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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Juleh01: 2:17pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
vickydevoka: Bleep already... isn't that too early in the day? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by mindthing: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Marriage, at the crux of it, is a gamble in itself. So my biggest fear is losing that wager and having a bad rest-of-my-life as a result. This is because the exact moment one says 'I do', one is getting married in a very specific and particular set of circumstances e.g. -Youre both good-looking and easy on each others' eyes -Money may not be a burning issue -You very possibly could really love each other -You may not yet know the things about each other that you find in-tolerable -Minimal or zero health problems may exist -In-laws may not yet have become the sometimes-demons they can be -Children are probably not yet on-scene etc But if ANY of these parameters undergo the tiniest shift in metrics in the course of the union e.g. -You no longer look aesthetically pleasing to each other -You guys somehow start getting cash-strapped for one reason or the other -You guys fall out of love -You suddenly find things he/she does you simply cannot imagine spending the rest of your life tolerating -Health problems maybe show up that task your financial and/or physical comfort -In-laws get into the fray and muddy the waters of your hitherto amazing con-existence -Children arrive and introduce the typical complexities of their existence into how you interact etc Things start to go down the drain and life becomes an exercise in survival instead of it being lived to the fullest. People, especially Africans, seem to value their mere existence instead of considering the quality of the life they live. Most people in Nigeria, I am sure, will prefer a long, hard life to a short, comfortable one. But hey, each man/woman to his/her own. I am not in favor of or against marriage as an institution, being totally agnostic about getting hitched. I, however, am pretty particular about having people understand the following: 1. Marriage is NOT a status symbol 2. Marriage is NOT an obligation (to parents, your woman/man or indeed society at large) 3. Marriage is NOT what makes the boy a man 4. Marriage is NOT what finally proves how responsible anyone is Marriage, however, IS a gamble. You win or lose depending on the fate of your circumstances. The fear should thus not be of marriage itself, but of the ebb and flow of life's circumstances that could obliterate the harmony of that matrimonial environment. Selah. - 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 2:22pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
DaGeneral: chill bro, sayin men cheat is a "norm" as got nothing to do with the term "generalization". for instances naturally men are "breadwinners" that is the norm buh is it all men that are breadwinners in there respective home. i hope u understand d difference between a norm & generalisation now. People don't embrace stealin or killing becos it as bin enacted as crime globally, last time i checked cheatin as never been recorded or label as crime anywhere in d world. If you understood me like u jus said, then u shuld knw these is not abt justification 4 me i jus av to tell these gurls d bitter truth ... "Truth needs no one justification" take or leave it e no send. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by femioke14: 2:23pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Choosing d wrong partner 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Yoighaman(m): 2:37pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
To think I'd sacrifice my dear freedom on the altar of marriage makes me upset in advance, unfortunately, my personal conviction of not wanting to have children out of wedlock even makes it worse....anyway, till then. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by BecaciaBarbie(f): 2:44pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
caracas:Lol thank you oooo |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by BecaciaBarbie(f): 2:45pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Bbbwings:even if he is on leave, he should respect the fact that it is Monday naa 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by DaGeneral(m): 2:51pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
anslem04:Believe me I totally understand you. But can you see the comments on this thread? Why the entitlement mentality because we are men? Is it that the woman does not have a heart to be broken,feeling to be hurt or ego to be bruised? Then the woman wakes in the middle of the night and stabs him because she can't take it any more and the world call her evil and applauds the man who cannot keep his nozzle in one tank. 3 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Godmademan(m): 3:01pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
1. I feel polygamous. I feel one wife will not do it for me. Just love women. Perhaps my out look will change when someone captures my inner being. 2. Phobia for Heartbreak. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by tiptoe1: 3:05pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
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Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by hresso: 3:09pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
0KNM: Signs. You can't hide your true feelings for long. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 3:14pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
hresso:Some people can pretend for long tho |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by UnknownQueen(f): 3:40pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Hamachi: Not at all, but from her write up, she said she's scared of the processes of child birth, so I needed to suggest other birth methods for her.. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by sharpwriter(m): 4:04pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Satan66: Lol... I've been laughing hard since at your comment. Reason being that your moniker being "satan" can call another person animal... Then that person must be an animal indeed to have infuriated and disgusted you this much... Your satan sef get little morals... Lolz 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nobody: 4:05pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
DaGeneral: I like your kind of curosity buh b4 i make some emotionaly annoyin analysis,let me emphatically say i am nt justifyin infidelity for men. We all knw life is not fair, even nature/creation is not fair ... for a man sex is jus sex , to a woman sex as to mean sumtin she jus as to define it to accept it,that is why rape traumatize dem. Women are emotional beings, ofcus they do av heart & feel pains more buh these wonderful creatures understand pain d way the strongest of men would never, some men won't even survive menstral pain not to talk of labour pain ... the way a woman feels wen she see her hubby on top another woman is funnily different from the way a man who caught is wife under another man will feel. the woman feel cheated emotionally she is less concern abt the sex act, while the man feels cheated bodywise ... what disgust n hurt him d most is anoda dick savourin pussy to be his.... bottom line is nature in to be blamed in all these women don't do ego dey deal in pride. sex appreciate a man's ego buh same sex depreciates a woman's pride ,sey u see life 2 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cococandy(f): 4:07pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Godmademan: You fear heartbreak yet you are afraid of committing to one woman. Whose daughter do you think like heartbreak? As you are like this, are you coming or are you going? 3 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cococandy(f): 4:10pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
anslem04: The things these boys tell themselves to make themselves feel good. Have you even been a woman? How do you know what a woman feels? More jargons and baseless excuses. Did we tell you that we love sharing peniss? Smh. 4 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by hresso: 4:14pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
0KNM: Well, I believe you will still see the signs. We just tend to ignore them. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Godmademan(m): 4:15pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
cococandy:You don't get it. It is near impossible to see a perfect being. I find certain good features in different women. The problem now lies in having one woman who can atleast exhibit 70% of features are I consider important for life long commitment. That is why I fear heartbreak can't imagine how long it would take spot another queen. Trust me, If I were non commital I would have hooked up long time ago. 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by cococandy(f): 4:17pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Hopefully you can exhibit 70% of what one woman needs as well. Otherwise you are oyo Godmademan: 4 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makavelli80(m): 4:19pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Hamachi:y do you quote me? U like trouble |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by bbeautylik(f): 4:19pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
I am a Muslim so do not crucify me The kind of marriage I hate is the so call Muslim marriages, women almost have no say in the marriage... The men can marry as far as four wives and still Bleep outside. Now how will the men feel if the reverse is the case if we women can marry four husbands not minding how one feels. In Islam women are the slaves in marriage. Do not wear this , do not wear that, do not use perfumes so that you won't attract men..... What about the men? Mtcheww 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by DaudaTheSexyGuy(m): 4:21pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
makydebbie: Can we see a pic of the ass please? |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Godmademan(m): 4:22pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
cococandy:Well that is subject to individual judgement. I just focus on developing myself. Baseline is whoever I choose should choose me too. A lobsided relationship is likely to end in disaster 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by makavelli80(m): 4:25pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
UnknownQueen:It's easier said than done. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Theyoungmatron: 4:33pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
The whole post on front-page has men running away from marriage citing silly excuses especially cheating . They do not want to be served with their own coin 3 Likes |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by Nmezor(f): 4:46pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
MedicH:says who? |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by MedicH: 4:52pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
Nmezor: Me. An authority. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by RxSameer(m): 5:23pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
maynation:I just hope in years coming Shiloh will not be ur 2nd home n if are a Muslim, Alfas house will not be ur next corner lolz |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by maynation(f): 5:26pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
RxSameer: Whichever what I choose to do is none of your concern. Is it? 1 Like |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by MrMacinterchi1: 5:33pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
mechanics: You should check your Bible well also to see that not everybody must marry. Marriage doesn't in any way stop fornication /adultry. Else, people won't be misbehaving in marriage. It just make what you do recognized by church and society. |
Re: What's Your Biggest Fear About Marriage? by RxSameer(m): 5:43pm On Nov 19, 2019 |
MedicH:medic H I respect ur input alot but for diz one I don't believe you, all my broders n me are core football lovers but we never bet , I have so many frnds who love football but don't bet don't generalise if u dont av evidence to back it up. but from your moniker are you a pharmacist? 1 Like |
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