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Re: I Hit My Wife by kulobyno: 1:36am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Saintmary:So the OP should kill himself for a mistake he has apologized for or allow himself to be manipulated by following her the way house fly follows poo. Over wetin. There's no bed anymore. Such wife would kill her husband with wicked manipulations. 5 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by kulobyno: 1:40am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Dupalmer:She really got it coming. 1 Like |
Re: I Hit My Wife by CHoccolaTE: 2:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
A married man came home at 2 o clock in the night like an irresponsible teenager and slapped his wife so hard that she bled but of course, trust nairaland guys to absolve him of blame and accuse the wife of breaking the home by complaining. One even said she should have approached him with love and humility. Lwkmd Humility how? Is that a reward for the inconsiderate bad behaviour by the man, by putting his wife and child at risk, opening their doors at that dangerous hour of the night for who knows what to follow him indoors? Maybe he was out drinking sef and he hit her in a drunken rage who knows? Who knows if the guy has a drinking problem the woman has been complaining about that he ignored since? Like I said before I find it hard to believe this guy's account of how things went. A woman will not just get up and leave a guy who has been a loving and responsible husband because he fucked_ up once. I smell lies and omission in this story. 23 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by LadySarah: 2:52am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829: Give it time and then go back to apologise! The family is only trying to send you a message of non tolerance to abuse of their daughter. From slapping it graduates to beating. I understand she provoked you but if you have friends who'd drink to stupor at this stage,i like your wife will want to protect my own. At this stage reduce drinking,you could drink at home. If you are running late,send a message to her.It shows commitment,respect and willingness to make ur union work. Igbos will say to remove the monkey's hand before it turns to a human hand. In this life a lot of tinz can go wrong just by hitting someone .Eg is the bikeman who slapped his wife,a new mom to death.He is left with 8 kids to train alone. You are no more single!Be an example to that child 19 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by armyofone(m): 2:56am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Since no emergency # to call, she did the right thing calling someone else to come take her out of abusive environment! Op - take note of one simple rule in a relationship - always info your partner what time you will be coming or if running late...a married man with a seven month old baby staying out till 2am ![]() What happened to leaving at 9pm or 10pm ? Too much entitlement instead of commitment. You should have called on your way home and apologized while gisting her of what happened at the party that kept you late etc You guys don't know how to love someone!! Please get your priority right! emeijeh: 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by OlawaleBammie: 3:00am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy: And you tink u ve spoken well? I think u re reacting to a wrong topic madam and if truly u re reacting to this topic in particular den SORRY SORRY SORRY IN ADVANCE TO UR SON IN-LAW. 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by OlawaleBammie: 3:03am On Dec 16, 2019 |
kulobyno: Seconded. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by doitforyou(f): 3:48am On Dec 16, 2019 |
CHoccolaTE: I agree with you. You can never trust the account of an abuser, they usually minimize their role and try to put the blame on the victim. It’s usually they were “provoked” or she was “nagging” etc. There is NO reason to hit someone unless it’s in self defense. OP, you hit her because you thought her anger wasn’t justified. You think her anger isn’t justified because you don’t think you’re accountable to your wife and family. Husband and wife should be accountable to each other. Unfortunately, a line has been drawn that cannot be erased, it always never ends with just one ‘slap’. She rightfully called for help because this wasn’t just some lover’s spat, this was a physical altercation that drew blood. She made the right call to protect herself and her baby from you. I am not convinced you will not hit her again but she did well by sending you a signal that she isn’t going to tolerate any physical abuse from you. 31 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 4:25am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: Yelling at him isn't a big deal as hitting her. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by Pearl05(f): 5:24am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Her yelling is understandable because she loved you and angry about the late night you keep. As a husband and father, it is very irresponsible of you to stay late till 2am. What if something bad had happened to you while coming back such as armed robbery attack, meeting trigger happy drunk police officers that can discharge their magazine on you for not giving them satisfying answers?or even involving in an accident. She was worried because she feared losing you to any of those and becoming a widow and your baby fatherless at this young age. If there is anyone your wife regards highly such as uncle , pastor, mentor etc meet the person and tell him/her to help you beg your wife for forgiveness and to return to her home. If this didn't work, go to your in -law's place with someone with wine to beg them to release your wife ,their daughter to you and promise them that such won't happen again. 7 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by ogawisdom(m): 5:40am On Dec 16, 2019 |
In laws are already involved ![]() She won't come back until you go to their place with your father and mother to apologize to your in laws and assure them that their daughter is safe at your place. This has gone beyond begging the girl alone, she can't even come until her family says so. Pls go with drinks hot, wine, two cartons of malt and beer I am sure this can't be the first time you are having a serious issue and your in laws knows everything going on 12 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by cococandy(f): 5:44am On Dec 16, 2019 |
You must be new to the hypocrisy and double standards here to be expecting any different Fountainofyouth: 16 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by eyinjuege: 5:46am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Many Nigerians are lawless. Assaulting your wife is a crime. A criminal offence. I hope she had the foresight to go to the hospital, take pictures and also make a report at the police station. I also hope she has the insight that a leopard will never change it's spots. 21 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by cococandy(f): 5:47am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Simple things have to be explained armyofone: 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: I Hit My Wife by eyinjuege: 6:04am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Many have loose screws on their heads. Even from the OP's story alone, I blame him a 100%. Which responsible married man comes home by 2am, drunk? His offences: 1. Going home late by 2am. 2. Not calling to inform and update his partner he has been delayed and will be home late. What kind of person has not even such basic respect for their partner? I guess the kind that hits their partner. 3. Drink driving 4. Physically assaulting his wife 5. Exposing his child to such irresponsible behaviour Some even have the audacity to expect the wife not to involve 3rd parties in her beatings. Wetin Musa no go see for gate? Dis una wicked people with wicked counsels cannor make heaven o... 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by ITbomb(m): 6:21am On Dec 16, 2019 |
I thank God for my in laws, they can never take action without hearing from me. First question they will ask is, have you people made any attempt to settle within unasef without involving us? 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by samguru(m): 6:35am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Oga, Anywhere you cannot go with your family members is not a place to be especially at that odd hour. How comfortable were you outside catching fun with others without your wife and kid? My brother you are a disgrace to husbandhood. Fine, it is in women's DNA to provoke a man to do nasty things but you shouldn't have touched her. At this juncture, stop all the begings,leave her for at least one week incommunicado, and bring in your parents and pastors for reconcilation actions. 8 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by speed99: 6:44am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Biglittlelois: Certain incidences aren't planned. No sane man would want to beat his wife. Though there are two sides to a coin, there are outbursts/ reactions that are totally regrettable. Do we know what she had said in anger? Not justifying the slapping, but third party evacuation isn't one of the best actions. |
Re: I Hit My Wife by abimbola74(m): 6:55am On Dec 16, 2019 |
LilMissFavvy:You can also help her to slap him nah. The brother inlaw can't act stupidly, this ur thought is disheartening. The so called brother inlaw is stupid to have followed d mum slf , he is a man nd should rather talk to the husband. Shey he wants to marry his sister ni? |
Re: I Hit My Wife by speed99: 6:58am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:You are a good Man. You have erred, accepted your fault(s) and made peace. More importantly, dialogue before she comes back. what are the factors that led to the issue? How would she understand that pushing matters too far isn't the best? Stay woke and build up your family. Subtly reduce interference by your in-laws and control your home |
Re: I Hit My Wife by femi4: 7:07am On Dec 16, 2019 |
Ekene161829:She ll come back but not so soon. Probably by the time you value your family more than your friends and know that you don't hit a woman irrespective of her status or action 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 7:07am On Dec 16, 2019 |
fatymore:Yes of course, I just needed you to type this yourself so it could reveal exactly what goes on in the minds of women like you who think it is perfectly okay to shout, yell, and raise their voices to show displeasure - anyway, borderline psychotic people don't know any other way to show displeasure, so I can't really blame you or your sisters here. However, this is this exact behaviour that makes/will make some of you continue to get slapped by your husbands when he has gotten his earful of your vituperations. If you can't raise your voice to a random stranger on the street whom you have no regard for, what on God's earth makes you think it's somehow okay to do so with a husband you love, respect, and regard? Are you seriously saying that a grown person like you knows no other way to make her displeasure known without getting in the face of another person, yelling, screaming? Anyhow, just in case you didn't know, provocation is a good defense in law - not a legal defense though, but a defense that can give a lesser sentence. English law calls it loss of control. If you're going to act like a crazy person, then you cannot control the response you receive in return. No grown person likes being yelled or shouted at, not even you given the worst of situations...so I really don't know what you or anyone here (assuming you all were completely sane), are trying to make sense of. 18 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 7:11am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: You wrote all these to justify beating. Clap for yourself and well done for a good job. A responsible man with a 7month old child wouldn't waltz in by 2a.m. in the morning. That's provocative and insulting enough. He doesn't have regards for the wife. Good Morning 17 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 7:13am On Dec 16, 2019 |
eyinjuege: God bless you 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 7:17am On Dec 16, 2019 |
fatymore:I suspect your IQ is on a single digit, that is why you would think all of that was a justification for beating in the same way provocation is a justification for murder. Good morning to you too. 5 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 7:22am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: I was diplomatic enough and you resulted to insult... Well done ooo 13 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 7:27am On Dec 16, 2019 |
fatymore:That was not an insult. I only suspect, meaning I'm not sure. The rest is up to you. 4 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by vicben27(m): 7:30am On Dec 16, 2019 |
as a married Man you're suppose to watch the caliber of friends you roll with, most of this beer parlor friends are of no good, keeping late nights as a married man is a no no. be responsible. as for ur wife give her a little time you can go over to her family and apologize if they refuse to let her return home. leave her alone her Brain will return to factory setting after some time. 7 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by respect80(m): 7:31am On Dec 16, 2019 |
fatymore: Undertaken korr,,, undertaker ni... ![]() There's more to marriage than meets the eyes. Marriage isn't all about being with someone who will never offend you, it's more about being with someone whom you are ready to tolerate his/her shortcomings. Most of u with this idea of the husband signing an undertaken think the man hit his wife probably because he didn't love her enough which maybe very wrong. Love is not all about perfection but more about forgiveness. In this case, the man was wrong to have hitted his wife but they both should find a reason to forgive one another. The wife on the other hand overreacted by involving her family despite the man going down on his knees to beg and show remorse for his action. One thing I wished every man and woman understands is "the power of silence" especially when someone wrongs you. For me, silence is a strong force I use to overcome difficult situations as regards my relationship with people. Everyone ought to master it because it gives you time to think and respond to situations rather than reacting to them. Lastly, don't forget marriage is an adventure and not a bed of rose. Peace! 2 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 7:45am On Dec 16, 2019 |
crackhaus: I rest my case..you are irredeemable 8 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by fatymore(f): 7:46am On Dec 16, 2019 |
respect80: Thank you... But sometimes when something binds you, you think and act differently. 3 Likes |
Re: I Hit My Wife by crackhaus: 7:51am On Dec 16, 2019 |
fatymore:That you even believe you had any case to begin with is a testament to that IQ thing. I wonder why a woman who insists her husband should sign an undertaking to never raise his hands on her wouldn't want to sign an undertaking to never raise her voice on him. I thought it was a partnership. You are certifiable. 10 Likes |
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