What is your take on your in-laws vividly living in same house with you?

i will not allow that, they can only come for visit

Vividly?

Do people live vaguely before?

The moment they need to be taken care of due to old age, I will treat them and care for them like I want my husband to treat and care for my own parents. Until then, they can move in into the same neighborhood but it is not necessary we live together in one house.

Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live permanently with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

vividly
okay
English haff sufad

Vividly I say unto you

That can’t run. So they can come and add their input in my marriage whenever they please

My mum can live with us tho

bukatyne:
Vividly?

Do people live vaguely before?

Lol...
I believe I would have been the first respondent on the thread... saw it immediately it was published and my intention was to make complete fun of that word choice.

But then I rechecked the moniker & profile, then decided to be nice and just hold my peace.
Too bad you were not so sympathetic.

As could be expected it could and would likely swing both ways!

There would be peaceful times and surely there would be turbulent times!

If they are older in-laws ie parents in law or older siblings in law the wife would be expected to be quite accepting and tolerant of their excesses. With some younger siblings in law some bull shit may be meted out that the wife May or may not accept.

The family dynamics also play a big role. Depending on how firm or assertive the husband is the in-laws may know where to draw the lines on nonsense behaviour and so on.

The space and size of the house matters! The smaller the space the more likely wires will cross and cause chaos. Resources too could cause issues- wife may wanna serve two meals daily for eg and in-laws feel entitled to three meals .

If a couple have to move in with parents in-law the wife again has to bear the brunt of behaviour modification and adaptation to the processes and procedures of her in-laws

In summary where african/ Nigerian families age involved it’s best avoided as much as is within one’s power.

I have my brother in law here and most times I feel like slapping him. His latest misdemeanour is literally taking over my son’s slippers this is a 35year old( or thereabouts) man and my son is 9 years old .....

My in-law also likes to roam the streets and return home late at night. My husband of course feels there’s nothing wrong with this!

Seun should just change Nairaland to Family Problem Land.....
All these family issues making front page is becoming too much

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

Damnnnnn
Always easy to say now
But when you get married it is a different thing.
Except you don't have young siblings


Sometimes it is easy for someone from the woman's family to stay with couples. There won't be trouble

But if any body from the man family come stay with couples ehnnnnn. Na so so quarrel

too bad

'Sorry' is ur case.

90/100 of it always end up in disagreement and chaos which automatically leads to family break up

God forbid

No way. Even my own mother won't be allowed.

abi you are living in your in-laws house... you wan come dey twist tori give us... better go hustle

That's shameful

It is not bad or shameful. Unless it is just for a short time but to live there, oga it is not so good for so many reasons. When you and madam will be singing hymns people will be hearing the melody, it is not good nah. It depends on the people sha. But to avoid disagreement, insults and see finish, my brother it is better you rent a room even if it is face me I face you. You will earn your respect that way.

Op.... You mean to say Completely?

Depending on the generation of In-laws and conditions.

If na parent, e go be short-term, if na sibling, e fit be long-term as long as they're valuable to the house.

heaven forbids..
visit and get out abeg

bukatyne:
Vividly?

Do people live vaguely before?

Tell him dear, often times people uses words without knowing what it means

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

So when you crying for prick your people won't hear anything from the bedroom to the bathroom �

bukatyne:
Vividly?

Do people live vaguely before?

Aunty, please temper English with mercy.

cococandy:
Temporarily? yes.
Permanently? No

I don’t even want to live with my siblings or parents in the same house. Just me, my husband and children.

You got the mindset of My ideal woman
Me. Like it, no time. For dramas

Ok

Ok

Maybe after 20 years of marriage Sha! �