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Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by djoe21(m): 9:34am On Nov 19, 2019 |
ednut1: You are going too far bro. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by armadeo(m): 9:34am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Igetmyown247: I tire oh. The guy is a mugu joor. All this no sex relationship, break up, she had sex and got pregnant ( evidence of multiple creampies). Now shes back and you still talking no sex. She'll go out and get creampied again. Siddon there dey look 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:35am On Nov 19, 2019 |
makydebbie:How would you have gone about making a decision if you were in his shoes? Maybe your advice will help him in future. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by kenx1(m): 9:35am On Nov 19, 2019 |
senifade: U said it all bro 100% |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Angelfrost(m): 9:35am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Honestly, I find such threads very irritating and tiring... The same recycled bullsh*t. Y'all just turn a very simple matter into a 7 page thread... Lol. Smh. I love her, but I don't trust her, I can't leave her, but I don't.... Blah blah blah... Grow a bloody pair!!!! ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Sidneyjack: 9:36am On Nov 19, 2019 |
My brother this is exactly what you wanted to know and you have known it and from the horse's mouth. For you to have wanted to know the secret means that you must have developed the mind or the heart to take anything that you heard. That is woman for you. You wanted to know the truth and that is the truth she told you. The only thing now is for you to have the mind either to forgive and go on with her or you break up with her because the only thing in marriage is either you endure or you enjoy. If you know you can't endure then you leave. She has taken responsibility of her actions by telling you the truth. If Adam had taken responsibility of what Eve did in Genesis chapter 3 verse 12 when God asked Adam if he had eaten from the fruit he instructed them not to eat, but Adam's reply means he didn't take the responsibility as the head of the family. If Adam had taken that responsibility I don't think God would have punished human kind the way He did. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by YeyeBoyfriend: 9:38am On Nov 19, 2019 |
And who told you the other lady you'll meet haven't had 4 abortions? That's if she tell you the truth like ur current one did Forgive and move on since she's has come out clean, I know its difficult but she actually wants things to work when you guys eventually gets married hence she confessed her worst confession Leave my English alone ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Humility017(m): 9:38am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Iziquiel: Thanks for the bolded...... when they're many ladies praying for men of this kind that can take a stand against sexual immorality...... ever since I realised that my kind is rare... I no longer beg or try to make any lady stay with people.... the problem many guys like OP make...is looking for the right person in the wrong places.... go into relationships with someone who share same values with you.... especially as regard sex and faith... he/she will abstain not because she wanna be faithful to you but because he/she wanna be faithful to God..... 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by armadeo(m): 9:38am On Nov 19, 2019 |
1StopRudeness: Thats almost like a line in a rap song 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:38am On Nov 19, 2019 |
adanny01:She should have declined. They obviously had an agreement. Or you prefer him to have dropped his belief cos of the relationship? |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:40am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Humility017:I think this sums it up. There are other factors apart from love that makes a relationship or marriage work. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Humility017(m): 9:40am On Nov 19, 2019 |
armadeo: no sex relationships is only possible when it is the desire of both partners.... you can't force or make a guy or lady take that walk with you..... you don't force it or else...he/she will seek sexual pleasures elsewhere.... date and marry your kind.... simple. someone who share same values with u 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:41am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Samuels90: Smh... I replied to what he wrote. Learn to read with understanding. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by IDERAWOLE(m): 9:42am On Nov 19, 2019 |
coolguy4christ: If you're not satisfied with someone who told you before marriage, what else do you need? Walk away and go marry the one you can trust. She knows you can easily walk away at this point in time, and she told you. Grow up or Go your way. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Humility017(m): 9:43am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Route99: Thanks brother.... me don't mind let me marry spirit koko lady... many gurls don do me wonders..... to be honest. I want a woman who hates sexual immorality and even more closer to God than me..... I don't care... nothing beats having peace of mind in your marriage and kids raised in the way of the Lord 6 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:44am On Nov 19, 2019 |
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Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by pixey(m): 9:47am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Route99:I have been observing the comments here but this comment here says it all with few words.Trust is the very foundation of the building called marriage.Love is just the design and outward appearances of the building which needs to be maintained. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by yemosticadam(m): 9:49am On Nov 19, 2019 |
babe discovered her womb is no longer OK, then she came out. if dude like u fall for dis trick....sorry! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by AceRoyal: 9:49am On Nov 19, 2019 |
coolguy4christ: I'll advice you not to end the relationship with her. For her to open up to you, shows that she values you and the relationship. Forgive her, it's in the past. I'm talking from experience. And please don't ever use this against her in future, no matter the situation or circumstances. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:50am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Roozzaay: ![]() ![]() ![]() I appreciate your words. Thanks very much. It's alright. Your commending words are enough. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Fashdeejay(m): 9:54am On Nov 19, 2019 |
She told you herself, you didn't force her, you didn't ask her, it shows, she has a conscience and she loves you.... If u can't see past her flaws, then you don't deserve her! Yes she lied because she wasn't sure you'd stay most likely the reason she told u a half truth, but she came out and told you on her own terms, forgive and move on, that's a woman with a sincere feeling for you... |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by mechanics(m): 9:55am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Since she has told you the truth no problem, you can go ahead to marry her but let her know that she shouldn't have any thing to do with her former boy friends any more. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by adanny01(m): 9:55am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Route99: Declined what exactly, when he came back to her? She loves him, he loves her. She wants sex, he doesn't want sex. She got tired, she broke up, she had sex and abortion He came back, she still loves him and took him in He wants to marry her, she wants to marry him He wants the truth, she gives him the truth The truth is too bitter for him to swallow. She has done her best, the rest is up to him. Dating 101 - do not ask questions that the answer will be too hard to accept. The girls main crime now is telling the truth. I am 90% sure if op leaves this girl, he is going to marry a woman that will lie to him. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by simplesearch: 9:56am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Why is this generation so sick to the point nobody thinks it's the right thing to wait until married before having sex. People think it's normal to keep having sex until you are married, with this mindset many will end up in hell. Fornication and adultery is still a terrible sin in God's sight not minding the tacit approval our so called civilization places on such lifestyle, God's judgement will not abate in the least against such act. @ OP you need to pray now and allow the spirit of God lead you on what next to do, don't enter into a union as a confused entity marriage is a lifetime commitment. You can delay the marriage and have enough time to seek the face of the Lord, your wisdom and understanding can't see beyond now, what becomes of the union in the future only God can tell, so go consult him now so you wouldn't pray later. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by ChristianHalec: 9:56am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Why have you done this is the first place? Do you even recall that? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by armadeo(m): 9:56am On Nov 19, 2019 |
Brodagovernor: Like a chess game, the watchers see more than the players cos they are on the outside while the players are up close. You've seen the entire story, I initially thought she wanted sex and he gug wasnt giving her. Now that she initiated the break up it means she had another plan which bleeped up and prince charming came riding on his white horse to the rescue. @op if you want to marry her, go ahead and stop this she lied shit. She also got bleeped too and tou arent seeing that part it's the lie that guts you. You'll be happy, she'll be happy and nairaland will be happy. Kapish |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:57am On Nov 19, 2019 |
coolguy4christ:Hi bro. What if she had waited till after the marriage to reveal the truth to you, would you have preferred that? I think you should give her the benefit of a doubt because she could have waited til then if she was just thinking about herself, but she came out beforehand barring all consequences to show that she was willing to get it right. I believe the reason she lied to you was basically because of your hatred for abortion, so she was in a tight position and didn't just lie because it was in her nature. But after doing it, she couldn't stand the guilt in her conscience hence her coming out, so please find in your heart to forgive her and I believe you won't regret it. God bless. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Poanan: 9:57am On Nov 19, 2019 |
babyfaceafrica: She did not lie. She could not just muster courage to say it. It is not easy to be truthful at all times. The guy complaining told her to come out clean, I believe it is for him to know what he is getting into. Now she has come out completely clean and he is behaving like this. He is a LIAR for lying that he just wanted to start clean. Talking about forgive and forget people don't know the meaning of those words. You said it is easy to forgive but not easy to forget. Forget doesn't not mean you should lose memory of the incidence. It only means when you remember the incidence, it shouldn't bring pain to you again cos you have allowed by gone to be by gone. When you are not a mad man, why will u forget things? |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Nobody: 9:57am On Nov 19, 2019 |
adanny01:Declined being in a no-sex relationship from the beginning, since this is your reason for her actions. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Sunnyobums: 9:58am On Nov 19, 2019 |
donbachi:You think every guy out there is a community dick like you. |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by adigun98(m): 10:00am On Nov 19, 2019 |
coolguy4christ:Op am sorry to say this but uhm,you're not a real nigarr and am just confused cos how on Earth will you still want to marry someone you're in a no sex relationship with but got pregnant within few moment of breakup...Think bruv,think. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Lied To Me, Now I Find It Hard To Trust Her by Elxandre(m): 10:01am On Nov 19, 2019 |
who enforced the no-sex rule? You or her? It appears to me it wasn't a mutual decision judging by a previous thread of yours where you had sex and was extremely remorseful about it. no wonder she went to get it right after the breakup. It's not always nice imposing your wishes on others. |
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