mr man, that's your headache

coolguy4christ:



Read the story again before you spew rubbish

coolguy4christ:


I did not sleep with another girl whilst we were apart, in fact since we got back, I have not slept with her. It's a no-sex relationship.

bros please don't marry that bish, she broke up with you to test anoda dick, she got pregnant that one denied the baby, she aborted and now she wanna be honest with you and be back to you. don't be a weakling....you don't deserve to be second best in anybody's life. man up and dump her, she's mad, I'm very angry right now sef.

But, why is it that it's majorly guys that come on here to complain and rant abt their women?

They cry, wail and do stuff like sissies all the time. Why don't the ladies do the same on here?

WTF?

some people don't like when u are remorseful. they would scold u and stop trusting u. I had this experience growing up. I always tell the truth when I am wrong. I usually admit what I did wrong even when the person may never know is me. I am no longer like that anymore because people will make u look like the worst sinner on earth. they will scold u and never trust u again.
if she could tellu the truth, marry her. trust
her again. Give her another chance but if u refused, u are going to meet someone who is more worse and that person will never tell u some dirty truth

coolguy4christ:
My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship.

When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened.

Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months.

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.

Since then, I have mixed feelings for her:

Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me!

The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again.

She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married.

The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again?

if you marry her, you would live the rest of your life doubting her. That's a place you would not want to be bro. Trust me.

1. It was she who ended the relationship.
2. You initiated the make up because you love her.
3. She lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.
4. You have not slept with her. It's a no-sex relationship.

YOU MUST BE VERY STUPID FOR POSTING THIS KIND OF RUBBISH.

coolguy4christ:
My girlfriend and I had issues sometime last year which eventually led to a break up. Early this year, we made up. I initiated the make up because I still loved her even though, it was she who ended the relationship.

When we started again, I told her I wanted a fresh start and that she should come out clean with me of whatever I need to know when we were apart. She knows how much I emphasize sincerity as I hate lies. She confided in me, that she had sex with a guy whom she dated briefly when we were apart but that she used protection. I believed her and didn't really bother myself because we were not together when it happened.

Few months later, I proposed to her and she accepted my marriage proposal. Since then, the relationship has been beautiful and we have become better as we were previously before the break up. We are actually planning our wedding in a few months.

Yesterday, she confessed to me that she had an abortion while we were apart. That she lied about using protection and that she got pregnant and aborted the baby.

Since then, I have mixed feelings for her:

Firstly, I am strongly against abortion and she knows that. Secondly, She lied to me!

The second reason is actually why I am more angry with her. She has lied to me previously and I don't know if I can believe and trust her again.

She has been very remorseful and she told me she came out clean because she wants to set everything right before we get married.

The issue here is that I don't know how can I trust her again?

my own is that I say the truth even though it might hurt,

gee, that guy that got her pregnant was y she left you, having satisfied her carnal desires with him plus ur begging, she felt she should come back to you.. well, most ladies love to explore, my advice is for your to is to make her confide in you and let make her tell you all you wanna hear, she is a repentant soul for letting you know even b4 marriage, if you are OK with it and you still love her, then go ahead,,,, and bro b4 I 4get, make sure she hasn't damaged her womb and she is telling you this as a stunt to defend herself when those kids are not coming forth, so b wise and think, I don't know how you will verify weda her womb is still in tact, that's ur assignment

coolguy4christ:

She is not promiscuous, though one can only speak for one's self. I don't think that was the case at bolded. We were having recurrent arguments at the time, I myself needed a break then too, I just couldn't let go because I still loved her and wanted us to work.

How can you live with a girl willing to have a no sex relationship with you but willing to Bleep another ?! Anytime any girl tells me she is interested in a no sez relationship I instinctively reply am okay with that so long you will be a virgin when we get married. If she can't grant my request, hers does not deserve to be granted as well. I am sorry I just can't date a girl that believe another should be more entitled to all she as got to give than me when such person is not offering anything beta but again that is me. I do not believe I'm love rather deal on sincerity n fairness.

For your own good never trust a liar with marriage. Watch her close to a year b4 even thinking of renegotiating marriage else you'll have yourself to blame. She need to prove from scratch she's worthy of your trust. Needless to say that's am uphill task no one pass that test while I dated a whole lot. Any girl that left to fucq another guy when deep down you have been about 40% humanly fair in the relationship needs thoroughly cross checking to avoid regrey.

Billionsclub:
some people don't like when u are remorseful. they would scold u and stop trusting u. I had this experience growing up. I always tell the truth when I am wrong. I usually admit what I did wrong even when the person may never know is me. I am no longer like that anymore because people will make u look like the worst sinner on earth. they will scold u and never trust u again.
if she could tellu the truth, marry her. trust
her again. Give her another chance but if u refused, u are going to meet someone who is more worse and that person will never tell u some dirty truth

Sometimes somethings are better not said...
There are some past u better not know...Abt ur woman because if u know it....such will never leave your memory...

Fam, which wuld u AV preferred, she telling u or she keeping mute Ild advice u not to show anger @her confession @anytime esp since she shows she loves u by being remorseful .just admonish her like a child & dnt make a fuss abt it.that way, she will be confirtable to tell u anything

If you truly like her, accept her baggage, else swerve.

You either tolerate something or you don't. What if we advise you to take her but deep down you can't? Then what are we all doing here?

You sure say she wan marry you?

Na November be this. Men go land next month.Ugo China and co...

Abi she just wan discharge you. She kuku know say you love am. Na to slam you one heavy confession.

Be like I will go tell my guy this kind thing. Make e use im hand breakup.

No even mind me. My head dey jam.

coolguy4christ:


I did not sleep with another girl whilst we were apart, in fact since we got back, I have not slept with her. It's a no-sex relationship.

u are a mumu man.

She has given you your choice by telling you the truth with her own free will. What you do with the truth is up to you. She could have kept silent and you may never have known.

You are not some super special person. I am sure you have also told her lies or half truths in the past, so please don't take this silly how dare she lie to me stance.

Good luck

ornicus:
She has given you your choice by telling you the truth with her own free will. What you do with the truth is up to you. She could have kept silent and you may never have known.

You are not some super special person. I am sure you have also told her lies or half truths in the past, so please don't take this silly how dare she lie to me stance.

Good luck

She could have kept silent and someone else will?

What if that is the case? Why do we most times (or always) assume, people confess out of GOODWILL?

pocohantas:


She could have kept silent and someone else will?

What if what is the case? Why do we most times/always assume, people confess out of GOODWILL?

I am not understanding . Please break down what you said

At the very least I assume people confess because by doing so you take control of the narrative. Always better to hear it from your mouth than from a stranger

I would like you to remember that her decision to abort, was no doubt a difficult and painful one for her. One that she doesn't want to bring to mind, much less talk about with people. I understand her hesitation to discuss it with you initially, when you were just getting back together. Yes, she initially lied, at a stage when telling the truth might not have benefitted anyone, but only caused needless hurt. I give her credit for finding the courage to make a clean confession of it to you as well, knowing your stand on abortion. It tells me that she takes you seriously, and wants to disclose her abortion to you, before any talk of marriage. She is showing you respect by telling you the difficult truth. Whatever the past has been, she is displaying courage and integrity, moving forward. Many women would just keep their mouths shut.

I don't see her as inherently untrustworthy. The question at hand is your ability to trust her. It's about your capacity to leave the past behind, and to trust in your future together. Do you want someone who's seemingly perfect, who may yet fall; or someone who repents of her mistakes, and is making an effort to do better?

Gaggi:
No sex relationship with you, yet she has unprotected sex with another and you are in love. F00ls will always exist in abundance. Please take her to the alter immediately.
I think the hard core rap of the 90's we used to listen to helped shape us into men. we used the lyrics to help us through heart breaks and the way the rappers talked about women shaped our mentality. I don't understand the category of young men we have now. An embarrassment and a disgrace to real men.

I tell you the way 2pac, biggie and snoop talk about bitchess..makes we know say they are nothing.. Money brings bitches, bitches brings life, one nigga gets jealous, motther fukker why... They are nothing but tools When money is made but these young generation, i wonder how they see women.. Damn.

senifade:
Do you want to marry someone you can't trust? If yes, go ahead, if no then quit the relationship.

that the true bro

Lightway:
And ubunja said

That breakup she initiated for no reason

I swear Baba

I remember that line from ubunja

coolguy4christ:



Read the story again before you spew rubbish

Lol, my brother, a lot of people can read but can't comprehend.

pocohantas:
You sure say she wan marry you?

Na November be this. Men go land next month.Ugo China and co...

Abi she just wan discharge you. She kuku know say you love am. Na to slam you one heavy confession.

Be like I will go tell my guy this kind thing. Make e use im hand breakup.

No even mind me. My head dey jam.

She loves and trust me, that was why she was comfortable enough to open up to me.

My stand on relationship is sincerity and openness, and I have continually demonstrated this myself in the relationship.

She opened up to me, after our joint Bible study on Sunday. Apparently,she was touched by the teaching.

ednut1:
u are a mumu man.

It's entirely my decision to remain chaste until marriage and God has been helping me thus far.

coolguy4christ:


It's entirely my decision to remain chaste until marriage and God has been helping me thus far.

indeed. That is why one bad guy is helping u do what u refused to do.

coolguy4christ:


She loves and trust me, that was why she was comfortable enough to open up to me.

My stand on relationship is sincerity and openness, and I have continually demonstrated this myself in the relationship.

She opened up to me, after our joint Bible study on Sunday. Apparently,she was touched by the teaching.

Bros, if you really love and know her as you claim- then do what you think is best for you. There is no need advising a man in love. For once I agree with the bible that instructed a man to love. It blinds his eyes to all his woman's fault.

ornicus:


I am not understanding . Please break down what you said

At the very least I assume people confess because by doing so you take control of the narrative. Always better to hear it from your mouth than from a stranger

I don't even know what I said, but I think you have answered me. Hehehehe

coolguy4christ:


I did not sleep with another girl whilst we were apart, in fact since we got back, I have not slept with her. It's a no-sex relationship.

For real, do people still do no sex relationship?
Just asking o, i see my babe lason na d..ing and i no de worry my mind.
Good luck and all the best.

YorubaPrince:
But, why is it that it's majorly guys that come on here to complain and rant abt their women?

They cry, wail and do stuff like sissies all the time. Why don't the ladies do the same on here?

WTF?

Most women are too shy to voice it here

And you know how nairaland guys get bad mouth

It also scares them from bringing it here.

coolguy4christ:


She loves and trust me, that was why she was comfortable enough to open up to me.

My stand on relationship is sincerity and openness, and I have continually demonstrated this myself in the relationship.

She opened up to me, after our joint Bible study on Sunday. Apparently,she was touched by the teaching.

Though i am a guy that take sincerity first either in a relationship or dealings with people.
I have come to realize humans can't give you 100% sincerity, i have now adjust my sincerity expectations to 80% now am ok

I will have love you to work on that so that your marriage will be at peace since you are dealing with humans not gods

She should have told the whole truth the first time. If I were you, I wouldn't trust her too, cos this might not even still be the complete gist.

Op, no one is perfect.
She has told u the truth about her past.
If u love her accept her for who she is.

U too must have told her at least one lie.

Show her u can trust her and u'll c dat she can be the best woman u've ever met.

Many wolves out there won't tell u they screw how much more telling you they had one to several abortions.

Please make the relationship work better after all to err is human to forgive is a divine

I don’t see why this is an issue. You both weren’t together at the time and she even had the courage to open up to you. Why making it a big deal?

Sh!t happens, let it go. Marry her or end things with her so she can find someone else who will cherish and appreciate her.

“She lied to me” so fckn what? Who doesn’t lie?