midnighter:
If you go and confront that chick, 1 of two things could happen:

1. She respects herself and starts acting normal

2. She gets offended, starts treating you maliciously and turns your brother against you

The solution is to move back to your house, sorry. Or move to someplace

Some ladies ehn...I dont understand

Can't agree more.
Which is why I told him i wanted to go home but truth be told, he likes having me around. We've been a team for years and all his friends adore me. The job he said he is trying to lock down for me is the major reason i can't leave. Said he needs me close and I'm also supposed to start the process of traveling to Canada next year (toefl and all that) so at least I could leave by end of 2021. He is having none of it.
With all the inputs I have gotten on here, I've been able to make up my mind that I'm gonna get my mum and sister involved. Thanks to everyone.

midnighter:


Brilliant...in fact let him buy a small camera himself and then confront his brother with the evidence later. I hope OP follows this, it will eliminate the "my word against hers" scenario

Thanks dear.
I'm getting a lot of options now and my spirit is uplifted once again. Good decision I made to bring it on here.

Be like Joseph, flee from temptation. Surely that likeness will turn into hatred and she'll make ur life miserable when married to your brother. Infact she can dissuade him from sending you to Canada.

Plebian:
Are you in lagos? I'll help you intimidate her, probably hex her out of your bros life. Am bored.... and you seem like you need help.

The devil wears Prada

RemyDropShadow:
Can't agree more.
Which is why I told him i wanted to go home but truth be told, he likes having me around. We've been a team for years and all his friends adore me. The job he said he is trying to lock down for me is the major reason i can't leave. Said he needs me close and I'm also supposed to start the process of traveling to Canada next year (toefl and all that) so at least I could leave by end of 2021. He is having none of it.
With all the inputs I have gotten on here, I've been able to make up my mind that I'm gonna get my mum and sister involved. Thanks to everyone.

Wait! Did you see what somebody wrote up there about a camera? It was a great idea.

You should gather some evidence since you have had problems in this area before and it seems like the girl will start lying

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks dear.
I'm getting a lot of options now and my spirit is uplifted once again. Good decision I made to bring it on here.

You're welcome, good luck

midnighter:


Wait! Did you see what somebody wrote up there about a camera? It was a great idea.

You should gather some evidence since you have had problems in this area before and it seems like the girl will start lying

yeah dearie.
Will def do that. I'm happy all of a sudden. Lol.
Feels like a thief is about to get caught .

midnighter:
If you go and confront that chick, 1 of two things could happen:

1. She respects herself and starts acting normal

2. She gets offended, starts treating you maliciously and turns your brother against you

The solution is to move back to your house, sorry. Or move to someplace

Some ladies ehn...I dont understand

you got this 100% right. OP consider this advice well and that of using phone recorder.

RemyDropShadow:
yeah dearie.
Will def do that. I'm happy all of a sudden. Lol.
Feels like a thief is about to get caught .

Lol, a thief indeed

vincentus16:
and that of using phone recorder .

Yes

Fake news, and people have been wasting their time advising what never happened.

RemyDropShadow:
yeah, looks like a script right? Almost can't believe it myself. One thing i can assure you though is this script is very real and if you have nothing important to add, kindly shut up and go read it as a bedtime story to your girlfriend or something.

Shatap u too de lie.

Before you confront her or your brother about this.

Make sure you have evidence to show for it.


Women are never predictable.

They don’t accept being turned down, especially in that nonsense owerri

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks for your input brother. Can't agree more.
There has to be some sort of spiritual connection to this cause I struggle to understand how my brother always come across these type of girls.
One is by chance, two probably coincidence but 3? That is a pattern.

Like attracts like.

He is reaping what he sowed in his youth. Both on you and the lifestyle he lived. Where will he meet a good girl who is godfearing or just has strong morals and has a conscience?

He will probably be bored with her.

You said she dressed scantily?

That was what attracted him.

I'm sure your bro is one of those people who say "always look good for your man"

How does a man meet a girl who dresses to attract sexual attention and thinks she will be faithful?

It's like me meeting you and us talking for a while. From the way you talk to me i will know that you are like that with other girls, a womanizer and it's not something special about me.

Starz825:


So u finally fall inside temptations from ur compound girls for sch....na wao.....i guess those girls were on their fasting periods to get u

how long did you think I'd have survived bro?

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks for your input brother. Can't agree more.
There has to be some sort of spiritual connection to this cause I struggle to understand how my brother always come across these type of girls.
One is by chance, two probably coincidence but 3? That is a pattern.

what if the problem is actually you... I have some characteristics like you from your description... Sometimes I wondered if demons are working for me cos it's always so easy to sleep with girls including those that are the so called hard to get... I remember a girl that liked me and visited me with her younger sister... The younger sister fell in love with me... And two sisters were fighting because of me... Lol... In all I see myself as the problem... It looked more like there were some powerful forces making it easier for me to have sex with girls with ease... That's why I said you may actually be the problem... By the way I remember I had to be serious with a particular fellowship in school only to get more girls that wanted to be very close to me .... Knowing where it will end, I avoided as I could... Lol... A coursemate ones asked me what do I do to get all those attentions from babes... I just covered up that maybe it's nothing serious since I am now into a particular fellowship... The mumu guy said he will join the fellowship just so he could get such attention not knowing it is beyond what even I can explain...

MiVida:
how long did you think I'd have survived bro?

Bro...I feel for you but u gats stay strong....

Keep off those girls... na wey u don dey straff one now...keep off other girls....if not he go affect u..... sometimes sexual enjoyment can be disastrous...

Starz825:

Bro...I feel for you but u gats stay strong....

Keep off those girls... na wey u don dey straff one now...keep off other girls....if not he go affect u..... sometimes sexual enjoyment can be disastrous...

I get you... But this one in particular, I like her a whole lot! If she get belle sef, I go marry am! I'm that serious.

SmellingAnus:
what if the problem is actually you... I have so...

so you named yourself smelling anus to scare all of us away

RemyDropShadow:
yes boss. Him knowing is just the best but coming from me without any evidence, it might backfire. It's her word against mine. I'm thinking of telling my eldest sister or my mum but I'm currently the black sheep of the house boss. No one believes me.

If you will discuss it with any of your sister, ensure you have enough valid evidence to implicate her.

Sorry, I don't know why your brother is always attached to these kind of girls? I don't think your bro has an eye for good girls really, maybe due to his lifestyle...first, as some commenters have rightly said, warn her to stay off you, that you won't tolerate any of her stupid act again. Secondly, you need to be concern about your bros life too, so You gat to open up to your mother(she will understand you better when she see the truth in ur eyes) about it and about the kind of girls he relate with, so she could warn him sternly not to bring useless girl home . lastly, your life has been dealth with so badly(from the story of ur growing up) you need to change your being...SEX is overrated really, this mentality of urs wouldn't make you see 'goods' in a girl...work on yourself...look for good qualities in a girl. How about your SALVATION? Jesus loves you.

This is not a complex situation. Move out of the house and tell your brother you don't like his choice of fiancee after you move.

Let there be some sort of distance from the girl and explain to your elder sister who slapped you, so she can be alert.

It is obvious your brother is picking the wrong girls as candidates for marriage, if you can't choose for him, don't help him make the wrong choice.

As a person I would appreciate your honesty, if I were in your brother's shoes.

RemyDropShadow:
I honestly appreciate your input dear but maintaining eye contact is imperative in male and female relations.
How do you talk to a person without looking them in the eye? You're definitely gonna come off as a wimp which is exactly what is happening right now.
I deserve all that has happened to me and I believe I've paid for it with my tears. I cried so hard for months even when the incident happened. My sisters and mum all looked at me like I was some kind of plague and the pain was too much. It helped me to become a better person though.
Thanks once again dear, the aim of me posting this here has been achieved. I've gotten really good inputs on here which I'm gonna implement. Thanks once again.

Isn't it better for you to come off as a wimp than be a macho man and hurt your whole family? Think about it. You have nothing to loose. We stoop to conquer.


Good night.

Damdammy:

If you will discuss it with any of your sister, ensure you have enough valid evidence to implicate her.

yeah boss.
I'll get evidence. Thanks.

midnighter:


so you named yourself smelling anus to scare all of us away

honestly you are very smart/intelligent... Definitely one of the reasons cos it's better/safer for me...

gideonvalor98:
Sorry, I don't know why your brother is always attached to these kind of girls? I don't think your bro has an eye for good girls really, maybe due to his lifestyle...first, as some commenters have rightly said, warn her to stay off you, that you won't tolerate any of her stupid act again. Secondly, you need to be concern about your bros life too, so You gat to open up to your mother(she will understand you better when she see the truth in ur eyes) about it and about the kind of girls he relate with, so she could warn him sternly not to bring useless girl home . lastly, your life has been dealth with so badly(from the story of ur growing up) you need to change your being...SEX is overrated really, this mentality of urs wouldn't make you see 'goods' in a girl ...work on yourself...look for good qualities in a girl. How about your SALVATION? Jesus loves you.

@ bolded.
You're so right. I sexualized every girl I came across, I'll often strip them naked in my mind and won't rest till I hit them no matter how old they were so long as i deemed it a good ass. I had a very good game, trust me. Seldom got rejected so I took any rejection so so badly. Will often hate the girl so so much that I'll be thinking of paying thugs to go break her legs or something. I was a lunatic. I was addicted to sex, masturbation and porn and it ruined my life. I thank God for where i am today bro. Thanks for your input, I appreciate.

Are u saying that u can't handle this situation?
I know that promiscuous guys like u hardly settle down with a real time bae. After all girls are vulnerable to sex. Let her see u with ur own babe. Not side-chicks, but ur own babe!

Don't imagine any form of sex with ur own bro's girl. Im sure that U already have it in ur mind and that's y it's getting at u. YOU only see what u want to see.

Mine is similar but worse. I hav dis tight friend whose girlfriend is dying to sleep wit me.she even tried to sock my cock d other day.if not for d fear of God i wood hav banged her.

RemyDropShadow:
Thanks bro. I'll have to live with that guilt for the rest of my life though and it sucks.
Thank God for the love my brother has for me, dunno what I'd have done.
I'll do all in my power to make sure he finds out though but not directly. I'll have to work out a plan and get a record or picture to take to my mum or elder sister. Thanks again bro.

I really appreciate your response and it clearly shows that you are sincerely looking forward to making things right... But this issue lies between you and your brother, no need to inform other family members at this time going by your antecedent, you know, once beaten twice shy.
From your response, your case is like that of Joseph in the Bible and you need God's wisdom. I will advise you to have a heart to heart talk with your brother in a quiet place away from where anyone can distract you. thank him for giving you a second chance on the previous issue and trying to trust you again but that you will want him to give you a benefit of doubt concerning his new relationship, (I know this may be hard considering your brother must have fallen deeply in love) if he agrees with you device a plan together maybe with the aid of a video recorder to capture your encounter with her... Just my opinion.

Pharaoh4rin:
Are u saying that u can't handle this situation?
I know that promiscuous guys like u hardly settle down with a real time bae. After all girls are vulnerable to sex. Let her see u with ur own babe. Not side-chicks, but ur own babe!

Don't imagine any form of sex with ur own bro's girl. Im sure that U already have it in ur mind and that's y it's getting at u. YOU only see what u want to see.

Thanks for your input boss.
For the record; I would've never slept with her. Yes I was tempted by her unclothedness but bro there are somethings that supercede any devil trying to push you to do wrong.
I bleeped up twice before(though they only caught one), disappointed my brother and entire family. I missed playing with my mum and sisters cause they looked at me like I was a plague. Only my younger sister consoled me nonetheless.
We've put everything behind us now and I'll be the biggest fool on planet earth to jeopardize that again which is why I got so scared when this started happening again. Felt like the devil was after me. Thanks for your advice once again boss. I appreciate.

Liposure:
Mine is similar but worse. I hav dis tight friend whose girlfriend is dying to sleep wit me.she even tried to sock my cock d other day.if not for d fear of God i wood hav banged her.

You did well bro.
Noticed we all need an anchor to hold unto when temptations like this come. People may hate you all they want when you fall but place those same people in your shoes with free pussy staring them in the face and they'll fall a thousand times and probably regret it when they're done.
Your anchor was obviously your fear of God, which is same for most people that defeat these kinda temptations out there. For me, the fear of disappointing my family again was and is my anchor. I would never do anything to jeopardize that. I vowed to prove them wrong that I can actually be someone responsible and that I can amount to something successful in life. That is my goal for now and this minor setback, thanks to everyone's advice on here, will soon pass. That I'm sure of.

jayyem:


I really appreciate your response and it clearly shows that you are sincerely looking forward to making things right... But this issue lies between you and your brother, no need to inform other family members at this time going by your antecedent, you know, once beaten twice shy.
From your response, your case is like that of Joseph in the Bible and you need God's wisdom. I will advise you to have a heart to heart talk with your brother in a quiet place away from where anyone can distract you. thank him for giving you a second chance on the previous issue and trying to trust you again but that you will want him to give you a benefit of doubt concerning his new relationship, (I know this may be hard considering your brother must have fallen deeply in love) if he agrees with you device a plan together maybe with the aid of a video recorder to capture your encounter with her... Just my opinion.

Y'all are amazing. Never thought I'd get positive replies with so minimal insults.
God bless you bro and bless you again after he is done blessing you, and on and on till you can take it no more.
I sincerely appreciate.