MechanicalEngr:


Thanks for this comment, 30K in this current hardship is not realistic except you are staying in the village.it is better to double your hustle as a single guy to ensure your family is stable and have the basics (Good shelter & food). But if you have a partner who is fully aware of your current situation and has that drive to work towards getting out of poverty with you then get married to that person because the energy and support will be the driving force to take you out of your lowest low.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Your mom sorry to hear that
That relationship must have been extraordinaire your GF just felt entitled. I am sure she made you a better man

lilwetdick:


god did not put you there, you put yourself there, everyman has his success in his hand, choice matters in this life

if i earn low, i wont marry but will strive to improve my income.

BluntBoy:


Yes, my love. I like to see the positives, so I would say she pushed me to be better in at least one way (maybe, not a good way). My desire had been to be just a pastor I didn't care for money or luxury. I just wanted to preach. But after my experience, I knew I had to work for money. Perhaps, God is not happy that the selfless boy of that time is now selfish. Because now, I don't do anything for free. My dad has been playing organ for 26 years now, and until recently, he was doing it for free until the church placed him on a salary by force. I wanted to do the same too. I was doing virtually everything for free in my local church back then. Playing the piano, interpreting, sweeping church, composing songs but not anymore. Now, if I must play the piano in my local church, my wage must be at least 15k per Sundays. After all, there are now billionaire pastors.

BluntBoy:


Yes, my love. I like to see the positives, so I would say she pushed me to be better in at least one way (maybe, not a good way). My desire had been to be just a pastor I didn't care for money or luxury. I just wanted to preach. But after my experience, I knew I had to work for money. Perhaps, God is not happy that the selfless boy of that time is now selfish. Because now, I don't do anything for free. My dad has been playing organ for 26 years now, and until recently, he was doing it for free until the church placed him on a salary by force. I wanted to do the same too. I was doing virtually everything for free in my local church back then. Playing the piano, interpreting, sweeping church, composing songs but not anymore. Now, if I must play the piano in my local church, my wage must be at least 15k per Sundays. After all, there are now billionaire pastors.

Ladyhippolyta88:

Pastor which church? You dey go church?
If you become pastor we nor dey marry
I don't do religious men
Learn to be selfless and have some humanity.
*runs*

jakandeola:
I pray u get a good wife bro cos u deserve it.after all pains u went thru, dont end up wit a useless woman who lack focus and spend her life on a stupid thing of past DAT ended 5 month ago.

Thiwalade:


for someone like you, I don't deserve love or relationship at this time? You lack foresight honestly? 2 years from now my PhD won't be a waste and I may earn more than the BSc collecting 100k? FYI, I left an 100k job to continue on my dreams. Didn't stop my lady from believing in me.

lilwetdick:


a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

wany:

And if I may ask how are catering for your Lady, boy don't be deceive she has a side guy picking her bills,only waiting for jungle to mature so that she let go and hang on you fully ,use your brain.
Even at a PhD level you still sound dumb.

BluntBoy:


Don't worry

I am not a religious person. I am a spiritual person. I was religious once (which is necessary), but now, religion no longer works for me.

I don't do church as well. If you find me in a church, I am most certainly there for business.

lilwetdick:


a man with vision and focus wont be earning 30k. i believe in spousal support, both couples should work, combine income but 30k is nothing

how will this 30k earner pay for rent before they marry, who is bringing whom to the house, the man or the woman.

EnaibeSam:


Yes, it works for me too. I married my wife last year with Npower stipend of 30k. I got married in one room. But now to God be the glory, we are living comfortably in a self contain. (You know how much a self contain could cost in Warri). By the grace of God, in the first quarter of 2020, I'm opening a medicine store for her, with a budget of about 500k.
No matter how much you are receiving, if you cannot plan your life with your little income even if you are receiving 200k a month, will still remain broke always.





And our baby will be three months old on January 5th, 2020.

praz001:


The wife might have hers as well. And he still does have a bike Maybe as an additional income.



From your calculation, even at feeding for 567 daily, it better that living large on ritual money and yahoo.....

A dry morsel with peace of mind is better than a house full of honey but with strife....

zmpp:



nonsense person, keep forming what you are not. the same you who earns less than 47,000 naira and impregnated a lady, and manages to send 15, 000 naira to your poor mother every month, is here forming rich

lilwetdick:


if you have a sister, will your father allow a man earning 30k to marry your sister? pls be realistic

lilwetdick:


17k with 2 kids and proper planning..

father, mother and 2 kids = 4 mouth

17k to take care of 4 mouth monthly...

17k/30 days=567 naira daily for 4 mouth

this is impossible

olabrinks:
Late thirties to forties you are no longer in your prime. And if you don’t have substantial money or something very meaningful to offer at that point in your life, no young girl in their 20s will marry you. That’s why when some men talk about having all the time in the world I laugh. It’s better to settle down early with more options, because there’s no guarantee you will make it in life by the time you are 39.

illicit:
30k is not enough for food, accomodation,transport, family support and other miscellaneous expenses even for me as a young single guy....

Femsyn:
On the contrary, my advice is for the man earning 30k with intentions of getting married. Don't do it!!

I'm speaking to the progressive man, not a man living in a hut or hole in a dungeon. I'm speaking to a normal man.

Marriage is not a competition, and i'm not saying you've to make millions to get married.

Just try and improve your earnings a bit before marriage. Finance is one of the leading causes of friction in marriages.

Even love won't be enough! The frustration will be off the hook!

77up:
You guys should pls avoid this annoying topic in 2020, I married my wife after nysc even when there was no job talkless of #30000 but today nko?


If you like as a lady ,keep waiting for dangote or otedola , by the time agbero in garage is not even interested in you, you go know what's up.

Ryan03:
na wa o, shared yard you say? Like excuse you, my parents never lived in such environment hence we didn't either. So my sister will wake up now and marry a man that is living in a face me I slap you house? Make everybody marry according to their levels na, you can't be earning 30k and planning to marry a lady earning 150k. Find someone in your level and nobody go hear noise. All these posts up and down sef

Lighthouseman:

Never neglect the days of humble beginnings.
Sometimes, it's not about salary. I earn 30k monthly, if I come late in a month, might end up with 28k but on this same job, I'm a landlord. I'm better than folks earning 100k.
Salary will deceive lots of ladies.
Look out for vision, resilience and the I can do spirit.
If she rejects you for sake of salary, go for Thanksgiving.

cozy7:
May God bless u abundantly for this piece. I really hope ladies who read this adjust their ways.

BUT no, they prefer chasing old men with fat pockets, putting their future in danger..... Later when d guys they've been cheating on (with d old men) makes it n refuses to marry, they call him names. NONSENSE!

Pro2makx:


Guy stop being insensitive, respect other people's plight and thank God for where you are now.
My elder sisters husband. Married her when he was earning 40k. And they were resident at Lagos.
They would still send something to my mum no matter how small. Of course he was a graduate, a BSc. Holder but he was not upgraded at work as he got the Job with his NCE certificate. Least I forget, he works with a multi-million naira company.
It was like that till this year 2019 when was finally promoted and his salary shot to a little less than 200k. Asides other benefits.
Of course my dad knew his salary, yet he gave him his daughter, if he was still alive, till now I am sure he would still be proud he didn't judge him by his state at the time. Even the bible tells us to never despise the days of little beginning. Till now, there are families who leave on less than 200 or 300 naira in Nigeria. Yet they are surviving, working and hoping for a better day

IyaTola:
After seeing the post https://www.nairaland.com/5456607/ladies-marry-guy-earns-n30k of a man earning 30k shouldn't consider marriage Ladies, Can You Marry A Guy That Earns N30k? by ejitest1(m): 6:04pm On Oct 06 - felt I needed to post my opinion so others can learn.

If your idea of a good marraige is to get a man or woman with a good source of income from both parties and a comfortable lifestyle..

It's fine BUT>>>>

let me tell u the truth..

All those things can be wiped in days.. e.g job's good lifestyle wiped in a matter of days...

So what if he or she was a multi billionaire b4 you decided to marry them.

After few months or years, demons of parking everything appears and parks everything? Oh you forgot 1 bad loan gone south can cripple everything?

We focus on one thing, always related to money gain.. nobody talks about the spiritual aspect of marriage.. everyone always goes with - he must be working in shell or NNPC.. We have seen people who retired from those places and went back to square minus 0.

I told my sisters, never should a man bulk salary or business profits energize you to be a reason to want to marry him because if anything happens to that job or business - you will lose interests in the marriage - then divorce...

Marry a man who got a purpose, drive, vision, someone you can support to be something.. from scratch so that even if he crashed you can always advice him back to the top.

Those kinda marriages last long, majority of those men will love you till death.. even if they cheat, you will never find out... and they can never say "where were you wen I was building my wealth?"

When my uncle's friend (Now working in NNPC) a muslim was told to add another wife, I was in that room - he said in Hausa and I quote "you guys were not there when this lady (his wife) had to sell akara to sponsor his transport fares looking for jobs, so I don't want anyone competing Me with her."

If it was all about the money, you think faith Oyedepo would have married David Oyedepo? Am sure he wasn't seeing 30k monthly salary when he started Living faith church...

Btw, ladies - am not implying you should go marry a lazy broke man, rather marry a man who is starting little with dreams and strong visions, such that if everything crashed, he can pickup again and fight back.

Raptor15:
what is the business of a 30k earner with marriage? Instead of you to think of how you will improve on your earnings you are talking about marriage. E be like say dem use marriage curse una for this country.