Michellekabod2:

I am introverted. I guess entertaining and interesting will drain me.
I am just not into commitment.for no reason at all. Its tough to sustain my interest.

SmellingAnus:
I pity for the guy... I can't imagine myself being with a girl that is forcing herself to be with me... It's better we break up than to experience such hell on earth...

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

healthserve:
Wait o. I'm yet to see franchasng and Pansophist comment

pansophist:
Many times, we fail to realize that the grass is not greener, we only have to water the one we are in.

pansophist:
A relationship is a work. It's like a job, you have to work hard to get in, and even harder to stay in it. A good relationship is not one without challenges, but one where the partners are determined to make it work. A relationship is a decision that is predicated on reasoning, just as with feelings.

I'm not sure how old you are, though I suspect you're going and likely in your 20's, which is quite usual for people of such age to feel this way. From your write up, it is clear that you want a renewing excitement, a constant butterfly feeling, and the romanticized mainstream idea of a perfect relationship, which is quite unreal.

I can't tell if you'll regret it, but you'll have to come to terms with the realities that characterize interpersonal relationships. It will get boring, the excitement will not be usual, and your partner will annoy the hell out of you, etc. It is not a bed of roses. This is why it is absolutely necessary to seek inherent qualities that matter in the long run such as compatibility, honesty, communication, attractions, integrity, a sense of responsibility, positive masculinity, etc. Many times, we fail to realize that the grass is not greener, we only have to water the one we are in.

healthserve:
Stop using people. Be better. Stop taking people for a ride with your emotional recklessness


Use and discard. Passive Narcissistic personality disorder. Go see a therapist. You're a destroyer


You also have an over-inflated ego. The world doesn't revolve around you. And No, you're not too good for everyone.


You're an egomaniac that exists for feel-good vibes only with a detached feeling from regular existence. Go see a therapist. You're pathetic

drlaykay:

How effective is this method of conditioning? People with these chronic disorders end up making escuses for themselves and continue their lifestyle...
BTW, you are intelligent, I must say!

healthserve:
My dear let me cut the grammar you will find it difficult to get married or stay married if you even get married. If you seek the right solutions early, it will do you good. I recommend MFM, or any major deliverance church. They handle this situation very very well. In one sentence, you need to undergo spiritual deliverance

pansophist:


No be only spiritual, na industrial deliverance Nigerians and church, na wa o. It's a phase, the op will pass it with time and sadly, she may have lost really good men then, and may not vibe well with the present options.

It's a paradox of choice, which states that an abundance of choice can often lead to feelings of anxiety, loneliness and depression.when you have just one option, it's about picking it or not, but with more, you end up not picking anything since it is believed that there is something better out there.

healthserve:
Stop using people. Be better. Stop taking people for a ride with your emotional recklessness


Use and discard. Passive Narcissistic personality disorder. Go see a therapist. You're a destroyer


You also have an over-inflated ego. The world doesn't revolve around you. And No, you're not too good for everyone.


You're an egomaniac that exists for feel-good vibes only with a detached feeling from regular existence. Go see a therapist. You're pathetic

kneehighbootz:


I had to login just because of this comment. healthserve, your comment is fire. It's everything. It's right on the money. I needed to read this today. Thank you very much.

healthserve:




Trust me bro. These problems cuts across psychological and spiritual planes. And we often see issues based on the paths we're opened too..the intelligent mind like yours would see the psychological plane, but the spiritual intelligent man would see the issues across both spiritual and intellectual planes


Many alot I mean alot of ladies have these issues presently. Those who know know. Its not what will be believed without deep personal experience. Trust me.


I know. It can't be explained, if it's not known, it's not known



... And since all things physical emanates from the spiritual, then it's a no-brainer if a situation is spiritually diagnosed

ikcid:

Are you speaking from a point of experience?? You have a vivid picture of what the OP has painted up there. If you're not a psychologist, then you may be speaking from a point of certainty.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?

cEEDii:
Rare to see ladies dump a guy... Please stop telling yourself that. You were dumped way before you realized your were head over heels with them guys! shine your eyes

Lightangel65:


Or he may just use her who knows, but if he is as kind-hearted as you say just give a try, after all what's there to loose.
I didn't know girls were capable of love

Ariza:
Dear Michelle ,

I understand your situation perfectly because you described me up there. The only difference is I've decided to change this and do better next year. Yes I'm hoping to put an end to over four years single hood . Whatever till will take I will force myself to accept and be with someone.

From my self evaluation, diagnosis and analysis I have come to realize that I ghost out on guys because of past experience. Yes some years ago I vowed never to get romantically involved with guys when my ex let me down. You know that feeling when you have decided to make something work, do everything to make this a reality, accept lots of shiits and make a lot of sacrifices only to be cheated on?. Subconsciously, this vow manifest and I've always find it difficult to relate with guys emotionally/romantically. I move away and cut ties as soon as a guy shows interest and keep him at arms length. I make friends with guys a lot but emotionally keep my distance to prevent them from falling in love or catching feelings which may ruin our friendship.


Babe, sit yourself down meditate and do your research within you.When you know the problem only then can you find a solution. I've done mine and I'm getting prepared to embark on the healing process. Please do yours too. And you may call the guy and relate everything to him, if he is the right one he will make your transformation process easier.

Michellekabod2:
I am not going to create another moniker for this,i owe no one nothing!

I have spent most of my life single. I tried linking up with people but to no avail. Why? I will not do the blame game here. Is all my fault. I meet someone, get heed over heels for the person but I lose interest easily. When it comes to commitment, when the friendship is to get to the next level I ghost them. I don't know why. At best out of the blue I lose interest and become blank, not returning calls or replying messages, at worst I become disgusted at the fellow for no reason at all then move one to the next male friend. Nothing serious comes out of it...

So I decided to give up trying. My female friends and I go on an outing, some guys approach us and get our numbers. Months (sometimes years) later they are still waxing strong with the males, one of them even got married to one of them. But me? After a couple of weeks I find myself having to ghost the guy that I was head over heels for.

I gave up on love and chose to be single. I have been single for years now.

I met this guy march this year,we bonded like never before. I have never in my entire life felt like this before. It is so strange that each conversation we have all seems anew like we are starting all over.

It's almost ten months and the fire is still intense.
I have never had such a long friendship with a male. People assume we are dating. He gives me so much JOY... He is so awesome, different from all the others i have known. He changed me.

I just figured out i want to end the friendship, I don't know why. I am tired. I want to walk away. The passion is still there but i want to be away. I wanted to get a new SIM but my conscience will not. What has kept me from doing this is because i wonder how he will feel..

I want to walk away. Will i regret this?