So... It's high time you get settled (settle down), everyone plus you know that you are off age and you can't get any younger for sure. Family members are anticipating your I.V and boom! Your friends keep asking you "is that the right one?", And now you're thinking you've had enough of all this "single" title and you're ready to swap the title for "married", anyways it's not bad to think marriage, neither is it also bad to choose to remain single till it all works out too.

Today we would be running through the wrong reasons why people get married, which in turn gets the marriage too hot to handle.

Before I continue on this, I would love to say a word I once heard from Pastor Sam Oluwatoye; "Before you settle down, make sure you've settled up". As meaningful or meaningless as it may sound depending on your view, this little saying goes alot in explaining maturity before marriage, personal stability and marital attributes to possess before thinking marriage.

Ok... Back to our subject of the day.

Are there reasons why we end up in the wrong marriages or why we make wrong marriage choices? Yes! There are more than enough reasons why we get married. This wrong choices has often led to divorce, marital abuse, and so many things which unknowingly to us has also left a negative or will rather leave a negative impact on the children.

Little did I myself know that wrong choices are quite different from wrong reasons, but we're not treating wrong choices today, our main focus is on the wrong reasons why we get married. Identifying this reasons hasn't been easy though but through constant experience shared from relationship experts, victims and victors this masterpiece (like I always say) has the perfect answers to this unsolved or not-fully-solved puzzles.

Marriage is beyond love. Ever heard of this (marriage is beyond love)? Well just in case you haven't, you have heard it now... And you will get to find out why.

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Big bum bum.

SafetyFirst:
Big bum bum.

sounds crazy but true though...

That's under the "appearance"

SafetyFirst:
Big bum bum.

big butt, good hips and thick thighs. I will marry the ho.

CAPSLOCKED:


LOOOL.
I CAN'T FIND GOOD CHARACTER OR INDEPENDENCE ON YOUR LIST....

two of my least fav traits bro.

I love dependent ladies.

ubunja:
two of my least fav traits bro.
I love dependent ladies.

AT LEAST, SOME OF THEM COME WITH LESS TROUBLES.

ubunja:
big butt, good hips and thick thighs. I will marry the ho.

the next step is turning the ho,into and house wife

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ubunja:
big butt, good hips and thick thighs. I will marry the ho.

All these are personal desires. But, they're not enough reasons to get married.

skylegend:



the next step is turning the ho,into and house wife

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And finally start biting your tongue.....

Discuss247:


All these are personal desires. But, they're not enough reasons to get married.

speak for yourself.

Paul says if passion is burning you then marry. That's personal desire. Dont talk what you don't know.

Well said

skylegend:



the next step is turning the ho,into and house wife

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Hmm where do I start from?

People rush into marriage because of:

Peer pressure
Societal norm
Survival tactic
Parental issues
Joblessness
Lack of self responsibility
Sexual market value declination
Lack of financial independence
Desperation
Lack of self confidence
Unable to embrace aloneness
Immaturity
Not understanding everyone has a different pat
Retirement plan
Last option
Family, status quo elevation
Lazyness mostly for Gold diggers
Etc .

Recently I know an unemployed girl who did introduction after 3 months of dating and as usual I told her. She is rushing it and as they say you rush in, you rush out. However her reponse was the typical female reply - don't you.want me to be happy.

I kept quiet, because I know you must find personal or self happiness alone . And once you.don't have it, you can't find it in marriage. You are carrying your emotional trauma and baggage into another persons life.

What do I know self. Hmm Time will tell.

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