Nnaabros:


You're already living in poverty bro since the very day you were born in Nigeria, one of the poorest countries in the world.

And what's the crime in being poor when you don't beg for food?

Mgbadike80:
you can get self contain apartment in outlying areas of Onitsha for 60k a year (or more sha), public yards with shared facilities costs less. They should plan tgeir lives accordingly, and stop assuming that the lady is unemployed, she should get her own 30k job. how much do you think a man should be making before thinking of marriage?

lilwetdick:


man i am not living in poverty

i will use this bible passage for illustrate my condition

Proverbs 13:22: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.

lilwetdick:


100k with career growth..that is the man ready for marriage.

100k monthly...1.2 million annually also career growth.....opportunity to earn more in 3-4 years.

lilwetdick:


man i am not living in poverty

i will use this bible passage for illustrate my condition

Proverbs 13:22: “A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.

Ryan03:
na wa o, shared yard you say? Like excuse you, my parents never lived in such environment hence we didn't either. So my sister will wake up now and marry a man that is living in a face me I slap you house? Make everybody marry according to their levels na, you can't be earning 30k and planning to marry a lady earning 150k. Find someone in your level and nobody go hear noise. All these posts up and down sef

Nnaabros:


You must be one of those born with silver spoons in thier mouth then. No wonder you so despise people struggling to make a living.

lilwetdick:


when did i say you dont deserve your fantasy love? but since you wanna comment lets comment.

so basically you dont have experience in lecturing but went for phd

your earn 10k as stipend and your only source of income and you think you can marry with 10k, because you think you have potential after 2 years

now what are the chances of you getting a job after doing your phd, dont forget you have no experience in teaching

most people i know doing phd are lecturers working in the system already.

i think you don enter one chance, a phd without teaching experience in the university is a waste of time.

have you seen recent job adverts for phd holders, a minimum of 10 years experience is required for you to get a teaching job.

to be fair a bachelor degree guy earning 100k is better than you even after you finish your program

nobody is gonna pay you a good pay if you dont have the experience and dont think, you can get good employment in the private sector because you will be over qualified. you will have the prestige of being a Dr but no cash.

people that follow where the money are better off than people that follow their dreams

lilwetdick:


i wasnt born in any silver spoon, my father was just opportune to join the navy as a young man when people where running away.

after training, he was commissioned as a sub and grow up the ladder, retired and went into private business..

i dont despise people struggling, i despise young and educated men without stable income thinking about marriage and thinking that god will change their circumstances when married.

lilwetdick:


17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

Mgbadike80:
according to a report on BBC pidgin, 20% of Nigerian graduates start out on salaries less than 20k, very few gets to earn 100k. yet people survive with families. many families living in the rural areas where land is cheap or they inherit land even build their own homes with such income. You're not been realistic, people won't stop living their lives because they're poor, rather they plan and work their way out of poverty. Any Nigerian youth still single above the age of thirty might end up having fertility issues or trouble raising a family when older and weak. the wise don't run away from their live problems, they plan on how to tackle and conquer it.

Nnaabros:


There's nothing bad in being ambitious and hoping for the best.

Besides, there're things that matter more in this life than money. Things like companionship. Being with and sharing life with someone who you really care about and who loves and cares for you in return.

You can't feed on love it's true. But there're some natural human needs that no amount of money on the world can satisfy. One of which is our emotional need, and that is where true happiness lies.

lilwetdick:
this is just nonsense

this what i hate to read, the pity and emotional game, the story that everything can end just in a day.

getting rich and going broke is a process, it just not start and end in a day

but how can you be earning 30k and be in marriage.

i cant allow a man earning 30k to marry my sister..simple as abc

praz001:


The wife might have hers as well. And he still does have a bike Maybe as an additional income.



From your calculation, even at feeding for 567 daily, it better that living large on ritual money and yahoo.....

A dry morsel with peace of mind is better than a house full of honey but with strife....

jakandeola:
may god purnish u

lilwetdick:


17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

donbachi:
Nice write up...GOD bless u.

lilwetdick:


if you have a sister, will your father allow a man earning 30k to marry your sister? pls be realistic

Thiwalade:


Gentleman/lady, you or anyone cannot predict my future. That someone else failed to make it, doesn't mean I will fail too. Thanks.

Thiwalade:


Gentleman/lady, you or anyone cannot predict my future. That someone else failed to make it, doesn't mean I will fail too. Thanks.

IyaTola:
You are not God.

Waterview:
Lilwetdick is a famous scallywag here..
Even the moniker should scare you guys, he finds solace in argument (unproductive)

Please take note.

jieta:
did you read were he said he's colleagues has a bike.

Did you take into consideration the amount the bike fetch the man.

yazga:
“It’s pretty hard to tell what does bring happiness; poverty and wealth have both failed”-Yazga

IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.