I am quite a young man in my late 20's. There's this lady whom I love so much. She's from one of these eastern states in Nigeria. She's very beautiful, very godly and still a virgin. We've been together for about two years now but no money for marriage. The reason is because it is quite expensive to get married in their state.

I told her to inquire from her parents how much I may need for the marital rites she called me back and said about 500k (na just to manage be that o). So I said ok. 500k is actually a small amount but when you try to get it and you cannot, then it will suddenly become like 500 million to you. So I started putting in more efforts to raise the money but na lie the money no wan show.

Guess what I did today? I called her up and after talking about other issues I finally told her that I can't keep waiting to raise that amount of money. I have been depressed about it for some time now but I couldn't tell her because I didn't want her to get bothered. So I told her to go tell her parents that what I can raise by God's grace is 200k. If they approve, I'll come but if not make she go look for another man marry. Before now she has been asking me to come with anything I have but I kept saying no and the reason is that you can't just show up at someone's house and tell them that you've come to pick up their daughter with the little amount you have. So guess what? Just like magic they agreed to what I said (even though I wasn't expecting it to go that way). She sent me the text confirming her parent's approval. For me its a big miracle. If I should tell you the state in question you won't believe it.

So here's my advise to you all who want to get married to the love of your life but no money... Make you and the Babe get strong head work together or else her village people go dey delay una marriage because they want something elaborate. It's good to be stubborn I tell people. Both of you should come up with a plan (not to get her pregnant o. I don't support that please). But the plan will be carried out by your woman. She should stubbornly insist incase the parents are the difficult type, that this is the man she wishes to marry and if they don't let her she will remain single for ever (parents especially mothers dey fear that kind talk) if it doesn't work think of something else.

Just keep trying or else two of una go dey there old. But above all please put God first. He can make even the most hardened of men become soft for your sake. He may not send you all the money you need to fulfil what's in the list but He can make her parents accept you the way you are. It is called favour. What you need is the approval and blessings from both parents nothing more.

Forget village people. They too like eating and drinking. Remember that if you spend all the money in your account just to get married you and your wife will starve after the wedding. And to those who are insisting on white wedding please stop being foolish. White wedding is just a mere celebration just to fulfil all righteousness. If you have the money for it, fine. If not, no kill yourself. Don't keep your woman or man waiting.

Take a bold step today and God will meet you guys halfway. But whatever you do PLEASE don't marry a lazy woman. With this is mind, its just a matter of time you guys will succeed. Two good head are better than one. All the best guys. One love.

Wow! May God bless your Union. Amen

we human are our problem not ur village ppl. We just want to please ppl instead of GOD. GOD Will Bless ur Home.

That's very good! Many times when I think of marrying this my igbo babe(I'm yoruba) I sometimes wonder how much it'll cost me. This lady definitely worth every penny honestly but the way Nigeria is now doesn't give room for too much spending especially for upcoming men.

Same here, scared of marrying like shit .

Thiwalade:
That's very good! Many times when I think of marrying this my igbo babe(I'm yoruba) I sometimes wonder how much it'll cost me. This lady definitely worth every penny honestly but the way Nigeria is now doesn't give room for too much spending especially for upcoming men.

My brother am Ibo and I know how my people can be. Just follow what the OP said. If you wan do half of wetin de their list your 500k don burn. Minus traditional marriage o.

Pluto11:
You were lucky is all. You need to thank God.

Congrats.

There's nothing like luck in life. The Bible calls it time and chance or being at the right place, at the right time with the right requirements. The only time luck occurs is if a child is born into a rich home because they didn't plan for it. But as for other things my brother you must be intentional about it o.

Pluto11:



Rich or poor, luck is getting what you do not deserve or work for just like that. If that girl's father was the greedy kind this guy will be crying now. The girl would be dragged to another man's house and 1 million exchange hands. All this why her mother will be telling her how its a crime for beautiful women like her to marry a poor man.

He was lucky.

Hmmmm.... My brother something is wrong with Africa. We are our own problem. All the best to him though

You should have wait to finished the entire marriage process before becoming a motivational speaker. When you are actually in the middle of it and you discover there are some inevitable bills you must settle, don't come here to open another thread about how you were used by your to be in-laws. You should have been excited if the marriage list the family gives you is in the region of what you have not the family telling you to come with what you have. Be guided, get the list first.

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Jesse25:

Saddist that what you are

Jesse25, You know nothing, it quite unfortunate that a black man hate REALITY but be it as it may, you can never run from it.
What does advising him not to jump into a stream with both legs has to do with sadist. We need an update on this matter, let the op post the marriage list when he finally get it for people like you to see.

what of govt tax of #21000 for marriage levy

MEGA4BILLION:
You should have wait to finished the entire marriage process before becoming a motivational speaker. When you are actually in the middle of it and you discover there are some inevitable bills you must settle, don't come here to open another thread about how you were used by your to be in-laws. You should have been excited if the marriage list the family gives you is in the region of what you have not the family telling you to come with what you have. Be guided, get the list first.

My brother just wish me well. Everyone can't have the same experience.

mumumugu:
what of govt tax of #21000 for marriage levy

Interesting! I wish you all the best

Godislove1234:
My brother just wish me well. Everyone can't have the same experience.

I wish you all the best. Get the list from them, that's what will guide you.

martjay:
Interesting! I wish you all the best

Thanks brother

why do I feel her parents just want her out of the house

ikechukwu21:


My brother am Ibo and I know how my people can be. Just follow what the OP said. If you wan do half of wetin de their list your 500k don burn. Minus traditional marriage o.

Thank you very much ikechukwu. The lady is also very interested in us together

God bless your union. But why will I pay 500k for marital rites? Even my sis own was not up to 100k. The bride price no reach 20k talk more of 50k. My dad was so lenient with everything. The fact is even if it's 1m for the bride price, the money will surely finish. So my making things difficult for people when u can make it easy.

I personally wouldn't get married until I have an account balance of nothing less than 3 million after all the marriage rites has been performed,renting and decoration of house etc.

Marriage is not child's play abeg, congrats OP

happily single, marriage isnt for everyone, and not everyone is happily married, divorce is rampant these days. After few months newly weds usually file for divorce.

single mums plenty for streets pass single guys, hoes oloshos and slay mamas everywhere. I won't advise you to marry or don't marry, CUT YOUR COAT ACCORDING TO YOUR CLOTH!!!!

most who rush into marriage end up to be telling us "ngbatiii" "ngbatiii" stories on nairaland!!!

Ok

I love one girl and i want to marry her but due to lack of money I'm not comfortable making my feelings known to her. Now some rich dude has proposed to her and she has accepted

Thiwalade:
That's very good! Many times when I think of marrying this my igbo babe(I'm yoruba) I sometimes wonder how much it'll cost me. This lady definitely worth every penny honestly but the way Nigeria is now doesn't give room for too much spending especially for upcoming men.

Everyday you people will be insulting igbos but won't leave our women alone

Marriage is a beautiful thing.

Dem no dey telli person.

okay. thanks for the advice.

Gabson001:
why do I feel her parents just want her out of the house

If that is what the parents are trying to achieve, na dem sabi

The important thing is Op and his fiancée love each other and want to settle down together and so far, things are working in their favour.

What is the reason behind an expensive wedding?
Who nor get today fit get today.
All these states need to check these expensive bride price stuff

Mmmm that's good news for you, but someone will ask what happens after the wedding?

The upkeep, pregnancy and children school fees