I'll go straight to the point, I met this girl exactly 3 years ago and we've been dating since then. It's more of a distant one since she was a student at that time. I live and work in PH so she comes visiting once a month or in two weeks depending. She's done with school now and we plan on getting married March next year.

Now the problem is I have a very long sex season, as funny as it sounds it's ruining my sex life and relationships! The girlfriend I had before her couldn't put up with it and we broke up. A typical season could last a least 40min to 2 hours ( in between breaks), it's not been easy for her as she usually complain of the length so we had to cut down sex. Because she was in school then, it was a once in a while thing but now she's staying with me for the holiday I can see the danger ahead. A week ago I wanted to initiate it but she complained she's still in pains from the one of 2 days ago, I tried to get her in the mood and I succeeded but 15mins down I was tired of the complains and just ended it, took my bath and angrily left for work. When I got home I decided to discuss it with her to find out what we can do, she said it hurts and she's hardly in the mood. I know when she's in the mood and that's like 3 or 4 days in a month! I told her we can't have sex once or twice a week, that can't work for me. We're not even married not to mention when we have kids, it doesn't use to be this way in our first year or second. I told her to let me know if she's tired of the relationship I don't mind, I can move on and let her be with who she likes. She's not even making attempts to find a solution and thinks it's entirely my problem. But maybe it is since she said if I just last 5min to highest 20min she will enjoy sex better. Ave always been this way and I can't find any solutions anyway. If anyone has any ideas please let me know, I don't enjoy the long seasons please, my marriage will be greatly affected and I don't want to cheat around cause that's BS in my opinion.

This is serious. Well let's wait for the elders in council.

BTW, I'm FTC.. Enjoy the yuletide season fellas.

Sex doesn't suppose to last more than 8 minutes, if it exceeds that then it means you want to kill someone's daughter..

It’s not by how long you last, but by how you use your ‘weapon’. A guy can last for 5 mins with great skills and the girl will be satisfied but another guy can last for an hour with no skill, thereby making it boring for the girl.
The girls are not tired coz of your long sex drive, rather, cos of your ability to reach the G spot. You keep drilling without skills. Learn to utilize your ‘blessing’(long sex drive).

Sex is meant to be enjoyed by the participants.

Rextizzy:
Sex doesn't suppose to last more than 8 minutes, if it exceeds that then it means you want to kill someone's daughter..

Seriously, you need Omo Osun herbal cleanser in your system.

better adjust or find someone who match you. once or twice a week is not bad na. too much sex kills relationship abi you wan finish the flavour for the relationship? me and babe even have to set rule even though both of us knows its not what we want but at least just for discipline sake.

Davash222:

Seriously, you need Omo Osun herbal cleanser in your system.

You guys make sex looks like a marathon race, even IndecentStar don't sex for 1 hours, don't let anyone deceive you..

Rextizzy:
You guys make sex looks like a marathon race, even IndecentStar don't sex for 1 hours, don't let anyone deceive you..

Speak for yourself!!

Please what do I have to do to cut down the time? I'm not interested staying too long, I have things to do!

ardiva:
Please what do I have to do to cut down the time? I'm not interested staying too long, I have things to do!

No you don't . How many minutes is a full match?

In 90mins that Ronaldo will score hat-trick and get paid GOOD MONEY- you are there thrusting for 40mins to 2hrs.

Oya, change position. Try cowgirl with boobs in your mouth. 2seconds everything will burst. In fact, find German machine like you.

Too bad that you do not even know that the problem is from you. That's an abnormality, drop it. Even if sex should last 40mins it should be once in a while, not a permanent thing. Kill the habit. You are not married yet, but the rate you demand sex like it's already your right.

Through your dating experiences, you may have found someone (nymphomaniac) who can manage such a situation, then stick to that person, or marry your present girl, and pay the price of sexual incompatibility, we can't have it all in life.

Buy lube and stop injuring the poor girl.

Make sure you keep pouring lube at intervals to keep everything smooth and save your girl pain from friction

Everyone blaming me, did I say I'm happy or okay with it? I solutions if you have any please let me know.

NGRsenate:
Buy lube and stop injuring the poor girl.

Make sure you keep pouring lube at intervals to keep everything smooth and save your girl pain from friction

We use a lub without that we can't even do anything.

a potential cheater

speak for yourself.

Rextizzy:
You guys make sex looks like a marathon race, even IndecentStar don't sex for 1 hours, don't let anyone deceive you..

ardiva:
We use a lub without that we can't even do anything.

Well then, you need to train yourself to cut down on your sex time, train yourself to cum quick infact.

40mins is unrealistic for a round of sex. 8-10mins max, more if you guys are sex crazed but never 40mins.

You are probably under-stimulated. watch porn, masturbate frequently. Do lots and lots of pre-intimacy.

Are you circumcised? If you’re not, I’d advise you to get circumcised.


Don’t listen to people telling you to sacrifice sex in your marriage. Lots of sex is good for married couples. You guys should fokk as much as you’re both comfortable with. However, it doesn’t mean you should spend 40mins pounding a woman. Even if you’re changing styles, a few minutes is okay.

NGRsenate:


Well then, you need to train yourself to cut down on your sex time, train yourself to cum quick infact.

40mins is unrealistic for a round of sex. 8-10mins max, more if you guys are sex crazed but never 40mins.

You are probably under-stimulated. watch porn, masturbate frequently. Do lots and lots of pre-intimacy.

Are you circumcised? If you’re not, I’d advise you to get circumcised.


Don’t listen to people telling you to sacrifice sex in your marriage. Lots of sex is good for married couples. You guys should fokk as much as you’re both comfortable with. However, it doesn’t mean you should spend 40mins pounding a woman. Even if you’re changing styles, a few minutes is okay.

Honestly I really appreciate your inputs, you made alot of sense and they are worth trying. Thanks a lot. I appreciate you brother.

pocohantas:


No you don't . How many minutes is a full match?

In 90mins that Ronaldo will score hat-trick and get paid GOOD MONEY- you are there thrusting for 40mins to 2hrs.

Oya, change position. Try cowgirl with boobs in your mouth. 2seconds everything will burst. In fact, find German machine like you.

One man's food is another man's poison

This is going to be a very interesting thread

But seriously it's obvious you don't do oral abi pre intimacy, you just go in fiam, that's why she complains of injuries, try and make her dripping wet very well before going in abeg, or get someone else with the same sex drive like yours.

ardiva:
Honestly I really appreciate your inputs, you made alot of sense and they are worth trying. Thanks a lot. I appreciate you brother.

You’re welcome bro.

The tone of entitlement in this post just makes it so unbelievable.

Have you tried Calabar girl? I bet you will be the one to run... I am not joking o... Try them....

there is only one word to call you NYMPHO...

stop drinking OPAEnyi and all those Enhancement somtin... u no go hear

check your diet
get busier
be considerate more (no go kill person pikin) the world is not centred around you

He wants to kill her kpekus. On top the 40mins he’s saying 2-3 times a week isn’t enough.

Na government work na Dey between her legs?

You have to change. Keep up with her pace , whenever she cums , you stop. Don’t mind if you haven’t satisfy yourself yet. If you keep up the routine maybe with time your body will adjust to hers.

It’s not going to be easy and you may not like it but what choice do you have? 40mins is too much for a daily tumble in the bed.

Try to see a sex therapist too.

Honestly, my advice is.....



Una nor dey tire for this Nairaland advice sef

Ogbeni, you know where it pinches you, if you can't bear the brunt, waka pass abeg and stop disturbing us.

I've read like 10 relationship threads today. Gosh!

NGRsenate:


Well then, you need to train yourself to cut down on your sex time, train yourself to cum quick infact.

40mins is unrealistic for a round of sex. 8-10mins max, more if you guys are sex crazed but never 40mins.

You are probably under-stimulated. watch porn, masturbate frequently. Do lots and lots of pre-intimacy.

Are you circumcised? If you’re not, I’d advise you to get circumcised.


Don’t listen to people telling you to sacrifice sex in your marriage. Lots of sex is good for married couples. You guys should fokk as much as you’re both comfortable with. However, it doesn’t mean you should spend 40mins pounding a woman. Even if you’re changing styles, a few minutes is okay.

This is your advice?
40mins is too much?
*sighs*

I won't say anything again o

This nonsense must not follow you enter 2020 Drilling someone's daughter as if you are looking for crude oil

Can you guys spend more time on other forms of sex, other than penetration sex?

You can cum by her giving you a handjob with good lubes, the bj....Just condition yourself and set some days and tell her, no penetration today, let’s explore other forms of sex for today session. I think, she will begin to like it.

Finally, allow her to take the lead; listen or follow her body and vibal cues; also when you do penetration sex, you don’t have to continue with that until you cum, if she is tired; you can ask her to finish with handjob or Mouth Gig or you can even finish yourself up with her encouraging you with sexual stimulations.

pocohantas:


No you don't . How many minutes is a full match?

In 90mins that Ronaldo will score hat-trick and get paid GOOD MONEY- you are there thrusting for 40mins to 2hrs.

Oya, change position. Try cowgirl with boobs in your mouth. 2seconds everything will burst. In fact, find German machine like you.

Wizkid song came to my mind

But seriously your comment always out of the world