almost a year now since she gave birth to our baby, we haven't had sex. I just don't know why I am not moved and sometimes I feel really bad and sorry for her because she gets scared to ask me for it knowing that I might refuse. I have tried to put my state of mind in a position that will enable me think of having sex with her but it doesn't work.

Not that is isn't beautiful anymore or she isn't sexy anymore. As a matter of fact I love taking her out because I love when people see her and the baby looking so cute together. We sleep on the same bed everyday and wake up happy. She treats me very well and she is very loyal. She keeps herself busy everyday (except Sundays) with the small restaurant I opened for her just in front of our house. All our neighbors like us a lot because they always see us happy and as a matter of fact no one has ever seen us having any issue before.

We look very happy because I take care of them both as a man not even paying any attention to her own restaurant business and how much she makes and she is just living very fine like we have no issue.

But deep down inside me I know we have a problem and I am the problem because I have denied her sex for almost a year now why we stay inside the same house all these time.

I just don't know if this is a spiritual problem or its just normal that I can try to do something about it.

Please no insults, I am just being sincere and straight forward.

Maybe you should go for a medical check up....

You'd need to take dates and tigernut drink. Take 60cl bottle everyday for 10days straight.

No one needs to know what you're doing, you can sneak out to buy and drink before coming home. Let me know the results at the end of the month

Continue starving your wife of sex, I hope you won't come here to open a thread later that "women are scums,i just found out my wife has been cheating on me".
You are married to a human being that has feeling, look for a solution to your sex life [s]unless of course, you may just be sexually attracted to men [/s]

I dont think it is either normal or spiritual, I think it is more of a psycological issue and u need to solve it as quick as u can because your wife and my girlfriend are similar; they hardly request for something and they hardly complain and they are contempted with almost everything u do, please find a solution woman like her deserves better. I have similar problem like you am trying to change and i hope it will when i settle down and with this your case maybe i can find a solution too.

SugarBozz:


Yes I get sexually attracted to a lot of ladies, but then I don't have the urge to have sex with them when I have the opportunity to.

I swear this is exactly my problem i will feel sexually attracted to many ladies i will just hate them when they enter my room for this i have remain a virgin, i have turned down more than 10 sexual advancement. I just hope when i'm married it will change.

OVA200:
I swear this is exactly my problem i will feel sexually attracted to many ladies i will just hate them when they enter my room for this i have remain a virgin, i have turned down more than 10 sexual advancement. I just hope when i'm married it will change.

yours might be panic.