| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by CaptainFM1: 11:08pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
You don't test true love. True love can only pass through true test with time. You don't put true love through a simulation or test.
Can you jump Infront of a gun for let's say a friend, g/f, son or daughter? It is when it happened that you can now say this is actual life test of true love.
But, don't ever purposely test true love, because even you can fail when it matters. Only God cannot fail.
True love should not be delibrately tested! 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by ikevictor: 11:12pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
True love was lost during Biafra war...
All the ones you see now na China!!
That’s why once matter tie wrapper, one or both lovers will embrace one fantastic excuse to split!
#Scammers! 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by otunbadare01(m): 11:14pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Best right up have read on nairaland in awhile. 4 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by ikevictor: 11:15pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
There’s no more true love!
Just one copy remaining...and that’s my love for my most holy and faithful beer!
And my love for it will never end! |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by yashau(m): 11:16pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by AK481(m): 11:17pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
There is nothing like true love after your first love 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Alawode01(m): 11:20pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
True love only in jesus. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Jmk9292(m): 11:22pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Nice submission ... |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Nobody: 11:23pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. There is nothing like true love! love is love just like truth is truth. the only way to test anything is to handle it as it is, to experience it, to live in it and feel it! 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by DownChelsea(f): 11:23pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. Obviously the OP sees love as a concept that only revolves around money or material living. |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by nameoh: 11:24pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! hmmm nice |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Rushtec(m): 11:25pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
WOW. Learnt hugely |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by israelmao(m): 11:26pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
True love is most tested in trying times not rosy times someone who loves you will be there for you either swim or sink. 1 Like |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Trutherme: 11:30pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by TOPCRUISE(m): 11:34pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Divay22:
And how is that? You are asking me. For example You see a young girl marry a rich old billionaire and she says she find true love. Her mates and people like you gossip about her and condemn her for marrying a person old enough to be her father. As if you won't do the same. Or ladies marrying or crushing on a fraudster, yahoo boy, a rich thug or a celebrity gangster and philantropist not knowing his source of wealth. Envy sets in, you and her friends begin to jealous her, but when you see a guy with the same attribute you begin to frolic around him like pigeons! Tall dark and handsome are the desire of a Nigerian girl. If I should present a guy like that plus any of the 2 categories aforementioned above before you and ask ladies including you to pick one. I don't have to be shocked on the choice you make. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by colestephan86: 11:34pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
aishauju:
Must a lady suffer with a guy to prove she loves the guy?
Must a rich guy lie that he is poor to get a genuine girl?
How do we test true love? Is it in what ways.
Drop your contributions. You don't test love. You test trust You test a man's threshold against cohesion. You test intelligence But love genuine love isn't tested And the only place u can find it is from dogs not man 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Trutherme: 11:35pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by omoISEYIN(m): 11:37pm On Nov 22, 2019 |
Love is nothing but sacrife. No more no less.
Watch out for the selflessness. 2 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by therajah: 12:00am On Nov 23, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! If this were to be a book, it wld pass for a bestseller... 5 Likes |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by friendl: 12:10am On Nov 23, 2019 |
Such things doesn't exist |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by faithfull18(f): 12:14am On Nov 23, 2019 |
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by hhmmcj: 12:22am On Nov 23, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! I really wish I could hug you right now (no homo) too much wisdom will not kee you!!! 5 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by izospindle(m): 12:22am On Nov 23, 2019 |
I feel my girl is with me cause I down her like a p  rn star 3 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by jossydee1: 12:38am On Nov 23, 2019 |
One of the best comments I've seen on Nairaland.
If partners can follow this, we'll have more than 50% of broken homes stick together till death put them apart.
[1quote author=OladimejiRufai post=84210194]Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by cameeeeel(m): 12:41am On Nov 23, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Do I need to read other comments again after your submission? capital No. you have Said it all. May God bless your parents. lolzzz 5 Likes |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by obowunmi(m): 12:45am On Nov 23, 2019 |
MJBOLT:
there's nothing like true love,people are only in relationships for their own benefits.
Facts |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by ahahnow: 12:46am On Nov 23, 2019 |
why should you test love? |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by Saintmary(f): 12:46am On Nov 23, 2019 |
OladimejiRufai:
Well, I have an advice for you my boy @OP
From this moment, stop looking for true love
I'm not implying that you cannot find it but stop looking for it.
Rather start looking for a lady who is psychologically wired to always do the right thing and has a very advanced understanding of life.
See, in most cases, love is transient.
Sometimes, people fall in love because they fell into a moment where they perceived something that touched their heart from the other person. And then moments later, they find out that the feelings are lost.
sometimes, people fall in love because there's constant communication or commitment between both persons and they are just lost in the fun of it and think they are in love. If something happens that distracts one of them from achieving the constant communication or commitment to the other person, they find that they lose the love gradually.
sometimes, people's love for another person is usually connected to some features of that person that fascinates them or blows them away.
"oh, the guy is funny." "the girl is intelligent" "the guy is charming" "the girl is georgous" e.t.c and they continue to fall in love so far these qualities are present. But what happens when they lose those qualities or those qualities gradually fade away? that's how the love will also be lost or will gradually fade away.
So in most cases, love is transient. This is proven by the many broken relationships where you hear from both sides that they have fallen out of love.
So if a person were to enter a marriage because of love, he or she is likely to be no more interested in the marriage eventually and may crave attention or love elsewhere and may want to break up the marriage.
That's the reason why I said you should look for someone with a larger and better understanding of life and who is psychologically wired to do the right thing.
this is because when it gets to the stage in a marriage where both spouses have fallen out of love, for people who do not fulfil the said criteria (no understanding of life or being wired to do the right thing), they would want to break up or would start seeking love elsewhere and they many end up cheating etc.
But for someone who fulfils that criteria;
- someone who understands that this life is not a bed of roses and it is not everything you want that you get;
- someone who understands that the purpose of marriage is not necessarily to love rather it is to show care, support each other, become responsible, help each other achieve desired goals and for mankind to multiply (procreation);
- someone who understands that there is time for everything and there are some certain pleasures that should not be sought at all stages of life or the pleasures should be limited at some point in time (imagine a 45 year old woman complaining that her husband doesn't take her out for shopping or so like he used to when she was still 25 when she should be more concerned about caring for the kids that she didn't have then but have now and focus on making them successful in life)
- someone who understands that this life itself is a place of trials and there'll always be sour times or times when you would have to forgo your heart desires for the right thing to be done;
- someone who understands that the pleasures of the hereafter are far greater than those of this life and is more concerned about that and because of that, he or she gives up some pleasures in this world just for the right thing to be done.
- someone who has values, who understands cheating is bad, who understands that it is an evil thing to extort or deceive a partner for personal gains, who knows how to control anger and doesn't expect perfection from the other partner, who understands that for a marriage to work, both sides must be committed to it, who understands that deceiving a partner and extorting him should not be the measure by which you "make it in life", and who is psychologically wired to follow all those values;
So for someone who has a better understanding of life and is wired to do the right thing, such are the people who stay in a marriage when there's no more "love" or when they have fallen out of love and continue to try everything to make it work till the end.
So this is what you should be looking for, for "true love" Is scarce.
If eventually you are able to find true love in a partner that fulfils the above criteria, then consider it a plus, consider it a blessing and thank God for it.
My piece! Impressive, very impressive. I agree 90%. 2 Likes 
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| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by nauto: 12:47am On Nov 23, 2019 |
By not Testing |
| Re: How Do We Test True Love? by zcee: 1:15am On Nov 23, 2019 |
I no say I poor,but big amount we go enter like D's ehh,I go do like say I no get make u no dey confuse wen girls dey like u..boy na low key things oo,no dey show ur sf ooo...girls fit chop ur destiny!! 1 Like |
