One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

Can a leopard change it's spots

Op. That lady isn't meant for you. The two of you aren't in perfect synch. You cannot control or tame her.

My guy, the truth of the matter is that any lady that won't respect you as a boyfriend will never respect you as a husband. Don't worry about her attitude, but worry about your future cos attitude is more important in a woman than beauty, a woman with bad attitude can never change even if you marry her later unless God touches her heart,.
You are even lucky that she showed you her true character, some ladies can cloak their character that when you later marry them, they will show you shege.... So my advice is that you run away from them... Cos they will never change

NO=NO. She will even kill you after marriage .

If you go ahead with she will kill you, your mother, your children


She's a DAMAGED person

Not possible.
0.0000099% probability.

She has the capacity to murder you in your sleep by cutting off your manhood.

If that’s not enough to pass the message you’ve failed to give yourself, then I advise you to pay for your funeral first before marrying the fiery self conflicted feminist you’re involved with.

This op is high on mensuration....the girl don use am confused new nna. So sad....no, marry her she will change once you put the ring on it.

You want an honest opinion?

Break up, even if she changes today. In fact, especially if she changes. Such a change is transient by design. It cannot last.

This respect is really important to you, and it affects your mood. It is a deal breaker. So, dump her.

Stop dating feminists if you cannot stand them.

People learn from their past mistakes to better themselves. You should let her go but not without telling her why you're breaking up with her. That way, she can take lessons learnt from her failed relationship to improve herself in.the next one. It's never advisable to marry a person your parents(s) don't approve of

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to is to beat me

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid.

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with it. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect her if I marry her and I was like WFT!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

She will never change.

Ditch her as soon as you can if you want peace of mind in your marriage!

Red flags are already up and you can see them so I suggest you bail out now.

You can't change an adult who's already set in her ways!

Op the only advice I would give is dat a leopard can never change it spot nd remember u can take the gal out of a character but u can't take her character out of her

dominique:
People learn from their past mistakes to better themselves. You should let her go but not without telling her why you're breaking up with her. That way, she can take lessons learnt from her failed relationship to improve herself in.the next one. It's never advisable to marry a person your parents(s) don't approve of

Mama don talk.

What you can't change in relationship or courtship you can never change in marriage

Many People Will Only Change When The Learn The Hard way

It Seems You Are Stupidly In Love with A Devil... I Could Not Even Finish Reading What You Wrote Because she Is Too Toxic To Read About. You Know What To Do Dont Ask Me...

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

I have no pity for you. I have no pity for people who stupidly orchestrate their misery. If you don't know what to do, I cannot help you and nobody can. If your girlfriend can be like this and you haven't done the needful or don't know what you should do, then both of you deserve and belong to each other.
Stupidity is a curse that makes the stupid man potentially dangerous to himself and those around him. You are afflicted by this curse and the only cure is the singular act of fully using your brain. Start using your brain to think smart like an adult and get some boldness and spine. You are a weak and very stupid person.

Just like a girlfriend beating serial womanizer will not change, a disrespectful girlfriend will not change

End of story

People hardly change but yes she can pipe down. She can only pipe low for you when you show her you are the man. You will experience conflict during this period of trying to assert your authority. She will fight it but will finally succumb to you or she will run away from the relationship.
The only question is, is she worth that stress and headache? Is she worth keeping at all cost for you to experience strife during the power tussle? I will simply say you should let her go.

you wee just die before your time

Op she has everything no proper man wants in a woman. She is toxic, manipulative, abusive, domineering, disrespectful and not submissive. Whatever u going through now is child's play, in marriage it gets worse cos everything gets amplified. The only solution here is to walk away and never look back.

No long story, she's only going to get worse.

Unpussified:
Op she has everything no proper man wants in a woman. She is toxic, manipulative, abusive, domineering, disrespectful and not submissive. Whatever u going through now is child's play, in marriage it gets worse cos everything gets amplified. The only solution here is to walk away and never look back.

That's exactly my plan bro... Marriage is not a child's play and I don't want to end up as a frustrated man.. The frustration in this country alone is enough to give one concern talk more of adding that of a miserable wife to it

I know there are several other guys in the same dilemma with me and I hope lalasticlala can give this post a wider audience

Martinez39:
I have no pity for you. I have no pity for people who stupidly orchestrate their misery. If you don't know what to do, I cannot help you and nobody can. If all your girlfriend can be like this and you haven't done the needful or don't know what you should do, then both of you deserve and belong to each other.
Stupidity is a curse that makes the stupid man potentially dangerous to himself and those around him. You are afflicted by this curse and the only cure is the singular act of fully using your brain. Start using your brain to think smart like an adult and get some boldness and spine. You are a weak and very stupid person.

I'm not stupid man! The reason why I have stayed this long with her is that I don't know if the next person I will jump to would be worse, which I doubt

hmmm,after reading everything,well what can i say..
well op im in d same shiitt wit u,dis only happens when d girl is giving u different style in d closet.Your family will be complaining of her attitude,but d 48 styles shes giving u wont let u leave her...

burggerx:
I'm not stupid man! The reason why I have stayed this long with her is that I don't know if the next person I will jump to would be worse, which I doubt

only strong people that love being alone.

in this life if you are afraid to stay a long.

that makes you are weak.

and you will be taken advantage off

because you don't know your value

that is why she knows you are a man without options,so she treat you as bad as she want because she knows you don't have the courage to live without her..

you many think you love her

but love is never eoungh to keep two people together.

you need character

so stop acting like a pussy Niger

People don't change, they only rearrange, the more things change, the more they remain the same.

Regardless of the circumstances, you two don't seem compatible for each other. Moreover, I'm always suspect of a person who feels more than comfortable framing their partner as the perpetrator and themselves as the victim. OP, I highly doubt you're 100% blameless in this. Even the terminology you use toward your girlfriend is suspect.

burggerx:
One thing that scares the hell out of me about my girlfriend is her attitude. When you talk about a disrespectful and unsubmissive lady, my girlfriend is the headquarters of all the disrespectful and unsubmissive ladies I've ever met. Even if she does something good, I don't tend to notice it because her bad attitude has already overshadowed the good side of her

Even if she acts respectful to me, it's so obvious she's only forcing it since it's a trait she lacks. Just when a little brawl ensues, curses and abusive words are usually not far-fetched from her mouth. She has even insulted my family before during a heated argument. The only thing my girlfriend is yet to do is to beat me up

I believe they say respect is earned but I've done everything a man should do to earn respect from his lady yet this lady talks to me like a kid. No sign of humility at all

My girlfriend is not only dominating but toxic and does not accept correction. She makes it look like giving authority as a man is slavery and she questions my authority every time. The annoying part is that she argues a lot and always wants to be right at all times. Feminism is written all over her to the extent that even in movies, my girlfriend will have the back of a woman who is unsubmissive and disrespectful to an innocent husband.

Although she acts like a respectful girlfriend in the presence of my family but my mom in question is smart enough to know that she's only faking it despite trying all my best to portray my girlfriend as someone that gives me joy in the face of my mom

Before my mom traveled to the UK in September, she sat me down up to three times and advised me to let go of this girl if I really want to spend the rest of life with peace of mind and that if I insist on marrying her, she doesn't have a choice than to respect my decision but she will remind me of her advice which I didn't yield to if I eventually end up as a frustrated man in the future

I've tried to terminate the relationship but she cries and makes the whole thing look like I don't love her and that if I do, I should be able to cope with her flaws. There was even a time she told me she doesn't have a choice than to respect me if I marry her and I was like WTF!

I have decided to call the relationship a quit once and for all since I'm not in for any future drama. I don't want to end up with a woman that will be rude and disrespect me in the face of my own children.

But there's one question I want to ask is that, can a ride girlfriend ever change after marriage? Is it worth taking the risk that she will change with time?

...don't do sth..that will leave in perpetual regrets
2.keeping on playing with fire.. Ur eye go soon open...
Luv is blind marriage is d opener that will open ur blind eyes....

Nope NEVER! It will only get worse .. when she marries you her demons will be unleashed 100%