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Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 2:23pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
Why do we have to teach little girls to go through unbearable pain for so-called beauty even when they are only a few months old? I get so upset each time I see a little girl crying for hours unending at the salon while they pull, poke and prod her hair. The moms would actually be the ones holding the girls down while the hairdressers harden their hearts to the children's tears. I always wonder, what exactly are you trying to achieve by putting your child through so much pain just to have her sporting a few awkward-looking weaves? Since she's not old enough to decide that this is what she wants, she shouldn't be stressed and hurt just to look pretty. Are they looking for suitors? Do they have to start so early to stress to impress? With her natural hair, well-oiled, combed and packed nicely into buns or tails, she'll still be the beautiful princess you gave birth to. I really hate children being put through any sort of skin pain. When my son was a baby, he was fussy about getting his hair cut, so much that we used to wait till he was deeply asleep before clipping his hair. Sometimes we'd only manage to go halfway, but we'll leave it like that until he sleeps again. How do fathers permit this? When we were growing up, my dad would personally insist on the hairdresser coming to our place to braid so he could sternly warn her to go easy on our heads. When he saw that we still cried regardless, he had them cut off all our hair . We hated it then, but at least the gut-wrenching crying stopped. Some little girls would be sick for days from the tight, skin-breaking braids their mothers would allow someone to put on their heads. I remember a day I was getting a manicure at the salon, a little girl whose mom had dropped her off was getting hair done at the corner. She cried so much that after a while, there were no tears left to shed. Her irresponsible mother came back after a while and said, "Obego nke izizi?" As in, "Has she cried the first round?" Just imagine. Mothers please, this festive period, if your daughter hasn't been tortured yet, kindly look for something that won't cause her any pain and have them style her hair with it (shown in the second photo). She's beautiful however she looks. You're not in a competition with anybody to have the finest child. That's how they'll grow up to believe that they can never be beautiful without weaves and braids. 168 Likes 23 Shares
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Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 2:27pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
I agree, but this isn’t true for all hair textures. For some hair textures it’s better the kid goes through the ‘pain’ once a week than a daily torture of styling. Edit: some monikers have an issue with my ‘pain’ in quote. For some hair textures, any hair style including a short haircut will always cause some sort of pain for the child. So, if the kid wants to keep her hair and the mother obliges, cornrows/braids done by a good braider once/twice a week is the best option for the mother and child. The examples in the OP is not true for all hair textures. 97 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 2:31pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou:She should never go throw any pain at all until she's old enough to decide that she wants to do it. And by old enough, I mean 18. Modified: most ladies on this thread are misunderstanding the point. The point of the article is not packing hair into buns or braiding, but braiding without pain! Yes, they can pick her hair gently so she won't cry like she's being operated on without anaesthesia. Your comments all over the thread are about maintenance. While maintaining buns and tails can be hard sometimes, it's better to use all that money you'll spend on attachments and paying hairdressers to buy good conditioners and Shea butter that will soften the stubbornest hair types, so it can combed easily. I have a friend who styles her two daughters' buns in less than ten minutes. Even cornrows and simple Bob Marley can be done without pulling the girl so much. There's no excuse for causing a little girl any pain. No excuse at all. 67 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 2:36pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
computergeek:Well, with some hair textures there will always be some sort of pain when styling, so a parent makes a judgement call, once a week or daily struggle. The style in the second pic is not realistic for some textures of black hair to maintain everyday. P.S. I am talking about regular cornrows/braids etc for school. 72 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Taraj01(m): 2:50pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
Gone are the days of those Old women's. Once she opens her laps and put your head within and pit it, mehn, your head will never be yours again till she finish the plating. Even you that escort your sister to the place go dey one side dey pity and cry for her. 151 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by armyofone(m): 2:54pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
Short cut all the way. If I have a girl, that's going to be the style for her at least from 6 months - 11 years. Braided hair is painful. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by tck2000(m): 2:54pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
I like it when girls are on buns! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 3:17pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: The style in the second picture is very much realistic regardless of hair texture and pain is not sth. that should be felt at all, while braiding or even combing your hair. A lot of Nigerian hair dressers are too rough with hair. In addition to what the op said, edges not should be braided and cornrows etc shouldn't be too tight 13 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 3:29pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy:You just quoted me to type what I didn’t type. First, I agreed with the OP but said it isn’t true for ALL hair textures. For some hair textures, the second pic is not realistic for DAILY maintenance, no matter the amount of hair products you use, it’s even more torturous to subject the child to that kind of pain every day before school. For some, except chopping the hair all off what is best for the child is to get a good braider with light hands to braid/cornrow the girl’s hair once a week. My point, life isn’t black and white, there are some children with hair textures where styling can be a daily challenge. So, we shouldn’t judge all mothers who have children with cornrows and not a bun. 57 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Sabicleaners: 3:35pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
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Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 3:51pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou:The write-up isn't about style or unstyled. Cornrows can be done without pain for school. No one is judging anyone, the point is that no responsible mom should sit and watch her daughter endure pain for hours to look stylish with these over-do hairstyles. It has no go-around. No justification for letting your daughter cry and fall sick because of hair. Shave the darned thing off till she's grown up. 17 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 3:53pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: And I quoted you to tell you that the most kinky hair texture 4c, and the straightest 1a, and everything in between ARE ALL capable of being styled as a bun. You literally just pack your hair up 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 3:55pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy:And you keep missing the “DAILY” in “daily maintenance” 36 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 3:58pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: Water, leave in and oil is all what you need. I packed my hair in a bun/puff almost everyday last year. The daily styling itself took me ca. 5 mins. What had really been time consuming was the weekly washing and conditioning 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 4:02pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy:That is YOUR hair! Are you going to tell me that ALL hair textures for a child is easy breezy to style every morning before school? 54 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 4:06pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: I am not attacking you, but simply correcting you. A bun is sth every hair texture is capable of doing. It is as simple as that. Hair styles a parent decide for is none of my business, as long as the child does have to go through any kind of pain. It does not matter if they choose to braid the child's hair weekly or pack it in a bun daily, styling your hair shouldn't be painful. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 4:10pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
computergeek:No sane person will disagree with what you just typed. Again, for some, cornrows/braids once a week is the best option for both mother and child. 23 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 4:22pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy:Were you attacking me? Again for the umpteenth time you keep missing the “daily” in “daily maintenance”. Obviously all hair types can be styled in a bun, but you’re not being realistic if you think ALL hair textures can sustain a daily maintenance of a bun for an everyday before school prep. If the child desires to keep her hair and her mother obliges, most sane mothers will always go the route of less pain and more manageable hairstyles for their children. 47 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Ranchhoddas: 4:26pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
Virtue signalling want to start 1 Like |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 4:28pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: All textures can sustain a daily maintenance of a bun. I used mine as an example, but all you had to say was 'That's your hair'. Buns are one of the easiest low maintenance hair styles, especially for natural hair 3 Likes
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Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 4:35pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy:At bolded, lol really? Okay then. Yea, generally one example is usually not good statistics. 26 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by Nobody: 4:38pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: Thank goodness, I'm not the only example then. |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 4:41pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
fieryy: 10 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by PeacenLove2: 5:06pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: Some hair textures na die o. No comb fit run through them. If you like put all the grease inside jar. Seriously speaking some people have very soft scalp that cannot be put to the torture of daily styling. The best option is weave or braid to last a week or two cos even with low cut, running combs through them every day is still a menace, unless you want to he visiting barber weekly to make it very low. Just make sure you find a good hairdresser who is used to making children's hair. Some hands have that magical touch, just do well to remind them to be easy on your LO. 29 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by chigoziri2403(m): 5:14pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
I love this write up, the angle they place childrens hair is wrenching. 4 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by doitforyou(f): 5:35pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
PeacenLove2:Thank you! This was what I was trying to say, thanks for explaining it better than I did. 43 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by angelfallz(m): 5:55pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
computergeek:Lies!!! 4 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by crackhaus: 6:00pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
Ujujoan2 I see you, talk na. |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by 1Sharon(f): 6:05pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
OP thank you! Braiding hair should NEVER hurt that why alot of Nigerian women have alopecia. Getting your hair done should never hurt. Nigerians really don't understand. 9 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by 1Sharon(f): 6:06pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
doitforyou: Styling hair should never hurt. You are wrong. 1 Like |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by eyinjuege: 6:08pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
computergeek: I hope you know the pictures you posted are not the girl's natural hair. That girl's hair was pulled, combed and the edges laid like kilode. Unfortunately, it's easier for many black children to have their hair in plaits than packing it, as it gets dry easily and they won't be able to moisturise it during the day till they get home. Plaits help to retain moisture and it's easier to manage than having to comb the hair at least once daily, unless you want them to turn dreadlocks by force. Girls don't like low cut, same way you didn't and it can cause emotional distress and low self esteem in some of them. I don't subscribe to doing hair styles that will pull out their natural hair, but until they're older to manage their natural hair, allow mothers plait their children's hair. And I also don't subscribe to using chemicals/relaxers (which softens the hair to better manage it, but can cause long term damage too) I know the stress it takes to comb their hair after washing it, and daily combing till it's braided. It's actually more humane to make braids for 4- 6 weeks than combing the hair daily. 23 Likes |
Re: Moms! Quit Putting Little Girls Through Torture In The Name Of Braiding Hair. by 1Sharon(f): 6:10pm On Dec 23, 2019 |
PeacenLove2: This is why you should never comb your hair when it's dry. Grease is not a moisturizer. Learn how to care for afro hair pls. 9 Likes 4 Shares |
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