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Re: I Hit My Wife by loveliveshere: 9:29pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Dupalmer: Like I said, people react to anger differently. The man, a married man, came back home by 2am. That's enough to upset anyone. Maybe if the guy had apologised the moment he stepped into the house, and maybe gave the wife one or two kisses her rage would have been subdued. 17 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by CHoccolaTE: 9:31pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Dupalmer: This is fallacious People have a tendency to take advantage of those they perceive to be weaker than them. I have seen sadistic people who started behaving worse when their victims approached them with humility, these sadists started respecting themselves only after they got served a good dose of their own medicine. Some people don't respect people pleasers, they will try to take advantage of them more. 47 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Fabinu(m): 9:32pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:Why i go.sign dat kind agreement? I see no need for any agreement 6 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by loveliveshere: 9:33pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
yomi007k: Exactly.. A father only reproves a child he loves. The man might even do worse if the case were reversed. People should learn to dish out meals they can consume when served too. 24 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by ugofulfilled(m): 9:35pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Did I say I wasn't disappointed? 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Cutehector(m): 9:39pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
They always come back, just give her time 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 9:42pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Don't take the advice of people telling you to ignore her. Talk to your parent and let them follow you to her place to beg for forgiveness. As for me, you will write an undertaken that you won't ever lift your hands on me again. 28 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by imiski(m): 9:43pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:If you were a guy or have male friends you would delete this rubbish. 17 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Dupalmer: 9:44pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:You see why everyone is different. Some people are humbled by peace talks why some take advantage of peace approach. soem people get mad at violent outbursts and nagging while some get disciplined by it. Couples should know whichever works for their spouse. 17 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 9:45pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
You have apologised more than enough. I would advise that you forget her mother and go and explain yourself to her father with your dignity intact (don't grovel like you did with your wife). Ask him for his verdict and let him give you a timeline to come back for his response. Let him do all the work. If they decide that she is to come back, tell her in the presence of her family that you do not expect her to ever again call them into any disagreement in your home. Also inform her that as a man, you have a right to bro time once in a while and she should never again disrespect you by yelling and shouting at you as if you are a small child. If she has a problem with anything you do, she should learn how to express it in a mature manner. Meanwhile, if she decides that she wants a divorce; as she seems to be somewhat childish; give it to her amicably and take care of your responsibilities towards the child. By the way, having said that, I also think that 2 am is a bit excessive for a responsible married man to be coming home. And you should not ever hit your wife again no matter the provocation. If she follows you around next time, just leave the house for her and go stay in a hotel overnight, that will be the last time she would ever do it (from experience). 41 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by oyoolima: 9:46pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Oga you said you "took" the back of your hand and gave her a slap. This hand must be made of iron to cause instant bleeding. Tomorrow you may "take" the front of your hand and now beat her proper. No wonder the woman ran for her life. Coming back at 2am is not ideal for someone that is married with a family. I do not know what throwing hands means. If she is shouting and you cannot take it shout hard too ,let your voice be louder so you both enjoy the madness together. Or tell her you will not engage in conversation if she's screaming then lock yourself in the room till she's calm. This apology you're giving now,if you had put this much effort into saying sorry for coming back this late,your hand would not have located her mouth. Now the whole family knows you have twitchy hands.How will you now meet their eyes without shame. Budding wife beater is your new nickname. Your marriage is still new,you both need to learn to resolve conflict in a less hostile manner. A whole 33 year old man,5 years you used to senior your wife and you cannot manage your home. Better go and watch war room. *Your wife did well to invite outside forces since you slapped her hard enough to cause bleeding, it is also likely you would have slapped her again or even hit her if she had kept quiet about it(in your mind,you would start seeing it as the quickest way to keep her quiet),so my brother from now on, if something happens to her the whole world already have small insight into who dunnit.* 65 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 9:49pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Some situations are simply avoidable. Keeping begging but don't come across weak. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Biglittlelois(f): 9:49pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Dupalmer: SMH!!! 10 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Biglittlelois(f): 9:52pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
daddytime: You forget an important aspect, which is, at any slightest provocation, he wouldn't hesitate to hit her again since he has already started, what say ye to that? 34 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Biglittlelois(f): 9:54pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
speed99: No correlation at all, Op hit her and she bled, totally different. 8 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Biglittlelois(f): 9:55pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
yomi007k: Thanks for this. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Nobody: 9:57pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
freecocoahubby:What stopped him from replacing the slap with a kiss? Seems the op is not well to do or he has received financial help from his in-laws for them to be so bold to act that way. Sometimes we need wisdom to deal with situations instead of emotions. @Op you've begged. Allow the apology to sink in. I'm sure she'll come back, though u hitting a woman with a new born baby ![]() I blame buhari sha 15 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by CHoccolaTE: 9:57pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Dupalmer: Do you know if peace talks was not working for the man before so she decided to change her approach? What if op is the type that is very stubborn and both peace talks and violent approach dont work until you do something drastic like leaving the house for him? 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by daddytime(m): 9:58pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: How about she hearkens first to his appeals, and promise of repentance from a contrite heart? If after all, he hits her yet again, her entire community would be justified to invade his abode, mob him to death, and go with their daughter. Thus, sayest I. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Biglittlelois(f): 10:00pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
yomi007k: Lol true, and when a wife doesn't care, two things are involved: Either she's doing same thing or She's emotionally dead towards him 10 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Dupalmer: 10:08pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE:If the OP wasn't a peace loving person he wouldn't have have apologized in the first place neither would he have tried avoiding her. Have you tired asking yourself what she wanted to achieve by shouting and following him up and down. She's obviously a spoilt brat and not ready for marriage. Who told her that marriage is all rosy. If my wife leaves home out of anger honestly she's not coming back. She had better stay and sort out things with me amicably. 16 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 10:08pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
fatymore:Will this be after you have written your own undertaking to never raise your voice to shout, scream, or yell at your husband? 34 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by gerastone09(f): 10:09pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
OP you did wrong. Keep apologizing. She might have been overwhelmed with taking care of the baby all day plus worrying about you. You went too far with the bloody slap. Don’t repeat such again. Most brothers/mum would do same as hers did. Domestic violence starts gradually... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 10:18pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Ekene161829:Stop apologizing to her! You're just feeding her ego if you continue because as it is, she is already taking directives from her mother and brother. And since she involved them overnight like the girl she is, then they are the ones you should be resolving this issue with. Please see to it that you try to initiate some dialogue between yourself and her mother and/or elder brother. Whatever they say you should do (within the limits of common sense), is what you should do. If they ask you to go apologize again to your wife, then do that once more for the last time out of respect for them. 14 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by danilmo: 10:20pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
xendra: All this illustration doesn't change the fact that bringing third party at that slight provocation was uncalled for, even after al l the begging, not even a usual occurrence. She now had to call the whole family on him..haba.. Left for me he shouldn't call her again, 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 10:21pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
crackhaus: That's different, why will he come home late, will he take that if I am the one coming in at that time and believe me, he has been coming late at night that was why she was angry. 13 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by danilmo: 10:27pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: Slap my in law just like that?? what if the slap escalate and the husband retaliated by beating up ur brother ![]() thank God I'm not a stupid brother. 12 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 10:28pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
fatymore:What I asked was a very simple question given the specific circumstances in this story, so I don't know what you're explaining. Since signing an undertaking is of necessity to you, should this not be contingent on you signing one of your own stating you will never provoke him by yelling and shouting at him? 15 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by freecocoahubby(m): 10:28pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
oyoolima: Such a childish comment.. How old are you? 10 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:29pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Fabinu: See nonsense talk, potential wife beater on the loose. 14 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:35pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
crackhaus: @emboldened, who provoked who first? Was he not the one that stayed out late? Is she suppose to be meek and happy when he got back at 2am in the morning? Wouldnt you react same way if your wife did same? I just couldn't ignore your comment cos it's annoying, and I'll continue to quote you whenever I feel like, so you can as well say your piece, it's a faceless forum, I can't have a grudge on someone I don't know from Adam. 19 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 10:45pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
Dupalmer: Ah fada lawd, she's a spoilt brat and not ready for marriage after one slap made her bleed, how nah? And they say our mothers of old did a good job, see the kind of men we have o, so because marriage is not a bed of roses means she should expect slaps and bleeding at anytime abi? Issokay. 28 Likes 1 Share |
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