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Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by ZhyonKross(m): 8:45pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
simonlee:if You don't manage it well it could backfire on the sense that she may think you're already cheating on her so be careful on how you go about it... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Nobody: 8:45pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
uninspired07:Why are u shifting ground? And who are u to tell @op not to reply her post? Probably the man is your senior? Is that how u Lord over those around you? Tomorrow we will see a new moniker wailing that his wife don't respect him anymore. Mtcheew. There is always 3 sides to every stories. Threads that degrade and make women look bad makes people like u have instant errection. Yet I have never seen men that wail like nairaland men. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by topas100(m): 8:47pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
This is serious...it calls for wisdom and caution... 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by sodiamond: 8:55pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
fieryy:Are you minding the guy. Women are not slaves. Look for slave and control 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by rs172(m): 8:56pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Truthwillout: Try harder funmisticqueen 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Jeferious: 8:59pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
cerpvad:Nonsense. You still talk about marriage Baby-mama and Baby-papa ti take over. The institution of marriage has outlived its usefulness. There are better options against it. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by cerpvad(m): 9:00pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
That line that I wrote before and which you bolded is just an exemplification. If you read the line that follows it you will discover it wasn't a generalization like you perceived it to be. You only quoted it out of the context. midnighter: |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Nobody: 9:00pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by midnighter(f): 9:02pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: On the contrary, I fully comprehended what you wrote the last time and I maintain that it was illogical and insensitive. You dont hear about a relationship issue and then rush to advise the person to divorce. Divorce is not a go-to solution but a last resort; especially with 3 children involved. We can clearly tell that the man is vulnerable and you didnt even suggest any type of conciliatory measure he could take. All you cared about was removing the guy from what could be a temporary discomfort or pain, which is totally unrealistic when all relationships go through some element of difficulty. Nobody acts like that, otherwise nobody would be in a relationship and what really made me angry was that you are actually married to your own wife and still jumped to tell somebody to trash theirs. You were not being reasonable in that instance but rigid. You dont have the right to condemn somebody's wife as somebody OP "can never grow with", especially since you have never met the woman in your life. Going against a long held belief is not my problem; if the person is justified and can rationalise their argument with logical reasons and not emotion-laden conjecture or extremity for extremity's sake (which is what you often present with) then I have no problem changing my mind. Can you defend what you wrote up there?? Can you defend telling somebody that his wife can "never", as in never o! Never grow with him? Its just not a feasible argument and you cant claim that people who disagree with you are somehow too stubborn or scatter-brained to "comprehend" what youre saying. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by sodiamond: 9:04pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
fieryy:Order as in her Lord and Master. Nigeria men and their entitlement spirit. Ever your dad cannot order you like Nigerian men |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by stickle(m): 9:10pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
I really feel for you, but keep your faith, your laughter will soon come. Meanwhile, you have to find a way to manage this present situation without friction. This is a test that you must pass. Ask God for wisdom 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Ilekokonit: 9:10pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Michellekabod2: Unfortunately this is the weapon of choice most Nigerian women in the West use if the weapon of denying him sex doesn't work. The final weapon is calling Oyinbo police to arrest the man in front of his Naija kids. I even know a Bros who when his business was going extremely well he was the toast of his children and wife who all enjoyed from the largesse but when the tables turned against his finances she waited until he visited Naija to attend to one of his businesses and before he came back to England, she changed the name on one of his businesses to her name and sold a flat he bought in her name and she pocketed £35,000 in profit. Bros came back to England and needed just £5,000 from the proceeds and she claimed she had spent it all in the ensuing 3 months and even her kids told her she couldn't have spent it all in 3 months. Eventually his wife told the kids not to greet him in the house anymore all in a bid to create a hostile environment for the man and chase him out of the house and Bros eventually got the message and moved out of the house. And the above story is quite common amongst Naija men living in America and the UK which is why the UK is the single parent capital of Europe. No man wants to die young and they now prefer to dwell peacefully in the little corner of the roof than stay in a mansion with a cantankerous woman without peace. 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Modyke: 9:12pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Try harder funmisticquee Why is it hard for you to believe it's his wife? Why was it easy for you to believe his story not minding if it could be some sinister plot of some jobless guy trying to make women look bad as it's the norm on this forum? If the poster is telling the full story, he should respond and ask her a question that only him and her know and let's see if she can answer. We should not be too quick to judge in matters that we are not entirely informed about. It is not even in anybody's place to judge, we are not God. Many people here jumping to conclusions and giving advice in reality will not take their own advice. I wish both of them well. 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by kay9(m): 9:15pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
DNSPro: This kain uppercut on first day of new year? Weekeed! |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Nobody: 9:17pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
midnighter: I am seen as extreme because I can be brutally blunt, and in this case, I was not trying to advance any romantic image or make him feel better. I understand that any suggestion of divorce is seen by most as rigid and harsh, even when it is clearly indicated; but my primary interest was to get him going financially once more, politically incorrect as my solution would seem. From his description of the woman's behaviour, it is patently obvious that she has no respect for him, and is putting him under undue emotional and mental stress. As a man, I understand how important a calm mind is if he wants to properly ponder on his next move. In this respect, she is hindering him and; barring an outright miracle which I do not believe in; he will not be able to recover with such a woman giving him these worries. She has from her behaviour, clearly decided she is not going to be supportive or to compromise in any way. There is no other solution but to jettison this hindrance and focus on his plans to move forward. I do not normally advice people to divorce lightly, but in this case, the marriage is doomed anyway. Even if he does succeed despite her opposition, will there ever be mutual respect, or will she still remain the person that he will wamt to keep him company in their old age? I don't think so. |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Kampack: 9:21pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
WIZGUY69: I never wanted to comment on this post, but this your "forehead" part really cracked me up big time! I also took a cursory look at her profile pic and noticed the ugly biitch had forehead like palmwine gourd It's one of their very unique physical traits. Such women are usually extremely bitter. But I think this one up there is an ogbanje if you look very closely . She also looks like a psychopath. Op, please, by all means necessary get back on your feet. Hustle real hard and bounce back. Cheers 4 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by mceze(m): 9:21pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
owowa145: Can you refer him to anyone? |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Ilekokonit: 9:22pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
J111333: Words of wisdom. The above in bold actually happened to an acquaintance of mine after 2 kids and he finally got the message to move out of the house 4 years ago. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Kampack: 9:23pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
WIZGUY69: I never wanted to comment on this post, but this your "forehead" part really cracked me up big time! I also took a cursory look at her profile pic and noticed the ugly biitch had forehead like palmwine gourd It's one of their very unique physical traits. Such women are usually extremely bitter. I think this one up there is an ogbanje if you look very closely . She also looks like a psychopath. Op, please, by all means necessary get back on your feet. Hustle real hard and bounce back. Cheers |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by chrisj2(m): 9:23pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
midnighter: It is not the same woman that the OP wrote about... The two stories appear similar but not the same. I am not having this! |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Ilekokonit: 9:26pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
J111333: That's why I just look and laugh when a man is shouting my pikin, my pikin up and down. Those kids are more or less in a cult with their mother especially if you live abroad and you have a daughter or a son who doesn't understand women yet. So, if you are a man especially those living in countries where their laws have been turned upside down, my advice is to spend 90% or more of your money on yourself and NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER EVER intentionally empower your wife financially if it means denying yourself savings or investments as these women are worse than armed robbers. At least an armed robber will not turn your kids against you but a woman will. And so, marriage, kids, etc is a zero sum game for most men living in the West. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by kay9(m): 9:28pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
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Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by rs172(m): 9:30pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Modyke: How old are you? |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by owowa145(m): 9:39pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
mceze:Well, anyone is also human. Lets not aggravate his issue by bringing in pple dat could scatter his family. My encouragement is dat, he should treat it as a challenge to be closer to his maker whilst improving his networking skills that he may find d favor of men from d spirit realm. In all, except she is adulterous, forgive his wife after God showers mercy. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by DryMouth: 9:40pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
funmisticqueen:U re the reason they said blacks don't av sense. |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Ilekokonit: 9:43pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Martinez39: Words on marble. Every man needs to learn from your write up above as their wife will exhibit one , all or even more of the above selfish and wicked traits at some point in the future but knowing what is coming your way before hand will help you SECRETLY save 90% of your money for yourself to fall back unto. Or better still, as a man, stay single for as long as possible as marriage is a case of fools rush in where angels fear to tread. NA MAN WEY NEVER SEE BETTER FIGHT DEY UNDER ESTIMATE THE EVIL RESIDENT IN ALL WOMEN. 6 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by midnighter(f): 9:43pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
RisenPhoenix: See? "doomed", "ever", "he will not be able to", "no other solution", "barring an outright miracle". Totally absolutist language where there is no need for it. Especially in marriage which is by definition a mish-mash of shifting circumstances and compromises. So people only overcome marital difficulty when they are bestowed with a miracle? No discussion, airing of grievances, counselling, advising or even outright screaming and shouting? You are not saying the right thing at all. Plenty of people were blunt with OP on this thread yet they didnt tell him to divorce. My grouse with you is not that you are extreme but that your extremism is directionless; it lacks nuance. Just like I was telling the Martinez fellow. Your point gets lost in the sea of irrelevant posturing youre doing not to help anybody but to force your own agenda. And when somebody challenges you people on it you either ridicule the person or dismiss them as "not comprehending", because deep down you know your assertion was too fallacious to stand up to any real scrutiny. What right do you have to tell somebody that their marriage of 13 years is doomed? Who gave you licence to assume that if they do recover, there wont be mutual respect? So nothing can ever change according to you, for the rest of their days? Neither of them can ever learn anything? How can your primary interest be to "get him going financially once more" without taking his marriage into consideration? Dont you think that that was single-minded of you? Is divorce the only solution you could come up with? The advice you give keeps missing the mark because you see things in black and white when in reality, all relationships are painted grey. 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Norland4life(f): 9:47pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Plead: He stopped doing them because he got married,it is a woman's primary duty,at least I got this answer from a married man but being the last among seven men, I know he can cook better than most girls and can equally do chores but.............. Marriages will continue to crash because husbands that allow their women to share "support" in their responsibilities also expect total submission and we all know how that ends 3 Likes |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Modyke: 9:49pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
How old are you? Old enough to be your mother .... And yes, I'm married with teenage children. How old are you? Nairaland is filled with little children. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Ilekokonit: 10:00pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
seanwilliam: Thanks for your openness and honesty. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by Nobody: 10:01pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Norland4life: Doesn’t he also know it’s a man’s primary duty to provide financially Some men are clowns tho.....you want your wife to help with funds etc but you don’t want to help wash plates,cook,clean etc and not feel emasculated because you consider them a woman’s primary duty ....the fvck Of what use are you then? THe same reason she can’t continue with those stuffs just like she was doing when she wasn’t the sole provider is the same reason most men stop doing those stuffs they were doing for themselves after they got married. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Wife Is Emasculating Me by seanwilliam(m): 10:01pm On Jan 01, 2020 |
Ilekokonit:welcome boss |
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