Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 12:10am On Nov 19, 2019 |
cassyrooy: Uncle please don't scatter my head this morning o. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Didi2d(m): 12:10am On Nov 19, 2019 |
AK481: Marrying an unemployed lady and at the same time has no degree and skill. Also with bad attitude, that's what I got 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 12:11am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Marrying someone who is in love with some one else 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Emmanuelcann: 12:13am On Nov 19, 2019 |
tchidi066: Fear of getting married to a thug, i don't tolerate physical abuse in any way Fear of having to face crazy and un-cooperative in-laws, i don't need presence of third party Fear of being bankrupt, when there is financial buoyancy, less fights n verbal abuse All in all the most important thing is marrying someone you are compatible with, i don't believe in love, it's a scam (my opinion ) No, love is a choice, most people confuse it with lust. Love is not really an emotion, lust is. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makydebbie(f): 12:13am On Nov 19, 2019 |
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makydebbie(f): 12:14am On Nov 19, 2019 |
I can't deal with inlaws too, no be me go overly accommodate inlaws. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makydebbie(f): 12:16am On Nov 19, 2019 |
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by airminem(f): 12:16am On Nov 19, 2019 |
My fear is Still be here by this time posting in NL. Nice night |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Tedsart(m): 12:16am On Nov 19, 2019 |
I guess contentment on my partner's side. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Dannonye(f): 12:17am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Waking up one day and to find him gone
like...how is that not sad n depressing
Also, battering and violence from d one I love scares me a lot |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cassyrooy(m): 12:19am On Nov 19, 2019 |
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by TheRedpillguy: 12:19am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Fisher007: Hmm where do I start from?
Marriage is a scam.
Legacy is the only thing a man needs. As far as you have a child or children (surrogacy, abduction or baby mama). All na pickin, the rest is history.
Most people marry for flimsy, weird, crazy, survival, unfathomable and dumbfounded reason. I will speak for the men. Ladies you can speak your own too below in the comments section ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png)
You will marry a woman who's love for you is provisional, transactional and conditional. ( For better for worse statement na scam). If you doubt me try your luck. 95 percent of people in marriages are sad and cheat on each other. The last 5percent are in a open relationship known to both party. Them just they push through for survival purpose
For men:
Na white knighting and captain save a slut wey dey do most of us. In order words beauty and toto dey too dey deceive us.
You will marry a woman you think you know. But you have no idea actually. She will form submissive, homely, loving until you done put am for house. Gbam the equation will change. Most ladies marry you based on their time don dey reach or based on they need you to provide.
You will now start understanding the famous quotes "my wife has changed. She is not the lady I married".
You see whoever you marry will always change. Change is constant. So don't complain. She will get fat, she will have hormonial imbalance, she will nag you. You will loose your peace, calm and quiet life. Just even forget sex - that one go turn weapon and manipulation tool for her. She will get old before you. Mind game go kill Una for house. It will be a power struggle since most women don't want to play their traditional role in the house. You will just be slaving and suffering for an ungrateful being brought out from your ribs.
To go home after work will be a problem, beer parlour and hangout will be your new base. She go police your life die. Na pure cage you go put yourself. But what do I know. Instead of you to stay single and enjoy your life as man. Nobody is rushing you. You will let stupid societal norms and Disney/ Naija/ Indian/ American movie fool you. Love doesn't exist man. It is only compatibility that exist.
You will hear excuse such as you will die alone. Lol. Did you come to earth with somebody before? Psssh
Qoute me at your peril. I done talk my own. Transformer and river is not far from you. Find the nearest one. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Lol the redpill
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 12:19am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Humility017:
love your responses so far... please keep it up... the expectation of the righteous shall never be cut short....
please know that you don't argue the truth... you rather preach the truth...leave folks with their beliefs... Yeah thanks. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Ronald1(m): 12:20am On Nov 19, 2019 |
cassyrooy: You're welcome.
Please note that Gamaphobia is the fear for marriage, while Philophobia is the fear of love/attraction.
Help?
You just have to do it scared.
Something I witnessed in March, two couples I respected very well and I share a close relationship with had a serious fight and I was caught between settling them, holding three kids from the horrible scene and all the hysteria, I just did my best while still scared of the outcome.
The man later called me and encouraged me to go ahead and get married (even though my head was screaming at me to run completely).
I'm developing an emotional shock absorber for that phase of life. We just have to grow up and get fuçked a little. Dare to see your fear roar it face. Hmm |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by jibrilELsudan: 12:20am On Nov 19, 2019 |
If I open my mouth to talk, Nigeria will burn.
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by officialtommy(m): 12:21am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Partner to turn violent |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makydebbie(f): 12:21am On Nov 19, 2019 |
cassyrooy: Care to share? I don't wanna get tired of an ass or breast so easily, if you understand what I mean? LOL, the book is titled Dickmatics. I don't know if it's in Nigeria but I got it here, at a bookstore. I prefer you read it lol. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cassyrooy(m): 12:23am On Nov 19, 2019 |
storm001: Getting married to a feminist who want the man to be the wife. Okay, this is another one. Or manipulative wife is just the hot knife that will slice my butter. 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by teehazzy(m): 12:24am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Nigerians don't sleep |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by obawinner(m): 12:24am On Nov 19, 2019 |
[quote author=Donbabaj post=84154721]Nagging and Arguments. Th 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by momove4real25(f): 12:24am On Nov 19, 2019 |
YorubaPrince: Make pesin no go marry Ijebu chic wey no go sabi cook Ikokore… ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) omo anare riwo wa 3 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by AmazingELixir: 12:27am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Rich4god: Information confidentiality...
But one thing I have come to realize is that a good number of ladies don't marry who they actually love, reason been that the person they love is probably not ready or financially buoyant for marriage. So they end up with another man who is ready. Statement of fact |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cassyrooy(m): 12:28am On Nov 19, 2019 |
makydebbie:
LOL, the book is titled Dickmatics. I don't know if it's in Nigeria but I got it here, at a bookstore.
I prefer you read it lol. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Hmm! E go hard to find. But I'll try and search for it online sha. Well, make I dey manage my Everywoman dey go. |
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by OyinO: 12:30am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Fisher007: Hmm where do I start from?
Marriage is a scam.
Legacy is the only thing a man needs. As far as you have a child or children (surrogacy, abduction or baby mama). All na pickin, the rest is history.
Most people marry for flimsy, weird, crazy, survival, unfathomable and dumbfounded reason. I will speak for the men. Ladies you can speak your own too below in the comments section ![tongue](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/tongue.png)
You will marry a woman who's love for you is provisional, transactional and conditional. ( For better for worse statement na scam). If you doubt me try your luck. 95 percent of people in marriages are sad and cheat on each other. The last 5percent are in a open relationship known to both party. Them just they push through for survival purpose
For men:
Na white knighting and captain save a slut wey dey do most of us. In order words beauty and toto dey too dey deceive us.
You will marry a woman you think you know. But you have no idea actually. She will form submissive, homely, loving until you done put am for house. Gbam the equation will change. Most ladies marry you based on their time don dey reach or based on they need you to provide.
You will now start understanding the famous quotes "my wife has changed. She is not the lady I married".
You see whoever you marry will always change. Change is constant. So don't complain. She will get fat, she will have hormonial imbalance, she will nag you. You will loose your peace, calm and quiet life. Just even forget sex - that one go turn weapon and manipulation tool for her. She will get old before you. Mind game go kill Una for house. It will be a power struggle since most women don't want to play their traditional role in the house. You will just be slaving and suffering for an ungrateful being brought out from your ribs.
To go home after work will be a problem, beer parlour and hangout will be your new base. She go police your life die. Na pure cage you go put yourself. But what do I know. Instead of you to stay single and enjoy your life as man. Nobody is rushing you. You will let stupid societal norms and Disney/ Naija/ Indian/ American movie fool you. Love doesn't exist man. It is only compatibility that exist.
You will hear excuse such as you will die alone. Lol. Did you come to earth with somebody before? Psssh
Qoute me at your peril. I done talk my own. Transformer and river is not far from you. Find the nearest one. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png)
Best comment so far. 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by teehazzy(m): 12:31am On Nov 19, 2019 |
degamemaster:
You're too stupid with this kind of mentality. Spit on your useless face. Ogbeni, relax. That's her fear, not yours 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by YorubaPrince: 12:31am On Nov 19, 2019 |
momove4real25: omo anare riwo wa Beeni ooo Iye mi! Ijebu Alare remi wa. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by IgbosNIGHTMARE: 12:32am On Nov 19, 2019 |
pocohantas: 1. Losing my spouse or a child. 2. What I will do to my husband if he cheats.
Note, I am not scared of him cheating. Just the repercussions he would face.
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Any other thing I didn't write are things he would be smart enough to figure out. I don't like to talk too much, especially when dealing with adults. You'll be cheated upon repeatedly and NOTHING will ever happen... 11 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by purples25(f): 12:32am On Nov 19, 2019 |
That he wont love me or care and we live as compatible partners , simply co operating rather than ..... You know
that he will deal with me.... and then we will also have those fights leading to high blood pressure.
That i may not even like him cuz mom wants a specific person and i may not find the character and interest i desire in that type of person she wants.
That my kids might hate me or i wont be good enough ( this is partly due to people always breaking down my confidence from family to public, by always - well not always, treating me like an unstable person and a joke ) , or people come in with all their bossiness and pushy advice and try to tell me how to handle my kids or even start taking over forcefully. Theyve done that to me most times in my life and it pains me a lot, so this fear is real .
Having an impatient intolerant brash traditional man that cares nothing for living life with class or treating his family well. 3 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by ikwedim(m): 12:34am On Nov 19, 2019 |
In this social media age, marriage na scam. Thank God I have a baby. If he like let him remain with his mum or if he like let him return back to his father's house. All I know I have a Son n life goes on 7 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Biingoo: 12:39am On Nov 19, 2019 |
AwkaetitiBabe: Expanded kini due to childbirth and no longer feeling it Monotonous routines ne and getting fat ![](/faces/huh.png) |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by IgbosNIGHTMARE: 12:39am On Nov 19, 2019 |
electroTech: I feel lonely when around people than when alone. Having to live together with someone forever scares the sh!tt outta me. If my future wife would be living on her own and be coming to visit once in a while, then I'll consider getting married someday.
I love kids too but I don't dream of having one. The thought of bringing innocent souls to experience this short and painful existence is still a nightmare I can't afford to bring into reality.
I pity married folks than I envy them. In fact, this whole marriage sh!tt is just overrated
Don't be silly and insensitive... You are existing because a marriage or coupling worked out, be grateful for that! 3 Likes |