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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by mysticgal(f): 9:56am On May 31, 2019
Cannicus:


Me too.

When should I bring wine?


lol grin

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Bossjakande: 10:32am On May 31, 2019
Cannicus:

Me too.
When should I bring wine?
once u see a girl u begin to think wit ur dick
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by tiredNigerian(m): 11:05am On May 31, 2019
You are not alone, don't let anybody guilt trip you, I don't want kids too. I've never wanted them. People often misconstrue not wanting kids as hatred for them but it's not always true, I have nieces and nephews I adore, so it's not mutually exclusive.

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Cannicus: 11:51am On May 31, 2019
Bossjakande:
once u see a girl u begin to think wit ur dick

Is it your pencil dick I'm using undecided ?

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by folake4u(f): 4:04pm On May 31, 2019
mysticgal:


shey I wrote it and nairaland wants to crucify me.

they are beautiful but I would pass kiss


grin grin grin. Lol.

Can I send you a PM?
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by folake4u(f): 4:05pm On May 31, 2019
Cannicus:

Me too.
When should I bring wine?

You're not welcome cheesy
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Cannicus: 5:46pm On May 31, 2019
folake4u:



You're not welcome cheesy

tongue
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by mysticgal(f): 7:10pm On May 31, 2019
folake4u:



grin grin grin. Lol.

Can I send you a PM?

yes love, why not cheesy
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by folake4u(f): 11:06pm On May 31, 2019
mysticgal:

yes love, why not cheesy
Ok thank you ma.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by folake4u(f): 9:32pm On Jun 01, 2019
Hi mysticgal Happy new month.
I sent you a PM smiley
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 10:19pm On Jun 01, 2019
OP please ignore these ignoramuses. There are lots of fertile, healthy women that do not want kids. i have met a couple who are happily married but dont want kids. you life is in your hands and anything you need is achievable.

Unfortunately tho, most of the women i meet who dont want kids are gay. there is something about being gay that makes you more open minded and ready to shiiiite on society and its norms.

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 10:24pm On Jun 01, 2019
blissgregory:
D probability of finding one is zero.it will only be possible wit a single mom
Don't ever say zero. I know lots of girls who don't want children. All of my female friends don't even wanna get married talk more of kids, some think adoption is better others don't want at all. That you haven't met any doesn't mean it doesn't exist. PS they are young single women.

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 10:32pm On Jun 01, 2019
Deir life,deir bizness
HannahHitler:
Don't ever say zero. I know lots of girls who don't want children. All of my female friends don't even wanna get married talk more of kids, some think adoption is better others don't want at all. That you haven't met any doesn't mean it doesn't exist. PS they are young single women.

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Femi316: 11:30pm On Jun 01, 2019
Contumely:
This is weird. It's strange and outside the societal norms.

But then, I have yet to see compelling reasons why I should have kids especially in this sinful world, nay Nigeria.

The most prominent reason I hear is

"I want someone to bear my name"

This reason to me is asinine.

I mean, what's my business with people bearing my name?
Will it matter upon my demise? Of what benefit or use is that if I die?

I feel If I care so much about immortalizing my name then starting a company like Toyota, Toshiba etc should do that. Or maybe writing books : Achebe, Robert Green etc.. Or establishing a school, hospital etc.


Another reason is "Who will take care of you in old age?"

I feel like this shouldn't be an issue if there is some money somewhere that one could rely on. Money answers all things you know!



I just feel like I need a woman whom I would love, cherish her as my companion, travel the world with her and of course have seex and share our lives together.


I love women. But don't feel like I want kids. Could it be that I feel I may be unable to sacrifice a lot for them?

Or could it because I feel the world is evil with so much pain hence no need bringing kids into the world.


It seems I am an antinatalist you know.


Firstly, What do you think about this?

Secondly, How do I find a woman that has same views?

Cheers!



You want a wife, you no want kids......nie be you get head but you no get sense.....?

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Tedpgrass: 11:00am On Jun 02, 2019
Intwesting
Intwesting..

Like to read more opinions


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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Jollof123: 1:46pm On Jun 02, 2019
Logobenz:
We are the same bro.i cannot sacrifice my happiness to make anyone's future better,hence I think I don't want them.
God those little things are work!can't deal.

cheesy cheesy cheesy you just want to ride fast and furious
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Jollof123: 1:52pm On Jun 02, 2019
HannahHitler:
OP please ignore these ignoramuses. There are lots of fertile, healthy women that do not want kids. i have met a couple who are happily married but dont want kids. you life is in your hands and anything you need is achievable.

Unfortunately tho, most of the women i meet who dont want kids are gay. there is something about being gay that makes you more open minded and ready to shiiiite on society and its norms.

As I read. I suspects that you a lesbian then I checked your profile and confirmed am right.

Your life your choice.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Contumely: 9:34pm On Jun 03, 2019
Femi316:
You want a wife, you no want kids......nie be you get head but you no get sense.....?
No confab with dolts.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Amanda4life: 10:24am On Jun 04, 2019
There might be some medical condition behind this.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Amanda4life: 10:29am On Jun 04, 2019
Pls dont abuse him or her there might be a medica condition behind this.

A girl or a lady who's womb has been remove may want marriage without kids.

A man who is impotent may want marriage without kids.

He or she may give flimsy excuse like " taking care of kids is much work bla bla bla
But not true

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Contumely: 7:25am On Jun 05, 2019
Amanda4life:
Pls dont abuse him or her there might be a medica condition behind this.

A girl or a lady who's womb has been remove may want marriage without kids.

A man who is impotent may want marriage without kids.

He or she may give flimsy excuse like " taking care of kids is much work bla bla bla
But not true



Nne not a medical ish.

I expected valid reasons to convince me otherwise.

There are few antinatalists just like there are a few atheists despite the vast majority being the opposite.


Do those atheists have medical conditions?


Hitler never had a child and was only married for 40 hours despite his status.

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Femi316: 8:10am On Jun 07, 2019
Contumely:

No confab with dolts.
Get sense no be cause but na advice......?
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Contumely: 7:10pm On Oct 30, 2019
Canicus:

Me too.
When should I bring wine?
See this one.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 8:09pm On Oct 30, 2019
Contumely:
This is weird. It's strange and outside the societal norms.






I just feel like I need a woman whom I would love, cherish her as my companion, travel the world with her and of course have seex and share our lives together.


I love women. But don't feel like I want kids. Could it be that I feel I may be unable to sacrifice a lot for them?

Or could it because I feel the world is evil with so much pain hence no need bringing kids into the world.


It seems I am an antinatalist you know.


Firstly, What do you think about this?





I have the same view as you. I have had the same view since age 10. I don't just want kids but I want a wife that I would travel the world with and do other fun Stuffs with.

I am happy to know that I am not alone lol

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by LordAdam16: 12:45am On Oct 31, 2019
Contumely:


Nne not a medical ish.

I expected valid reasons to convince me otherwise.

There are few antinatalists just like there are a few atheists despite the vast majority being the opposite.


Do those atheists have medical conditions?


Hitler never had a child and was only married for 40 hours despite his status.

I really do think its thoughtful of you to welcome critiques of a deeply held conviction you have. If only most people were as open-minded to contrasting viewpoints, hey!

That said, before you go about entertaining alternate explanations and thought processes, you should note certain peculiarities. And this goes for most contrarians--whether it's no kids, not getting married, not religious, and basically anything that's opposed to the norms of the contemporary society you live in.

Here we go:

Most people hold convictions for 3 primary reasons:
1. They feel good about it
2. The alternative(s) makes them feel uncomfortable
3. External pressure--it could be anything from peer pressure to society to whatever someone who has measurable influence on you subscribes to

And then they make up reasons to justify their innate inclinations, prejudices, or bias. Expectedly, some reasons are more understandable than others.

For instance, take natalism. You're firmly on the anti side of the fence. And I'd admit, there are plenty of good reasons to be on either camps or to even sit in the middle. I mean, we have 8 billion human beings already, a population problem, and too much crap to last several lifetimes. China enacted a strict one-child policy (for a period) for a reason.

But here's the bottom line. Most people naturally want to have kids. As in, by default. All of the 'for old age,' 'because they're cute,' to carry on the family name,' 'they're gifts of god,' are a bunch of unbridled BS! They want to have kids like they want to have a social life. It's innate and biological. That's how they're wired.

There's a good explanation for this. From an evolutionary point of view, if the majority of human population didn't have that obsessive compulsion to "go out and multiply," we most likely would have gone extinct. And if anti-natalists ever became a majority, governments around the world would freak out, and our species could be royally f*cked.

The average human wants to have kids since they are kids, even going as far as coming up with kid names long before they know how to raise a baby. So when a person goes, I don't want kids; the immediate reaction is "WTF?!" How can you not want kids? Are you normal? You've gotten a lot of that already...on this thread. Nothing intellectual, just primal, animalistic bewilderment that something so deeply-rooted in their psyche is up for debate in someone else's head.

In these instances, you should go Luke 23:34.

Then of course, there are those who are indifferent to this whole babies' schtick. And for whom pressure from family, society, and other sources--as virtually every contrarian can testify--can be so compelling that they lean towards; okay I'd get a couple.

Apply this to whatever contrarian conviction you have and you'd be better able to cast conformity to the deepest recesses of your mind. Also, you'd become less idealistic.

-Lord

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Contumely: 4:05pm On Nov 30, 2019
olu michaels
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by melody91: 4:16pm On Nov 30, 2019
HannahHitler:
Don't ever say zero. I know lots of girls who don't want children. All of my female friends don't even wanna get married talk more of kids, some think adoption is better others don't want at all. That you haven't met any doesn't mean it doesn't exist. PS they are young single women.
your unfortunate lesbian partners!

@ Op , na been broke dey worry your mindset ...chill till u get some change, then come back here to drop those lines,....I will take you serious
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 4:19pm On Nov 30, 2019
MVPtesley:
I hate kids with passion... they make u go apprehensive, they give u headache and heartache and body pains... u try to get some sleep and the thing will be crying in the middle of the night when sleep dey sweet.


no be me... to born for Naija no follow.
children could even be a curse... u ll train and train and train and some will still choose to be touts and olosho, some will be like etinosa that smokes wildly and uses the holy bible as ash tray.
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by melody91: 4:21pm On Nov 30, 2019
MVPtesley:
children could even be a curse... u ll train and train and train and some will still choose to be touts and olosho, some will be like etinosa that smokes wildly and uses the holy bible as ash tray.
I guess you turned out a curse to your parents....

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Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 4:47pm On Nov 30, 2019
melody91:
I guess you turned out a curse to your parents....

Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by melody91: 4:57pm On Nov 30, 2019
[quote author=MVPtesley post=84503410][/quote] grin I pity your parents...cursed child
Re: I Want A Wife But I Don't Want Kids. by Nobody: 5:06pm On Nov 30, 2019
melody91:
grin I pity your parents...cursed child

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