Its always like that the always turn feminist and try to dominate you when the are financially better.that is why i hate corporate women but then the broke one are leeches and gold digging hoes too


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RisenPhoenix:


Then you should have let her go not given in to her whims. You are the captain who sets the course for the household. If she cannot stay with you through thick and thin, she should find her own direction in life without you.

As for the land, she has a right to do what she wants with her own money.

It's not too late. Get a divorce, she's now a liability on your back. No man can function after he has been emasculated. Hustle hard, marry a more supportive wife, and try to keep in touch with your kids as much as possible.

The last thing you want to be in when you are in economic downturn is a toxic relationship that drags you further down; mentally and emotionally.

Good luck.

See how it's so easy to type. U think it's easy to divorce and marry another just like that. what if the second turns worse than the first, u will tell him again to go for a third, fourth and fifth wife. Bad adviser. I just hope the op will not yield to this kind of advice.


What makes you a real man is your ability to look for ways to solve your problems than run away from it, especially if it's not life threatening.


Op your problem is u want to still take full control as a provider even when u no longer a provider and it's never gonna work that way. The table has turned so adjust as well. Since she's busy working to provide for the family, have you tried helping in some house activities or u still leave her to do everything and still go out to work for the family. Find a way around it. Dialogue with her you'll sort out the solution to your problems.

Life and issues.

The story is one sided and the audience can't judge based on that but I will give my 2 cents.

Do you help around the house? Men find this hard to do even when they are the core providers. In homes where spouses contributes equally financially, men still feel the burden of child care and domestic chores rest on the women.

Empathy and respect will make marriages thrive regardless of gender, esp if a partner goes from grace to grass suddenly.

Empathy and mutual respect for all.

rOsy247:


See how it's so easy in your hands to type. U think it's easy to divorce and marry another just like that. what if the second turns worse than the first, u will tell him again to go for a third, fourth and fifth wife. Bad adviser. I just hope the op will not yield to this kind of advice.

Yes it is. The second will marry him while he's in a position of weakness, so at least he will know that she is not looking for big money. Also, the order I put it in was that he should hustle hard, then marry when he can. Marriage is not a prerequisite for financial success. But he should not go back to the first wife is my point.

Zeewirld:
..That doesn't change anything.If she was doing it when the man was financially capable, I don't see what should stop her from doing it now, worst case scenario,she could employ a maid for that purpose.

It is not when your partner is down that you trash them,you are meant to cover their unclothedness at that point.

Money is an enabler. I don't know how the man treated his family, most especially the wife when he was the breadwinner because this might be part of the reasons why she is behaving that one.Women are generally very loyal.

You are not serious. The woman is handling the financial aspect, since the man can no longer do it.

Why cant the man handle at least some of the household chores, since the woman is now "covering his own unclothedness"

This is why I dont take you guys serious. Youve been blasting that chick all day yet you dont want him to do anything tangible to ease his problem.

Dont you think it may help if the woman comes back to a clean house and the children are already bathed? Notice that I did not mention the "C" word ooo

Why let out our secret on a forum like this nah?

internationalman:

worked like magic when i once used it on my shakara girlfriend....

and i made sure i used a profile picture more beautiful than my girl's own..

i lay the phone where she could have easy access to it and she did and read the chat i orchestrated thinking i didn't know she saw it as she refused to confront me with it..

i made sure to make it look like the girl was begging me to leave my girl to date her...but since i knew my girl was gonna view it, in the chat i reiterated how much i loved my girl and how i could never leave her for anyone...


my guy you need to see the love this girl was showing me afterwards en.

if you want to be successfull with ladies you have to beat them to their manipulative game

strungup79:


It would have been understandable to me if I was a wicked husband or used to bully her.

I know how you feel, my wife earns times two my salary, but I don't allow dat get me down or make me feel Inferior or less a man. You need to humble your self oga, no be everytime you go wan dey prove you're head, you're president of the house etc. The way you're doing only proves you used money to force her to respect you, and now you don't have the money yoy can't find a way to force the respect and you're pissed. Be her friend, there are many men who don't work and their wife send half her salary to him and still respect him, what do you think they are doing right?? So just calm down, cook her a dinner, massage her, fork her well, she go respect you again... No go dey form voltron for house, calm down.

Una don start again?
This is Just January 1st o!




Please lets us enjoy this year in peace

Strungup79 I am experiencing something close to that. Just that I still has a paid job with few Millions of Naira in my pension account.

Most women are ready to to disrespect and ridicule you even before your children ones they can pay their bills. Mine is very funny I pay children's school fees and house rent. I still pay her shop rent, buy cloths and shoes for her. But it is obvious my financial income has reduced by almost 70%.

I am about to sell one of my choice land property to raise fund for business as the office politics is killing me silently and my wife pressure, disrespect is another factor. I just change my pension fund level back to Fund 1, because I which not to collect until I am over 60 God willing.

My advice to you is to believe in yourself, replan and reevaluate your moves. Get close to your children whenever you are around and shower them with load of affections. Most importantly be prayerful.

To guys out there, to avoid depression please hustle and have enough savings. Make it a prayer point to always remain as the breadwinner of your home.

May God continue to bless us.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

MONEY DON'T CHANGE PEOPLE, MONEY BRING OUT THE TRUE PERSONALITY OF PEOPLE.

Can't believe I read to this point.

This is actually a very simple matter.

U see,when u treat women like objects, when situation turns around, they will treat you exactly the same way.


When the only thing u bring to the table is money, u shove that into her face, sometimes make her realise that you bought her with your money and she is in this relationship because of money, when situation turns around, u will not be smiling anymore because she will remember how u abused her with money.

I have been saying it that our men are trained to believe that money solves everything. Tag it along with the kind of submissivess preached in both religions, women groan and endure.
When the opportunity comes to them, they will naturally take over the role you have been playing for them.

Women are very easy to manage and tame.
U touch the right plug, she will worship you both when the going is good and tough.

The present day Nigeria has seen so many men out of work and their women has been holding the family together. No woman want this dominant role in her family. They still want their men to be the man of the house and in the house. If u had been doing so, her providing for the family wouldn't have changed the way things happen in your house.

We can therefore conclude that money is an illusion that we use to think women are happy with. Rather, it's a sign of showing power, subjugation and silly competition men don't know they engage in with their wives.

When u remove money, u will notice that majority of our men don't have anything to fall back on. Money is their power. They wine when it's usurped.

A good man sees his wife as mate. We don't know what this means. It's not about provision!

Our orientation is very bad.
Thanks to the family, culture and religion. Women are highly expose now and want to be treated like their counterparts out there.

RisenPhoenix:


You made a bad decision and compromised to get the stress of an unsupportive wife off your back. Don't you feel that this argument of yours further buttresses my point that a toxic relationship is not going to bring out his best potential in finding his feet? Have you ever wondered where you might have been if she had not nagged you into making that bad decision?

Sure, it was a bad decision, but if you are without means of income for over 2 years, and the strain of it is already starting to affect your home, you can't stay selfish. After all, I have been supported all along - I couldn't just remain static, hoping things would change! I have moved on since then and I've made progress in other areas of life. Life has its Pros and Cons, you know. The bottom line is that you can't take your wife for granted, even if she's been helpful all along!

Some people are afraid of making some decisions because of fear of failure. Well, they won't exactly fail, but they may also not achieve any significant success either!

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

You are very wrong with this piece you opined.


He knows he is already losing the control. But unlikely many men out there, he still respects and regards her and is doing all efforts to get back to the top...


But does all pf tbis gets noticed by his woman?

No


His children are now being used against him too.

Whatz his offence? Losing the breadwinning status.


Yet you ladies out there wants a man like him and all that. See how this woman is doing the moment the scenario ladies theoretically desire is misbehaving to her husband of 13yrs!!

Can we see ladies that still accord respect to their man once this incident plays out?

Most ladies will say they've seen, but they themselves cannot answer that question, cos they arent sure of themselves of such arise.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

So, because there are women who tolerated BS from their husbands, it means the OP must tolerate BS from his wife?

If you are against men talking down on their wives, then you should condemn women talking down on their men.

What is bad is bad.

It is bad for a man to hit his wife. But you cannot use that to justify the act of violence against men.

strungup79:


You are just like my wife. If marriage is about control, why marry? Why not stay on your own? Making money is not about hustling, if it was i'd be earning over three times what my wife earns. Luck, favour also plays a role. Maybe God just wants to show me who I married.

Just ignore the young lady's statement. I'm sure she's single and has no idea of how marriage works. Probably living with her parents so she thinks the more you hustle the more finances you'll have.

strungup79:


And favour/luck has no part to play? May you not work like an Elephant and eat like an ant.

then pray hard and relocate for a while. Don't be a negative thinker. Be positive.

Martinez39:
Lol. This statement doesn't make sense. I was only trying to show that the victim mentality you are displaying is a global phenomenon that is why I mentioned USA. Also, I wanted to show that even if women are liberated and give equal rights and opportunities as men, they will still cry victim.

There is nothing holding women back and there is no structure in place to make things easier for men. Everyone, men and women, must work and earn. Even you yourself are a doctor, isn't that equal rights and opportunities? Didn't you earn your MBBS in the same way men did? Was there any structure put in place to make things harder for females or pay them less? Even in your class, aren't there boys that were withdrawn after failing in med school? Where is the male privilege you are talking about? You are liberated enough to lead the life you want yet you cry patriarchy and embrace victimhood.

Your argument is illogical and you are being insincere, which is subtracting from your point.

That a system may not intentionally have been built to make things easier for men does not mean that it does not inherently disadvantage women. A system could neutrally favour one group over another; does it mean the latter should keep quiet?

This bias and posturing is the problem with extremists. And this thread is full of extremists.

RisenPhoenix:
Your mistake was permitting her to become the breadwinner. When you experienced a downturn, you should have adjusted your family's standards of living down to comfortable levels accordingly, instead of using her own money to maintain that standard. Because you couldn't relinquish the good life, you have effectively relinquished control over your home. No matter how little you make, adjust your expenses to stay within that income. Do not touch her money under any circumstances.

How is this family? If you have to do it all alone. When I see things like this it just makes the whole idea of family useless

My Brother, I Can Feel The Pain And Agony That You Are Passing Through, But Hold Onto God With Prayers And Commitment, One Day You Will A Reason To Smile. Happy New Year

LINTUNE:
u mean he should do domestic chores like washing plates and washing his wife pants ...anyways at least u are more human than ur friend.. ..

Hahahahahahahaha!

You do not want the man to do chores (to retain his manhood) yet you think the wife would be okay to do chores + financially manage the home when she is not a single mother.

This is not me saying the OP should/ shouldn't do chores or whatever (there are several variables):

It is me pointing out the hypocrisy and wickedness of your stance.

If you want to run a traditional marriage, run it and stick to your roles.

You cannot eat your cake and have it.

RisenPhoenix:


Yes it is. The second will marry him while he's in a position of weakness, so at least he will know that she is not looking for big money. Also, the order I put it in was that he should hustle hard, then marry when he can. Marriage is not a prerequisite for financial success. But he should not go back to the first wife is my point.

How old are you?

funmisticqueen:
if a woman was barren, will a man stand by her. Humans always look out for thier best interests

but that is what you stand for ,looking out for your own self,remember

So why can't he look out for his own best the same way you said earlier today that you had to pick odds in your favour?



PS:you now see the reason why both men and women should drop selfish odds and team up as one,loving and serving each other in an unbiased way. The need can never be over emphasized for a bliss union.

funmisticqueen:
fact of life, money changes both men and women because it comes with control. It's human nature

Your wife is not emasculating you, you are just losing control of the power and finances in the family. Do you know how much BS women tolerate from men in marriages because he earns more?

Uncle, go and hustle or give your pants over to your wife and stop complaining

Hehe Hardcore Truth. Guy this is why u need the Redpill. The simple solution to this is not what she suggested. A little power can get women drunk. The best thing u can do is kick her out. From now on she will only make ur life miserable. Or live her and only provide for the kids. But u need to stay alone ryt now and Think. When I tell u don't marry, don't marry now u won't litsen.

CarlsJaz567:


Sure, it was a bad decision, but if you are without means of income for over 2 years, and the strain of it is already starting to affect your home, you can't stay selfish. After all, I have been supported all along - I couldn't just remain static, hoping things would change! I have moved on since then and I've made progress in other areas of life. Life has its Pros and Cons, you know. The bottom line is that you can't take your wife for granted, even if she's been helpful all along!

Some people are afraid of making some decisions because of fear of failure. Well, they won't exactly fail, but they may also not achieve any success!

The bottom line is that this is precisely why a wife who cannot emotionally support her husband's attempts to come out of his problems should be unceremoniously dumped. Her constant nagging and bad temper alone could push him to do the wrong thing, which is the last thing he needs at that point. You have been in an underpaying job for years now, because your wife nagged you at a crucial point. Assuming you had found means with her support to slim your expenses to the barest minimum and hold out for what you knew you were worth, who knows how much better off you would have been today? Wasting time and energy musing over a woman's behaviour while you are having problems can be extremely debilitating.

rOsy247:


How old are you?

Older than you.

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

I don't think that is a smart idea,some women will simply snap and use kitchen pestel to kill you in your sleep and will be the first to cry in the morning,my friend spaco was killed in similar circumstances and the evil woman is walking around Scot free, don't underestimate the power of a scorned woman or what she can do the list is endless,instead of been confrontational it's best to do what she will least expect,turn up the love appeal,do things u know she likes,spiece up your love life, she's your wife and u know what she likes,this sort of battle is not a physical fight but an emotional war and love will be your killing edge,worm yourself into her heart again and you will be surprised the things she will tell you,reevaluate your lifestyle,dressing,speech and manner of approch,women are easy prey to emotional assualt and that will be your weapon.

midnighter:


This is the crux of the entire matter.

Which everyone seems to be skirting around.

Happy new year.

midnighter:


Your argument is illogical and you are being insincere, which is subtracting from your point.

That a system may not intentionally have been built to make things easier for men does not mean that it does not inherently disadvantage women. A system could neutrally favour one group over another; does it mean the latter should keep quiet?

This bias and posturing is the problem with extremists. And this thread is full of extremists.

Mention ways in which YOU are disadvantaged. Also mention ways in which the system has neutrally put women at a disadvantage.

RisenPhoenix:


Older than you.

Well, age has nothing to do with reasoning these days. It's well.

simonlee:
simple trick....

use a strange number to forward a text to your phone that reads "i will give you N20million and an oil company job if you divorce your wife and marry me"...
then see if she wouldn't go back to factory settings!

Best answer to both married and unmarried