crackhaus:
1. I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

2. I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly.

After giving you the benefit of a doubt and assuming this is exactly how it happened - then your husband has definitely gone mad to react to absolutely nothing.
Please politely ask him if there is madness running in his family, make sure you ask him from a safe distance because he will surely use the nearest furniture to kill you.

Madness does not have a cure, but it can be managed.
Arrange to have him put in chains and get him on medications till everything returns to normal.

Ardar:
What are you still doing in that marriage? Is it when he finally kills you that you'll understand that your horseband is gradually turning into a beast.

I don't know when women in abusive marriages will get sense, the day any man lays his finger on me especially when unprovoked will be the end of the peace and sanity in that marriage.

We will fight to our last breath, it's either he kills me or I kill him or we kill each other, but if we both survive he won't try such rubbish again.

Originalsly:


Let me be clear... your husband should not hit you.
Now the breakdown..... by now you should know your husband well enough to see the signs when he need to be left alone. From what you wrote... this is how I see it.

1/2. Is he a child for you to pick what clothes he should wear?...to his friend's occasion? He dressed casual.... do you know if after the celebration they planned going fishing?...a football game?...or hang out somewhere where casual is the wear?

3. After not liking his casual everyday dress look..... are you trying to let me believe you would be polite in telling him to go and change? At this point.... you are adding salt to the wound... really treating him like a child. ...picking what he should wear and now he need to go and change.

4/5/6 He got angry... which you knew.... and didn't want to be pissed off by anything else you may say so he asked you to he quiet....went in the room to simmer down before coming out.

7/8 You decided not to say anything ....for peace to reign.... but said something anyway?....and still expect peace to reign?

9. Why are you now surprised that he snapped?

He knows himself and was trying to avoid this situation. Madam when people snap.... nothing is off limit. If you never knew...now you know he has a breaking point... learn to read the signs to stay clear of danger. Know your husband.

BRATISLAVA:


She even went to the party to pretend all is well. People like her license battery. He will do worse and expect her to cover it up. The way she's already acted, she probably will. Her children will bear the scars of her complacence with her life.

folks4luv:

If a guy who has served in the military for 15 years or even less verbally assault you will you vent your frustration through physical assault on him or you will calculate your weaknesses against him and find an alternative? The truth is, some men vent frustration on their wives cause they know they can handle them. A civilian married to a military woman won't try it

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

olaodun:
Sorry for what had happened if what you said is the true picture however
Please discuss with him to know your offence and let conscience guide you if you are guilty of what he said and apologize and also demand your apology from for beating you and forgive and forget for the sake of your family and children
if he does not listen to you discuss with the close person he respects and listens to to resolve the issue and move on life is more complex than to be busy with with irrelevant issues .This is my little contribution

crackhaus:
1. I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

2. I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly.

After giving you the benefit of a doubt and assuming this is exactly how it happened - then your husband has definitely gone mad to react to absolutely nothing.
Please politely ask him if there is madness running in his family, make sure you ask him from a safe distance because he will surely use the nearest furniture to kill you.

Madness does not have a cure, but it can be managed.
Arrange to have him put in chains and get him on medications till everything returns to normal.

karli4nia:


Isi Aki! Isi okpo!

purpleicious:
Pray for him.

olaodun:
Sorry for what had happened if what you said is the true picture however
Please discuss with him to know your offence and let conscience guide you if you are guilty of what he said and apologize and also demand your apology from for beating you and forgive and forget for the sake of your family and children
if he does not listen to you discuss with the close person he respects and listens to to resolve the issue and move on life is more complex than to be busy with with irrelevant issues .This is my little contribution

thorpido:
That must be his own way of celebrating Christmas with you.

Jewessgratitude:



,,,,,,,,go on your kneels and apologise ..... so go on your kneels now.

healthserve:




Here they come single ladies trying to seduce married women out of their marriages to join the leagues of pseudo-independent but frustrated women.

Originalsly:


Let me be clear... your husband should not hit you.
Now the breakdown..... by now you should know your husband well enough to see the signs when he need to be left alone. From what you wrote... this is how I see it.

1/2. Is he a child for you to pick what clothes he should wear?...to his friend's occasion? He dressed casual.... do you know if after the celebration they planned going fishing?...a football game?...or hang out somewhere where casual is the wear?

3. After not liking his casual everyday dress look..... are you trying to let me believe you would be polite in telling him to go and change? At this point.... you are adding salt to the wound... really treating him like a child. ...picking what he should wear and now he need to go and change.

4/5/6 He got angry... which you knew.... and didn't want to be pissed off by anything else you may say so he asked you to he quiet....went in the room to simmer down before coming out.

7/8 You decided not to say anything ....for peace to reign.... but said something anyway?....and still expect peace to reign?

9. Why are you now surprised that he snapped?

He knows himself and was trying to avoid this situation. Madam when people snap.... nothing is off limit. If you never knew...now you know he has a breaking point... learn to read the signs to stay clear of danger. Know your husband.

Mrsprissy:
Thank you so much everyone for your advice . Like I said earlier nothing actually happened between us before Christmas , everything was okey , on Monday December 23rd we went out shopping for Christmas after we took the kids out to the playgrounds and we ended the day with a nice dinner at the restaurant. On Christmas morning we woke up fine no arguments, he left the house and went to get his hair cut, I picked up his clothes and left it on the bed by the time he get back so he can wear them, he came back very normal on a good mood , the only time he got angry was when I asked him to go and change , I didn’t raise my voice , I only told him the clothes doesn’t look nice for the special occasion that was when he told me to keep quiet and I did. He took 1 hour just to change the T-shirt to a shirt and I wasn’t not happy but I didn’t say anything because he wasn’t in the right mood. Yes He beat me just because I have asked him to take a family picture , I swear to God I’m telling the truth and if I’m not lying because it won’t put any money to my bank account. This is the 2nd beating after 6 years of marriage but this is one was worse than the first one. Something did happened back in October ( his fault) but we have already settle everything and went back to normal. I know it doesn’t make sense to some of you , even myself I just don’t understand why did he beat me with so much hatred when I did nothing wrong

uuzba:


It's a stupid behaviour.
OP woman is just a pretender and cover artist. Things are not fine, you won't talk. You still snapping picture and opening teeth. And that is what you husband beat you for. Instead of asking him, "Dear what is wrong?" Maybe he's even a yahoo boy.
OP is so foolish and caught up in herself she has no idea what her husband is up to and she isn't concerned either. Just to snap picture and attend party

The husband will bash her up before new year and she must cover up that one again... Open her big teeth and snap more pictures on Instagram.

back2sender:

Naa your mouth dey kill you.

If your husband like he can wear pant to the party that's its business and not yours.

The most important thing is that he provides for his family his primary priority all other concerns is secondary.

midnighter:


You are not saying the right thing sir.

If she wants to go somewhere and the husband has not disapproved of her movement she can go. You want her to stay inside wallowing and crying that the shameless dude who doesn't know how to express himself like an adult wanted to finish her

If she was willing and felt that she was able to honour the invitation and continue with her plans for the evening then you have no right to condemn her.

How can you complain that she cleaned herself up? Remember that the crazy guy even left without the kids. How will it look for them on Christmas day if she just sits on the floor holding her face?

I don't understand what point you are trying to make but it's sounding somehow.

Jewessgratitude:



Madam madam madam.... I like myself for one thing. I'll always say things as they are.
Now.... Are you sure the tone of correction was one of love or command?
You know I see some married women trying to act like commando because they feel, he has already married me na, so I can talk to him any how. Men dont like it.
Your husband is not a monster that he'll just Pounce on you like that and start beating you for no reason. There must have been something about the tone of your message that made him do that.

Ok...he went in to change at your command, instead of you to read his countenance to be sure he's not angry, you said you people should snap. Now I'm guessing you even handed him your phone and was like " oya take, snap us" like new some errand boy. I'm guessing ni o cos I know what some of us can do.

Look you don't just always have to be the one calling the shots cos if you check both scenarios, you did all the talking meaning you were calling the shots like, go and change, oya come and snap us". haba! Check am na. If na you nkor. And men dont like to be ordered around.

Maybe for oga mind, he don spoot to kill. You telling him to go and change will make him feel, "yei! I no impress sha". He swallowed it. You come give another order? You brought it upon yourself.
Next time even if you don't like what he's wearing, you can crack a joke that both of you will laugh to. Even use kiss drag him inside and say nice things to him so he doesn't feel controlled.

Try to understand your man. Since he has not done.such before, go on your kneels and apologise that you won't control him again and see if he'll not admit that was your wrong. Swallow your pride and do the needful. He don marry you so go on your kneels now.

Wettoid123:


An invitation she wanted to go with her husband and the shameless man beat her up and attended the party alone without the wife or kids and this same woman shamelessly dust her body and held on to the same party that your husband was not even proud of taking you to haaaaaaaaa 'I believe you don't even know the intricacies of marriage cos you are still single' in marriage respect is reciprocal if you tell your man that you are a rag be sure you will be use as a rag or maybe the woman in question is even a dependent woman she have no option than to be 100percent loyal too bad.