We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

Oga bros, na wah for you oh.....you nor sabi say Body language na the best tool of communication.

She don apologize na.....make she shout first.

Word of advice dont turn back a woman that has been turned on, na fire oh, you need to quench am or else.....

Make i find space sit down here for advice

Some people get turned on by disagreements sha . You guys can actually iron out the differences while having d sex actually. Be creative.

Sha she go collect the sex from somewhere else... So don't bother.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude

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Lol this got me laughing out
Truth be told you both had some fault!!! At least it's not bad if you try to reconcile nd patch things up with her it won't cost you anything!!! It's far better than ignoring nd keeping malice with each other!!! Your wife definitely full of pride nd instead to apologize she wanna bribe you with sex since she knows your weakness

You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

This wife is the type that loves beating and settling through sex. Many women are wired that way.

She knows your weakness and uses that to her advantage most times but was disappointed this time. Always take your stand on any disagreement and let her know, dialogue among yourselves can resolve issues than sex. Although, some men never resist a naked woman even if it's gonna cause them a disaster.

You are taking each other for granted.

Before the next quarrel, sit down and discuss the modality for settling quarrels in your home that both of you will agree to.

You're right for demanding that you guys resolve your misunderstanding before sex. Continuing to have sex when all is not well is only piling up issues for the day it will all boomerang and sex will not contain it anymore. But denying her sex is not the best, if she go commit now, the whole world will say you pushed her/ However as a guy, you must find away to settle your issues and not allow it to linger for a long time till your wife initiate her sex moves. From what you are saying and her actions, you guys care less about each others feelings, that is a negative emergency! Try and fix this fundamental defect before one satan sent guy/lady come into the picture

If you don't give her she will surely get it from another man..the best way to resolve the issue is during sex when her puna is hot, talk to her, act like a King and she will surely succumb... Talking from experience

byna:
We got married in 2012 and ever since then we have been blessed with 3kids (3,boys).
I have a monthly upkeep of 130k for my wife as she only comes to our factory and goes home without doing much for the day aside taking care of kids and cooking.

I noticed that each time we have a misunderstanding, we both keep straight faces for days and she behaves as though she is less concerned to make up. It doesn't affect her chores or cooking as for me I hardly reject food served.

Now, after a couple of days, she would come for sex without wanting us to discuss and resolve the disagreement first.

Even when I feel rudely insulted, this happens. She feels whatever she does doesnt matter as long as Las Las na sex go end am. But I feel it's wrong and issues should be kept straight and fun time separate.

So we had same issues last week and we have been keeping straight faces yet I've been eating her food. Sometimes she joins me for mng prayers, sometimes she does her privately ( we do together before any misunderstanding)
So this mng she appeared stark nude to my room and demanded for sex after almost 15 days. I told her it would be unfair if we sweep the pass e events under the duvet. She got up and told me she wasn't ready to discuss any past misunderstanding that she came to f*uck. I told her I wasn't ready till issues are ironed out.

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude but today I was ready to turn her down.

I Want to know if it's proper to always treat ur spouse the way you like knowing fully well that sex is their weak point for reconciliation?

Mature minds pls

Op yurz even come ova for a f**k yurz iz still okay, my guy wife dey lock up full time till my guy starts begging nd dey r newly married o!. some ladys are just xo childish as old as dey r, Oga jus f**k ya f**k o!.

I think ur wife is more flexible than u are in handling these issues.. Like someone above said oga be fvcking creative and make it fun while u play the sex game. Ironing things out with make up fvck ain't bad at all. Some men get denied sex for flimsy some misunderstanding. Enjoy ur marriage and wife while u can

I hate emotional blackmail.
You offend them, you beg, they offend you and they will also want you to beg.
Kudos for standing your ground, man.

Forget about the she will collect it elsewhere crew here, you did the right thing else you'll continue to be a sex slave in your own home.

guy i really understand how you feel, but by now you should know that is her own way, you guys already have 3 kids meaning it's not today that your wife started the behavior, there is no booklet or manual for being happy in marriage bro, so i will advise u keep doing whatever you feel it is that is working for you guys, don't start complaining now, because it will do you no good, besides! you are blessed to have such wife that will still be initiating sex even when you guys are not in good terms, i won't deceive you, that type of woman is very hard to come by, my wife will never initiate sex even when we are in good terms not to talk of when we have misunderstanding with each other & is giving me headache

Quite a funny post. Your marriage lacks effective communication and you know it's the backbone of every successful union.

There is room for improvement you can start making changes today.

Okada drop me here biko

How can a husband and wife keep malice for good 2weeks? What are u two teaching those innocent kids of urs self? Una dey try sha, all because of lack of communication!

AwkaetitiBabe:
Some people get turned on by disagreements sha . You guys can actually iron out the differences while having d sex actually. Be creative.

Ordinarily you can't just get in that sexual mood without having a feeling respite. Sexual chemistry requires alot of synergy.

Pettyprincess:

She taught it was business as usually as my John Thomas always disappoint me each time I see her nude


Lol this got me laughing out
Truth be told you both had some fault!!! At least it's not bad if you try to reconcile nd patch things up with her it won't cost you anything!!! It's far better than ignoring nd keeping malice with each other!!! Your wife definitely full of pride nd instead to apologize she wanna bribe you with sex since she knows your weakness

She would be the last to apologize if at all. I'm not enjoying the malice but at least am eating my served meals. I think she has an over bloated pride.

thesicilian:
You have a wife that still wants to have sex with you even when she's angry with you. Lucky you!

The point is, she offends you and doesn't e en care how you feel. She waits for her hormones to come up and she shows up for sex while am dying for an apology or ironing out.

How da hell am I suppose to substitute remorse with sex??

Op, do you know you can actually find a way of settling the misunderstanding and still have some sizzling sexual intercourse in the process?

When she walked in unclad, you could have pretended you were going to hold her, but just go lock the bedroom door and keep the key under the pillow and lie down as if you don't care.

Tell her she'll get the Bleep when she has finished apologizing. Just pretend you are not happy ( and of course you're not). If she's a romantic wife, she will understand what's up. And I pray she shouldn't let pride and stubbornness put a dent in her marriage.

After the "drill" start up a conversation about what actually led to the misunderstanding and iron it out completely.

oglalasioux:
This wife is the type that loves beating and settling through sex. Many women are wired that way.

I have beat her once and she enjoyed it. Infact she wanted it. She once told me she wants me acting fierce, it turns her on not being too gentle. But me as a gentle man, d thing tire me o

tee59:
She knows your weakness and uses that to her advantage most times but was disappointed this time. Always take your stand on any disagreement and let her know, dialogue among yourselves can resolve issues than sex. Although, some men never resist a naked woman even if it's gonna cause them a disaster.

It wasn't easy even as she got closer but I was determined to change the narrative.

J111333:
I hate emotional blackmail.
You offend them, you beg, they offend you and they will also want you to beg.
Kudos for standing yuour ground, man.

Forget about the she will collect it elsewhere crew here, you did the right thing else you'll continue to be a sex slave in your own home.

God bless you bro. Afterall sex is not a big deal after all these years. I prefer make up sex after reconciling not before.

You never tried to reject her approach right from the genesis( she knew your weak point) and she's using it against you. Since you didn't reject during the early days of your marriage I think it's going to be difficult for her to change unless you want her to look outside. Baba abeg dey manage am like that.

omochelsea004:
guy i really understand how you feel, but by now you should know that is her own way, you guys already have 3 kids meaning it's not today that your wife started the behavior, there is no booklet or manual for being happy in marriage bro, so i will advise u keep doing whatever you feel it is that is working for you guys, don't start now by thinking in a certain type of way plssss

Without ironing issues, how do we learn from our mistakes then. She has has ego and pride. Allowing her settle with sex wont change her. She needs to understand that. We are only keeping faces, not like quarelling pat say. I still go errands for her hoping for her apologies when I return but she go still lock up

themaestro08:
Quite a funny post. Your marriage lacks effective communication and you know it's the backbone of every successful union.

There is room for improvement you can start making changes today.

You are correct. We dont communicate much. She prefers to communicate with immediate family more on phone than with me

izaray:
Okada drop me here biko

How can a husband and wife keep malice for good 2weeks? What are u two teaching those innocent kids of urs self? Una dey try sha, all because of lack of communication!

The malice is coded o. Am not sure the kids know sef. They might just notice daddy doesn't come to watch TV at the sitting room but stays to watch in his room. My wife is just stubborn!
She wants to be treated as a queen. Don't dare scold her

Op that's how best your wife knows how to apologise,some will not even mind you at all,so accept it and make ur marriage a joyful one.but one thing is this, is she the only one at fault every time,how do you tender ur apology to her or are you that pride type that want the other to apologize even when they are at fault?

extremelygolden:
Op, do you know you can actually find a way of settling the misunderstanding and still have some sizzling sexual intercourse in the process?

When she walked in unclad, you could have pretended you were going to hold her, but just go lock the bedroom door and keep the key under the pillow and lie down as if you don't care.

Tell her she'll get the Bleep when she has finished apologizing. Just pretend you are not happy ( and of course you're not). If she's a romantic wife, she will understand what's up. And I pray she shouldn't let pride and stubbornness put a dent in her marriage.

After the "drill" start up a conversation about what actually led to the misunderstanding and iron it out completely.

My wife will ignore you if she doesnt want to talk about her past mess.

She has her pride. I've always ignored and accepted her sexual apologies. It I just noticed she needs a different tacties

Blecco6:
Op that's how best your wife knows how to apologise,some will not even mind you at all,so accept it and make ur marriage a joyful one.but one thing is this, is she the only one at fault every time,how do you tender ur apology to her or are you that pride type that want the other to apologize even when they are at fault?

If am wrong I settle at that moment. I try to tease her with romance and thats all. I expect same from her. Imagine showing up for sex when am thinking of serious discussion