czarr:
can't wait to catch my gf cheating, I know she a hoe just don't have evidence yet. I miss being single, back to the topic "hoes are never loyal "

haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.
Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.
So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.
I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.
I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.
He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.
That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

the way you broke up with her wasn't the best way, i can assure you psychological/emotionally you will not be ok, you should have confronted her in the present of that guy, i once broke up with a girl like, i was not ok for sometime.. You should told that guy the kind of lady she is or something. Now your family members who know about your relationship with her will think you were not probably serious with her with the way you left, to seek sane mental health, we must sort things out by communication instead of just walking away.... I wish you peace of mind and a better partner.. Don't give up on relationship

Olanre05:


She is only trying to get the guys attention with her WhatsApp status. The poster himself should give her a benefit of doubt by listening to her and then move on from there....

I would have said 'Thunder fire you there'

But I don't like insulting people online.

Olanre05:


Come and change my outlook ooooo pls.... [color=#000099][/color]

Distance between you and common sense

clive2u:
employ her as your marketer simple.

With benefit or without benefit pls

midnighter:


Yes, he should be willing to listen to her and not conclude too hastily. Anything could happen.

I just disagree with the whatsapp stuff...she should explain herself in person if she's serious.

Up until the time he blocked her, she couldn't even open a chat to explain. All she knew how to do was write rubbish status update smh

So far, your wisdom has proven to be trash. Enlighten @Daviddson about your famous Ethiopian-Fulani theory let's see what he say.

Cut the Crap ... Cheating is in her dna

Olanre05:


I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

Olanre05:


With benefit or without benefit pls

that's their decision but for me I'll use her as marketer, when her guys wants to buy her shoes she brings them to me.

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midnighter:


Listening to her? How would he listen to her when she hasn't said anythingBabe, digest it..

Your relationship that was about to lead to marriage is crashing and all you can do is try to indirectly bait your boyfriend with immature musings about suicide so that he will forget what happened and come running back to save you.

She has his number, she knows his house, she knows where to find him ... if there's any misunderstanding whats so difficult about going there and clearing it so that your husband-to-be won't have the wrong idea

She is just being manipulative. That's what people do when they're trying to force your hand without admitting their own error.

Attention indeed...spits...

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EasternPrince:



So far, your wisdom has proven to be trash. Enlighten @Daviddson about your famous Ethiopian-Fulani theory let's see what he say.

That's actually a mature way to go about it, if she wants to clear the air, at least she would go to the guy, if she was indeed serious about the relationship. Unless she indeed didn't want to get married to that guy. Some girls can just coast along till they mess up.

midnighter:


Listening to her? How would he listen to her when she hasn't said anythingBabe, digest it..

Your relationship that was about to lead to marriage is crashing and all you can do is try to indirectly bait your boyfriend with immature musings about suicide so that he will forget what happened and come running back to save you.

She has his number, she knows his house, she knows where to find him ... if there's any misunderstanding whats so difficult about going there and clearing it so that your husband-to-be won't have the wrong idea

She is just being manipulative. That's what people do when they're trying to force your hand without admitting their own error.

Attention indeed...spits...

Well said.

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I would have said 'Thunder fire you there'

But I don't like insulting people online. [/quote

Pls get it straight, I'm not saying the guy should continue the relationship with her, I am only saying the guy should hear her out and then follow his intuition from here...

Since you don't like insulting people online...

Biingoo:
Distance between you and common sense

You are very quick to send insults. Did you at anytime see the emoji... You need to take a chill pill pls...

Depressed101:
the way you broke up with her wasn't the best way, i can assure you psychological/emotionally you will not be ok, you should have confronted her in the present of that guy, i once broke up with a girl like, i was not ok for sometime.. You should told that guy the kind of lady she is or something. Now your family members who know about your relationship with her will think you were not probably serious with her with the way you left, to seek sane mental health, we must sort things out by communication instead of just walking away.... I wish you peace of mind and a better partner.. Don't give up on relationship

She is not worth the trouble.

Olanre05:



You are very quick to send insults. Did you at anytime see the emoji... You need to take a chill pill pls...

I saw your other comments too. Sense is indeed far from you

[quote author=midnighter post=84345988]

Listening to her? How would he listen to her when she hasn't said anythingBabe, digest it..

Your relationship that was about to lead to marriage is crashing and all you can do is try to indirectly bait your boyfriend with immature musings about suicide so that he will forget what happened and come running back to save you.

She has his number, she knows his house, she knows where to find him ... if there's any misunderstanding whats so difficult about going there and clearing it so that your husband-to-be won't have the wrong idea

She is just being manipulative. That's what people do when they're trying to force your hand without admitting their own error.

Attention indeed...spits...[/quo

Babe me I understand you very well oooo. But I need you to know that silence kills. The guy will be emotionally unstable. They should see talk about it and everyone goes there different ways. And the guy should report the case to his own FAM and the ladies too so that nobody sees him as irresponsible and somebody who doesn't know what he wants.

Olanre05:


I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

see them na them.
what might be the thing after all you're also a lady all of you always have the same problems.

Biingoo:
I saw your other comments too. Sense is indeed far from you

Since you are more sensible I need you to please come and school me with your profound Sense of humor. Thank you

pryme:


She is not worth the trouble.

not her, but you, you would have felt better, no doubt. Forget what everyone is telling you.

[quote author=Olanre05 post=84346688][/quote] you gat a point.

Respect55:
I'm not bothered about her. Let her conscience eat at her.
Funng beings. She just updated her whatsapp status to "Someone should talk to me before I commit suicide." I just viewed it and blocked her immediately

another heart broken but it would never break again. With time you'll feel alright; let's say 3 to 6 months if you could avoid seeing anything about her, such as her photos. I know how you're feeling right now, those nightmares and midnight thoughts about the guy digging her at that moment

[quote author=Olanre05 post=84346688][/quote] at last someone with sense, I've been in op's shoe before, it is grossly immature to walk away from a relationship without talking/venting your anger through. How can you be ok.

Wether or not op likes it, dieing in silence is what will happen to him, he wrote somewhere that he will not try another relationship until he is ready for marriage.. Unknowing to him, he is indirectly punishing himself (an evidence that he is dieing silently).

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.
Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.
So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.
I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.
I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.
He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.
That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

Bro I know it hurts but .. just be fucking her when she comes back to apologise.. u will be happy when u Bleep the hell out of her .. and keep her as a friend .. when u r ready to marry .. select the best girl so far ..

Olanre05:
Babe me I understand you very well oooo. But I need you to know that silence kills. The guy will be emotionally unstable. They should see talk about it and everyone goes there different ways. And the guy should report the case to his own FAM and the ladies too so that nobody sees him as irresponsible and somebody who doesn't know what he wants.

Yes, they can arrange a time to meet and thrash the issue out later down the line so that they will both get their stories straight and get some closure.

What I am disagreeing with here is the notion that the OP should indulge her childish antics and bow down to her cheap manipulations. She is the one who should to do the running here and not him.

Why is she writing rubbish on whatsapp instead of going to meet her husband Is he a monster that she can't go to his house or has she suddenly been struck dumb that she can't call him?

If she wants to get a message across to him she should behave like an adult and explain what happened, and not resort to cheap emotional blackmail and subliminal messages on whatsapp.

You guys are acting like she made so much effort and went through so many channels to communicate with him but he's not listening, which is not the case

Olanre05:


I like your healing process and the way you handled it with utmost maturity. Here is my take on the issue, there are two sides to a coin, you must have given her heaven and earth, make her better off what she used to look like and the likes,and there is one thing you ain't doing right which she might have spoken to you about severally and you ain't changing. Which she is getting from the other guy aside from the materialistic and monetary aspect of it...

This is the most îdiotic comment on this thread and it just had to come from a lady. Unbelievable. You are actually justifying the actions of the sneaky, cheating girlfriend. Why am I not surprised

Respect55:

Thanks very much for your concern. I have never been a relationship type. I went to uni and came out without any relationship wahala. It was after service I chose to give it a try. My greatest mistake. Stay single till u are ready for marriage a d just pick one. U will never ever regret it

this is going to be another bigger mistake because you won't get to know much about her and marriage heartbreak is the worst, just pray for grace in whatever you do bro.

Respect55:

I have joined u

You were doing marriage b4 now, you wanted to take her to the church council

Techcrunchng:
this is going to be another bigger mistake because you won't get to know much about her and marriage heartbreak is the worst, just pray for grace in whatever you do bro.

exactly bro

Respect55:
This life is just a small place. You will think you are sharp but when the time is come, your sin will surely find you out.
Some weeks back, a guy saw my wares online and came around to pick some footwears since we are in same city. He kept on talking on phone with a particular girl (my girl) about the type of shoe she likes. Remember I just gave her a new pair when she requested for one. Not even up to a month.
So this guy selected 3 pairs of shoes - two males shoes and one female own. He just told me to packet them that he would call me when money comes in. Fast-forward to today, he called in the afternoon and gave me a location to bring the shoe that he went out with his girl and will be traveling in the morning.
I dressed up, picked up the shoes at the shop and dashed to the location only to meet him with my girlfriend.
I just pretended like nothing happened, passed the shoes to him. She was shocked to the marrow but the guy never noticed. He asked her to wear the shoe so as to see how it suits but she just told him that he shouldn't bother that it's OK.
He paid me and as I was about leaving, he called me back and introduced me to his girl. I told her my name like we just met and left.
That's just it. I'm out for good. I'm free

I know you died inside you,but you're d winner here getting to know her more...

Respect55, well done. You have performed a feat to remain composed in the face of such betrayal. Bravo.

By now, you must have realised that the way you respected her body is definitely not how that guy “respects” her body. She is most probably sexually active with him.

This is why “No sex” relationships are hard to come by or uphold, these days. One party must break the agreement sha. Sad.

See, the heartbreak is still fresh. It is about to get more intense. It appears you are someone who internalises his pain. In light of this, get ready to endure the hurt. Some days, you would just pause from work and stare out the window thinking of different scenarios, trying to see what you missed and what you might have done differently. Normal levels.

You are a logical person and you have your own principles. You know you cannot let such a person return into your life.

You will be fine.

Depressed101:
not her, but you, you would have felt better, no doubt. Forget what everyone is telling you.

You are talking about closure, in this case it's not necessary.

They both looked each other in the eye, and both know what is coming next, that's why the girl was in shock, followed by that cryptic message on the girl's whatsapp dp.
The girl knew it's over, any other thing that will make the Op contact the girl will be for make up, unless you only want the Op to go meet her and state the obvious.