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Dont worry...love will find u someday...every disappointment is a preparation for a better opportunity.

What makes it hard for us, is that we always have this expectation, that this person would be like this or like that forever. But, we fail to see the truth. Love is not slavery, love is freedom, we expect the other partner to stick to us forever and forgetting that the wants of a human is unlimited, that's freedom, same with love. You could have met guys that you would have got down with but because of our society and it's a stupid wisdom, you have been taken, the woman can't do what she longs for that is if she is could even see it. Nobody is a property, if you are a property, you are a slave.

Most of you girls are promiscuos.If u are an exception,then u deserve a better man if u aren't, let 'johny' know you just want 2 be friends with benefit while searching for the right guy.

The only time all this sob stories will cease for good is when we ladies learn emotional independence and intelligence.. No matter how u love a man ur head should always be in the game.

CastingCrowns:
The only time all this sob stories will cease for good is when we ladies learn emotional independence and intelligence.. No matter how u love a man ur head should always be in the game.

And you think ladies aren't emotionally intelligent and independent enough? with all the rants and thread on Nl about ladies' inabilities to love? Lol. Ma, you wan make them turn robots?

Ariza:
And you think ladies aren't emotionally intelligent and independent enough? with all the rants and thread on Nl about ladies' inabilities to love? Lol. Ma, you wan make them turn robots?

Emotional independence and intelligence does not mean u have to be robotic or anything like it.. It simply means u enter into the relationship with a very realistic mindset that it may or may not work and whatever the aftermath u arent caught unawares.

CastingCrowns:
Emotional independence and intelligence does not mean u have to be robotic or anything like it.. It simply means u enter into the relationship with a very realistic mindset that it may or may not work and whatever the aftermath u arent caught unawares.

Lol True! was only teasing you...

However, as realistic as you sound the feasibility of that mindset is very low. As human we get carried away, we feel relax and loose hold. Thing is at some point we tend to believe the person in our lives is the right one until the unexpected hits us.Babe, for how long do we hold on or keep running? Matters of the heart can't be handled like drainage control , you can't control or contain emotions for long especially when the one who tricks it is near and available . The solution is rising when we fall. That's the fact!

You're right but many will consider such a love "mechanical".

I know of some ladies who accuse their bfs of not loving them "enough" just because the guys were realistic that things could change at any time.

CastingCrowns:
Emotional independence and intelligence does not mean u have to be robotic or anything like it.. It simply means u enter into the relationship with a very realistic mindset that it may or may not work and whatever the aftermath u arent caught unawares.

Y'all be hurt from expectations.
When you get into a relationship and you already mapped out how life is gonna be better for you and your partner, you soon realize those expectations can't be attained. I am of the opinion that relationships should aspire you to become a better person, experience something new and nothing else. Now, if you decide to keep having this experience with just one person, it's not an expectation, it is a choice, a choice made with freedom, without any atom of selfishness, to control or own your partner. Ever wondered why you'd be in a relationship and still be getting the "hots" for someone else? That's because love doesn't reside in one place and your love has become selfish.