Rubbiish:
But how old are u? Age can also be a contributing factor

Mrpsly247:

Lucky you... I can't dance even if my life depended on it

charley94:
And I am out here “punching” myself for not being in one despite the numerous green lights I have received

Fairview1:
The most annoying part for me is that most times, I am always short of words or let's say I don't usually know what to say when I am with the opposite sex. It has cost me alot in my little journey in life.


Most especially in my relationship with the ladies. I don't find it easy to communicate my feelings and that has made me remain single as I had always been. Meanwhile I have been of age to to get into one.


Advise me please!!

Fairview1:
The most annoying part for me is that most times, I am always short of words or let's say I don't usually know what to say when I am with the opposite sex. It has cost me alot in my little journey in life.


Most especially in my relationship with the ladies. I don't find it easy to communicate my feelings and that has made me remain single as I had always been. Meanwhile I have been of age to to get into one.


Advise me please!!

scave:


The problem we have is thinking too much, as I got the idea I decided if I want to talk I won't think of the repercussions. I start talking when ever i wished to and I see people laughing when I talk.

Don't think too much just say it.

The first girl I asked out was a very classy one even the play boys are shy to ask her out, I developed courage asked her even though she didn't accept we became friends and we communicate and she respect me till today.

No lady is too big to talk to, always have that in mind, if she turns you down it's a normal thing don't think too much, look for another, life goes on.

Hakeem12:
Rejection is what some guys really fear. I know a guy that made his feelings known to a lady he was crushing on, he was rejected and till today has never asked anyone else out. Says he's got this terrible feeling that he would always be rejected. Very handsome person for that matter.

Vibesking:
I have an amazing girlfriend. We've been dating for two months now.

But right now, there's nothing I want more in life than being single again.

Drizzle007:
Having a serious problem getting a Job because of my nature. Most people I know, which is quite a few got theirs through networking and referrals. I have no one. I've only been contact three times for interviews all in distant locations and I don't even bother going because of that. Introversion is worse when you're done with school, NYSC and anything that forces you to be in crowded places. When you are alone being a job seeker or even trying venturing in a business. It just get you at the neck. Never thought the ripple effect of being an introvert would come hard on me like this.

JacksonMS:
you even have a girlfriend
I will sell my soul to have a girlfriend for 5 minutes

JacksonMS:
introversion is a bad thing to happen to us

scave:


What u fail to understand is that many people want to b like u and they admire u. While you are killing urself to b like someone else.

Vibesking:


You value yourself too little.

scave:


What u fail to understand is that many people want to b like u and they admire u. While you are killing urself to b like someone else.

JacksonMS:
not true. Nobody wants to be useless like me

MisterKings:
I used to be a very strong introvert. I still am Sha but e don reduce small. I don't start conversations unless the other person starts first. But it was different when I dated my wife. Although my pick up line was sincere. I told her I have seen her face before not sure where and she simply responded that it was in secondary school and from there we started dating.

Toasting a girl for me was one thing that got my heart beating faster than a drum set in church.

Now I look back at my life I regret all the girls I could have dated and all the ones that were giving me signs to come and knack. I was just there dulling.

One time I liked a girl and my only way of toasting her was to form secret admirer and send her small small presents and even stalked her telling her what she was doing at a certain time.

This created a kind of value about me and she was dying to know who I was. When she finally did. We started getting close but my olodo self told a young girl in University that I would like us to start courting for marriage in the nearest future and at this time I no get shishi. The girl blatantly refused saying she had plans for her life and we stopped seeing each other.

Sometimes I feel I probably got married because I can't kill myself over toasting woman who might reject me over and over.
My wife is not an extrovert but she is a very social person as a matter of fact I learn how to talk to strangers from her. She can become friends with u in a few hours and u guys will discuss your whole life.

Being an introvert really keeps u from living your dream and hides you from opportunities. Its really a negative trait. I work full time and run a media business that provides media content in general but it is suffering because I don't know how to talk to potential clients.

That is why next year I have decided to come out of my shell on full throttle. For instance since I am into filmmaking I always love staying behind the scene but next year I am starting a YouTube channel and will appear more next year in front of the screen and I will talk to people just to kill my introvert personality and shyness.

JacksonMS:
why should I value myself high and I m absolutely useless

Hakeem12:
Introversion isn't a negative trait, neither does it keep anyone from living their dreams. It's very different from shyness, I know some shy extroverts too, it's got nothing to do with it. Many people just plainly mistake shyness for introversion.

MisterKings:
I used to be a very strong introvert. I still am Sha but e don reduce small. I don't start conversations unless the other person starts first. But it was different when I dated my wife. Although my pick up line was sincere. I told her I have seen her face before not sure where and she simply responded that it was in secondary school and from there we started dating.

Toasting a girl for me was one thing that got my heart beating faster than a drum set in church.

Now I look back at my life I regret all the girls I could have dated and all the ones that were giving me signs to come and knack. I was just there dulling.

One time I liked a girl and my only way of toasting her was to form secret admirer and send her small small presents and even stalked her telling her what she was doing at a certain time.

This created a kind of value about me and she was dying to know who I was. When she finally did. We started getting close but my olodo self told a young girl in University that I would like us to start courting for marriage in the nearest future and at this time I no get shishi. The girl blatantly refused saying she had plans for her life and we stopped seeing each other.

Sometimes I feel I probably got married because I can't kill myself over toasting woman who might reject me over and over.
My wife is not an extrovert but she is a very social person as a matter of fact I learn how to talk to strangers from her. She can become friends with u in a few hours and u guys will discuss your whole life.

Being an introvert really keeps u from living your dream and hides you from opportunities. Its really a negative trait. I work full time and run a media business that provides media content in general but it is suffering because I don't know how to talk to potential clients.

That is why next year I have decided to come out of my shell on full throttle. For instance since I am into filmmaking I always love staying behind the scene but next year I am starting a YouTube channel and will appear more next year in front of the screen and I will talk to people just to kill my introvert personality and shyness.

MisterKings:


Do you agree it is shyness that makes you crawl into your shell in the first place? Turns you to an introvert and converts a tiny little place in ur home to ur complacent zone.

JacksonMS:
you even have a girlfriend
I will sell my soul to have a girlfriend for 5 minutes

Vibesking:


I've been reading a bunch of stuff here by people complaining that being an "introvert" has hampered their success in various instances.

Well, sorry about your negative experience and I do hope it gets better for y'all.

However, you should probably look inwardly to really determine the root cause of these setbacks. Cause I'm almost certain that it didn't occur because you're an introvert.

I'm a core introvert but I've got no issues with communicating or articulating my thoughts. When it comes to presentations or interviews, I've never fumbled. My audience tends to be very well impressed. Probably because of my diction and accent. Which comes from daily reading and consuming a lot of literary content. From hip-hop to American horror series. Include the News too.

In my former organisation (an international political entity), most of my colleagues were first grade extroverts and older than I am.

But when it came to representing the org in the international scale, I was the one being called. From giving a talk at a World Bank symposium with people from various countries in attendance, to being called to deliver lectures at conferences.

This also came with fast promotions as the management deemed me smart. (I turned them down cause I hated leadership and the stress it incurs). I like being in the background; pulling the stings. Plus I wasn't in for the long haul. All I needed was the experience. After getting it, I moved on.

Being an introvert never interfered. Though I resent public gatherings and small talks, but if there's something at stake and it's time to deliver, I do the work and get the job done.

It has nothing to do with your temperament but more about your internal image– how you see yourself.

Though my imaginations run wild and I'm a psychological wreck sometimes, I do not consider myself less than anyone. Cause I know everyone's messed up too but their fake asses are good at hiding it.

I keep a small cycle just to stay on the loop. I've got no cliques but a lot of acquaintances. I roll on my own. But when opportunities come, I'm the first to know.

So much so that I've attended closed gatherings that wasn't opened to the public which have had in attendance the governor of my state, top political guns, and leaders of industry. I've met with the Vice President, he's human and he's not really that tall. Plus he's humble too.

I hope you not getting the wrong message here. I ain't trying to paint a self-inflated picture of myself. I'm just trying to point out that being an introvert doesn't hinder you from excelling at your career or doing great things.

First, embrace who you are. But don't stop there. Develop yourself.

Read stuff that challenges how you think. Take online courses.

Personally, I consume a lot of stuff on Psychology and stocism. It's funny what you discover. For parts, that the entire human race is motivated by vanity. And we're not creatures of logic but emotions.

Understanding this will make conversations a lot easier. You'd know what make people tick; what get them excited and aroused.

You'd discover that listening is more effective than talking when conversing with someone; showing you're interested in what they're saying is more effective than trying to prove a point or thinking of a response.

For those scared of approaching women or settling for less beautiful bitches, that's on you and has nothing to do with being an introvert.

For crying out loud, these folks are not gods.

Behind the smooth skin, lovely breasts, and gorgeous clothes are humans who are grossly insecure.

At this point, I'm tired of typing. I hope you got something from this shiity piece. Good luck to y'all.

JacksonMS:
you even have a girlfriend
I will sell my soul to have a girlfriend for 5 minutes

cindybaby22:
Can i be your girlfriend?

bravesoul247:
absolutely lovely. I also can be introverted sometimes but when it comes to doing stuffs that's putting my image at stake, I grab the Bull by the bloody balls but sometimes I also have that sense of Insecurity. As regards the kinda books and courses you take, can you please recommend a few to me? I'll greatly appreciate it bro.

Vibesking:


I've been reading a bunch of stuff here by people complaining that being an "introvert" has hampered their success in various instances.

Well, sorry about your negative experience and I do hope it gets better for y'all.

However, you should probably look inwardly to really determine the root cause of these setbacks. Cause I'm almost certain that it didn't occur because you're an introvert.

I'm a core introvert but I've got no issues with communicating or articulating my thoughts. When it comes to presentations or interviews, I've never fumbled. My audience tends to be very well impressed. Probably because of my diction and accent. Which comes from daily reading and consuming a lot of literary content. From hip-hop to American horror series. Include the News too.

In my former organisation (an international political entity), most of my colleagues were first grade extroverts and older than I am.

But when it came to representing the org in the international scale, I was the one being called. From giving a talk at a World Bank symposium with people from various countries in attendance, to being called to deliver lectures at conferences.

This also came with fast promotions as the management deemed me smart. (I turned them down cause I hated leadership and the stress it incurs). I like being in the background; pulling the stings. Plus I wasn't in for the long haul. All I needed was the experience. After getting it, I moved on.

Being an introvert never interfered. Though I resent public gatherings and small talks, but if there's something at stake and it's time to deliver, I do the work and get the job done.

It has nothing to do with your temperament but more about your internal image– how you see yourself.

Though my imaginations run wild and I'm a psychological wreck sometimes, I do not consider myself less than anyone. Cause I know everyone's messed up too but their fake asses are good at hiding it.

I keep a small cycle just to stay on the loop. I've got no cliques but a lot of acquaintances. I roll on my own. But when opportunities come, I'm the first to know.

So much so that I've attended closed gatherings that wasn't opened to the public which have had in attendance the governor of my state, top political guns, and leaders of industry. I've met with the Vice President, he's human and he's not really that tall. Plus he's humble too.

I hope you not getting the wrong message here. I ain't trying to paint a self-inflated picture of myself. I'm just trying to point out that being an introvert doesn't hinder you from excelling at your career or doing great things.

First, embrace who you are. But don't stop there. Develop yourself.

Read stuff that challenges how you think. Take online courses.

[b]Personally, I consume a lot of stuff on Psychology and stocism. It's funny what you discover. [/b]For parts, that the entire human race is motivated by vanity. And we're not creatures of logic but emotions.

Understanding this will make conversations a lot easier. You'd know what make people tick; what get them excited and aroused.

You'd discover that listening is more effective than talking when conversing with someone; showing you're interested in what they're saying is more effective than trying to prove a point or thinking of a response.

For those scared of approaching women or settling for less beautiful bitches, that's on you and has nothing to do with being an introvert.

For crying out loud, these folks are not gods.

Behind the smooth skin, lovely breasts, and gorgeous clothes are humans who are grossly insecure.

At this point, I'm tired of typing. I hope you got something from this shiity piece. Good luck to y'all.

scave:


I Just checked ur profile I am dumbfounded

klark3:

Lol
Lets hope JacksonMS will stand up to the challenge

Karleb:


Just because the girl is pretty? Stop being insecure!

MisterKings:


Do you agree it is shyness that makes you crawl into your shell in the first place? Turns you to an introvert and converts a tiny little place in ur home to ur complacent zone.