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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:11pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Hallenjay: You type like a teenager, I don't banter words with children. 4 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by mustaphatg: 11:13pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
none of us were there when u guys started d love he z ur spouse right? just talk to him as a wife and not as a.... |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Fountainofyouth(f): 11:13pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Plenty stupid people dey for this nairaland sha, very hypocritical irritants always talking from both sides of the mouth, these are the same weird creatures saying they can never marry a woman who isn't working, that she'll be a leech, bla bla bla.....now they are advocating for Op to continue to be a house wife smh, if the yeye husband was giving her enough money for upkeep and for herself, do you think she will bother about working? Confused lots. 10 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 11:15pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: From your comments I can tell my age from yours. And by the same extension what you're not seeing. The man isn't just preventing her from work. He's breaking her down morally and psychologically so she losses herself to depend on him as a job which is wrong. From the motive to the application. I replied you tentatively in our earlier interactions. Marriage is titfor tat, not master slave relationship. If he married a genius and then keeps her locked up as a slave, her creative ability forces her to be restless, hence she needs a job. Creative people can't stay idle. He isn't trying to provide for her, he's trying to force a flawed logic on her and emotionally blackmailing her to accept his will without a challenge. She needs to decide if she wants to be in cuffs or free. I'm sure you're a Christian. There's a rule I apply in everything I do. Whatever I lose my liberty and expression I term it slavery. Automatically He's not telling her not to work because he will or can provide. No. He's demoralising her so she won't see the need to have a life without him. IT'S A DELIBERATE PLOY 17 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:17pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: Oh..he used to pamper you? If he stopped then I think it your turn now to pamper him. He's also human. As for the checking on your baby during break...thats unrealistic but dont tell him to his face that youll not go. Just don't go. As for allowing you to work, put it in prayers and there are stay-at -home jobs you can also do online. Ask round. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Conceptman: 11:17pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Some social media women with feminist thinking sef I tire o, you get better husband but e be sey you want join single parent league wey plenty outside now, if he doesn't hit you, u better find a way to end the problem u have in ur marriage ASAP |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:22pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Then best for her quit the marriage now that it's still young with just a child, and be free to pursue any career of her choice. By the way, these days marriage is no longer compulsory. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by YorubaKing: 11:23pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
SBL28: We sabi una type... Olofo! 1 Like
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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 11:24pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: It's not your call. It's also not mine.. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:28pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
[s] SBL28:[/s] 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Conceptman: 11:30pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
A ni E ma jaa mo, seun wa la ja o. Lalasticlala come here and settle fight here , mynd4 wey that koboko e be like sey awon omo feminist yehn lo n ba understand materials(full yard) ja Tonyebarcanista the Sars is here, o ya police arrest them all |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:30pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker:And you think you are wiser than your mom? If you like allow single and searching old feminists destroy your marriage... That's your business 4 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by kushme: 11:31pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve: . yes he did.. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by liv123: 11:31pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
GraGra247:. You're too hash with your advice. And if she jumped in this way, believe me she might lose the marriage..... While can't her start something from? She can work from home, there's internet everywhere now. Let her negotiate with the husband to look for companies she can work from the comfort of her home. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by lomprico(m): 11:31pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: you have 2 babies in the house. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:33pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:I find it repulsive to see two adults always acting as if they're in a competition when the rules are clearly spelt out, for me, I think it's that simple, if you can submit to a man as your husband, there's absolutely no need you been in marriage with because it's never going to work. My advice will always be, if you can not cope with your husband's rules and see a way to subtly make him bend those rules to suit you, you don't have any business being in a man's life and be complaining. Simply live your life the way it pleases you and nobody will come demanding that you submit to him or not. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 11:35pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: No need for drama. Ask her this question, does he have enough saving to keep the marriage afloat for six months if he loses the job or has an emergency? If he can't, then it's just a pathetic primitive game. Lol and with this stiffened comments, forget it, women will hardly stay. Marriage isn't forced. If the woman doesn't accept, forget it. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by okoroemeka(m): 11:35pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Forward77:I don't quite agree with most of your points,some men or boys can be too jealous and demanding but you just can't genaralize,but a man that cannot let his wife work due to fears of rebellion or infidelity is having serious insecurity issue. 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Forward77(m): 11:36pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: That’s the truest part most ladies ignore. That’s actually why most ladies are either forever single or divorced |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 11:37pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Conceptman:Omo these feminists are useless 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Forward77(m): 11:39pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
okoroemeka: That’s your opinion. Since you do not agree with me; then raise your own suggestion(s). |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:41pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:Again ask this question, what kind of job is the wife talking about and can that work sustain the family six months if the man loses his? Even if it can, one of the worst nightmares of any man will be to be out of job while the wife works, just a few men will be lucky not to consider suicide due to the reckless abuses they'll be getting from their wives. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Forward77(m): 11:41pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Amanda4life: If you’re talking from what i wrote; I was actually talking about men, not women. But if not, specify and i will answer you. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 11:41pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: Smh. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by djon78(m): 11:41pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
All my sisters are well educated, married and had good paying jobs, in fact high paying jobs. In fact my sister who is a medical doctor with a 2 yrs baby, the husband allowed her to go to UK for medical fellowship/post graduate, recently she is back for 2 weeks to spend time with hubby. Aunty you are married to a backward and acheic man 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Fountainofyouth(f): 11:42pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Desric: You've just been saying submission submission, forgetting that submission isn't to be forced but earned, same as respect, submission comes naturally for those who are worth it, earned it and appreciate it, Op's husband is neither, he wants to cage her. 10 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:43pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
projectorz:Plenty plenty problems dey for nairaland See as you wan scatter this marriage Chai And you mean yours is perfect chai woman. Dem no dey study sense for school |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 11:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Forward77: OP this is part of the problem, look what you wrote: Damilolacoker: You said you need something to occupy your mind because you are a graduate yet somebody came up with a viable solution and you immediately shot it down just because its not exactly what you see for yourself. Do you realise that you are experiencing a serious problem? You need to be less rigid and think laterally. Everything cant be as perfect as you'd like it right now, at least you could start somewhere. You dont have a job now doesnt mean you wont ever have, at least you should consider your options. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:44pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
healthserve:So you sabi this man wife pass him |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 11:45pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Your writings reinforce the truth about how useless you are. Such a foolish lady. SBL28: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by djon78(m): 11:45pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Many men are acheic, how can you tell your wife not to work? Most times it is guys that led very dirty lives as singles. They think every woman is loose. Absolute nonsense. My dear you don enter, find ways to mitigate the situation. I am so sorry for you 11 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Desric(m): 11:46pm On Dec 17, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:And I've said simple thing, let her quit and pursue her career without interference, she might just see another guy who's her match and live happily married thereafter. |
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