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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Omakraid(f): 10:45am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA:In one of the Op's post, he said he is the only one at loggerheads with his dad. His siblings and mum are cool with him asides the Op himself... 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 10:45am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BrutusOj: People like BRATISLAVA are bad losers... Easy to spot. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by WriterX(m): 10:47am On Dec 13, 2019 |
kallmemrB: reminds me of my dad , abandoned my sister and i at age one and age three respectively , came back home like four years ago with some really bad behavior , I don't see him as a father neither do I communicate often I have tried but there's nothing there for us , he knows that and doesn't push his luck , I have worked and will continue to work harder daily to ensure my kids don't go through what I went through because a father abandoned his responsibilities. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:47am On Dec 13, 2019 |
The only reason that a woman will keep a child away from the father is irreconcilable differences and the truth is there’s nothing beyond mediation. Ego is just a big factor. Both thinking how can I go and beg. It takes willing parties I have made some decisions that have healed wounds between families and still gotten treated worse than I deserve but will I keep a man from his child ? No but I will tell children everything they need to know to understand life is not the same experience for everyone build your relationship with your father but don’t have high expectations like me. We are all human 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by ibkayee(f): 10:47am On Dec 13, 2019 |
I’m kind of annoyed that you even apologised 6 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:48am On Dec 13, 2019 |
TheFacelessMan:and you know everything about me because of posts? What is there to hide? You take nairalamd too serious. I stick by what I said about you. You should iron out your issue with your mother and the other females in your. You sound bitter about anything that you feel is against men. You can call me a father hater if it helps you reconcile. Good luck with the females. 4 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Martinez39(m): 10:48am On Dec 13, 2019 |
pocohantas:I know you will not believe me because in your mind Martinez39 is a hater of the female gender. Have a wonderful day and keep hating. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:49am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE: How can you tell this, if not through assumptions? You are the worst loser. You support bad behaviors in men. And for that, I don't value your input. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Omakraid(f): 10:50am On Dec 13, 2019 |
IceColdVeins:BRATISLAVA see this.. 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 10:51am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ryan03: I'm sorry about your story but you still hurt because you dont have my mindset. Humans are flawed and limited. You can be betrayed by anyone. The only strength you have is YOU. lemme tell a bit of my story. I grew up seeing supernatural shiits, I saw ghosts,demons and the likes while around 2 years old. I saw kids like me being killed by evil neighbours who fed them lovingly during the day. I learnt that the face is nothing but a veil which is very different from the heart. I learnt to feel and read auras so at least I can have an idea of who people truly are. My successes saved my family and while my failure almost got me killed. I was betrayed by a friend and a full grown lion almost killed me as a result. I learnt that in this world,everyone owes you nothing. He is your father and should have taken care of you but he didn't because he felt the NEED NOT TO. he is wicked to you but in his mind,he believed he did right. He had his reasons and while flimsy they could be,he simply didn't care about you enough to take care of you. If you had my mindset, you would take care of your mum and focus on her and your siblings. My dad moved mountains but it wasn't easy for me. He went broke and I stayed with his families and saw hell. I went through more hell to protect my younger brothers from their wrath. My younger one was almost killed in a spiritual battle, except for my gifts. The aunt still comes to our house till date. I greet her and serve her food without thinking of harming her. Why? Because I realised she is human,flawed and limited. Killing her won't bring me peace but pollute my own aura. My siblings are doing well now and she knows that. That's the best revenge you can ever get. My advice on how to move on? Stop expecting too much from anyone so if they display their human nature, you won't feel hurt. On ur dad's issue, see him as just a human with faults and limits. I'm sure he wasn't 100% bad. He just let you down. Focus on the good times you had with him before shiit went awry and most importantly dwell on your mum and siblings and the good times y'all had. Dwelling on hurt DEEPENS IT. THE PAST IS GONE,THE FUTURE IS YOURS TO MOULD. THE CLAY YOU NEED IS LIMITLESS AND THAT'S YOUR IMAGINATION. ONE LOVE! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by TheFacelessMan: 10:51am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: Sorry about what your mum claim your dad did. Your rants sound envious. Your jealous vituperations wouldn't stop the OP from reconciling with his father. I pray you find peace like the OP. Good luck with that. I am done with you, so pour your frustrations elsewhere OP, congratulations. I hope both parents LEARNT from the experience. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Omakraid(f): 10:52am On Dec 13, 2019 |
ibkayee:Seems like both parents are cool together while he is the one at loggerheads heads with the dad cos of things he has heard from the mum.. The post is a lil bit misleading 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 10:52am On Dec 13, 2019 |
ibkayee:that is the part i am yet to get,like how do you apologize for being abandoned ,lol . IceColdVeins can you tell us why you are apologizing? Maybe if we know the reason you are sorry for hurting your dad we too can learn 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:53am On Dec 13, 2019 |
TheFacelessMan:I hope your parents will get together. I know your dad accused your mum of a lot of things, things she did actually. Forgive her. He claimed a lot of things that made you feel differently about women. Forgive her. Apologize to both him and her. Then you can come and tell us all about it. You sound jealous that someone is telling the truth about what men like him do. Your redundant posts can't change your reality. Sorry. You may carry the bitter frustrations that made you quote me to another thread. Or lie about your life in your numerous posts. It's okay. Nairalamd understands. 7 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by JayJam20182019: 10:53am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Pavore9: I CONCUR 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 10:54am On Dec 13, 2019 |
Ryan03: Like I always say, when you grow older you will process these things better coz you would be wiser. You will clearly see things from different perspectives with a better sense of judgement coz LIFE has a way of confounding us in our craftiness. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by OyiboPep: 10:54am On Dec 13, 2019 |
chriskosherbal: You don't get the point. This is about deadbeat fathers. If my father abandoned me at the critical and formative period of my life, he should keep his blessings, I don't need it. So, you mean people who lost their father are not blessed because the father didn't give them blessings? To me, a deadbeat father is a dead father. 4 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by TheFacelessMan: 10:55am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: 1 Like
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by KanuSE: 10:56am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: Please point out where I demonstrated support for bad behaviour in men? You see, you need to calm down & learn to love... regardless. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ryan03(f): 10:57am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE:maybe when I grow horns. 4 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by fk001(m): 10:57am On Dec 13, 2019 |
I understand why people (especially the ladies) are sounding bitter just because this guy finds the heart to forgive his dad. Must everything be associated with feminism? |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by IceColdVeins(m): 10:57am On Dec 13, 2019 |
I have had a face off with him quite a number times and I feel guilty. Ladycewhy: 1 Like |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Nobody: 10:57am On Dec 13, 2019 |
IceColdVeins: Nice one G. Keep it up � |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by BRATISLAVA: 10:59am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE: you need your advice more. 2 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by kapelvej: 10:59am On Dec 13, 2019 |
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Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by luminouz(m): 11:00am On Dec 13, 2019 |
BRATISLAVA: I'm not saying all these because I'm a man and check crackhaus post and one Mia dude like that. They gave insights to what may have happened. You blame the dad like OP did but once he put himself in his dad's shoes, he understood that while the dad had issues, he wasn't all bad like the mum painted him. He most likely rejected his dad based on the mum's stories without trying to ask his dad his own side of the story. He realised his mistake now he is grown and reached out. Ryan03' s story is very different from OP's and I blamed his dad on most fronts. he left them when young and died before he could make amends. You still dont get my points sha. I feel so much animosity from your post and I can't just relate. I have lost the ability to be that emotional. Use your third eye and things becomes much clearer. One love |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by ChiefSweetus: 11:01am On Dec 13, 2019 |
blank:The OP has daddy issues |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Ladycewhy(f): 11:02am On Dec 13, 2019 |
IceColdVeins:and you feel those face off were out of place? All this your half stories is annoying, if you are going to say it say it all. You had a face off over what? And why? 3 Likes |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by Angelfrost(m): 11:02am On Dec 13, 2019 |
KanuSE: What the young man did was good, even noble... I have even walked down that path myself. My issue here remains: poor orientation and belief system that fosters this trend among fathers and would-be fathers. Please, read responses properly and comprehensively before going on the "attack"!!! |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by midnighter(f): 11:03am On Dec 13, 2019 |
The dude didnt give enough information and now everybody is coming to their own conclusion through the prism of their own opinion To me it sounds like the OP took his mothers lamentations to heart and started fighting the dad on her behalf This is why I said people should be careful of dragging their babies into issues that started before they were born See where he said the parents are even very happy now but he was the one left out in the cold. Nawao I keep saying that family affairs are a political game more than any other thing. Learn to calculate your moves without being too emotional so that you wont end up as the bad person You latched onto some NL post about reconciliation because what you had to reconcile wasnt as much as your mothers but you overreacted on her behalf and youre now feeling as if youve been cheated. You're even feeling like the aggressor now and apologising to your dad over some guilt-tripping stuff about "spiritual consequences" when distancing yourself from an uncaring father is in no way a crime. Now the pendulum is swinging back to your mother again as you wonder if it was as simple as how she described it. |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by kapelvej: 11:04am On Dec 13, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:the people can not reason properly, just big english |
Re: Deadbeat Father: How A Nairanlander's Quote Ended My Family's Rift. (photos) by ibkayee(f): 11:05am On Dec 13, 2019 |
pocohantas:Nah I wouldn’t have, I’m gathering that he apologised to his dad who he was constantly at loggerheads with because he maltreated his mother, who caused him to suffer due to negligence, in fact he claims there’s even plenty more to write down about his experiences with his father. And his reason for apologising was because someone on Nairaland convinced him that despite all this, a son’s bond with his father is special, or something. The father’s response made it even worse, it’s like the equivalence of someone replying ‘ok’ to a long, heartfelt message (all lowercases included) Maybe there are important points we’re missing sha, to each their own 3 Likes |
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