goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

AfroKnight:
As a man, that’s the proper thing to do. Your woman should be the one loving you more. It’s the surest way the relationship can survive.

anonymous1759:



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That's the best thing to do. You'll have peace of mind. Someone who loves you more will Tolerate most of your short comings. You can't love each other equally that's a fact.

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

AfroKnight:
As a man, that’s the proper thing to do. Your woman should be the one loving you more. It’s the surest way the relationship can survive.

luminouz:


Nice points

UbiPetrus:
While it is okay for her to love you so much, you are the man and should love her crazily.
The holy book commands the man to love and the woman to be submissive.
If she loves you more than you love her, that is, if you doubt what it is that you feel for her, then I wouldn't advice you to go ahead.

digitalman2811:
I just got married two months ago,my wife loves me so much,that is were the problem lies,she pursues me for sex,care and affection,instead of the other way round,is like when huge amount of sugar is added to a cup of tea.a man suppose to love his wife the more, in turn the woman supposed to be submissive.
I got married to her because I felt I may not be able to meet someone that loves me that much,now I'm getting tired after two months of marriage.my guy go for a woman you are crazy for,go for the woman that will make you beat traffic while going home,go for a woman you will pursue while she makes shakara for you.marriage no be small thing ooo.

J111333:
Love is not enough in marriage.

She may love you but not like you enough, not willing to die for you, not willing to share secrets with you, not willing to share a space with you and finally, not see you as great companion.

This is why many married folks still keep side guys, sidechicks and besties. Many keep them for sex but few others keep them because of great companionship. Does that mean they don't love their spouses? No, they do but great friendship goes beyond love.

Mariangeles:

Why are men afraid to love more ?

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

chrisifeanyi:
Don't ever make the mistake of marrying a woman that you love more, you will die 20 years before your time. A woman supposed to love you more than you love her. Be warned!

luminouz:


I dont know about men. I just know about me.

From my perspective,what you ladies refer to as love differ from my own definition. I can cherish and adore my woman but the 'butterfly in tummy,mushy mushy, head in the clouds, can't sleep till you hear her voice' kinda feeling is something I have never felt babe. I stay grounded and logical, all the time. Maybe because I'm alien or some stuff like that, I have always been able to see reality,one that others dont see or choose not to see. And guess what, I have been lucky to meet girls who really loved(in their own definition) me. All I did was to make sure I make them happy.

But I have experienced what you call love from other girls. Some are pure while some are manipulative,selfish and based on what they stood to gain.

One thing is sure, no girl I dated ever told me she would stay if I lose my diick.


Conclusion:


Love is a mirage. What you have are people and their personal interests.

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice

Mariangeles:

Any human can be manipulative and selfish. It is not a female thing.
In fact, I think it's a 'love' thing to be manipulative, selfish, petty, jealous, proud and all what nots...
It takes maturity to address those feelings or else the love dies.

chrisifeanyi:
Don't ever make the mistake of marrying a woman that you love more, you will die 20 years before your time. A woman supposed to love you more than you love her. Be warned!

UbiPetrus:
While it is okay for her to love you so much, you are the man and should love her crazily.
The holy book commands the man to love and the woman to be submissive.
If she loves you more than you love her, that is, if you doubt what it is that you feel for her, then I wouldn't advice you to go ahead.

luminouz:



Wrong....

What you call love is nothing but personal interest. Surely,the kind of love the bible talks about aint what you described. That's utterly seffless and not about personal interest. Few humans can even approach such a level. We are too tied to our emotions.

If you have no personal stake in anyone or anything, why experience those range of emotions you described?

I have said my own o.

NaijadrivaCars:
A man is meant to love, while the woman submits to his love.

In otherwords, Loving is a man's role while submission to the man is a woman's role.

Mariangeles:

What you described is the God-kind of love(unconditional) , we should all have that for humanity but I'm sure that's not what the OP meant...

goldenpenny2:
Fellow N/Landers

The future is unpredictable but nobody is praying for bad thing. This question have been bothering me for long. I thought it wise to it with good people of Nairaland and seeking for helpful advice.

As a man, is it advisable to marry the lady who loves you more than you love her?

please advice