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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by pryme(m): 8:50am On Dec 24, 2019 |
I just hope you guys find a real life companion sooner than later, cos when you are on your own for so long, you tend be more dependent on yourself, and enjoy solitude more. While others may do everything to make the relationship work cos they can't stay alone, you tend to take the relationship as an "option" cos you have your self to fall back on (where others find this difficult to do), you don't have a problem being alone, this could be a problem. But it gets worse, introverts are just too picky, shrinking the possibility of finding a life partner from 1 in a 1000 to 1 in 10,000 or even 1 in a million. With this in mind, I have made my peace with the fact that I may die alone in solitude. It's all or nothing, it's either it the right person or nothing. 11 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 10:31am On Dec 24, 2019 |
pryme: Too late. For me, I have come to accept the fact that I enjoy my own space too much and the benefits therein. Family can't even place why at 27 I haven't been in any serious relationship. Though I hide under the guise of building myself, career-wise and all of that, but I know deep down nothing of such is happening at least not soon. I have become so independent that even solitude doesn't scare me anymore. About tomorrow's X-mas, trust me, I know how to catch all d fun in world all by myself 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by pryme(m): 11:21am On Dec 24, 2019 |
Apus: Have been there, and I must tell you it scared me, cos I was worried I was actually a robot (Prime - Pryme), that was soulless and without feelings. But The first time I fell for lady I was really relived, not because of the excitement of being with a beautiful women (which is most times the case for many guys), no it was because it means am human and able to give and get love (cos one day I would like to carry my own kids and spoil them silly with love, but that has to start somewhere - the Mother. Even now I don't like that word "love" cos in most cases its either it's a disease of the mind or it's a scam. But when you experience true love from another woman, it could be bad cos it will ruin you - yes in a world filled dishonest people and where relationship is mainly for convenience, you won't last long in shallow relationships that is the norm (most times). And for the fact that you prefer being alone means you will only be with someone that offers you something extraordinary that you can't give yourself. But it will be a miracle for you to find a person with a beautiful soul that loves you and only you, and add something extraordinary to your life, you love her back just the same, at the same time living a comfortable life. The stars have to align, which I hope it happens for you. When it happens, you will fall hard and you will love hard and for a good reason. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by deniguy01(m): 3:20pm On Dec 24, 2019 |
Any introvert in calabar, let’s talk more |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by scave(m): 4:38pm On Dec 24, 2019 |
pryme: I once fall hard, I asked her out several times but she friend zone me, now i just decide to be careful with my heart, even when I see some admiring me I keep a blind eye, I no want stress, being alone is sweet for now till I reach where I want to. I just hate asking someone out if I don't have true feelings. And I am not even ready to have that true feelings either. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 5:16pm On Dec 24, 2019 |
scave:. 1 Like
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Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Olarewajub: 1:20am On Dec 25, 2019 |
Merry Christmas 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by maeola(f): 9:15am On Dec 25, 2019 |
Apus: |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 10:26am On Dec 25, 2019 |
[quote author=maeola post=85201266][/quote Even a seasoned psychologist will adjudge you perfectly okay. I wouldn't blame your friend, we've been preconditioned in this part of the world. Hence anything that doesn't conform cannot be normal. The pursuit of happiness is all we seek, being an introvert or not. "The How" is left to each individual (as long as you "live and let live" ![]() You do well making people happy in your own little way. What more can the universe ask from you? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:23am On Dec 25, 2019 |
pryme:we were not made to have a partner. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 11:24am On Dec 25, 2019 |
Apus:were you in any relationship before? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by younowell: 1:31pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
Thank God I'm here on 25th December 2019. Merry Christmas y'all. God bless y'all richly. 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 2:25pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by maeola(f): 3:06pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
[quote author=Apus post=85202869][/quote] Thank you. It feels good having someone understand this much. I guess it's a natural way of life for people like us. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by pryme(m): 3:31pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
JacksonMS: Who can decide? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Hakeem12(m): 3:36pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
I have an older cousin, about 31 or so. He's a programmer and works remotely, hence he hardly leaves his house. He stays in his room all day either coding or playing games. All of his sisters are married, and his parents are worried about him. We were both invited to a party sometime last year, and he was seated beside this pretty lady. Guy just pressed his phone throughout, even when the lady was trying to make conversation with him. The funniest thing about him was when he was in university, he was the life of the party, always hanging out with ladies and everything. Now's he's changed completely, prefers being alone or with just few people he knows. I don't think he will ever get married. His younger sister told him she was going to visit him today with some of her friends, the guy left his place immediately. He still isn't back home till now. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Hakeem12(m): 3:40pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
JacksonMS:lol, says who? |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Apus: 5:10pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
maeola: You are welcome ma'am. I'm glad you feel that way and yes it is. It's us against them and we'll win(lols! ) 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Brownhypo: 9:25pm On Dec 25, 2019 |
Merry Christmas FAM. I've been indoors all through the day and I feel so happy being indoors all day. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by okikiosibodu(m): 3:06am On Dec 26, 2019 |
Compliments of the season Fam. I am a "part time" member of this thread. I come in onces in a while (for my sanity). I am a deeply introverted introvert (the introvert of introverts ![]() I work as a Customer Care Representative in a telco, where many customers call in to complain about one thing or the other (usually services rendered by the company). I converse over the phone. Many atimes, its the fault of the customer (not getting phone settings right), and sometimes the fault of the company. I am in the inbound section that deals with High Net-worth Individuals. Some of these customers use as high as 2 million naira on a monthly basis on their phones, and they do so comfortably. They converse with you in good English. They are the type thta get embarrassed when they are barred from calling cos of say 1.5m debt and when they call into the call centre and they are informed, they respond with "so its because of ordinary 1.5m you disconnected me?" and within 24hrs, you see 5m paid on their accounts. These are the postpaid users actually. But you see those prepaid HNIs, they could be really annoying. They talk sabbishly to you cos of say 100n deduction, and robe your family members and ancestors when laying curses. The reason for these stories.... We were trained not to interrupt a customer when he or she calls. If he used 5mins to state his issue, meanwhile you already know the reason for him calling just by his very first sentence, yoy are to afford him all the time he needs, to state his issue. E.g he says "I sent my sun to buy recharge card...." with experience, one can tell ge got his recharge card damaged. But this funny subscribers don't go direct. They will be like " I sent my son to by be recharge card, rain beat him and we dried the card under the fan. Later when it was almost dry, it fell inside water. We allowed it to dry again, and then they used stone to scratch it. As we were scratching it, some of the numbers were getting cleaned off. We tried to guess some of the numbers but it didn't work, we then decided to call you if yoy can help out.... Before you know it, five mins don go. When I paraphrase them with something like "you have an overscratched card you will like us to help out with right" I expect a yes or no. But nah, this people won't do so (you knw that thing with we melancholies expecting a direct ans), they say "that's correct. I bought recharge card yesterday.... And then they start the excruciating narration of the story and I have to endure all through. I usually find this few secs extra, like an hour to endure. I just remove my headset and plug back after like 30 secs. They are usually close to rounding up the second story by then. Question now is... How can I avoid such acts, getting at me, and not letting me lose my cool? 2. In physical, I find it hard to defend myself when accused of something I didn't do (cos my job made us not to argue with customers and I am quite good at my job, hence my promotion to the HNI section). When I am accused for something I didn't do, I just stutter as I find some words to say, to a shorten thta "session" and juts let it slide. Sometimes I get bashed (harsh words get at me esp if said to me when I meant well). Minutes later in my solitude when I reflect on the playbacks in my mind, I then try to think of possible suitable responses I could have given (but I usually don't think about them during the incidences. Question: how do I learn to stand up for my self in the physical, without being rude or nasty Apologies for any typos, and apologise for the long read GloryIsaac, howdy? Long time no see 8 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by okikiosibodu(m): 3:22am On Dec 26, 2019 |
SkinnyNigga:I have never been to a beach not because I can't afford it, but cos I can't stand the imagination of a crowded place with total strangers, in an open space. I live in lagos. If it's a big hall (say a partyl I can always step out or go to the gents to get a grip of myself and then return. In the theatres, I make sure I go early to the cinema so I can be among the first set of people to enter and then walk straight to the furthest chair at the rear, to avoid human interaction/ contact. But don't knw how to deal in a beach I know it won't be a day's work, but can you give a guide on how to come out of this shell? 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Hakeem12(m): 9:23am On Dec 26, 2019 |
okikiosibodu:I go early to events too, it's either I'm among the first to get there or I don't go at all, can't deal with the pairs of eyes that would be trained on me once I enter such places. I go to parties, but I don't dance when I do go, not because I can't dance, but being aware of being watched kills my vibe. My work for now is just perfect for me. There is hardly any interaction with my colleagues, it's an internship with a software company. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Chibuchris: 4:21pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Being an introvert is fun me, for me I learn to fall back to myself when I feel a girl want to take advantage of the love I have for her, they are always surprised because I can love care pamper you but once you take me for granted, no more I free you and fall back to my self, sometimes they feel maybe I'm pretending, but I'm not that's just me. Sometimes people feel I am too proud because I don't talk much, always with my phone watching comedy series, or browsing when am in a place or group of people I'm not familiar with. If you are a lady and I like you, I will find an opportunity to connect with you after few meetings will tell you bluntly how I feel. I am always honest so I don't have time for mind games I really get sick of it, once I Tel you my mind, collect your number will call you try to relate with you, ones I notice your reactions towards my calls maybe you want to play mind games or you naturally don't like me. Omo that's the end ooo I no call again, but that doesn't mean if I see you outside I won't talk to you. I love been introvert I see things differently and I love to understand things. My ex I wanted to marry (we separated because of genotype). She will offend me in her mind she would think I will shout and reck but she when be surprised the way I would die the case will even make her more afraid. I would just smile and tell her I understand and I forgive you, it's just fun to be introvert because you are like a mystery, the way you understand life is totally different. But dear there is disadvantage oooo had some really set back financially and all, my goals crushed, depression came in my brother that's when you would hate to me an introvert, till now I'm still battle it, I just wish God will answer me. Let me bounce back again. For that's only the bad side depression no one to talk too because you always want to be alone, thanks to my brothers and siblings, but Las Las It's fun to be an introvert especially ladies will like you because they want to know you more. Sorry incase of any typo, I am high already in my third bottle of hero, happy boxing day. I dey enugu incase any babe want to take me out for a treat. Yes ladies no be guys ladies I repeat again. Forget all this boldness ooo na the hero dey work oo 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Chibuchris: 4:33pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
okikiosibodu: I was ones like this always shy timid even it still happens till now, I just learnt to upgrade and remodel my own introvert to my own advantage, before if I want to make call even to my fellow guy I would be thinking of what we are going to discuss not to talk of a girl mehn it wasn't easy I just refine my own and it's working for me. Just that depression part is really eating me down when it strikes but I thank God I am able to control it now a bit 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Chibuchris: 4:40pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
pryme: You are right ooo I'm too picky no be say I fine or I get money, but I sabi select. People around me think I am proud but they don't understand. Funny thing is maybe the person I selected no go fine self but, I just too too picky 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Chibuchris: 6:13pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
JacksonMS: Abeg oo e da kun my own no reach like that ooo partner get e own sweet side ooo, when you truly find the right one 2 Likes |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by sacx: 7:42pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
doctorgold: You can't afford to be ashamed in 2020. Join Headstart Africa on Facebook if you've not already. Relationship between two introverts are no good. They will bore themselves out in the long run. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 7:46pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Hakeem12:Something must have happened. He is not naturally an introvert. It's important u guys dig deep and know what made him the way he is. 1 Like |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 10:45pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
People have been forcing me to go outside this Christmas, but I don't want to go. It is getting annoying. |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 10:46pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Chibuchris: ![]() |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 10:46pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
Hakeem12:nature |
Re: Introverts Lounge (Extroverts Pls Keep Off !!) by Nobody: 10:47pm On Dec 26, 2019 |
pryme:nature |
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