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How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Saintabdul(m): 4:06pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
I need help with this matter. I have this friend we have known for almost 15years. We first met at the university, though we were in different departments. But our friendship continued. We are both married now and live in different states. Sometime around December last year, I came for some business meeting in the city that my friend resides so I decided to visit them. Fortunately, it was my friend's son's birthday. The house was filled with the wife's friend and other well-wishers. I noticed that my friend's wife tries to avoid direct discussion with her husband, she would rather send the friend sister to him, so I thought maybe it was because she was busy. Sometime in October this year, I happened to pay them a visit again. This time I was able to observe how taken back the wife was. She tries as much to avoid him. So she spends most of her time in the kitchen or the child's room. My friend was even showing me a chat between himself and his girlfriend I am not very comfortable with it, but how do I tell my friend that he is not treating his wife well. And I have noticed that my friend has never posted his wife pics on any social media, even what apps status. But he posts pictures of other people, especially girls. I ask him why he has never posted pictures of his wife, he told me he don't like posting pictures. How do I talk to him about this without hurting our friendship or causing an issue between him and his wife. *Advice Needed* |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Olalan(m): 4:20pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
15 years friendship is not a tea party, within this years you should have known him and how best to talk to him. i think you should find a time to tell him about your observations on his marriage 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Pubichairs(m): 4:24pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
I'd advice u to mind ur business.. A saner husband shouldn't be told wot to so..leave them to their fate...u have ur own family to worry about.. Advising such men..get ready to be his enemy after 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by SendAbroad: 4:41pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
Saintabdul: How can you say 15years of friendship and you can't face fact with your friend? That means your friendship is only surface friendship. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Evergreen4(m): 4:46pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
It's better you tell him , if telling him will shatter your friendship with him, forget about the friendship. Tell him your observations. He can't be treating his own wife like an alien 2 Likes |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Oblongata: 4:48pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
What happens in Rome stays in ROME... Nothing consign Spain for the matter ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Bola146(f): 5:10pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
Talk to him as man to man.. Pray for God's wisdom before confronting him. Maybe God wants to use you to restore back peace into the family |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by blesskewe(f): 7:12pm On Nov 03, 2019 |
Based on the fact that its a 15year friendship, this shouldn't be hard Talk to him Guessed she'd be depressed and all that Women are trying 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by meobizy(f): 2:53pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
This is very easy: treat your wife accordingly and he’ll follow suit once he sees the benefits. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by sanemind2(m): 3:11pm On Dec 15, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by moorevic(m): 3:45pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Pubichairs:Its this I DON"T CARE attitude that has ruined us thus far. An igbo proverb says " words spoken and not adhered to is for children but seeing and not speaking up makes an ADULT" |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Kobicove(m): 3:49pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Saintabdul: I think you can influence him positively by showing him how you treat your wife with respect ![]() |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Nobody: 7:08pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
I don't think you should be bothered about upsetting your friend. Maybe you are the one God wants to use to help that woman. Have a 'come-to-Jesus' talk with him. When I was still married to my ex, one of his secondary school friends came to do something in our city and he was staying with us. I was nice to him the whole time, we even used to sit and gist. The guy's presence didn't stop my ex-horseband from misbehaving and things even got physical at a point. The fool grabbed my phone and took it to work with him. The whole time these things were happening, his friend didn't come out of his room or act like he heard anything. I hated him for that. My point is, talk to your friend. If he wants to get angry, that's his problem but at least you would have satisfied your conscience. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Nobody: 7:15pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
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Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Nobody: 7:29pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
it always pays well to mind yur business o |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Rajman45(m): 7:53pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Are u afraid of ur friend?...
Please man-up and put some serious senses into his brain.
What are friends for? 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by CAPSLOCKED: 7:59pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
lefulefu: IF WE START MINDING OUR BUSINESSES AND STOP CARING FOR ONE ANOTHER, WE WON'T LAST A CENTURY MORE AS HUMANS ON EARTH. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Nobody: 8:25pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED:except if the person is in deep danger then we can intervene but if its minor squabble its best to just face front.one of the most dicey issues to involve urself into is husband and wife matter or girlfriend and boyfriend issue ![]() |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Homers123(m): 8:26pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
Correct your sentence first before correcting him. |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Auladimeji(m): 9:42pm On Dec 16, 2019 |
You should first of all ask his wife what she did to her husband the husband can't just wake up and start maltreating the wife There's no fire without a smoke 1 Like |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by emmaodet: 1:18am On Dec 17, 2019 |
CAPSLOCKED: Waooooo waooooooo Nice one sir |
Re: How Do I Tell My Friend That He Is Not Treat His Wife Wel by Nobody: 1:45am On Dec 17, 2019 |
Next time you visit, take him out to a bar or something. Over drinks, start talking about your own wife & family. From there, your friend may also talk a bit about his own wife,then you will get an idea of what's going on,from his own perspective. Then,you will have more details,from which to start your advice. Instead of jumping into a situation you have no idea how it started and ruin your friendship. Thread carefully |
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