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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Arsenate(m): 9:18pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
A sea of tears on this thread. Just what women thrive on; victimhood. No sympathy from me though. I bet you ladies turned down a lot of good guys because they were boring, only to get burnt by sweet talking fuckerrrs. I also bet you will fall for the same kind of men if they show up in your lives again. Goes without saying, when you start taking a little responsibility for your dumb decisions in life, sane folks might probably sympathise with you. But for now, boo fuckkking hoo. 19 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Graxie(f): 10:38pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Alooone:It is well with you, we were told during antenatal that some women experience that after giving birth. Thank God you are alive and well. Please forgive all of them, that is where the main wholeness comes from. All the best sis. 3 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by loveliveshere: 11:06pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Arsenate: Bleep off dear, no one needs your opinion here. 24 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Fountainofyouth(f): 11:50pm On Dec 11, 2019 |
Arsenate: Bitterness will eat the whole of your body, leaving your slimy eyes untouched 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CHoccolaTE: 2:52am On Dec 12, 2019 |
But seriously so many men are heartless beasts sha o, how can you be living life day to day knowing there Is a child out there that belongs to you and that you are neglecting? But you continue to still neglect that child? How do you animals even sleep at night? 14 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Ginaz(f): 7:39am On Dec 12, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Do you want to turn him to a vampire? 2 Likes
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Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by IyaTola: 8:25am On Dec 12, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE, Thank you ma'am. 5 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Solvik(f): 8:33am On Dec 12, 2019 |
God bless all good mothers, your labour on your children will not be in vain you will enjoy it in good health. To all the single mothers may the Lord heal you and give you reasons to keep smiling, it is well. 5 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 9:43am On Dec 12, 2019 |
Wow!! I'm speechless 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Winneygirl(f): 9:50am On Dec 12, 2019 |
Thanks to everyone who shared their stories. The world is just not balanced. Men would impregnate a lady and walk away. The lady will carry the responsibilities, struggles,pain,discrimination and 20 years later, the man will return and say he wants to be in the childs life, and society will still blame the woman if she refuses. Society will tell her to forget everything. . Please, as parents, if your child impregnates a girl outside, it is part of your duty to ensure he takes responsibility for the child. Let's raise responsible children... Please 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by yazga: 10:50am On Dec 12, 2019 |
Becoming a single mum wasn’t my intention, I had dreams of how my wedding would look like, bedecked in all white frilly lace, adorned with the most dazzling smile ever while walking down the long isle to meet my Prince Charming... but, life happened. He was supposed to be the frog that would turn into my prince but unfortunately lies, deceit and the penchant to have a million other women pandering to his wandering phallus took precedence over all else. I had my heart broken more times than my daughter could count in a space of two years, but I refused to wise up, I was in love you see and like most women in love, I believed that if I loved him right he’d realize I was the best and he’d eventually learn to love me too you are permitted to turn your nose in disgust. Did he change? Your guess is as good as mine. I went bankrupt investing in his life and supposed career. My salary was going to him and he in turn was giving my money to another girl with a massive behind that he truly loved. I saw all of these but I was too madly in love to talk sense into my stupid brain. My mum said I was bewitched. She prayed fire and brimstone on my behalf and maybe, just maybe her prayers finally worked. One day after treating an infection, I packed my items in his house and hit the road. I was done!! Two months later I discovered I was pregnant. Funny right? All of two years I never got pregnant but when I decided to walk away, boom!!! Pregnancy hit. I called him to tell him and in his words ‘you have to take out that shit!’ Wow, I felt like I was hit with a sledge hammer. I was 19, working at the time. Of course I refused to have an abortion. He threatened me, cajoled me, begged me to no end but I stood my ground, I wasn’t having it. Eventually when he realized I wasn’t going to abort he let me be. My boss had to let me go because by then I was always sick, I couldn’t work, I was completely useless. From that moment everything in my life spiraled downwards, it was one setback after the other. As a matter of fact it was a horrible year for me, getting to see food to eat was difficult, I had no savings, everything was invested in Mr. boyfriend’s musical career, because I had no food to eat I turned my lack into fasting, I’d fast from 6 to 6 and at the end of the day if I was lucky to see garri I’d soak and eat and if not I’d simply eat iceblook and sleep. I was only able to go to ante natal twice, I just couldn’t afford it. There were days I asked myself if I was doing the right thing by keeping the pregnancy? Was I been selfish? I could barely feed myself, how on God’s green earth was I supposed to cater for a child? Anyways, common sense prevailed and I went on to have my baby. Because I couldn’t afford baby food I had to breastfeed my baby exclusively for 7 months. I got another job right after I weaned my daughter (on my bio she's 19yrs) and equally went back to school for a second degree. Life hasn’t been a bed of roses, I am not where I want to be but I am working towards getting there. So to the question, will I travel that road again? My answer is a resounding YES!!! I’d walk through fire and a stream full of reptiles if I am certain that at the end of the day I’d be rewarded with my daughter again. She is life, she is why I still breath and I can’t imagine what life would be without her, so yes, I’d go through all that pain over and over again just so I’d have her. 28 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by phillippians(m): 2:33pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Blazing12345:I have no pity for most single mothers. They caused their ordeal. Why won't you be rejected when you will ignore responsible guys and be after looks and swag, how handsome he is, if he has pink lips or not, then go about spreading their legs apart for a an irresponsible fine boy who continue to enrich their pussies with his baby making fluids, women are too carried away with looks, ever ready to get down with "Ramsey Noah" looking kinda of kinds even though he has nothing in his bank account. Why won't he dissapointe you and run away, is it a fine boy who can barely Carter for his own needs what will add a baby mama and her child to his expenses? Fish-brain women, they think everything is all about LOVE LOVE LOVE until reality teach them money is more important! 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 2:38pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
phillippians: I really don't blame them. With my interaction with the opposite sex since birth I've found out that they are too fickle, easily manipulated and too emotional. Any gender that exhibits such is a receipe for disaster. Only few have the ability to scrutinize and rationalize things. It makes me worry for my sisters and daughters if I would have one. I know what I see everyday, it's a pity, many more will fall into this suituation. 5 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cococandy(f): 4:10pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
What makes you think single mothers want your pity? Are they suffering from incurable diseases that’s also called “having a child as result of sex”? Some of you jackasses need to get over yourselves. If you’ve ever had sex in your life with a woman who wasn’t your wife, you have at one point in time been at risk of making a woman a single mother. So stfu and leave the thread for those it was made for. Sanctimonious phillippians: 33 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cococandy(f): 4:13pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Woman hate, misogyny, all kinds of degrading comments so easily fly off the fingers of some of you. And that’s normal. No biggie. Just another day. In your mind now, there’s nothing wrong with this your obviously demeaning anti-woman post. Watch you start frothing at the lips the moment someone gives you back half the insults that were so casually loaded in your post. Instead of you to go find another thread to go do your usual things you’re here . Ask yourself if you’re a single mom and what your post adds to this thread. CsRockefeller: 17 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Arsenate(m): 4:24pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
cococandy:You literally used the phrase "low substance pussy" to describe women of certain class the other day. How do you really live with your two-faced self? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 4:25pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
cococandy: I'm sorry if my comments were inslultive to the female folks, I was just pouring out my observation. It doesn't make it a fact/theory. Just my observations. I appreciate and love the female gender so much. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cococandy(f): 4:46pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
CsRockefeller: Your observations are obviously limited. But no worries 8 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by cococandy(f): 4:46pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Arsenate: Sorry for you if your facts come from trolls. Edited. Yep never mind. 5 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Blazing12345: 5:18pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
phillippians: 16 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Blazing12345: 5:22pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
[quote author=CsRockefeller post=84849934] I really don't blame them. With my interaction with the opposite sex since birth I've found out that they are too fickle, easily manipulated and too emotional. Any gender that exhibits such is a receipe for disaster. Only few have the ability to scrutinize and rationalize things. It makes me worry for my sisters and daughters if I would have one. I know what I see everyday, it's a pity, many more will fall into this suituation.[/qu Do you have a girlfriend, if you do then you are a big time hypocrite. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 5:30pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Blazing12345 I'm not chastising anyone here, I empathize with what you all have gone through and are going through. I'm only saying that women should be more discerning, that's all. I don't have a gf, never had sex, and if I should get one pregnant, I will be bold enough to accept what ever responsibility it brings, including marriage. 4 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by nlPoster: 5:58pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
I am quite sure I would have been a single mother if I had dared to have sex , being as scatterbrained as I am and considering the fact lots of people expected it too. I did not have the courage to engage in casual premarital sex just for any number of reasons including the one I mentioned and I guess everyone I knew was also afraid to be the one in the impregnated somebody position. Everybody waiting for everyone else to start the trend. Even the males did not want to start it, I suppose we were mostly scared silly plus the fear of hell was very real back then I think. So I really sympathize with single mothers and ladies looking for husbands these days when men insist they dont want to marry or stay married and say they cant find any woman who isnt like them. Unlike other countries where being a single lady is preferred by many women who dont want to deal with unstable natures of relationships, in Nigeria, there isn't much progressive fiscal structures to help the single ladies advance without a man (besides the woman's own family). God should help all ladies because the basic thing is it's not easy being a woman, it's even harder being a Nigerian woman. Everybody is complaining, even mariage folks have their own challenges and envy the single ones. One thing I'm looking for on the thread which I have not seen yet, is any poster saying it was their decision to be a single mother out of wedlock, or accepting any blame for it. All the blame seems to be on the baby daddies and exes, perhaps rightly so I guess. It's not always easy to understand what a single mother goes through from society et al and also to raise her baby. In fact, there are married women (I'd say a huge percentage of Nigerian women) who can even fit the bill for singlehood because they're practically in similar situations, so I'm sure they know that feeling. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by kaziblake(f): 5:59pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Arsenate:You should be ashamed of yourself and this comment 2 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Arsenate(m): 7:16pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
kaziblake:Yeah, I should be the one ashamed not those opening their legs for playboys. Brilliant 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Blazing12345: 8:56pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Arsenate:Playboy's you say, so responsible guys don't still get ladies pregnant right?? 6 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by ehiblessing(f): 9:03pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Am writing this so that the unmarried onces would learn, simply never settle for someone less. I got married June 2013 thinking i just made the best decision never knew i had just made one of my life mistake,i was young and opened having gone through a rough breakup i decided to get married to my ex husband. The first thing i noticed was that he tried seperating me from my family and friends, at first i didnt really mind. Less than 100 days after my marriage was when i received the first beating just because i filled the kettle so when it boils it pours on the ground. You see i took in immediately so i was always cold during the evenings but because my kettle was small i would want to fill it so i can use it. I had to report him to my aunty and the next day my aunty settled us. And from that day i became mind full of how i talk to him. The next was when he was having a fight with his sister i tried seperating them i was hitting him to stop and he just turned around to start strangling me the mum and everybody was shouting for him to leave me but he refused till his mum fell on the floor that was when he removed his hand from my neck meanwhile i was still seven months pregnant and that was how it continued till i put to bed. When my baby was 2months he beat me again and i had to leave the house for sometime he came begging and i accepted because i really wanted my marriage to work this was something i had put in my best,like there was nothing i just wanted than a peaceful home in all these my business was crumbling because he usually collects from my money from where i keep it i. all this i could not talk to anyone because all my family had left me to my faith he had insulted all and no one came to see me cos if they come he would insult them i was not allowed to go home to see my dad either. 2016 i got pregnant again hoping with another child he would become responsible but i was wrong it became worst, we didn't't talk all through my pregnancy he still beat me June 14 which was our marriage anniversary and i gave birth July 16th in all he gave me 4500 to buy baby things i struggled to make up for the rest so shame would not come,i still discharge myself i cant forget how he treated me when i was in labor or was it when i fainted at hone and i called him to come home and even when when he came he told me if that was why i called he home and left the house immediately only to come back 10pm. Am not even going to talk about the cheating or the emotional abuse, if am eating insult i laugh too much self its insult. We dont talk, no sleeping on the same room, in short it was as if i was leaving alone and that's is why its easier for me now.Of a truth shame would not even allow me say the things i went through just because of that man, and finally october 23 2017 my birthday he beat me again and used my head to open our kitchen door and i told him one word i wont give you an opportunity to lay your hands on me again. October 26th i finally parked out and since then the grace of God has never left me. It was not easy and its still not easy taking care of my kids, rent,schooling and the almighty feeding but am greatful to God that he his face has always shine on me he refused doing anything in his words i left with the children because i was capable. I even took him to welfare here yet nothing came out. I have learnt to love and appreciate myself. For my kids i wont trade them for anything but i wish i had stayed at home and count beans the day i met him. P.s pardon my typo and errors 29 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by CsRockefeller(m): 9:57pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
ehiblessing: It's well with you. 1 Like |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by Winneygirl(f): 10:19pm On Dec 12, 2019 |
Abuse in marriage... I'm still trying to understand why/how that keeps happening. As a child of a broken home, I have seen this first hand and it is crazy. Also, I have seen men who physically abuse their wives, and a number of them come from abusive homes too. Especially where the woman is asked to 'endure' for the sake of her kids. But are the kids turning out any better? . How do we expect children of homes filled with hate, violence, and oppression to build loving homes? How? How?? 18 Likes |
Re: Single Mother Challenge. (SMC) by AntiMCU: 4:16am On Dec 13, 2019 |
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SteveOfu:Wow... 4 Likes |
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