Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

Hmmmm. God will help you

You actually don’t know what God is saving you from.

No Girlfriend = No Problem

Know Girlfriend = Know Problem.

Davash222:
You actually don’t know what God is saving you from.

No Girlfriend = No Problem

Know Girlfriend = Know Problem.

Werey

Davash222:
You actually don’t know what God is saving you from.

No Girlfriend = No Problem

Know Girlfriend = Know Problem.

..I don't think there are problems attached to having a girlfriend..my friends have and they don't seem to have any problem

Frezhkid10:
..I don't think there are problems attached to having a girlfriend..my friends have and they don't seem to have any problem

you still a kid. You’ll understand later. I have a girlfriend(main) and side girlfriends but it’s way better if you hit and run.


Please don’t get involve. I Dey feel bad for you already

stupidity:
you still a kid. You’ll understand later. I have a girlfriend(main) and side girlfriends but it’s way better if you hit and run.


Please don’t get involve. I Dey feel bad for you already

...I need someone to plan with me and keep me calm when am broke..

It's quite funny how you let yourself loose to be friendzoned. Pick up d courage&ask d girl out.If she agrees,good! If she ask for time,move on man.There are too many girls out there that would salivate if they ever get the chance to be asked out.

Frezhkid10:
...I need someone to plan with me and keep me calm when am broke..

You have to be calm, and know why you want a girlfriend for now. Will it add or take from you?

Frezhkid10:
...I need someone to plan with me and keep me calm when am broke..

thats were the problems is.


When you have a girlfriend and you get broke at some point, insecurity sets in(if you can’t handle it) and you will find it difficult to focus and hustle. All you’ll be thinking of is how to get money to please her not yourself.


Also pray you don’t meet a girl that has already tasted the Nigerian life . In this case, OYO.


Brah, just master the art of sweet talking, look sharp, when one fly comes close, use your kill my tactics to lure it and go for a kill.

Keep doing this till you meet the right one. You fit even turn one of your “off-panters” to serious babe If she meets the requirements

Frezhkid10:
...I need someone to plan with me and keep me calm when am broke..

the only good thing I can really say about having a girlfriend is that your heart is always somewhere you can’t stop thinking of.

But your pricck is with you and doing wonders (no dulling)

Frezhkid10:
Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

That right there is the problem @bolded.

RisenPhoenix:


That right there is the problem @bolded.

..how??..I thought been caring is the right way to get a girl attracted to u..

favoryte33:
It's quite funny how you let yourself loose to be friendzoned. Pick up d courage&ask d girl out.If she agrees,good! If she ask for time,move on man.There are too many girls out there that would salivate if they ever get the chance to be asked out.

....my game is to get them attracted to me first by caring and get close to them before popping the question..

Frezhkid10:
....my game is to get them attracted to me first by caring and get close to them before popping the question..

Let be said that we warned you about this impending doom you’re getting yourself to. Flee from this affliction. There’s no gain in it. It brings only sorrows and pains.

Your problem : u care too much

Davash222:

Let be said that we warned you about this impending doom you’re getting yourself to. Flee from this affliction. There’s no gain in it. It brings only sorrows and pains.

have heard..but it's hard for me ooo...especially seeing my guys having a steady girlfriend's and I can't get one..

Taywon:
Your problem : u care too much

...hmmm...

Frezhkid10:
....my game is to get them attracted to me first by caring and get close to them before popping the question..

That's were you get it wrong dawg! do not play d mr nice guy before asking a girl out on a date.

Frezhkid10:
Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

Change your approach, you are putting the cart before the horse. You meet a girl you like, tell her your intentions before any commitment

Frezhkid10:
..how??..I thought been caring is the right way to get a girl attracted to u..

Ah ha ha ha! So naive. Have you been watching Telemundo? Tell me, is it your nice friends that have the best girlfriends, or the bad boys among them?

Ubunja has some pretty accurate write ups here on NL concerning that false belief. Search for his profile and read all his miseducation articles. It was your type of person that he directed all his efforts for. It is a good start.
Come back when you've finished reading and tell us what you did wrong initially.

Davash222:

Let be said that we warned you about this impending doom you’re getting yourself to. Flee from this affliction. There’s no gain in it. It brings only sorrows and pains.

Please let the guy be,if he doesn't start to learn now when will he. Maybe at 35 or 40 then he can start dating abi, one thing you have to know, heart break cheat, true love. Mind games, in relationships makes you learn teaches you alot in life,

He must at one point date which is now, please free the guy, as for op always have this in mind not every body go like you she might chat with you smile, but she won't like to date you.

Yours is coming, and maybe you rush things to much like telling her you love her, how you are tripping for her, sometimes that word love changes everything when a girl hears it. It is hard to process for then, and because you have mentioned that love things won't be like before again.

Why not make friends with them, call them chat with them create a space in there heart, ones in a while go low don't call form busy let them miss you, crush on them but don't tell them your mind, be blunt tease them, taunting them a bit with maybe something they told you, just have fun before you know it one out of 3 will fall for you. Make them like you, trust you be free with you let your actions speak the love. Women ones the are free with you and can trust you. you always make her happy my dear you don't need nothing, the girl is yours.mind you also in this process you would know the one's that naturally don't connect or like you, then you move on it saves you the heart break of she telling you t no in words.

All this you need to be a man, control your emotions don't get carried away too much. that is why one's in a while you go on break let her call let her feel your absence, until she finally falls for you.

Mind you I'm not a play boy don't take advantage of ladies emotions, I am a gentleman. I cherish true love and the best love is to be both her best friend and also her boyfriend mehn you would know there is heaven on earth.

RisenPhoenix:


Ah ha ha ha! So naive. Have you been watching Telemundo? Tell me, is it your nice friends that have the best girlfriends, or the bad boys among them?

Ubunja has some pretty accurate write ups here on NL concerning that false belief. Search for his profile and read all his miseducation articles. It was your type of person that he directed all his efforts for. It is a good start.
Come back when you've finished reading and tell us what you did wrong initially.

I won't advise for that, ubunja has lots of good write up but with the way this guy is. it might change him and polute his mind to experience love . Ubunja write up is for matured mind. it is toxic at the same time there are some wise words there too.

Chibuchris:


I won't advise for that, ubunja has lots of good write up but with the way this guy is it might change him and polute his mind to experience love . Ubunja write up is for matured mind it is toxic at the same time there are some wise words there too.

There is nothing like love bro. Stop preaching a mirage. If Ubunja's write ups can make him understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush, it will more easily keep him from getting manipulated by women in future. It hurts to see guys so naive. Didn't you see his heading? He desperately needs advice. How can we ignore his plea for help by keeping him in the dark?

Frezhkid10:
Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

mr nice guy doesn't always end well. Ask Jachie Chan if you think i'm lying.

Frezhkid10:
Good afternoon house..I have an issue bothering me of late about having a girl as my own. I am in my early twenties and it seems converting a girl to a girlfriend seems like a herculean task.
Each time I get attracted to a girl, I tend to shower her with care and listen to her,chat and talk most of the time and along the line when I ask for dating it ends with rejection...am confused and don't know what to do again...I need advise on these issue cause am about losing my mind
Please ignore all errors.

Being too nice is your mistakes, you'll be seen as a brother.

be tough, soft, tough tough, soft tough

Offpoint:

Being too nice is your mistakes, you'll be seen as a brother.

be tough, soft, tough tough, soft tough

...I used this approach for my most recent girl and it ended with her catching feelings for another guy who was giving her much more attention...just confused on what to do..

RisenPhoenix:


There is nothing like love bro. Stop preaching a mirage. If Ubunja's write ups can make him understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush, it will more easily keep him from getting manipulated by women in future. It hurts to see guys so naive. Didn't you see his heading? He desperately needs advice. How can we ignore his plea for help by keeping him in the dark?

I'm sorry bro that's your opinion and I respect it but there is something called love only the brave can get it. It's never easy but there is. I have experience it, all my ex are still friend with me, all my break up are base on matters that is bigger than us. So bro there is what we call true love. Have you ever been a ladies best friend and boyfriend, have ladies always love confiding in you trust you and share stuff with you. Bro there are good ladies out there. I understand you it is risky because when you get played your heart will be crushed, but we can say because accidents occurs on the high way for that we won't travel or is that what want to tell me?

Frezhkid10:
...I used this approach for my most recent girl and it ended with her catching feelings for another guy who was giving her much more attention...just confused on what to do..

Update your skill, don't play with your meal or you'll lose it.

Watch your every move, watch your prey move, select your prey carefully, wait till your prey is in the perfect spot, be sensitive to your prey environment, when your prey all guard's down, charge and launch your attack and be ruthless and aim at the most vulnerable spot and take it down.

update your skill and words.

RisenPhoenix:


There is nothing like love bro. Stop preaching a mirage. If Ubunja's write ups can make him understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush, it will more easily keep him from getting manipulated by women in future. It hurts to see guys so naive. Didn't you see his heading? He desperately needs advice. How can we ignore his plea for help by keeping him in the dark?

Sometimes you people surprise me "if ubunja' s write ups can make understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush"
before ubunja love exist and after ubunja it will still exist. Love is a mystery you can never explain or create perfect way of how love is gonna work,

That some people fail in a business does not mean others don't succeed in it, don't let that write ups spoil and mess you up. I read some of his write ups which are good and I took some point from it.

Chibuchris:


Sometimes you people surprise me 'if ubunja' s write ups can make understand that love at his stage is just a lusting crush' before ubunja love exist and after ubunja it will still exist. Love is a mystery you can never explain or create perfect way of how love is gonna work,

That some people fail in a business does not mean others don't succeed in it, don't let that write ups spoil and mess you up. I read some of his write ups which are good and I took some point from it.

'Mystery' is an appellation that man has always attributed to things that do not exist, but he wishes they did because they make him feel better with himself. 'Love' is just an attempt at justifying one's desires by giving them some higher value, it never existed. It is only easier to say: "I love her" than the more truthful: "I lust after her, and want her vagina to be exclusively mine"; and it is easier to say: "I love him" than to say: "I want the material life I believe that he can give me"; because we have been taught by society that the one is immoral and the other greedy. Don't deceive yourself. No one is better at a love that cannot exist; a couple stays together only when each of its component units satisfies the needs of the other. If it was discovered that better satisfaction can be obtained elsewhere, dissatisfaction with the status quo will set in and the union will likely break apart... and your 'love' will seem as if it had never existed; which is the reality... love is just expedience.

Davash222:
You actually don’t know what God is saving you from.

No Girlfriend = No Problem

Know Girlfriend = Know Problem.

Ok, let's say you're right, but how long will he be "saved" from this?
We are aware that as humans we reach a stage where we become involved! Only few can remain celibate!