godbless120:


She call by 2am, you can't possibly go there by that time, the best is to advice her to avoid the husband as much as possible till in the morning which i will call her home with the husband knowledge and also the the if the husband refuse to come and won't let her come then i know that her life is at risk..
jumping up to my inlaw house in the morning and them telling him to stay away from them so they can take their daughter means the nxt times issues come up they might even come with weapon.

Bros take it or leave it, no responsible parent will go their inlaw house to take back the daughter base on ordinary quarrel (first time)..
I still sense motive in that action. last reply.

Lol you will call the home with the husband's knowledge so that he can beat her up more abi!

Please dont come here to tell us when you kill your daughter o! You obviously dont understand how domestic abuse works.

If somebody is truly in danger the last thing you should do is alert their spouse of your presence before he/she gets even more angry and finishes the person.

The fact that its the first time is more reason why they jumped up...next time they would know that she is not serious.

Responsible parent like you would leave their daughter in the hands of an abuser just to prove a point or what hahaha

If I called my parents and mentioned anything "beating" they would even grow wings and fly to wherever I am to pick me, which is the more reason why I would never open my mouth to yarn this kind of story because I know that I would just be wasting everybodys time.

Last reply indeed! Uru ese!

midnighter:


Lol you will call the home with the husband's knowledge so that he can beat her up more abi!

Please dont come here to tell us when you kill your daughter o! You obviously dont understand how domestic abuse works.

If somebody is truly in danger the last thing you should do is alert their spouse of your presence before he/she gets even more angry and finishes the person.

The fact that its the first time is more reason why they jumped up...next time they would know that she is not serious.

Responsible parent like you would leave their daughter in the hands of an abuser just to prove a point or what hahaha

Last reply indeed! Uru ese!

If i knew you were a female i would hv argue with you.
Chelsea female coach on sunday blame liverpool for their female team home stadium for being so poor when infact the stadium is a leangue one team stadium which is higher in football pyramid than the female league in standard. Loud.

godbless120:


If i knew you were a female i would hv argue with you.
Chelsea female coach on sunday blame liverpool for their female team home stadium for being so poor when infact the stadium is a leangue one team stadium which is higher in football pyramid than the female league in standard. Loud.

Hahaha please dont argue with me o! Just leave me to my problem

Responsible parent! I guess you can leave your child in the presence of those 2 wild cats they killed yesterday as far as they dont scratch her too much smh

And I cant understand the analogy you have written there o, anything football is wasted on me okhien Owie ooo

midnighter:


Hahaha please dont argue with me o! Just leave me to my problem

Responsible parent! I guess you can leave your child in the presence of those 2 wild cats they killed yesterday as far as they dont scratch her too much smh

And I cant understand the analogy you have written there o, anything football is wasted on me okhien Owie ooo

Continue claiming feminist on social network and suffer..
The people that mostly suffer from domestic violence rarely speaks out in public and rarely let their parent know, but this one call her mother who pick her son for war in alaska... why? the world women is that men are always wrong when its come to issues with a woman.
I have seen when a girl shouted thief on her bf and the folish guys that response beat the guy before she realize the guy was already been set on fire. Abusive man is abusive man. while dating you were suppose to know the person in and out and not sex upon sex.

godbless120:
Continue claiming feminist on social network and suffer..
The people that mostly suffer from domestic violence rarely speaks out in public and rarely let their parent know, but this one call her mother who pick her son for war in alaska... why? the world women is that men are always wrong when its come to issues with a woman.
I have seen when a girl shouted thief on her bf and the folish guys that response beat the guy before she realize the guy was already been set on fire. Abusive man is abusive man. while dating you were suppose to know the person in and out and not sex upon sex.

Hahahaha now I know you are totally lost! Wetin consign feminism wey pesin wan beat me scatter

So according to you, because domestic violence victims "mostly" refuse to speak out in public, they should ALL zip up until theyre totally finished so that you can feel better? i dont understand what youre typing oooo

Youre just writing irrelevancies. Somebody don marry since youre talking of dating. Of what use is that observation now if somebody is truly about to die?

So you can actually leave your daughter where shes screaming and call her husband to confirm that he beat her up before you intervene? You are a terrible fellow

speed99:
Hmmm. this is tough
Thing is more of an altercation, a wrangle, a one-off loss of decorum. It can happen, perhaps under the influence of alcohol and pent-up anger. Your wife should know better. Again, more disturbing is the speed at making decision, a decision to exit the house with your child.
Have you made a mistake, Yes. Did you show remorse? is this error habitual? How can your in-laws invade your home and just take decisions?
Be a man, show love and support, but their daughter should be with them for a while, till everyone learn their place[

Ekene161829 , listen to this guy. There are better ways to resolve this, but the action of the family shows she's not from a responsible home.

midnighter:


Hahahaha now I know you are totally lost! Wetin consign feminism wey pesin wan beat me scatter

So according to you, because domestic violence victims "mostly" refuse to speak out in public, they should ALL zip up until theyre totally finished so that you can feel better? i dont understand what youre typing oooo

Youre just writing irrelevancies. Somebody don marry since youre talking of dating. Of what use is that observation now if somebody is truly about to die?

So you can actually leave your daughter where shes screaming and call her husband to confirm that he beat her up before you come intervene? You are a terrible fellow

You didn't read what i wrote.. i said i will summon her and the husband over to heared from both but if the husband refuse then i will be right up there... while you were dating what was the reason? if he was abusive then n u still marry him then u are suffering from your mistake which i can try to correct..

godbless120:


You didn't read what i wrote.. i said i will summon her and the husband over to heared from both but if the husband refuse then i will be right up there... while you were dating what was the reason? if he was abusive then n u still marry him then u are suffering from your mistake which i can try to correct..

Lol I am just laughing into my pillow...what are you summoning

Somebody is potentially being beaten to a pulp and you're in your house talking about summoning. Do you know what the woman cried and cried on the phone to the parents to make them act that way?

This must be the same attitude that allowed that Onicha market to burn down when Anambra state has a fire service because I truly dont understand what on earth you are writing.

Dear OP, I empathize with you. I'm sure you might not even be productive at work cos different thoughts would run through your mind.

See ehn, women's decisions are based on calculated, premeditated thoughts. She probably has reported you to her family long before the fight and you think all is well. For her to pack her belongings call her brother and mother all in less than 4 hours, she has given "going back to Daddy's house" several thoughts. There could be things she misses, probably the vacations, pocket money, being pampered by everyone.

I strongly disagree with you hitting her but when a woman is bent on frustrating you, only God can deliver you from that situation.

Next time, if you are gonna come home very late and you know madam would create a scene, it's better you don't go home at all. Come up with a story on how you got lock up at the police station by a drunken policeman and watch how things turn out for your good.

Plead:



Chai

Is this the way you’re also mentioned anyhow?

Especially when it hits front page.

Plead:

Be realistic next time when making senseless statements.

Since you says that to your father i take no offense.

midnighter:


Lol I am just laughing into my pillow...what are you summoning

Somebody is potentially being beaten to a pulp and you're in your house talking about summoning. Do you know what the woman cried and cried on the phone to the parents to make them act that way?

This must be the same attitude that allowed that Onicha market to burn down when Anambra state has a fire service because I truly dont understand what on earth you are writing.

So if a man just lost his tempter a slap a girl makes the man being abusive? if that your point and you are my daughter then that is where u gonna... you brought a man to me telling me he want 2 marry, before that is done you might hv known the type of person he is.. So in ur useless world a girl can break bottle on a man, insult the man parent, slap the man n if the man just lost his cool, he is suddenly abusive.. Girl you are just from your pa doing that to your ma.. People like u are most likely to be abuse daily.

lol

oops

nah

godbless120:


So if a man just lost his tempter a slap a girl makes the man being abusive? if that your point and you are my daughter then that is where u gonna... you brought a man to me telling me he want 2 marry, before that is done you might hv known the type of person he is.. So in ur useless world a girl can break bottle on a man, insult the man parent, slap the man n if the man just lost his cool, he is suddenly abusive.. Girl you are just from your pa doing that to your ma.. People like u are most likely to be abuse daily.

Are you okay? I dont get it, you dont understand English or what

I keep asking you; how do you know the girl told them exactly what happened? When we can clearly see from the OP that the woman is totally irrational?

How do you know what the parents think until they call OP to confront him?

STOP SOWING APPLE OF DISCORD, ALWAYS OPT FOR PEACE. PEOPLE LIKE YOU SHOULD BELONG TO ANOTHER PLANET.

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

coldFLARES1:
As married men, we face challenges that are huge, varied and very real, as such I don't subscribe to facing yet unnecessary squabbles on the home front. I did say it was irresponsible of him not to have called to inform his wife he would be returning so late. Yet, I consider it unreasonable to hound him everywhere, even after his apologies (he said he did before the slap), on account of the slight.

Talking about divorce, I don't see a reason not to if the head could be side-stepped in such manner. They are a young couple and should be allowed an opportunity to resolve issues without interference, except it hs been established that a party lacks the ability for peaceful timely resolution of conflicts but is yet still interested in the union.

So, my advise remains: ignore the wife and her family ! If it ends that way, so be it!

Interference in absolutely necessary once violence has been introduced. Especially by the erring husband!

danilmo:


Even at the first time with apology, not even second o?? then Such women should stay out of Marriage.

ok who knows if she also have 0 tolerance on how to train stubborn children wahala

all baby butter girls self

Does an apology change the fact that he hit her? When the one that is supposed to "love and cherish you" raises his hand to hit you, it is an affront on the woman and a sign or disrespect and disregard; a sign of irresponsibility, lack of control and restraint.

Beating doesn't come with marriage as you make it sound. So whether it's the first, second or half time, she has the right to decide a course of action. Because people have died because they decided to keep accepting apologies and staying.

A man that hits a woman and thinks it's ok should be watched because he is a danger to people around him and to himself. I don't take domestic abuse lightly whether from a man or woman. If the spouse chooses to leave, it's a decision that should be respected.

Osyxcel:


I agree you with you. I hope the OP genuinely regrets what he did. The woman should give him the benefit of doubt. If it then happens again, then the woman would be absolutely right to leave him.

I do not support domestic violence.

Yeah. But sometimes that benefit of doubt could be abused and lead to more beatings. There are women that can't stand being beaten. Still, staying or leaving is a personal choice.

If my father stopped beating me as I became mature. The person that brought me into this world didn't see it fit to beat me when I offended. Why would a man who I was handed over to by my father with the promise of being loved and cherished beat me? That's my mindset and understanding. Beating should not even be in the equation.

ImaIma1:


Yeah. But sometimes that benefit of doubt could be abused and lead to more beatings. There are women that can't stand being beaten. Still staying or leaving is a personal choice.

If my father stopped beating me as I became mature. The person that brought me into this world didn't see it fit to beat me when I offended. Why would a man who I was handed over to by my father with the promise of being loved and cherished beat me? That's my mindset and understanding. Beating should not even be in the equation.

That's why I said this is the first time, and according to the OP, a mistake. If it happens again, then it's not a mistake. So, giving the benefit of doubt in this instance is in order. We all make mistakes.

godbless120:



I don't swallow paracetamol on someone else headache bro... its easy to be holy on social media yet worse in real life.
Remember that feminist who rant that men are scum and all sort of name, she got pregnant to a man without marraige and that is your type.
The post was the story from the guy perspective, and my point was for the guy to judge his conscience. But you rant about what your pop has been doing to your ma.

My dad can never hit my mom they is nothing like first time or the last time no man have the right too hit a woman it just right and it shows how irresponsible such person can be, it a pity you are supporting violence against women knowing well that you have a sister at there....

edoman2016:
Is your wife from a single home? What's your father in-law reaction about the whole thing?

my pop man won't allow her to leave her home and share a room in his house but Sha whether intentional or unintentionally he would receive the warning of his life, seems like she thinks life is a film were at a single provocation you exit your home lol... MR continue begging if she insists let her be and live your life and be happy no be person go tell am make she reason well

midnighter:


Hahahaha now I know you are totally lost! Wetin consign feminism wey pesin wan beat me scatter

So according to you, because domestic violence victims "mostly" refuse to speak out in public, they should ALL zip up until theyre totally finished so that you can feel better? i dont understand what youre typing oooo

Youre just writing irrelevancies. Somebody don marry since youre talking of dating. Of what use is that observation now if somebody is truly about to die?

So you can actually leave your daughter where shes screaming and call her husband to confirm that he beat her up before you intervene? You are a terrible fellow

too much Hollywood nahin dey make some people weigh things before them take decision

shestrong:


Wetin concern u concern my dp? carry urself nd ur comment commot for hia jor.

You better behave well when you get married so you don't take a decision that will cost you your marriage. There are ladies everywhere willing to take over but there are no husbands everywhere only fvckers. Beware!

victorian:







And do u know our mom didn't like the girl one bit.

One night my mom woke up from her sleep, went to my brother's room banged the door so hard, my brother opened with the girl by his side.
She pounced on her that she should leave our house that minute and she's a viper in the spirit world and she had better leave her son alone. My mum went berserk that night, I had to calm her down and also tell my brother to take her out of the house. My moms eyes were on fire, screaming she's a snake! U think u can kill my son! U won't succeed.
She later calmed down when she left.
My brother kept away from the girl afterwards. But immediately my mum died, he went back to her and that's when I came back from. Work one day hearing her shouting at him and he was just quiet.
I was like what!
Who the hell is that person shouting like that! Lo and behold same girl!
The way I looked at her she left. I called my brother Uv brought her back again? And see how she's talking to u! Oh my God!
Warn her, if her hear her shout at u again? She will be shocked what I will do to her. Mama own sef will even be small compared to mine. As u cant stand for yourself and drive her away for good.
Las las she pushed him to do the unthinkable and he collapsed and died.

Mehn! I hate nagging

If you want to talk to me to see reason? Talk like a normal human being, calmly with sense. Don't nag at me cos I won't take it!
It drives me nuts!


So sorry about your brother as well.

Oh my God! Your mum (may God bless her soul) tried.
Recently, i read a post on here, where a guy needed advice on whether or not to marry his girlfriend even though the lady nags, insults him and isn't submissive. He said his mum met the lady and told him not to marry her but he claims to love the girl and wants to marry her.

I commented and shared a bit of my late brothers story and advised him to take his mothers advice because women are detailed and intuitive in nature. Women can smell trouble 5 miles afar.

My mum was also against my brothers marriage to his wife, but he insisted and ended up dying instead.

What a world!

Thanks @ bolded

LilMissFavvy:
How would you have felt if it was your wife who hanged out with her friends and came back by 2am? Any married man or woman who does things without considering the other partner is immature or simply wicked. Your wife's brother should have slapped you back, or is he a weak man? He should have slapped you ensuring that you bleed from your mouth and nose. As for your wife, continue to call her, send messages, give her more time, she will heal and return to you. It's very shameful that her brother was there and did not defend her, by slapping the st-pi---y outta your brains.

U stink of foolishness.

So is now a family war than slight matrimonial issues.
Didn't u read where he said this is regrettable and that he hasn't done this B4, and has kept appolosing and repeating himselfall night?.

Am sure u r not married, as such knows only theories ur pastor may have taught.

Marital issue is not a mechanical issue did you hear me? So shut the Bleep up and use wisdom if u have any.

Funny enough plenty Ode are liking this crap u wrote here.

That lady and her mother are bent on crashing that marriage. Thisis definitely not the reason a mother will come to where her daughters home and take her away just like that. I mean, why will a small issue a mother and son could step in and caution the man with all seriousness and then settle the matter, be a thing of coming to encourage her to leave her matrimonial home? For a mistake that is happening for the first time.

Feminist mentality, u don't encourage sense of responsibility. Mtcheww

U r just not serious. I don't even expect u to understand anything. Olodo

King44:
too much Hollywood nahin dey make some people weigh things before them take decision

Phew! I just cant understand that guy at all

shestrong:

Pls and pls get out of my mention, u are entitled to what ever u want to think just get out.

Get out to where? Women must always be women.. Most are with lite brain

Joyincrease:
Well said....the brother should have fixed him up. Na so Dem dey take women for granted.

Another idiot spotted... #smh

lol

Ogegod87:


Oh my God! Your mum (may God bless her soul) tried.
Recently, i read a post on here, where a guy needed advice on whether or not to marry his girlfriend even though the lady nags, insults him and isn't submissive. He said his mum met the lady and told him not to marry her but he claims to love the girl and wants to marry her.

I commented and shared a bit of my late brothers story and advised him to take his mothers advice because women are detailed and intuitive in nature. Women can smell trouble 5 miles afar.

My mum was also against my brothers marriage to his wife, but he insisted and ended up dying instead.

What a world!

Thanks @ bolded

Honestly some women are very intuitive and spiritual in nature, we can see what most men can't see. God has given us that gift already.
It's sad my late bro didn't listen to me when I warned him.

Even a week before the stroke came, I had a horrible feeling for weeks that some bad wants to happen in my home but I know it's not me, cause I hold God like super glue and I don't joke with my spiritual protection, so I knew If it's not me? It will be my brother. I callled him, sat him down told him about what I'm feeling that something bad is about to strike our home. And he should follow. Me to Church and be closer to God. He laughed at me and said Sister spirikoko, Haba! Now u are feeling something bad want to happen Abi? You this woman u better stop all this your spirit shiiit! And focus on the real world. Before u turn to spirit itself. I shook my head, I talked more he walked out on me. The next week the bad feeling didn't go away. I woke him up again around 1am in the night, cried and begged him please follow me to church, and be close to God, you are the only one I have, Pls!!! He looked at me and said Sister u are worrying yourself for nothing. Nobody can harm me, I am fine. He looked at me again and shrugged then said OK I will follow u to church don't worry. He followed me just one Sunday and didn't continue again
I complained he said Haba! It's enough I have followed u, so leave me alone.

I sighed sadly, after one week thats when he woke up with stroke, he said a woman shot him in the dream And that's how the stroke started for 3years, spending up and down. Anyways God knows best, that's all I can say.