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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by IyaTola: 11:04am On Dec 10, 2019 |
Amen. sisisioge: 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by MumNatasha11: 3:27pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
Having a child out of wedlock was never my plan, in all I don't regret keeping my daughter. During my youth service, one of my course mate in school who was asking me out then and I never gave in to his advances, charted me up on Facebook, we started talking, as weeks passed, months passed I fell in love with him, thou he wasn't in the country then. Everything was moving on smoothly and happily until he finally came home December 2015. I had to travel to umuahia, Abia state to stay with him, after some days he proposed to me and I accepted the ring because i loved him so very much, We started making plans on meeting his mum because his dad was late, each time we fix a date to go and see his mum ,she comes up with one excuse or the pretending to be ill. After several attempt to introduce me to his mum, none was successful, she neither wanted to see me nor speak with me on phone, he then decided to carry on with the plan without his mum. After visiting my parents with his elder brother and friends for introduction, he later collected the marriage list, before then I started having symptoms of pregnancy, I told him about it, we thought that with the pregnancy she will have no reason to say no. When he choose the date for the traditional marriage, one night I was talking with my mum my supposed mother-in-law called me and said "you will only marry my son over my dead body" with the fear because I just lost my only sister that month, my mum told me that the marriage won't hold, she can't loose her only surviving child again. I told him about my mum's decision, he never acted like he was bothered about it, I felt he would have been influenced by his mum. After 3 months my parents learnt about my pregnancy, she never gave me a breathing space, I went through hell in that house because I was pregnant, I ran out of the house not knowing where exactly to go, with the little money I had with me I rented a room in port Harcourt, Rivers state. After delivery life became so hard that i had go around washing dishes and doing laundry for people with my daughter at my back, I saved money to rent a shop and start selling rubber slippers, when I couldn't renew my house rent I was sent packing out of the house, till date I have been sleeping inside my shop with my daughter, after several armed robbery attacks in the shop, thank God I wasn't raped, nor my daughter injured. I thank God I never gave in to the advice of some friends to abort the baby, she's my reason for living, I struggle and hustle in life is for her, I don't think I would give love a chance anytime soon. God bless all single mothers, the lord is our strength 41 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Resurgent2016: 4:16pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
One 'single mother' registered on NL just today to tell to tell her story......hope this thread hasn't been taken over by professional story tellers. The professional story tellers should please leave this one for the intended beneficiaries 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by culf: 4:47pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
SteveOfu: wao, but why giving up? in life, never say never 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by culf: 4:54pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
Enough respect to all single mothers out there. May God strengthen you all and put permanent smiles in your face 3 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by DESAN(f): 5:59pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
culf:Amen |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by DESAN(f): 6:39pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
I was 15 since in secondary school wen I met him, his parents never supported our relationship cos am Yoruba and his igbo. I got beaten up by my parent so many times cos each tym I visited him his parents will catch me away and come to my house to report. I got pregnant at17 wen I was about to write waec thank God I schooled in the north I was able to write my exams with pregnancy and his parents denied ever knowing me during the period. All these tym he didn't deny the pregnancy but wen asked if he will marry me his answer was always if God says yes. Three years later my parent decided to relocate to Lagos we both agreed to rent an apartment I gave him money but he spend it but kept showing me house without toliet facility knowing I won't accept. He finally left for school and I couldn't stay back in Jos cos he took all my life savings and I can't also stay in his family house cos his parent didn't accept me ND my child even after 3yrs . I had no choice but to travel to Lagos he then used my relocation as an excuse for breakup and he never paid his daughter's school fees . Am a graduate now and my dota is 21 a 300L computer science student at kwasu. I tot I had learnt my lessons and I feels my mistakes shouldn't stop me from loving again but guys always gave excuses like , I like u would have love to marry u but becos u have a child I can't cos of my family so I feel shld gave love any chance with a elder divorcee hmmmm the greatest mistake of my life . After waiting for so long thinking my wait was going to be celebration hmmmm it's been sadness for the past three years. I got to a point of depression but for the love of my kids I can't kill mysef. This man made me stop my banking job, I got pregnant had anoda gal, my brothers weren't allow to visit me , cos to him I might invited my bf to d house in pretence my elder brother came once he walk him out, my sisters he wanted to sleep with . No visitors are allowed to visit me, he chooses d tv station I will watch and the days I will sleep. He buys everything home so I can't step out of d house, I can't go to church cos pastor will toast me . It's was crazy he will lock up the house wen going out and I got physical abuse as well. I left him last year. Life has been so so difficult asam yet to find a job and I have two lovely daughters to take care. It's not been easy but I pray next year will be a better one for us. 24 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by loveliveshere: 7:21pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
SteveOfu: Jesus Are you for real? Like is this story real or fictional? 6 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Ginaz(f): 7:31pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
Oh my God, God bless all off you sharing your stories with us. Stories that touch the heart. 8 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Graxie(f): 7:34pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
DESAN:Hmmmm, I pray you will teach your daughters better. Be strong and look for anything to do. How you agreed to resign just to be married, I am feeling bad already. Once beaten, twice shy. I truly feel for your kids. 9 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 7:36pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
Tough times does not last but tough people do. My respect goes to you all. Many got to that point but wasn't strong and brave enough to follow through but I'm sure at a point they perhaps regretted dat cowardly action. 6 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Fountainofyouth(f): 7:55pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
MumNatasha11: I was actually feeling sad and flowing with your story, until I reached the last part, you actually jumped from one to fifty, I. E You were living with your parents when you MIL called, all of a sudden, she showed you hell, who? Is it your parents or MIL that refused to see or talk to you? You ran out of the house, what happen to going back to your parents? Why allow your child and you suffer unnecessarily by living in a shop when you have parents? What happen to Oga in the abroad? E don go back or e deny your child? And lastly, why did you register today, with this your post being the only comment you've made, then use a catching moniker to buttress the fact that you are a mama to a daughter? Well I'm not saying you're lying oooo...... burr......oh well..... the lord is your strength. 17 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Welcomme: 8:23pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
May God help you all. 13 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by culf: 10:55pm On Dec 10, 2019 |
DESAN: when one read articles like this, one have no option than to respect them, pray for them and support them. They are trying. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:22am On Dec 11, 2019 |
Bunch of fictitious story tellers. Lies everywhere. All these new and transgender monikers. Abeg, make una go rest! 6 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Blazing12345: 2:49am On Dec 11, 2019 |
Well, for me it just about man's inhumanity to man and I'm hoping God will see me through. Well,my problem now is how to sue him for all the demages he has caused me and also retrieved the other two kids from him.Getting a competent lawyer will cost good money,which I'm still working towards it This is my previous thread though about this https://www.nairaland.com/4974754/how-go CC PerfectMatchNG 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Nobody: 4:25am On Dec 11, 2019 |
All I read is LIES |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Resurgent2016: 6:22am On Dec 11, 2019 |
Welcomme: Very uncalled for and immature...this isn't romance section. You can pass your message with using derogatory words 13 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Efewestern: 7:02am On Dec 11, 2019 |
cerpvad: How many single fathers do we have? please give it to these beautiful women, they are trying. 4 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CaptainMitch: 7:11am On Dec 11, 2019 |
Lefulefu come see as transgender dey compose story to win free money 7 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cerpvad(m): 7:59am On Dec 11, 2019 |
Fairnes should not be determined by numbers. Efewestern: |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Fountainofyouth(f): 9:49am On Dec 11, 2019 |
cerpvad: Then create a thread for men nah, cos you seem pained, create a thread and monetise it so that it will be fair. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by SteveOfu: 10:32am On Dec 11, 2019 |
It's not easy. culf: |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Pojomojo: 2:00pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
GrabHisBalls: |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by culf: 3:28pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
SteveOfu: in life anything that will last don't usually come easy, its just to rely on GOD and keep pushing by trying your best. 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by kaziblake(f): 3:30pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Hmm Oh lord help me 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Katier00(f): 4:07pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Not here to win the money but to encourage every married woman that feels trap in the name of marriage. Most women stay in abusive marriage because of the children, it is indeed a noble thing to do but you can live above that. Single parenting is very difficult but achievable. You don't have to die or loose out your life. I left my abusive husband of 8 years to solely carter for my two children. 4 years later i am very glad I took that decision to live for myself and my boys. I have a job and giving love a chance again though taking my time. Single parenting is twice the trouble and twice the love. 22 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by NoToPile: 5:32pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Blazing12345: Jeez people can be wicked ooo. |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by thorpido(m): 5:36pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
This thread just makes me realise one has to pay attention to the girl child especially when she reaches the age of maturity.One has to have a good relationship and rapport with them and raise in discipline and love.Make God help person too. The average teenage girl in the words of one of the single mothers here is; IyaTola: Big ups to all the single mothers here.May God shine His face towards you. 12 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CHoccolaTE: 8:03pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Some people lack manners and common sense This thread could have been a great Avenue for people to learn from others life experience and make decisions for themselves Somebody even said he learnt that teenage girls need attention and hands on parenting which is a positive lesson to pick from this type of thread But alas the epidemic of women bashing in nairaland has ruined a good thread again. Even without monetary benefits a thread like this is valuable and those sharing stories should be welcomed and treated decently, and encouraged to hang in there for their kids, never neglect then for any relationship and so on, because they are survivors and it isn't easy for anyone to come forward and tell a story with such a sensitive topic. So many foolish people on this site I swear. To all those who shared stories, Iyatola Blazing12345 Mumnatasha11 Desan Steveofu Purpletee Hamachi Others, Sorry if I forgot to add you, May God give you strength to carry on and raise your kids, bless you with money and emotional stability and goodhealth, give your kids a very bright future to bring smiles to your faces in old age and as a reward for your hard work. Amen 25 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Alooone: 8:24pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Mine is more or less of betrayal and man's imminent wickedness... I got married to my husband in 2013 at the age of 22, then I was still in school... We ttcd for 2years before I gave birth to my daughter in 2015... In 2017 I got pregnant for my son and we packed into our new house (that's where all my problem started).... We had this neighbour that for no reason at all just hated me,...right from day one her complain about me has always been "u too dey pose".....its either you are posing with your husband or you are posing with your child or even your belle..... We nearly packed out because of them.... Shortly before I gave birth I had a dream in which I saw a cat enter into our bedroom and disappeared into my leg... The first attack happened 2weeks after I gave birth to my son then my mum came for omugwo... She was the one that took me to the hospital.... The doctor diagnosed "puperuim psychosis"...after then it has been one attack to the other... When it got to the extent that I have started talking to myself in public unknowingly... I had to run for my dear life... I packed a few of my belongings and RAN with my kids to my parent's house... Now you could ask where was my husband when all this was happening... My people instead of my husband to quench the fire he was busy adding petrol to it... He told whoever that cares to know how I was MAD... According to him he feels "deceived" and "cheated" as he feels my parents knew about my "sickness "before we got married but nobody told him about it. .. It turned to full physical and verbal abuse as he felt saddled with such a liability like me...everyday he reminded me how I was a "regret " to him and told my children how he was going to marry a new mother that will take care of them and was looking for every way possible to frustrate me out of the marriage , because He practically saw it as an "opportunity " I'm currently staying with my parents and my prayer every day is God should give me the heart to forgive my husband....but it's not easy... Someone we ttcd together and I went through a lot for... as for my neighbour am still praying for her, my God will fight for me... Sometimes I feel like going diabolical cos all these is unfair... I come from a Good,decent Catholic home and prayerful .....just payed for my daughter's school fees (she is an ace student) and saving for my Masters because when I remember all I have passed it further motivates me to aim higher.. Still love my husband though... Sometimes I'm filled with hate for him other times I love him... As for the psychosis ALL the symptoms are gone. Single motherhood is not what I will wish on my enemy... If you like let it be 500percent the man's fault there will always be a stigma associated with a divorcee.... .. 23 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cerpvad(m): 8:39pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Come and beat me Fountainofyouth: |
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