uninspired07:
I find it hard exercising patience with, indulging or begging a woman. Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego. It’s been eons I last asked a woman out and I get lonely at times, but I am used to my single state.

I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth so I don’t even bother to chase the opposite sex as I tried to when I was younger. This is has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue. Am I on the right path or do I try to temper my approach a bit

healthserve:




A bit overly-inflated ego. If you switch back ten degrees, you'll attain balance. Balance is key, but for the moment you're abit overly

uninspired07:


Thanks. But having to beg is a big issue with me. I can’t just bring myself to begging and chasing. I am getting too old for that.

healthserve:



Same here. Relationship flings both ways. Don't beg anyone even in marriage. I've also begged in the past and what I've noticed is excessive good manners areal ways abused by the recipients. Hold off excessive politeness is one of the key to maintaining a black woman thesedays. Good treatment is always and always and always considered weakness

uninspired07:


Exactly. I don’t even have any politeness to give to any woman, except my mother ( I know this will attract insults, but it’s just the fact). Thanks for your contribution.

healthserve:



Yw bro " Excessive politeness not just politeness", one last thing, anyone who can't receive good perks, politeness is unstable/psychologically unstable and should be broken off with as they won't/can't make stable longterm companions

uninspired07:


I don’t understand this.

uninspired07:
I find it hard exercising patience with, indulging or begging a woman. Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego. It’s been eons I last asked a woman out and I get lonely at times, but I am used to my single state.

I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth so I don’t even bother to chase the opposite sex as I tried to when I was younger. This is has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue. Am I on the right path or do I try to temper my approach a bit

uninspired07:
I find it hard exercising patience with, indulging or begging a woman. Once I sense a whiff of indifference or disinterest by a woman, I flee to protect my ego . It’s been eons I last asked a woman out and I get lonely at times, but I am used to my single state.

I firmly believe that a man’s value is inextricably tied to his economic worth so I don’t even bother to chase the opposite sex as I tried to when I was younger. This has discouraged me from initiating a chase as I think it won’t be worth it in the end as it will all end up with the money issue. Am I on the right path or do I try to temper my approach a bit?

Edit: I have been indoctrinated into the money first mentality, but the money is not there yet.

bukatyne:


Might be a sign of low self esteem.

uninspired07:


Thanks. But having to beg is a big issue with me. I can’t just bring myself to begging and chasing. I am getting too old for that.

crackhaus:

You've become a made man bro, not in an economic sense but in the awake sense.

There's nothing wrong with you.
If you're going to beg for or indulge in anything in life, it must be something that improves your overall standing and worth to yourself and your closest friends/family.

Regarding your loneliness, try to seek out women who already have a soft spot for you, women who share some common interests with you. You don't need to be wealthy for this.
I have come to understand that the best relationships with the opposite sex are those that are not forced, those that start on a stable mould of genuine friendship - this is not a guarantee that you will live happily ever after, but it still beats having it any other way.
You must never beg or indulge a woman who has no interest in you.

cococandy:


Don’t beg for love.

You can do a chase. In a mature way. That’s different.

But all that’s begging and yapping about how you can’t live without her and bla bla bla , only reeks of desperation. frankly women don’t believe y’all when you do that.

uninspired07:


My exact sentiments. I just needed reassurance. About the loneliness, I will just fine as I have been like this for a while. And note, it’s not like I am completely broke, I am just not where I would like to be, hence I don’t even bother initiating any relationship.

Thanks for your contribution.

uninspired07:


Exactly. I don’t even have any politeness to give to any woman, except my mother ( I know this will attract insults, but it’s just the fact). Thanks for your contribution.

bukatyne:


Might be a sign of low self esteem.

healthserve:




Don't discard relationships before trying. Even while trying to protect your esteem, doing this amounts to the reverse, low self esteem. Remember balance is key

healthserve:



It means, there are ladies when] ou treat respectfully will consider you weak, and if you notice this, make sure you don't overlook it as they don't make good partners for the longterm. These kinds want relationships filled with abuse and drama and won't make healthy relationship companions. Trust me I've been there, there are woman that don't want smooth sailing relationships

uninspired07:


Thanks but how do I discard what I don’t have? It’s not like I arbitrarily terminate budding relationships. I just don’t bother to initiate one. Maybe I am trying to shield myself but I wouldn’t call it low self esteem.

uninspired07:


Rare coming from a female. Thanks.

uninspired07:


My exact sentiments. I just needed reassurance. About the loneliness, I will just fine as I have been like this for a while. And note, it’s not like I am completely broke, I am just not where I would like to be, hence I don’t even bother initiating any relationship.

Thanks for your contribution.

healthserve:



I'll talk about introversion later. And why excessive introversion is also low self esteem

healthserve:



Same here. Relationship flings both ways. Don't beg anyone even in marriage . I've also begged in the past and what I've noticed is excessive good manners areal ways abused by the recipients. Hold off excessive politeness is one of the key to maintaining a black woman thesedays. Good treatment is always and always and always considered weakness

fykes:
If u have lived long enough u will notice that no matter how a person is, someone of d opposite sex must like and want them. Begging is a sign of weakness, women hate weakness in men.
Politeness is a virtue, virtues can't be wrong. Finally, a man's worth is not "intricately" connected to his economic value. That's a lie and an inadequate human view that breeds all d vices and monstrous attitudes we see in men today.
A man's value is in d depth of his convictions and the strength of his character.
A girl may not see this line of thought, a woman will definitely do and it's more than age- the difference between a girl and a woman.

crackhaus:

Companionship is important, very important and if you're feeling lonely, then something is wrong and you must figure that out.

The mistake most men make is we often assume the cure to loneliness lies in having a female companion, this is very false and can lead you into the wrong woman. Try to get rid of your loneliness instead of accepting that you're fine with it, just don't make women the go-to alternative.

cococandy:

uninspired07:


I was actually waiting for this. Why should I grovel before women when I know the eventual outcome?

Why don’t I bide my time & wait to be ready for a mutually respectful & rewarding relationship?

I have seen so many guys get hurt by trying to beg women. It simply doesn’t work.

uninspired07:


Exactly. I don’t even have any politeness to give to any woman, except my mother ( I know this will attract insults, but it’s just the fact). Thanks for your contribution.

uninspired07:


A man’s convictions & strength of character in Nigeria?

I rather stick to believe that a man’a value is tied to his economic value .