SGANIVA:
I will marry any girl that first approach me if she's good.some year s back in aba, one fine lady just woo me for a relationship,I just take her out, buy some good stuffs for her and politely tell her , how I would love to marry her but is very unfortunate that my people don't marry an outsider .she was actually older than me.I admire such girls very well

chigoizie7:
And some will come and tell you, what if he turn you down?


Must everyone you like also like you?

The same way a guy will approach a girl and she turns him down is the same way a guy can turn a lady down too.



But I really know why some girls are scared too. I know that some do have enough liver to ask a guy out. But most times, when they meet the unserious ones, the ones who are still fucklicants. Those type of guys will never say no, even when they do not genuinely like the girl, but because they knew that such scenario comes with a free pusssy to bang, they just accept it, and be treating the girl anyhow. Which is not good.



Girls, let me tell you something, if you like a guy, get close to him, become friends with him first, know the type of guy he is, know if he is truly the type of guy you want apart from the physical appearance and all that, know his level of reasoning, then you can ask him out.


Me, chigozie , I do not believe in love at first sight, I can not be loving you when I have not gotten to know you better. You could be beautiful on the outside with enough curves and all that, but what about your personality? I no go chop your beauty nah. At this stage in my life, I value peace of mind very well, so I cannot use my hand and buy trouble for myself all in the name of beauty and nice curves.


If I approach you and start telling that I love you immediately without getting to know who you are, just know that I am only interested in fuccccking you, that’s all.


So, girls, in as much as the op is right, I also understand your fears too. But you all need to stop that playing hard to get.

Rozaytee:
Mr chigozie...if we don't still play hard to get na Una go still complain say we are too easy.

kunleweb:

Smh. You're a chronic troublemaker

Toks2008:



I don't want to believe you are so ignorant of so many facts.

Ladies say they hate jobless guys but they will spend their rich guy's money on a jobless guy just for a sex rump.

Thank GOD for Jesus else I know wettin I for don take ladies eyes see even when I no get shishi.

Apus:
Very apt.

Most Nigerian women are hypocrites. They play the equality card only when it suites them. By d time they loose us all to their foreign counterpart na dt time their eyes go clear. The day I was wooed by an intelligent beautiful lady wey Baba God finish work for her body for foreign land, I just dey use Naija babes take form. This is a traditional thing. Is not that the lady does not like the guy but it is a culture that has been passed down. There's no way a lady will talk to a man and he turns her down and she will be herself in this part of the world. She will fill like commiting suicide. But it is not so for the white ladies who can even walk up to a man and ask for sex and everybody goes their way after that. For guys wooing a lady is a game . For ladies it is a taboo

tosyne2much:
It's partially true


But if there's a need for a lady to hunt after a guy, she should try to observe the guy's maturity level and try to do a little finding about him, (if possible) before shooting her shot

wany:


A guy over 40yrs still been childish in speech,no wonder your marriage crashed.men your age are busy with meaningful stuffs cause at this age over 40 retirement is near,but here you are gallivanting with your suppose children mates .idleness is really sickening.

Nmezor:
Well said... But its a serious work to try to investigate about him

Anonymous8083:
I have tried to woo a guy just recently and honestly, I feel like an idiot at the moment!!!

3mmyz:


You might as well confront her with your worries about her giving you the ill treatment of not responding. Ensure not to seem desperate, that could be a total turnoff for her, clearly ladies thingy.

Give her time though but make it clear that you wouldn't beg to be with her. You could fight for her attention but not beg

Toks2008:


I would have asked you to make the move but it will shock you that as soon as you do that, she will start the old fashioned act of playing hard to get.

Jaqenhghar:

What are you doing with someone who clearly doesnt want to be with you. I believe communication is key to a good relationship. A woman who doesnt care to communicate with you is not a good sign. Even she marries you I doubt it will last. My opinion

pacretus:
she is not sceptical, she hasn't fully broken up with her boyfriend, ignore her totally, if you eventually get her, the relationship will always be a one sided thing. And if you are ready to 100% be in charge of the relationship without her sweating to keep it.then continue wooing her. And if you love your sanity quit wooing her.

dave4rella:


MY fiancee asked me out for good two years

While I was toying with her feelings with other girls
She kept pushing, before I realized she's the one for me.
I wonder what gave her the strength
I promise never to cheat or take her for granted
God bless you my gift.
I will always love and cherish you with everything in me

luvyaself95:


she go catch fire if she is monitoring spirit self.

degamemaster:



And that's my fear, should I continue and eventually win and get married to her, the whole scenario may look one-sided and I wil always be the one to understand and make sacrifices. I just get confused over the whole issues even though I still have a feeling that she's taking her time to observe me and to get over past relationship. J have also read about people who didn't give up even when the girl displayed the worst form of character but they later won became happy in the union. I'm just confused, could my own case be different?

Duggedised12:
the same way the mentality of western men is very different from Nigerian men,infact na when Nigerian men go abroad dem dey get factory resetting most times and their perception on relationship and how to be a gentleman changes,any Nigerian man that carries his typical Nigerian man mentality to date a western lady usually ends up in the streets ,so it works both ways.No woman should throw herself at any man just to prove a point of being equal , atleast not to a Nigerian man that will go behind you back and brag about it.


By the way the real agenda of gender equality was actually geared towards equity not necessarily equality but trust humans to misconstrued things to fit their own selfish agenda.

As for the man being made to train another man's child tho i don't see how this topic of who should ask who out escalated to that point but i will just say , no human male or female deserves to be deceived like that ,for a start i wouldn't want my sons to be. So there is no where you will find me supporting such great deception.

And lastly let me say this ,there is nothing like oh this gender is hurt the most ,hurt is hurt there is nothing to quantify it. Which is why down playing people's feelings is a bad idea. You will see people saying "people have been through worse" well too bad for them but it doesn't change the fact that this person is currently going through something too. So please drop that idea that one gender is hurt the most there is no statistics to back that up.

Jewessgratitude:

Lol...��� .. Dont mind me ooo

Opexzy:
My current girlfriend-cum-fiancé wooed me.. We ve been together for more than 7 months now... For the first 6 months i treated her anyhow and was not serious about the relationship...
Thank God i quickly realized that she is just the perfect girl for my dream whilst at the brink of losing her because she was already getting tired of my lack of seriousness... Now i value her more and we are planning a future together...

The only issue now is we are of the same age and i am still very young and i already told her there are some milestones i have set for my life before i can even think of marriage... I am scared of taking her time while i strife to get things right...

cutegentility:
As for me, I don't give a Bleep for Naija lady. I hate all these hard--to-get mentality as well as greenlight by our female counterparts. You approach a girl - she either snubs you or turn you down (A kind of superiority complex) again she becomes jealous whenever she sees you with another lady.

I agree with what some of our nigarr here say that most ladies are confused because they don't know what they want actually.

Compare naija ladies with there female counterparts in the western world. You spot the difference sharply.

You'll find out that those ladies are very smart and intelligent and yet they don't act same way as our naija peeps.

Meanwhile, most of we naija niggars are very useless, descending upon Ladies from one to another, impregnated some and left them to bear the consequence, and yet you guys are mentioning Naija ladies here and there.

Now tell me who want to be a victim?

The problem is from either side of course. I think Individual need a lil bit of sanity.

cozyfaithex:
I tried that shit and I regretted,its so.painful when the dude in question don't feel same way.it got me wondering if the way I felt coz of the rejection is same way guys feel coz it was so painful.

Nmezor:
Well said... But its a serious work to try to investigate about him

Chi59:

Because guys like yourself do not appreciate straight forward honest girls.
You think it's beneath us to actually ask a guy out? Hell no. But what do you get when the fool thinks you're beyond cheap and wants to chop, clean mouth.
Tomorrow he'll tell his friends that you no get level simply because you decided to be honest.
Mtcheww.