ubunja: Reading your comment makes me wish I used more technical terms for the phenomenon.
Yes. The Sunk Cost fallacy. When future decisions are based on past costs already accrued then you've become a prisoner of the money you've already spent. Businesses know they are never to consider past costs as a reason to keep a project going. As you have correctly stated, when emotions get in the mix it all goes crazy. I should have responded to your comment days ago. It's so important.
Nice one bro.
From your topics(miseducations ), I realized you're a man of culture as well.
ubunja: it would be interesting to explore the Sunk Cost fallacy as it pertains to women. How it affects them and what they invest in a relationship.
Oh that sounds great. I reckon we'd have lots of interesting revelations and answers from such exploration and research because it looks like men can easily walk away most of the time, compared to women?
I'd trust you to give us an extensive explanation for that as always, and if you ever wanna post on that please do call me.
All this bullshit this nigger wrote only work on weak and stupid men. I can and will never spend a lot of money on any bitch or a LovePeddler. The person that invest more and is more desperate in any relationshipwill be the one that will suffer it all! Stupid folks.. rubbish!
yettymuse: Ubunja!!! We need more tools like this to run the pu!!!sy cartel! You’re an amazing writer, Oyel dey your head!!! I’m a fan .
I’ve wanting to ask... is there a miseducation for independent women...alpha females ...??
yar I wrote a series of female miseducations that I decided to compile into a book that I'm behind schedule to finish. And there's a chapter on Independent Women. But in a nutshell Independent women are generally Losers. I Wouldn't be one if I was a woman. Still, that is all dissected in that book I make reference to at the opening of this writeup.
ubunja: yar I wrote a series of female miseducations that I decided to compile into a book that I'm behind schedule to finish. And there's a chapter on Independent Women. But in a nutshell Independent women are generally Losers. I Wouldn't be one if I was a woman. Still, that is all dissected in that book I make reference to at the opening of this writeup.
No doubt.
Thank you for your reply. I still look out for your miseducations. If you happen to write anything on this topic kindly mention me, and if it’s a book, I’ll buy! ... Big ups! You’re doing a good job!
BossDante: Contrary to public opinion in this post, I actually think this right up here is still to our advantage and not for the ladies. Look beyond the surface, read with your mind eyes, and there you'll see the treasure. Moreover, When a secret or strategy is known by the enemy, that secret and strategy becomes harmless. So my brothers.. cut ubunja some slacks
Now let me discuss some issues raised:
In short; If you're impossible for him to fvck, even though he's spending, he figures you're impossible FOR EVERY OTHER MAN to fvck. He imagines if he can't buy your pussy, then no man will steal you from him by offering you money. It makes you a good investment
As an OG, I know a girl's got feelings.. if she isn't giving me the pussy then she's giving someone else. I abort mission. Fvck me thinking bout how strong willed and chased she is, everyone is easy for someone they like.. if she is being difficult.. she isn't playing hard to get.. she's got no feelings or minimum feelings for you.. abort mission.. and if she's really got feelings for you but playing the hard to get game, still abort mission cos apparently, some other guy be tapping tha' rASS while she keeping you in the dark.. plus even if another guy isn't on the buddy, you definitely don't need a girl who wanna be playing head-gamez with you. You need to put her on check immediately. Abort mission.. even if she's a virgin, and not willing to pop the cherry yet, there are other "ways" She can show commitment and sacrifice without penetrative sex.. plus, you need to confirm the virginity. "I'm a virgin, I'm pregnant, I'm on my period" remains a lady top lies.
I'm sure you've heard someone say to a shopkeeper, "boss, I buy here everyday but today I don't have money, can you give me something on credit?" The customer feels a bond, having spent a lot in that shop. He thinks the shopkeeper shares that bond. But no. The shopkeeper doesn't feel it and will reply, "No credit please!". Leaving the customer feeling betrayed.
When you spend, you feel the bond, she doesn't. So you need to up your game. Input the doctrine of "Nothing goes for nothing" into your daily life while dealing with ladies. Since I started doing things that way, I have never felt hurt no more. I'm not saying I stopped spending, but rather, I get a Return of Investment (ROI) in all my transactions. Them will come with all those manipulations and guilt tripping about how as friends you should do things selflessly and not expect anything in return. I might be selfless with my fellow guy who would appreciate my input and even if he doesn't.. it's alright.. he is a whimp.. but not with a lady. When they come around with such guilt tripping, I ask them if it's only a guy that should be selfless and which selfless shii they have done for me.. some bring in religion and talk about how God will bless my effort when I do something and expect nothing back.. I ask them if they wouldn't like God's Blessing too.. so what's stopping them from being selfless
For men sex is a release. While spending is an expression of love. For women sex is the expression of love. Spending is the release. The stress that a man releases through sex, a woman releases through spending or Shopping.
This is how women see spending.. the same way we see sex.. it WON'T guarantee commitment. Now, for gigolos, this right here is a secret.. you can use to your advantage. It's easier for them to give cash same way it's easier for us to give sex, if you tick the right boxes.
Grand Mama got more game than Slay Mama.
You got jokes bro
Cc: Ubunja Martinez39 iClef Toks2008
Bro wassap!!!
I'm in a pickle.. So i got introduced to a lady around sept. She stays lagos while I'm in abuja and we got talking and all that. Fast forward to this month, i flew down to lagos to spend time with my parents and we hung out and i told her how I felt and that we should date. I also mentioned that it's okay for her to take her time and process which she replied there's no need for that. She doesn't waste time doing that. Fine.
The next week she's over at my house we having this intense make out session and i told her let's go inside! Her reply was ''do you mean go all the way'' sure why else. She told me she hasn't gone all the way which translates to she's a virgin. Now that's where my issue comes in play!!! I can't trust nobody! It's in my nature.
I noticed our energy just dropped cus we started talking about it. She was like hope it won't change anything! I said no that worst comes to worst. We'll find other ways e.g Mouth Gig and the likes, she was like ewwwww!!! That's gross.
We continued our regular make out session and it got to a stage she was like let's go in. OMG!!!
I said for real!!! She said yes, i was like you sure and is it what I'm pondering. She said yes naah, let's go. My Gee i had to ask more than four times before i noticed that she was feeling a type of way. We went inside the next thing she said was she just want to see my room., why frustrate me like that..... I just took everything with a pinch of salt.
My intuition tells me she's not because she asked us to go inside and probably due to the way I asked she felt i would see her in a bad light that she lied to me. We had a discussion and i asked her sternly about the let's go inside line she dropped. She was like probably she was joking, she only wanted too see my room.
My Gee I've been in so many friendship type situation where we just have fun.
This is my first genuine relationship buh my spider sense has been alerting me since. I love the babe no doubt. I think it's obvious that i don't have the indepth experience needed to deal with the intricacies involved with womenfolk and if i get scarred in the process l. I'll be a wicked ass Casanova. Long term that might be beneficial shaa.
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ubunja: yar I wrote a series of female miseducations that I decided to compile into a book that I'm behind schedule to finish. And there's a chapter on Independent Women. But in a nutshell Independent women are generally Losers. I Wouldn't be one if I was a woman. Still, that is all dissected in that book I make reference to at the opening of this writeup.
please can you drop some information on this. I'm building myself to be an independent woman but I'm already feeling like a loser kinda scary like this particular write up is an eye opener for me.
This is Chapter 2 of my 10 chapter, gold digging manual for women I'll publish on my blog end of November. The book is titled Parasitique
PROLOGUE. Gold diggers targeting wealthy men play a kind of game most women have never heard of. Game whose principles appear counterproductive and self-defeating, but which work like clockwork. Everything in that game hinges on a deep understanding of a man and his relationship with his money.
This writeup will bring that understanding to you.
PLEASURES. The weakness of men is the pleasures of the flesh and the weakness of women is the pleasures of the cash. Women peep inside a man's open wallet as eagerly as men peep inside a woman's open legs.
Because the first thing a man wants from a woman is sex and the first thing a woman wants from a man is money; money and pussy are the treasure of each gender. A man's treasure is his money inside his wallet. And a woman's treasure is her pussy inside her legs.
TREASURES. Luke 12:34 says about treasure: "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."
A woman's heart is between her legs for her treasure is her pussy between her legs. Sex gets her attached because in opening her legs she's opening her heart.
But a man's heart is not between his legs for his dick is NOT a treasure. Dick has zero value. What gets a man attached on the same level as women getting attached through sex is not sex but a man's own treasure: Money.
A KIND Of GAME MOST WOMEN HAVE NEVER HEARD OF. How do you make a man fall in love with you?
Do you give him sex? When it comes to sex: Women need an emotional connection to have sex with a man. Men need sex to create an emotional connection with a woman. Gold Diggers, because they delay sex or don't have sex at all with men, they need something that can create an emotional connection with a man BEFORE or WITHOUT sex.
Which is a colossal challenge. How do you make a man emotionally attach to you without sleeping with him?
But Gold Diggers have an ace up their sleeve. They have an uncommon wisdom. They play a kind of a game that appears counterproductive and self-defeating but which works like clockwork: THEY MAKE A MAN SPEND ON THEM.
Here is a little secret only gold diggers know. It's how high-maintenance, materialistic women, hated as they are by Society, keep getting married to wealthy and powerful men, while low-maintenance women wallow in mediocre relationships.
The secret is this: Men express their love through money. Money is a man's emotions.
MEN EXPRESS THEIR LOVE THROUGH MONEY. While women express their love through sex. Men express their love through money. Ask a woman to prove her love and she'll open her legs. Ask a man to prove his love and he'll open his wallet:
Women express their love through sex. Maxwell: "Primrose loves me!" Friend: "How do you know? Maxwell: "She slept with me!"
Men express their Iove through money. Primrose: "Maxwell loves me!" Friend: "How do you know?" Primrose: "He bought me an iPhone 11"
Women open legs, men open hearts. A woman expresses his love for a man through sex. By opening her legs, she's in fact, opening her heart. For between her legs lies her heart. For women sex is emotional that way. But a man doesn't express his love for a woman through sex. A man expresses his love for a woman through money.
MONEY IS A MAN'S EMOTIONS. Where his money goes, a man's heart follows. The more money a man spends on a woman, no matter how insignificant she is to him, the more significant she'll become. Women go through this process with pussy. The more sex a woman gives a man the more attached she becomes. Because her heart is between her legs and pussy is her emotions.
With men it's money. Money is the emotions.
A man can't spend it without getting attached. Just as Pussy is a woman's emotions and a woman can't spread it without getting attached.
WHY GOOD GIRLS LOSE. Good girls lose in love because they have the game backwards: To make a man fall in love ordinary women demand very little financially but give so much sexually. But sex doesn't get men attached the way it gets women attached.
Men themselves complain nonstop about gold diggers and materialistic women, but who do they marry? Gold diggers and materialistic women! Not the good girls giving sex free and demanding no money.
Gold diggers make men pay for nothing. Good girls make men fvck for nothing.
Gold diggers WIN because men's hearts follow their money not their dick because money is the treasure not the dick. Sex doesn't get men attached. Money does. The spending of it. As cruel and as crazy as it may sound, the key to a man's heart is getting his money while giving him NOTHING in return. The moment you give him ANYTHING you've ruined everything. The more a man spends on a woman - even without sex, even without love - the more he sees her as an INVESTMENT. And the more he needs everything to work out because otherwise everything has been a waste. If a man has spent heavily on you - ESPECIALLY without getting anything back - he will marry you. It becomes a business decision: "I have spent so much on this girl, if I drop her now it means I've wasted all my money!". It's a DECISION. When a man's commitment is a "decision" and not a "feeling" you have his love. Men are logical and this is the meaning of "Men love with their heads". It means men "decide" to fall in love.
Once a man views you as an investment, you have him by the balls. Because he's invested, he becomes predictable and powerless and can't easily walk away. You hold all the power in your hand because you spent nothing and gave nothing and you can walk out any time without losing anything. So, the man, to keep you from walking out, which will mean all the money he's spent on you so far will have been wasted, he has to spend more and more. Getting himself more and more invested.
By opening his wallet, He has played himself.
His money is controlling him.
MEN BRING THE CASH, WOMEN BRING THE FLESH. In love, Men invest financially, Women invest sexually.
Cruel, money-hungry Jezebels know that getting a man's heart has NOTHING to do with a woman opening her legs, but everything to do with a man opening his wallet. Gold diggers know that men eventually fall in love with the women they give money. Just like women eventually fall in love with the men they give pussy.
And do you know why it's absolutely totally necessary to deny the man sex? While spending his money? Because in his head he tells himself: "If I'm spending so much on this girl yet I'm getting no sex, then other guys who are not spending HAVE WORSE CHANCES with her. This girl is pure gold. She's chaste and clean".
In short; If you're impossible for him to fvck, even though he's spending, he figures you're impossible FOR EVERY OTHER MAN to fvck. He imagines if he can't buy your pussy, then no man will steal you from him by offering you money. It makes you a good investment.
WHEN A WOMAN DOESN'T ASK FOR MONEY. A man loves through his money. A woman loves through her pussy
A woman who doesn't ask for money is like a man who doesn't ask for sex. Both imagine their actions are noble but they both end up losing their partners. The low-maintenance woman loses because a man won't attach until he opens his wallet. And the chaste man loses because a woman won't attach until she opens her legs. When you don't ask for money or sex, you block your partner from bonding with you. The attachments that result from giving money and giving sex do not form. Until a woman has given you sex, you're just another guy she can drop and forget in a second. She's not invested. Just like until a man has given you money, you're just another girl he can drop and forget in a second. You haven't cost him anything yet. He is not invested.
We all know of good women who didn't bother their men for a cent, but were cruelly thrown aside in favour of greedy moneyhungry Jezebels. We also know of good men who didn't bother their women for sex, but were thrown aside for some h0rny hedonistic he-goat.
For men money is the treasure and spending is the attachment. For women pussy is the treasure and sex is the attachment.
GETTING A MAN INVESTED. A man can love you without giving you a cent, just as you can love a man without giving him sex. But to get a man invested in you, get him to SPEND on you. Just as a man knows to get you invested in him he must make you SLEEP with him.
A man doesn't consider it love until you sleep with him. You must not consider it love until a man spends on you.
A man can chase you for a year, but the day he fvcks you is the day YOU start chasing him. Tables turn after sex. Because after sex YOU become invested. It's the same with men and money. There's an amount of money that once a man spends on you - even without sex - shît becomes real for him and he'll start chasing. Because HE WILL BE INVESTED. Because you're now an "investment."
GIVING IS ATTACHING. Men love sex but it doesn't get them attached, it gets the women giving the sex attached. Women love money but it doesn't get them attached, it gets the men giving the money attached. By giving money, men become attached. By giving pussy women become attached.
For both men and women the emotional attachment happens IN GIVING. Not in receiving.
We fall in love with those we give. Not those who give us. Just like a virgin falls in love with, and emotionally attaches to, the man SHE GIVES her virginity to. While the man receiving the girl's virginity feels nothing but an ego boost. Giving is attaching. Because our heart follows our gift.
OUR HEART FOLLOWS OUR TREASURE. Steven can love Joyce with all his heart but if Joyce is giving all the pussy to Mark, then Mark will be the man Joyce gets attached to. No matter how much Steven loves her.
Mandy can give John all her pussy but if John is spending all his money on Grace then Grace will be the woman John gets attached to. No matter how much sex Mandy gives him.
Where a woman's pussy goes, her heart follows. Where a man's money goes his heart follows. Because pussy and money are the treasure of each gender. And where our treasure goes our heart follows. Matthew 6:21 "For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also."
David J. Stewart explains this verse this way: "Most people quote the Bible incorrectly concerning this Scripture passage in Matthew 6:21, which is also repeated again in Luke 12:34. Most people think that the Bible says, where a person's heart is, there will there treasure be also; but that's not what God said at all. It's the opposite! The treasure doesn't follow our heart; but rather, our heart follows our treasure... " - https://www.soulwinning.info/bd/treasure_and_heart.htm
Brent Esplin puts it this way: "I always interpreted this scripture as meaning that if your heart was right, you would naturally use your treasure (money, time, and talents) righteously. And yet, that is not what the scripture says at all. Jesus doesn’t say that your treasure will follow your heart, he says that your heart will follow your treasure. The way to change your heart is not by trying to change your heart, but by learning to control your treasure. Treasure clearly leads the way, and the heart follows. If you want to change your heart, move your treasure. Your treasure holds the key to your heart." - https://www.micawberprinciple.com/your-treasure-holds-the-key-to-your-heart-2600/
And the Revival Ministries International website explains: "Your heart follows your treasure – wherever your treasure goes, that is where your heart will go and that is where you will go." - https://www.revival.com/a/362-your-heart-follows-your-treasure
MEN ATTACH THROUGH SPENDING. This is not a hard concept to grasp.
As humans where we spend money, we become emotionally attached. That's why we like to buy things from the same people and the same stores because we feel a kind of a bond/connection/loyalty, to where we spend. It's the nature of money. It gets us attached. The more we spend at a place the more we feel like we have a bond with that place and we'll return again to spend.
I'm sure you've heard someone say to a shopkeeper, "boss, I buy here everyday but today I don't have money, can you give me something on credit?" The customer feels a bond, having spent a lot in that shop. He thinks the shopkeeper shares that bond. But no. The shopkeeper doesn't feel it and will reply, "No credit please!". Leaving the customer feeling betrayed.
Where we spend money, we become emotionally attached. With men this carries over into romantic relationships because in romantic relationships men are still spending money. So the game is still the same for them.
FOLLOW THE MONEY. If a guy has two women; one who loves him with all her heart but he's NOT spending on; and another he's spending on but who doesn't love him; which woman will it hurt him more to lose?
It's the one he's SPENDING ON.
If a guy has two women; one he's having sex with but not giving money and another he's giving money but not having sex with, which woman has his heart?
It's the one he's GIVING MONEY.
If a guy has a rich GF who spends on him, and another guy has a poor GF whom he spends on, If these two guys lose their GFs which guy would be hurt more?
It's the guy who SPENT ON HIS GF.
For men sex is a release. While spending is an expression of love. For women sex is the expression of love. Spending is the release. The stress that a man releases through sex, a woman releases through spending or Shopping.
This all means if there's a guy whose heart you want to win but he has many GFs, don't compete through sex. Don't Monopolize his dick. Monopolize his DOLLARS. Make him spend spend spend. On you. No matter if you see him once a week or once a month. Make him spend on you nonstop. You'll soon have his heart. Because his heart will follow his dollars. Sooner or later.
VALIDATION THROUGH SPENDING. A woman gets a self-esteem boost from SLEEPING with a top class man. It's called Validational Sex. A man gets that self-esteem boost by SPENDING on a top class woman. You can call it Validational Spending.
If a poor woman sits begging and a pretty Slay Queen sits next to her on a sofa, men will ignore the poor woman and give the Slay Queen money. For just being pretty. Men get a sweet feeling from giving money to a woman whom it would be an honor to have sex with. A guy who complains when his GF asks for a little money will happily give Beyonce his entire salary if she asks for it. Because it will make him feel special ("wow, Beyonce asked me for money!!!" ). It's a sweet feeling.
THE PROOF THAT YOU NEED AS A GIRL THAT MEN ATTACH THROUGH SPENDING. As a woman, consider your Ex Boyfriends and you'll see a pattern:
The broke and the stingy ones were usually cold, unromantic and downright abusive and didn't care if you stayed or left. While the generous ones who spent on you were also the romantic ones who cared. And who cared enough to wait till you were ready for sex and never pressured you.
It's not a coincidence.
A man's treatment of a woman depends on whether or not he spends. Because a man's emotions follow his money. The more value you place on yourself as a woman the more it costs a man to have you and the more valuable you become to him and the more he cares about losing you. in other words; high-maintenance women get better treatment than low-maintenance women.
Isn't this why parents charge high bride price for their daughter? That having parted with so much money to a get a wife, a man won't easily discard her? If a man beats his wife because she cost him money, then the price wasn't high enough. He didn't spend enough to view her as a treasure.
SAFEGUARDING YOUR LOVE AS A WOMAN. Ever noticed in TV shows that when rich men screw up, their wives go on shopping sprees as revenge?
Trophy Wives know spending a man's money is the only payback that hurts a man without threatening the marriage.
To stop your man from cheating you don't try to control his sexuality. A man's sex drive is impossible to control.
What you control is your man's finances. The more a man cheats the more you spend his money. So the less money he has to spend on other women. Finances enable a man to cheat. Without money most men don't know how to get a woman. And women don't give sex free.
Our grandmothers knew the game.
In the old days a man handed his salary over to his wife. Then it was the wife who controlled the finances. And from the wife the man got money for his day to day needs like transport fare and beer money. Which was all counted. This way it was hard for a man to cheat because he didn't have disposable cash on hand to spend.
Grand Mama got more game than Slay Mama.
SHERASEVEN1. If you follow YouTube Gold Digger channels, you've undoubtedly come across the name SheRaSeven1, the undisputed Queen of Gold Diggers.
Long-married to a rich man, SheRa is the author of gold digging books with triggering titles like "I Bring Nothing To The Table" and "Too Pretty To Pay Bills".
SheRa is one cold mother. Before digging for gold and writing for gold diggers she used to work at a mortuary as a makeup artist for dead people. And today, besides being a Trophy Wife, she's a real life witch with a witchcraft channel on YouTube (ashera star goddess). Yes baby, She's evil personified.
NOW....In case it feels like this writeup is pushing concepts I pulled from my ass, here is a SheRaSeven1 video explaining the need to get men to spend on you to get them to commit. It's a 15 min video titled: "Cheating Women, and more Topics". The part you want is at 6:45. Get it from the hoe's mouth:
So here's the game: You don't make a man fall in love with you so he will give you money. You make a man give you money so he will fall in love with you.
Because Finances are the man's Feelings. If he's financing you he'll have feelings for you.
#LevelUp #SecureTheBag
lol. I am so rich that I will still spend and it doesn't even look like I removed 5 naira from my account and will stiff Bleep the girl. . But ubunjs is wrong. A woman's heart is not her pussy, if it was we won't have runs girls and love peddlers. A woman's heart lies same in her wallet. Who ever invests more in any relationship money wise will always be the looser and not sex.
...alpha females ...??
kinda scary 
like this particular write up is an eye opener for me.
