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Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Mcbayo(m): 8:59am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:Give the girl to the rightful sperm donor jare |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by joshuaidibia(m): 9:00am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Kylekent59: Just because he's her father doesn't make him her daddy. 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by GerogeI(m): 9:01am On Dec 30, 2019 |
nanaman: Bros, that's where you are wrong. By common law, he gave up his rights by being irresponsible. The child does not exist in a vaccum. To survive the child has informal guardians taking care of her for 16 years. He should try to dislodge that in a court. By cultural law, he has no foot-in, what's so ever. You cannot claim a child you did not father legally in Igbo culture. That's why we legally do not have bastards, as the culture provides for a father in Every situation. Child of an unmarried mother belongs to the childs grandparents. Your are making assumptions based on the patrichal nature of most societies. In most cases people just let go in order to spare the child the trauma. As long as he does not has access to this child to get into her psychology, do not let him subject a happy 16 year old child to psychological trauma and confusion. Spare her all these till her twenties. At that age her supposed father also know he is just a visitor. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 9:02am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Your sister should tell her daughter the truth and fast before the man gets to the daughter and tell her another story. She can meet her father and decide for herself if she prefers to be with him or with you guys. Kids of these days know what they want. She's old enough to know what she wants. 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by maasoap(m): 9:02am On Dec 30, 2019 |
nanaman: Let him go to court and claim his ownership since you're so sure of that. Laughing 2 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 9:02am On Dec 30, 2019 |
I will invite the said Dad, patiently wait on him to come to the house, I'll cut off his scrotum and face the consequences! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by LoyalRccgMember: 9:03am On Dec 30, 2019 |
jidamsel43: It is people like you that makes the whites think of us as monkeys! in Africa , a man owns children and he has right to claim it anytime. thunder where are you na? 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by folks4luv(f): 9:04am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Lol. 16 is of age? your confidence in speaking about a law you don't understand is completely amazing nanaman: 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 9:04am On Dec 30, 2019 |
[s][quote author=nanaman post=85330421] Yes. Issues like this should not be taken or decided with personal feelings. The man was bad. YES. Is the father of the child. YES Did he take care of the child from birth till date. NO Has she (the girl) being adopted by another family. NO No where in the law states an irresponsible man should be denied paternity. Lots of things would be posed as the cause of the problem and if the mother denies, DNA would be requested and since the mother knows, truly, the real father is the new man, then, DNA is ruled out. I already explained what your sister failed to do at the initial stage which brought her to this step. To custody issue, I stated, the young girl is of age according to law to decide where she wants to live. The court cannot deny the real dad visit and care para-adventure she decides to stay with her mother. Wherever she decides to stay, the man is now "responsible" to law and he should not be denied his right. That's the law bro. [/quote[/s]] |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by oodua1stson: 9:05am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:right now I'm currently taking care of a child that is not my sperm but I'm not deluded. I know one day the real father might pop up and rightly so. He needs to have access to his child and I will allow it. It doesn't matter that he has not spend a dime on him 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Godson1996: 9:06am On Dec 30, 2019 |
There's nothing you can do about it. Just tell the girl the truth and be free. She'll not run away from those who cared for her all these years. If the father want to contribute in taking care of her, he can do just that but on no occasion will you allow her to go live with him. The earlier the better for both families. 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by oodua1stson: 9:06am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Apination:its not up to anybody to decide when it ends or not. Biologically the child belongs to him. 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by LoyalRccgMember: 9:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: Shut the hell up! it's he-goats like you we dy talk about na 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Burggerxbabe: 9:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
He has legal rights to his baby whether or not he rejected it before now.., truth is a bitter pill 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by pushups44: 9:07am On Dec 30, 2019 |
It sounds like the daughter will have to play an important role in deciding if her father is to be spoken to. It's sad that he was away for 16 years, but people can change over time. Hopefully his motives are pure. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Nobody: 9:08am On Dec 30, 2019 |
The guy is a scam. To be honest with you, this is the new style some lazy dude use. They will abscond after birth and resurface when the child is doing fine. It's true that you can deny his fatherhood but he will pay every dine the family has spent on the child or else....go to court asap before he turn it to violent. The law support woman in marriage more than man. So you are going to reclaim your money or he spend the rest of his life in jail by abandoning his child during venerable period.. Get a good lawyer . The guy is wicked. Don't allow him to run you into cheap pity. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by BleedTears: 9:09am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: I think it depends on your custom and tradition. Some custom demands that you must either pay the bride price of the woman or some childcare fee before you can claim your child while some custom you can go and get as many women as you can pregnant and deny all of them and come back whenever they turn billionaire and claim they're your child. But for me, the day you deny my child is the day you're dead to me, any day you come back and tell me you want to connect, I will connect you to high tension wires. And don't listen to those telling you "You should be very happy for her that she's gonna reunite with her father. That's the best love you can give to her." Is a cheap emotional blackmail. If your sister had got the pregnant and hide it from him and he later finds out it will be understandable but he knew and denied it for 16 years which kind of human is that? And them telling you people that they will sponsor her in any level, did you people tell them you don't have what it takes to sponsor her or has she been lacking anything or feeling sick because she hasn't meet with her biological parents. There are some mistakes you have to regret till you die and the mistake of denying your child is number 1. Call the man and tell him if he is looking for something to sponsor to any level, he should look for pig and sponsor. Please nobody should take my comment personal is just my opinion 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 9:09am On Dec 30, 2019 |
crafteck: A child is much more than a biological product. A child lives in a society! Even in the court, customary laws must be followed! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by govomotors: 9:09am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Please forgive, forget and allow the young lady unite with her real dad. All these while the walked away father have been his own prisoner of conscience. Although, the walked away Father cannot repay your family but I can assure you, he will do everything he can to make peace. And for your sister, she cannot hide the news any longer from the walked away father. As a wise man make use of this opportunity and arrange a meeting, Be wise and make this period of celebration joyous to all even at NL. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Lifecanbeamazin: 9:10am On Dec 30, 2019 |
You and everyone in the family have the right to be angry but most importantly the girl knows that she's loved by you all. It's her decision to make, you cannot deny her access to this man and also respect her wishes if she chooses that she doesn't want him in her life. Let her heal and be there to support and respect her wishes. For those saying he has to pay, how much for all that he's missed in her life, no amount of money can replace or fill in those moments. Thank you for being a supportive uncle, God bless you. 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by HallaDaTruth: 9:11am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Do not let the absentee father have any access to the child. He is useless 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by LoyalRccgMember: 9:11am On Dec 30, 2019 |
EgunMogaji2:Hunkle shut up abeg 6 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by oloriLFC(f): 9:12am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Graxie:even the man that doesn't want to get involved? The person you quoted said a woman should drop the child off, really? Drop him off like a piece of garbage because 'both parents have to be involved in raising him/her'? I don't understand o 1 Like |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by RastaJack: 9:13am On Dec 30, 2019 |
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Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by GMbuharii: 9:14am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: Nairalanders have given you more than enough good advice. The only punishment you can mete on that erring father is telling him to give you and your sister some time to think it out and till then he should stay and steer clear of the girl and her mum and you but at the end,he should be allowed to see and cater for his daughter. If he and his family are now responsible,then she should be allowed to visit and spend time with them and her mum's family,that two families hehe. She go enjoy life Wella. The girl is of age now so you and her mum can reveal everything to her. All the best |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Scottallen: 9:15am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: If he denied the pregnancy, then he has no business with the child. Customary laws applies in this case, even if the case goes to court. In many Igbo communities, a father isn't just a sperm donor. If a man didn't pay for a woman's bride price, technically in the customary court, the child isn't his. Remember, if the man goes to court, he must first of all start with the customary court and he will definitely lose. The ball is in your sisters court! 9 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by ujluv(f): 9:17am On Dec 30, 2019 |
KIkiofure: C Go now and the do the right thing to avoid this kind of story. Go to child welfare let him sign you will have legal backing. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Yomhie: 9:18am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform:this is very funny I’ve been reading some slowpoke comments on this post since some people lack sense which is very bad And they would be the one claiming old man or woman I laugh in Chinese Bros I’m in your shoe right now but I’m patiently waiting for the man to come around he would know the real me then I’ve been saving to reck him cause I would let him know that he can’t mess with my fam he’s a local politician which I know he would soon leave seat but me been working real hard all because of this particular man to come and claim this girl our family are not rich in anyway but I’m trying to be rich and with God all things are possible back to your matter bro I wish you have money to suffer the guy we are in Nigeria if you have money and you know some people he can’t just go freely as that you’ll suffer him and still collect all dime you’ve spent on her even extra on that girl Me I’ve had it in my diary that the man would feel so useless whenever he comes to claim the girl I pray we are all alive I’ll gist you guys on nairaland 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Digmygold: 9:19am On Dec 30, 2019 |
nanaman: And where is he going to get the samples for the DNA from. He'd force a 16 year old to provide her blood or swab her mouth?You just said bullshit*t. The irresponsible nigga has no case. 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by TruthinAction: 9:19am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: Which tribe? It's common with certain tribes. But if they insist, they will pay heavily by coming to marry the child in some culture. The money involved is almost the equivalent of a marriage ceremony. If you are not interested in the money or no such culture exist in your community, the child has a say. The child should wise to say no to such evil parents. And that settles it. Even if they go to court, the custody of the child will be given to whom the child chooses. |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by Graxie(f): 9:20am On Dec 30, 2019 |
healthserve:So true, I don't know how a man can father a child without looking after that child. It beats my imagination. 3 Likes |
Re: He Got My Sister Pregnant, Rejected It, Now He Wants The Child 16 Years After by frozen70(f): 9:20am On Dec 30, 2019 |
Biafrareform: Just be calm please He has the right and access to the girl despite hus stupidity with his family to deny the said girl of her rights Pls she is matured now, let your sister sit her down and tell her that her father denied her and because she doesn't want to abort her, her family took her in and gave her life Tell her tgat your current dad accepted her and took her as his own daughter and he made sure she never felt the absence of a geniue dad Tell your sister to write down all she spent on her from antenatal to her present status She may not get the real figures but she can even inflate it to her satisfaction and give the bill to the man to pay That is his punishment for being stupid and if he refuses to cooperate In her entire life, let her daughter never gives her dad a penny even if she is the only hope At times, we teach the stupid ones senses if they act as if they don't know I have no pity for that man |
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