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Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Chukapage(m): 11:19am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Michellekabod2:I understand how u feel , you're so independent on all round ,you draw energy from within ,so you just feel like ,you don't need anybody. That's why you get bored with people easily,you function perfectly well when you're ALONE,you socialize sometimes but it's always when YOU FEEL like ,you just want the attachment to be shallow and temporary,my advice for you is ACCEPT WHO YOU ARE.Not everybody needs that companionship steadily ,few times you want it but MOST times you don't want it because it wears you out! You're naturally a loner and people or relationships can't change that! There is a big possibility of you being VERY selfish too, you're not sick like some are saying you need therapy or pastor , Nothing is wrong with you just embrace yourself. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by midnighter(f): 11:19am On Dec 26, 2019 |
SmellingAnus: Yes, some people are difficult to be with but that doesnt make them unloveable. It depends on how much effort they put into working on themselves and the relationship. They need to discipline themselves so that they will not be at the mercy of their impulses. And think of the bigger picture and not just how theyre feeling right now. I see potential in OP because she said that her conscience will not allow her to ghost the guy this time. All she needs is that small seed of conscience and she can develop it into something bigger that will be sustainable. Thats if she's willing to do some emotional gymnastics. And let him in. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:19am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Wait o. I'm yet to see franchasng and Pansophist comment 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Masterclass32: 11:20am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Michellekabod2: will u regret this? Nobody can be sure. But with this attitude u will find it difficult to get married or stay married - that's if marriage is your thing. Meanwhile, U seem to have abandonment issues. U want intimacy but are afraid of it at the same time. U abandon people before they abandon u. U may have Avoidant Attachment Style. Take a look https://blogs.psychcentral.com/imperfect/2017/03/avoidant-attachment-style-change/ 5 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by pansophist(m): 11:21am On Dec 26, 2019 |
healthserve: https://www.nairaland.com/5598974/easily-lose-interest-guys-regret/1#85219302 |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by midnighter(f): 11:21am On Dec 26, 2019 |
pansophist: Brilliant 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:22am On Dec 26, 2019 |
My dear let me cut the grammar you will find it difficult to get married or stay married if you even get married. If you seek the right solutions early, it will do you good. I recommend MFM, or any major deliverance church. They handle this situation very very well. In one sentence, you need to undergo spiritual deliverance 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:23am On Dec 26, 2019 |
pansophist: I concur, the elder himself 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by follock007(m): 11:23am On Dec 26, 2019 |
I is called the "I WANT SOMEBODY, LIKE YOU, BUT NOT YOU" syndrome... I presume that your subconscious is making you to do this to pay back at your first love who have moved on.... it is certain that you will someday regret this when you fully settle with the man of your dreams that resemble your first love. 3 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by ADBOK: 11:24am On Dec 26, 2019 |
healthserve:GBAM!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:26am On Dec 26, 2019 |
drlaykay: Sorry are you a therapist/doctor? 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by iLegendd(m): 11:27am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Sorry. 3 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by pansophist(m): 11:27am On Dec 26, 2019 |
healthserve: No be only spiritual, na industrial deliverance ![]() It's a paradox of choice, which states that an abundance of choice can often lead to feelings of anxiety, loneliness and depression.when you have just one option, it's about picking it or not, but with more, you end up not picking anything since it is believed that there is something better out there. 10 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:31am On Dec 26, 2019 |
pansophist: Trust me bro. These problems cuts across psychological and spiritual planes. And we often see issues based on the paths we're opened too..the intelligent mind like yours would see the psychological plane, but the spiritual intelligent man would see the issues across both spiritual and intellectual planes Many alot I mean alot of ladies have these issues presently. Those who know know. Its not what will be believed without deep personal experience. Trust me. I know. It can't be explained, if it's not known, it's not known ... And since all things physical emanates from the spiritual, then it's a no-brainer if a situation is spiritually diagnosed 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by OnlineWell(m): 11:33am On Dec 26, 2019 |
The less needy you are in a relationship - the less you will be afraid of getting dumped. If you feel that this is not just anxiety - but full blown paralyzing phobia, you might need to see a psychologist or a hypnotist, it probably goes back to events in childhood, or even in a past life. I provide phone number of any country for verification. Do check my signature . |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by FromZeroToHero(m): 11:34am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Spiritual husband at work. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by drezo(m): 11:35am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Let's just say you don't want to be anybody's FOOL. Which you must be one day OR be miserable and LOST in this world. You just have to give it a shot, you might be lucky in your attempt, instead of a FOOL, you will be Happy. 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Nobody: 11:35am On Dec 26, 2019 |
healthserve: I had to login just because of this comment. healthserve, your comment is fire. It's everything. It's right on the money. I needed to read this today. Thank you very much. 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:36am On Dec 26, 2019 |
kneehighbootz: ![]() 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by ikcid: 11:37am On Dec 26, 2019 |
healthserve:Are you speaking from a point of experience?? You have a vivid picture of what the OP has painted up there. If you're not a psychologist, then you may be speaking from a point of certainty. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by dave4rella(m): 11:38am On Dec 26, 2019 |
![]() Start Olosho work I think that's your calling But menopause will shock you sha |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by healthserve(m): 11:42am On Dec 26, 2019 |
ikcid: I have dated intelligent women like this in the past.. So from personal experience. Even my last chick had this same issue. Beautiful Canadian chick. Once it hits marriage/commitment point it ruins. In my course of being in active spiritual service, I've experienced countless of ladies with this exact problem. Through thorough studies, the op will get answers from all planes if she desires to but first she most hate the dejavu with deep hatred. 1. Solution begins with awareness of her condition 2. She has to hate the condition more than she'll like to walk away to induce greater staying power 3. She needs to learn how to be in the moment/stay when not excited 4. With prayer, she'll make greater progress I've seen atleast 30 - 50 ladies during active spiritual service, and I can say with 100% exactness it's more spiritual than any other way and she should go for deliverance To prove its spiritual, one question is always asked. Which this Op can also be asked to answer... Doesn't she experience strange sex dreams? 2 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by paparazi1(m): 11:42am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Michellekabod2:Sorry i took time to go through your write up and discovered that my previous questions have been answered by you. Now you dont need to blame yourself bec you are not the cause of what is happening to you. The answer is that you need Jesus. I dont know if you are a believer, but if you do, locate a praying Bible believing church or ministry with a clear foundation, get some deliverance prayers and sections. Some marine entity might be claiming to be your spirit husbands. You MUST not do this prayers in a church with a questionable foundation or those men who does not use Gods power to run their church or ministry. thank me latter. |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by mechanics(m): 11:50am On Dec 26, 2019 |
It depends on what you want, mind you, it won't be easy staying single just like that, you need to get the solution to what you are facing now and get settled down on time. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by mcameo: 11:50am On Dec 26, 2019 |
What are you holding back from, what are you scared of. Someone very important left you earlier on in life, and you are taking it out on everyone, you have commitment issues, you are a coward, that can't admit to some happiness, what are you running away from?, you think loneliness is cool, hold one, let me surpress a laughter. Hold on to that guy, if you lose him, you may never find an Ounces of joy. Get off your high horse, and be grateful of love and being loved. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by sheriffindy(m): 11:51am On Dec 26, 2019 |
You have a spiritual husband |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Nobody: 11:51am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Hoelosho |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Hangulsaram: 11:54am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Go to Mountain of Fire |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by Nobody: 11:55am On Dec 26, 2019 |
cEEDii:Ladies don't dump guys? lol this is the funniest thing I've ever read on NL. ![]() |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by sharone21(f): 11:57am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Lightangel65: Ladies or MEN? ....The last time I checked, men are FICKLE and easily distracted when it comes to love....it makes females scared of love. 1 Like |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by BreconHills(m): 11:59am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Ariza: I am not sure that this is the answer. There may be nothing wrong with either of you. What is missing is that no one is making an epic call beyond settling down, having children and living comfortably till you die. Nobody is designed to be satisfied with this. Unless you make do and obviously neither of you want to do this. There are about 8 human drives that motivate us to make changes, bear inconvenience, and be the best version of ourselves: 1. Meaning, 2.Empowerment 3. Social influence 4. Unpredictability 5. Loss avoidance, 6. Scarcity, 7 Ownership and 8. Accomplishment. Most of us are strongly influenced by 3, 4, 5, 6, and 7. But not you. You are one of those 1%ers that are looking for 1. Not even 2 or 8. Unless you feel you are signing on to an epic adventure full of twists and turns you will lose interest over time. But this doesnt mean there is anything wrong with you. What causes are you interested in? What makes you fulfilled or really angry. As you chase meaning and perhaps accomplishment and empowerment ( beyond houses, cars and possessions) you and your soul mate will find each other. You cannot self-diagnose based on what the majority of people do. They may all be wrong. I didnt know this when I married 15 years ago but thank God my wife and I were able to find convergence and avoid the " dissatisfied on the inside, happy on the outside state of many marriages. Explore your deepest drives; what's your ikigai? What would you want to be remembered for. Let it lead you. Dont settle for less. 5 Likes |
Re: I Easily Lose Interest In Guys, Will I Regret This? by franchasng: 11:59am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Michellekabod2:Lol, from the stories my grandma use to tell me back then in the village when we visit her, I think you have the spirit of Ogbanje.....we have the male versions too...I was like you some years back...I hated girls from Primary/secondary school till 3rd year in uni....I avoided girls at all cost and this made girls to dislike me a lot then too lol....then I later started admiring girls from 4th year, the very extremely beautiful ones....and funny enough they liked me easily back then maybe because I was kind of good academically and had this baby innocent look + one funny eye that made ladies always smile at me. Gradually I started becoming friends with few pretty girls and deep down I liked down in my heart but that spirit of Ogbanje will never let me commit to them emotionally...I will always be the one to blank them, stop picking calls, stop replying sms, yet I always masturbated maybe once in 2 weeks or something lol.... but will still be avoiding ladies at all cost....all my friends knew me so well that they always call me "Reverend Father" even though I wasn't a Catholic and they didn't know I used to masturbate in secret lol. And I wasn't even a born again.....I was more of a religious moralist who believed in doing good and living right....but when I later started getting close to God and become close to a born again through Nigerian Christian Corpers Fellowship NCCF during my NYSC, my life started to change after an altar call...I started feeling more free with ladies and started mingling with ladies and even started my first ever known relationship (only known to close friends though)....and from there....I became free even though I still had fear of commitment, but with time, I became a commander of women lolz....and to the glory of God today, I happily, and excitedly married to my hearthtrob, the best woman on earth after my mother of course ![]() ![]() My point is, you maybe under an extraordinary power influence, its even more common among ladies...and you may not know...you may need a spiritual deliverance....forget your status or your exposure or where you live....even if you are in Yankee....even US President Donald Trump who loves women and a billionaire still respect God and believes so much in God's divine power, so get close to God, don't listen to what some pretenders and so called atheists and moralists will tell you here...try God and see ![]() 1 Like |
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