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Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by djon78(m): 12:10am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Desric: Dude most of you are backward and acheic simple. How can you tell your wife not to work. Its barbaric simple. I am a very exposed traditional African man but telling your wife not to work is evil. And like I said, men with this kind of thinking are those that lived loose life as singles, they think every woman is loose. I have married sisters, beautiful, smart, intelligent, classy. My parents brought them up in traditional African way, they run homes perfectly But all there husbands allow them to work. I am from Anambra State that has produced pace setting women, married and still submissive to there husbands; late Dora Akunyili, Oby Ezekwwsili, Chimanda Adichie etc Do you know Dora all the time she was in NAFDAC/ Minister, she cooks the food her husband eats. Nobody does it for her. See we raise our daughters be submissive, but don't give up on your dreams. And when the men comes to marry our daughters we tell them, that you can't stop there careers. That's what my Dad told all the men that came to marry his daughters; they have been raised perfectly for you, marry them well, and the girls don't disappoint. See there are quality women of sound stock out there. But not every man deserve them. They are meant for men who know value, not backward and acheic kind of men 10 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:12am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy: I'm supportive to atleast 5 marriages. Psychological sprititual and opportunity support. All are ten years old and doing fine. He will need her permission, acceptance and agreement for what he intends to achieve. But Mark my words. Such marriages are never happy and financially stable. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:12am On Dec 18, 2019 |
BravoDe:22 is not too early for marriage. Most of our mothers married when they were 15-19 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by agbonkamen(f): 12:13am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Forward77(m): 12:13am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Chi59: I normally don’t reply feminists. I will advise you to give her a better option from mine Or Stop seeking cheap attention. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by victorian(f): 12:14am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Damilolacoker: My dear, don't be a full time house wife o. Men are unpredictable. What I will suggest is this. Don't quarrel with your husband. Talk to him lovingly when he's in a good mood about the job thing or preferably he can open a business for you, which u can do within your area. Getting a job is dicey but having your own business is better. You can able to manage your time and come home on-time to pick your daughter from school and also.prepare dinner before your hubby comes back from work. Show more care to your daughter, it's necessary for her upbringing and also for your hubby to know you cherish her. Because it looks like, he feels u want to neglect your daughter and just focus on having a job, which is not good. So don't quarrel with him about this issue, be more loving and let him know how it drives u nuts staying at home and not using your brain to work. Do u know that's the issue I'm having with suitors coming my way? I have a company o, but they want me to close it down and be full time housewife, I laugh! Close down really? Anyways thank God I'm with a man whose loves my ambition and he's supporting me all the day. Unlike others who felt I should just seat at home and be getting fatter. Later the same husband will be the one to. Insult you that u are becoming too fat! That's some men for you, I won't say all men. Before I met my man recently I almost cried to one of my best friend, an elderly man as I complained to him. I told him. If that's the case I rather stay single than be married and just be eating, fucvking, breeding kids and cooking, with cleaning. Honestly I can't live like that all my life, while my brain rust away. Hell no! I prayed with tears and God answered. So my dear don't talk harshly to him about this job thing. Talk softly , be more respectful and submissive but let him know u are serious about it. With time, he will see reason and allow u work. Keep reminding him And let him also know u won't be proud while u are working . Because men are unpredictable! They can do and undo. Especially when u are at their mercy with no cent to your name. Men? God forbid, he might meet another lady outside, say lemme just have fun and idle sex, from that idle sex he has become hooked and lemme tell you. From that moment he's hooked, he won't care anymore about your upkeep and your daughters upkeep. He can even throw u out sef! For the new woman to enter, damning all consequences. That's how foolish some. Men can be. It has even happened to women I know. Some died with heartbreak, some were left helpless in the hands of friends, cos they have no job, and their parents are no more.. Be wise. So it's not advisable to place all your life in the hands of man. Even if he's your husband. Sha be wise when handling him.. 5 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 12:14am On Dec 18, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: You cant compare that generation and this one. The societies and spaces women occupied then were totally different. 22 is not too early for some people but you cant blame others for being apprehensive. It is too young if you are looking to develop in the way OP is 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Elina123: Seriously? You're very delusional, I must confess. What do you mean by 'it makes a man feels you can't be controlled'? Is that how your husband controls you? Is she a child to be controlled? Madam. If that's how you thrive in your household, hold on tightly to it. Don't come on a forum like this to show your ignorance. You're seriously ignorant. And this advice belongs to the trash can. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by imam07: 12:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth:There are many ladies outside there, starving for husband of their own. If they can even get yeye husband, they will than God. I dont believe u grew uo to know your father. Because if u did know him, your life will not be like this. If u quote me, beheading will be ur case. 4 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
djon78: My brother God bless you. How I wish I knew one of your single sisters earlier.... ![]() God forbid I give my daughter to any man who stops them from living their dreams. Men that turn doctors to tailors. ![]() 8 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Forward77:Oh I'm a feminist because I denounced your blind beliefs? You tell me, so you think you're a big baby, possessive and throwing tantrums at your age. I'm sure you have white hairs on your balls, yet you think you're a baby. Come lemme breastfeed you. Shame. 6 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:15am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:But you're not giving good advice on this Befor I talk about marriage I know what I'm saying Now can you tell me the excuses woman gave when the cheat He's just a colleague, my mom said I should come We have night Virgil so on |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:17am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy: All marriages I leant support 10to12 years ago are standing. Till date I still mentor their marriages. The ones I said no, all ended or are still sad. This one is nonsense. No man born of a woman will try this shii wif my daughters. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by karli4nia(m): 12:18am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Some men have serious ego and insecurity issues. This is a sad fact. Lady, if your intentions are pure, then you shld be smart enough to find the best way around this, without making him feel his manhood is being undermined. If there is no headway, then try be calm and patient, keep your cool and dont let all this make u go berserk. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:18am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:Once she attain the age of doing business without being deceived her husband will give her go ahead |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:19am On Dec 18, 2019 |
midnighter:Your position is neither here nor there. 22 is not too early to marry whether then or now. In fact, 18-26 is the best time for a female to marry as long as she found a man of her own that loves her. And as for development, one can attain personal development with or without marriage and irrespective of age. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:19am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy: Like he gave her life to determine her existence. Any human that forces force dependency on people is a destroyer. They want to strip people of their ability to exist without them. This one has issues. Better hustle up so you don't depend on destroying a wife to appear superior. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:19am On Dec 18, 2019 |
[s] UyaiIncomparabl:[/s] Are you married? ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:19am On Dec 18, 2019 |
frozen70:[/s] Mehn. Ignorant women full this forum o! Madam abeg, just take several seats. 3 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by victorian(f): 12:20am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Fountainofyouth: Ha! Chai! ![]() You are just too hard! Take it easy na |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Conceptman: 12:20am On Dec 18, 2019 |
No vex na, let her share her views . UyaiIncomparabl: |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:20am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:That's if your daughter is trust worthy |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:20am On Dec 18, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: What is that supposed to mean? But be truthful, can you agree for a man not to allow your sister work? Will you be happy? 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by irynterri(f): 12:21am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:after reading the first two pages I had given up on nlders till I came across your comments and it renewed my hopes that Alas, not everyone here is myopic and stupid. thanks a lot. O.p pls follow his advice 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by imam07: 12:21am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:so u totally believed all wht d OP posted here. Kai. U never know women. Heat d man side of d story b4 writing this. I know if u understand women. OBINRIN. U wld nit have said this. Women will never say they are at fault in anything. Nah u d husband needs wisdom or else u go die. The woman's parents too understand their daughter than d husband. That's is d reason they gave that decision. A very rude girl will learn her lesson in her husband house. |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Hizzy: Don't go far. All sisters are working own their businesses. Their husband's even brag where we keep them is where we find them. Go and develop psychologically. If a man can't marry a woman without wondering what's happening to her pussy anytime she's away, he's unfit for marriage. My inner fortitude isn't dependent on having my wife glued to me to be assured of her loyalty. It's my inner person development. Go and read boy 7 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:22am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Conceptman: It's totally senseless! I think a dislike button should be adopted on this forum. 1 Like |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Nobody: 12:23am On Dec 18, 2019 |
healthserve:See no be say you win but I wan rest oh Ogah incase you need home services halla me like Laundering thanks I wan sleep Good night |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by Conceptman: 12:23am On Dec 18, 2019 |
Seriously ![]() |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by healthserve(m): 12:24am On Dec 18, 2019 |
imam07: Lol. It's an I am who embodifies the same tradition I'd rather not listen to |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by midnighter(f): 12:24am On Dec 18, 2019 |
TonyeBarcanista: Your position is the one that was nowhere; you tried to compare the generation of yesteryear with that of now in order to justify your stance, when the two time periods are totally incompatible. An 18 year old getting married in todays society is absolutely preposterous, full stop. Like I said, 22 years is on the early side but still redeemable if the person is ready to juggle several balls at once. But still quite unnecessary. I said that the type of personal development that OP is looking for would be better attained before marriage. I didnt say that personal development stops when one gets married so you dont have any point. 2 Likes |
Re: Help, My Husband Is Causing Me Pain by TonyeBarcanista(m): 12:24am On Dec 18, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:My sister's husband is the HEAD of his home, not me. My own is that he takes care of her and treats her well. If my sister want to work she can focus on her craft or business but not in a corporate setting as long as her husband kicks against going corporate. Life is that simple! The most important is having a HAPPY HOME ![]() |
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