1] Be friends with your spouse during the day and be lovers at night.

2] If you want to make love to your wife at night, start in the morning.

3] Things change — respect each other and be willing to change. Remain flexible and open to compromise.

4] Stay true — cheating never works — never surrender your integrity.

5] Listen more than you talk. Think more than you say.

6] Don’t keep score. You don’t win at marriage. Strive to stay even.

7] Intimacy and affection are not always sexual. A promise is as good as the act.

8] Women crave sex for intimacy and acceptance — Men crave sex for validation. If either isn’t getting what they need, they will seek it elsewhere.

9] Sometimes she just wants to be held. If she doesn’t she’ll let you know.

10] Let him know you are interested. Don’t think he should see you are interested and act accordingly. If you want it ask.

11] Pick up after yourself. Flip the laundry. Do the dishes. Cook a meal or two or three ect and change a diaper. Neither took a vow to be the maid — if you did — the 1800’s called and want their vow back.

12] Don’t pick a fight. Stop. Wait. Think. Then say what you mean and mean what you say after you stop being angry.

13] Don’t go in thinking he or she will change or you will change them. Change grows organically from within.

14] A divorce is like finding a woman you hate and buying her a house. If that joke isn’t funny — don’t buy a house.

15] Maintain your financial independence. Everyone who was ever married either died or were divorced — you’ll need your financial independence.

16] Sometimes she cries for no reason — sometimes he broods over non-sense. This too shall pass.

17] He or she might be your one, but eventually they will be the half or the quarter — strive to keep growing back together.

18] Watch her family and see how her father treats her mother — that’s her expectation. Watch his family — that’s his expectation. If you can’t imagine living in such an environment — you won’t — don’t hesitate to reset your expectations.

19] Roughly a third of people will suffer from a mental illness during their lifetime. Better than even chance one of you will become ill. Acceptance — Treatment, early and often.

20] Children change everything. She will unapologetically love her children more than she loves you. If you can’t handle that, wrap it in latex.

21] Most fights start over money and end in the bedroom — good or bad.

22] A three-some is never a good idea. It’s a desperate decision — a cancer with no cure. If you have an open relationship, good for you, but follow your rules. Mileage varies.

23] Space is more than what’s 20 miles straight up, or the inches between your ears. Maintain your space and allow him or her their’s.

24] Don’t threaten divorce — you either are or you aren’t. Threats breed fear — fear leads to distrust — It’s nearly impossible to earn someone’s trust, again.

25] If you are on the couch and your spouse is doing chores you are in the wrong place. Do things together.

26] If one of you is using drugs/alcohol and the other isn’t — there’s a problem. There is help available — use it.

27] You are married the person they are, but you’ll be in love with the person they were — reconcile those statements.

28] Once it’s over, it’s over. Move on quickly and quietly.

29] We can’t do anything about the ex parked outside your house — nor can we stop them from sleeping with someone new. Neither of you took a vow of celibacy. The contrary is true.

30] Don’t drunk text, call, write, or skype — Don’t drunk anything except sleep.

31] If you can’t control your emotions — leave — take a walk — pray. But whatever you do, don’t hit, slap, grab, pull, push, hug, knock, slam, choke, pinch, pin, head lock, arm bar, round kick, front kick or beat each other in anyway shape, form or fashion. If you must fight, use your words and remember anger equals ten feet. Never pick up a weapon in anger.

32] Spousal rape is real. No still means No — even if there’s a ring, a vow and several days/weeks/months/years of unrealized expectations.

May the Lord grant you the courage to change the things you must, the grace to accept the things you can’t, and the wisdom to know the difference.


QUORA

This is really beautiful.
Just not what I need right now.

Beautiful piece of Information.
God bless you OP.
And thanks for giving credence to the original source of this post ( Quora)

All I know is that this year.... Bye Bye to Yeye boyfriend...

My one cent...


All these won't be meaningful...if both parties don't put equal efforts...

A relationship is between two people...not one person chasing the other constantly...

Mood11:
Beautiful piece of Information.
God bless you OP.
And thanks for giving credence to the original source of this post ( Quora)

You are welcome.

Jodha:
My one cent...


All these won't be meaningful...if both parties don't put equal efforts...

A relationship is between two people...not one person chasing the other constantly...

You are correct dear. It takes two to tango.

God Bless You For This Wonderful Advice, It Is Really Helpful

Great article... But that number 20 though... Is there a way the love between your kids and husband be equal? Like what can one do to make it equal.. I don't want children coming between me and my husband... Or is it inevitable?

Wonderful Article! Quora's full of them.
Would do more good in family section than romance, I suspect!

Make money as a man and respect will be awarded to you

Be sexy, loyal and make nice dishes as a woman then peace and respect would come knocking at your doorstep

Yeye advice mostly suitable for Oyinbos.

That's good relationship advice for women with good and mature reasoning. Unfortunately, a relationship with an average Nigerian girl is not a relationship.

Its a relationshit.

The love between a man and a woman is not Agape love. It is 'Eros'. It is a seeing love that can accommodate greed, selfishness, revenge, etc.

In all, if you have been hustling and fortune smiles on you, never you go back to marry any of those women who looked down on you in the past. If you do, your mother probably lost her son.

Only give birth to children you can cater for

Most times written by the unmarried.
No successfully married person will tell you to divorce. .. Never.



One word from a successfully married lady I once met...



Patience .


When patience dey, everything is in order

Haba too many rules. Na war?

There should be only two laws...... Love and sense

Never believe what is written online by humans like you


Live by your rules

Qed

Didn't read the Ugo C Ugo up there

Make money, Relationships are overrated, find something that makes your genuinely happy, it might not necessarily be someone

Jodha:
All I know is that this year.... Bye Bye to Yeye boyfriend...

slay queen spotted

Jahzmin007:
Cool...
Too Love this ..
My bae is not on this platform she could have read it herself at least...
Thanks OP...

If you would like her to be a NLer like you, do make sure she doesn't know your moniker.


If you don't want to leave NL eventually.
If you know, you know

...
Motivational speakers are low key scammers almost no one is taking note of...

Relationship is built over time not overnight

For the guys- No put woman matter too much for your mind, sote you go dey do stupid things because of love. Hustle and make money, that's a woman's first love, control it and you control women, even love. Never be caught off guard, with your pants down, a real niggar never gets caught, have sex as much as you can(be an efficient Carpenter), but make sure you are protected. Lastly never beat a woman, it's better to walk out and cool off, emotional intelligence is a key skill to learn, saying sorry is never too hard.
For my ladies- You know I love y'all, but try and be more independent, educated and mannered, have that and it's a plus, learn to support your boyfriend or husband in all ramifications, the age we are demands it, be proactive in bed, moan as much as possible( as if your life depended on it) and loving, never be caught cheating. Saying sorry is never too hard.

I know some people are coming for me, heheheheheh

Jodha:
All I know is that this year.... Bye Bye to Yeye boyfriend...

let's start a relationship biko, am fvcking tired

Okay mr love doctor

Insightful.

In the year 2020,
May you continue to
surprise people like
*WOLVES & AJAX*
May you never live on
your past glory like
*ARSENAL*
May every resources
you seek come to you
like *PEP GUARDIOLA*
May you never be
useless like *ALEXIS SANCHEZ*
And when people look
up to you like *MESSI*
May you never
disappoint them like
*LINGARD*
I pray for you, you will
never struggle like
*ARSENAL* to make it
in life
Believe in hardwork like *LIVERPOOL*
So you will never know
shame as *FRANK LAMPARD*
Pride will never
overtake you like *JOSE MOURINHO* ,
May you continue to be
steadfast like
*CRISTIANO RONALDO*, You
will never
fall from glory like *Kepa Arrizabalaga*.
As you grow, never
depend on anyone like
*BARCELONA* but
continue
to work and manage
the little resources you
have like *BAYERN MUNICH* .
Even though men will
despise you like
*MANCHESTER UNITED* always
believe in
yourself like *IBRAHIMOVIC*.
Finally, stick on the best
and never be confused
like *NEYMAR*.
God Bless You All...❤❤❤❤❤

To love na by force ?